Spicing up the bedroom.

[Hopingforabub]

Well this is a bit but anyway.
We recently went from full time TTC to this month NTNP and I have to say I'm happier with NTNP.
When we were TTC I was stressed and obsessed with symptom spotting and temping ect. But this month I am a lot happier and we have BD's more in the last week than we would have in a whole month of TTC.
We have however chaged our bedroom habbits...
When we were TTC we were carefull around dates (always trying to get it around ovulation) we avoided oral sex (because of the whole saliva kill sperm) and it was really just boring sex!
Now however we have been watching porn together (this I am suprised I started doing and it was my idea because I'd rather OH watch it with me then behind my back.. I ventured online and bought a few sex toys that are for us both, OH bought me some very sexy lingerie. I also bough some ribbed and dotted condoms (which I know defeat the object of getting pregnant but It was fun because it reminded us of sex before we were thinking about starting a family and we don't use them all the time.

My question mainly is do you ladies do anything special to spice up the bedroom?

 

[karry1412]

Hoping someone posts here because I'm looking for tips! My hubby used to love sex & it seems times have changed since we started TTC. Maybe the stress of TTC is getting to him & he's just not letting on. Anywho, I went to the doctor the other day & she suggested relaxing & justing having fun in the bedroom again. Well I tried the last two nights & he was "too tired". Before TTC I could have woken him up in the middle of the night & he wouldn't have been "too tired"...

 

[Hopingforabub]

I know what you mean, It got to the point where my OH would rather go on his Play station for an hour than go for an hour!!

I didn't mention it at all to him for about a bout (the week AF was here ) and then one night I opened up a porn website, that I knew he would see when he walked past and just played a few video's and bam he was sat next to me with in 5 minutes ready to carry me into the bedroom.

As for the sex toy well it wasn't a toy as much it was a penis sleeve which I only bought out of curiosity and when it arrived in the post OH asked what it was and when I explained what it would do to him and for me he couldn't wait to try it out! I'm hoping the novelty of all this will last through next week when I should be ovulating but if not at least I won't be sat in the TWW knowing that I could be pregnant and just think about the fun I had in stead and how nice it was to have like when we first met.

It has definitely put a spark back into our relationship he is more compassionate and has no problem jumping in on me when I'm in the shower because he knows that I wont shout at him because I want to time it right.

Try just taking a month out (It can't hurt and if anything could be your lucky cycle!)

 

[karry1412]

Thanks for the reply & the tips! Must google penis sleeves now!

I even bought sexy new undies which I suprised him with last night & nada. Although I do have even nicer ones for tonight & he had a lie in this morning so he can't claim to be tired later!

I don't know about taking a month out just yet because we're not trying that long but at the same time it would be nice to relax over Christmas & start fresh in the new year. But if we do try I will definitely try to relax about it a bit more - no symptom spotting or & definitely no early testing!!

 

[ilovemyhubby]

i must say I'm a fan of the full body massage. it destresses you and hubby and gets juices goin. plus instead of just jumpin into it, its some tease action beforehand, and reminds you to worship eachothers bodies. lots of people have had big results with regular massages.

 

[c1403]

Thanks ladies...some of these tips are handy. We have tried lots of new positions lately and its made things much more passioniate....
I tried the new sexy lingerie one, and that worked well, but most of the time i forget ot put them on lol ...we have never tried toys, but OH has always mentioned them so who knows i may buy some for christmas

 

[GD29]

I know we have just moved to NTNP and we are both much happier with it! I think that men knowing everything is planned ruins it for them, they would rather spend time with a magazine instead or not bother at all.
Now this month the sex has been much better and much more frequent, We both feel less stressed and I know I won't feel so bad when AF arrives. We are still using concieve +, and I'm guilty of taking two ovulation tests of which one was positive today but thats all and I don't feel as obligated to jump straight into bed as soon as I saw the positive test. Maybe later
I'm glad to be enjoying this month though

No temping
No religious testing
No bd at 7am exactly on a tuesday! Or similiar.
No worrying about what/when/how we eat/do/sleep/bd
No stress


Also I feel sexier now.... (whiplash!) Down boy!
And god am I glad to not be doing the damn missionary position all the time!

