I was a bit tired yesterday as well afterwards but it's worse today. I slept long today (until 10:30 AM, perk of being a housewife) and already at around 6-7 PM I felt totally wiped out
Unfortunately I can't take a nap as a friend is visiting today
DH was helping her with her presentation of her report. I can barely remember any of the biotech I learned back then so I wasn't much help DH is actually a chemist but helped mostly with what she should and shouldn't include in her presentation. I don't know why she's attracted to these awful guys
She's had 2 mentally and physically abusive boyfriends in the past Despite me telling her hundreds of times she needs to look beyond good looks, she keeps wanting these attractive jerks that treat her like crap She has serious self esteem issues
Hi Kat,
Yes, I felt tired on the eve of my IUI, but was not in work the next day so was able to sleep in. I like my lie ins on my days off
As for symptoms - I'm now 9dpiui... the first few days after IUI, I had cramps, backache and nausea....but I'm thinking that's down to the procedure and the trigger. EWCM has been everyday, but whiteish...sorry if tmi. Over the last few days I've been feeling a 'twinge' in my lower abdomen..towards the left side.... I'm not sure what that means though. I have some positive days and negative days about feeling that the IUI has worked. This is our first attempt at it.
I hope that your friend begins to listen to you soon.
How are you doing these last few days?
If any of that is unusual for you, it could be good signs. My CM seems fairly normal after O: tacky white with some creamy white in between. I'm also not too sure if it worked so keeping my hopes pretty low in case it's a BFN although I'm allowing myself to feel a tiny bit more hopeful than during my last several natural cycles Even women she's never met previously try knocking sense into her but she doesn't listen. Think her self-esteem issues are a serious problem and she has them because her birth parents abandoned her when she was 3 (she's from India but got Danish adoptive parents so has lived here since she was 3). I remember last year she was complaining about never finding a husband and when I tried telling her she needs to find other places than on Tindr (which seems to be "find a one-night stand" app here) and bars to find men (she's 33 by the way but acts most of the time like she's 16), she acted like she wasn't really listening. Just last week she came over to our place and was crying because she saw no purpose in her life since she can't find a husband, feels many of her friends are just superficial friends that don't want to listen to her problems (unfortunately think it's fairly normal here) and is too lazy to take her studies seriously (she was also super lazy in her job search last year and finding a job is hard enough as it is). I unfortunately think she's addicted to being a victim and will never change her life for the better. She's now talking about having IUI with donor sperm in 3-5 years so she can still have her 2 kids since she doubts she'll ever find a husband She'd make a horrible mother, she's too insecure and she'd spoil them and not raise them properly I don't know what to do for her anymore
It would be great if all 3 of us got a BFP on our first IUIs
FXed for you as well 
It'll be much worse when I have a baby, I just won't have time for her almost constant drama and crying sessions where she constantly asks me and DH if it's her making these men act this way She really needs psychiatric help in dealing with her self-esteem issues but all the ones she finds seem to be humoring her As to with men, she goes only by their looks and doesn't seem the least bit concerned with their personality. I've tried telling her she needs to compromise a bit on the looks and find someone that has similar interests and life views who will treat her right but she doesn't get it - at all She couldn't understand why that's important in a relationship She wants a hot model, no matter what a jerk he might be and how much he will treat her like garbage because her low self-esteem makes her feel (subconsciously) that she doesn't deserve any better.
It would be great if all 3 of us got a BFP on our first IUIs FXed for you as well It'll be much worse when I have a baby, I just won't have time for her almost constant drama and crying sessions where she constantly asks me and DH if it's her making these men act this way She really needs psychiatric help in dealing with her self-esteem issues but all the ones she finds seem to be humoring her As to with men, she goes only by their looks and doesn't seem the least bit concerned with their personality. I've tried telling her she needs to compromise a bit on the looks and find someone that has similar interests and life views who will treat her right but she doesn't get it - at all She couldn't understand why that's important in a relationship She wants a hot model, no matter what a jerk he might be and how much he will treat her like garbage because her low self