 

[TupeloHoney]

Let him tie you up (or vice versa) with silk scarves! Sensual dominance rules!

 

[91107 mommy]

I'm new in here we stopped TTC and NTNP last month. We started to revert back to how it was before my baby fetish! We do dirty texting durning the day while at work we do it in places besides the bedroom! I was just so tired of the whole o it's time for sex you get on top and nothing else! I spent about $200 on sexy little outfits and we took a trip one night at like 11 to our town sex shop and just bought fun stuff before my baby fetish!!! Good luck

 

[boofangie]

love this thread! think the pressure of BD is stopping my SO from enjoying it, so were taking it back to the basics! so ill be popping back for some tips! xxx

 

[YouandMe]

This past cycle we were NTTP but this new cycle I'm on CD 3 we are TTC. I am a little worried because I don't want it to be too "forced" or uncomfortable you know? I want it to be passionate and loving!! Great ideas ladies!

 

[LuluSS]

Honestly, me and DH are opposite. Before TTC, DH didn't have a high sex drive. We would BD about 2-4 times a week. Once we started TTC, we BD'd a lot more. Now that we are NTNP it has been more like once every 3 days or so

 

[boofangie]

This past cycle we were NTTP but this new cycle I'm on CD 3 we are TTC. I am a little worried because I don't want it to be too "forced" or uncomfortable you know? I want it to be passionate and loving!! Great ideas ladies!

i feel the same!! like theres an added pressure!! or i keep thinking every time we BD around O day thaat it should be extra passionate when really i need to just chill! haha! i love this thread lol! xxx

 

[Jordyn]

i must say I'm a fan of the full body massage. it destresses you and hubby and gets juices goin. plus instead of just jumpin into it, its some tease action beforehand, and reminds you to worship eachothers bodies. lots of people have had big results with regular massages.

mmmm me too! OH does this to me all the time..ive got very lucky with a man that cant keep his hands off of me and loves to give me massages. For me..it turns me on so much but for him..it doesnt..it relaxes him. We dont have sex to make a baby..we make love and just hope it creates one. OH does not know when I ovulate or anything..thats something I do try to keep track of...but I keep that to myself because it puts too much pressure on him. I understand the difficulties of ttc but making love should be number one otherwise it can just feel like a choir and passion can get lost. On a side note..it may m odd but the idea of making a baby turns me on during sex more..i dont understand it but it does..am I along on this?

 

[auntylolo]

.it may m odd but the idea of making a baby turns me on during sex more..i dont understand it but it does..am I along on this?

This is totally me! When I'm near o, I seem to get in my head "come on, lets do it really good and get them up there!" sorry tmi!

 

[Jordyn]

Lol im glad im not the only one haha

 

[karry1412]

I know, it's so hard to get "motivated" (!!) when you feel you "have to" because the OPK says so! The other day OH told me I had to "take one for the team"!

 

[psychnut09]

This is such a fun thread! We do lots of fun stuff.. My sister and I are sex toy reps! haha so we have lots of stuff to "spice it up" Hubby doesnt like when I talk about when I am ovulating or anything so I just kind of hold of for a few days before we really need to "get to work" haha so then he is kind of pent up and we can really have fun.

 

[MommaAlexis]

Anyone know how good doggie style is when ttc? I know the normal position advised is missionary but DH and I like things a little spicier. Sorry for the TMI but seriously, doggie style, do or don't?

 

[YouandMe]

Psychnut09 that is too funny about holding off till it's time LOL I love it!

This is the first month we are really TTC and SO doesn't know when I ovulate but I do think I talk about my charts and temps a little too much I need to cool it! For his sake! I already informed him we will be BD'ing every other day after AF haha his comment?

*excitedly* "That sounds like a challenge!" LOL sooo I don't think it's bothering him too much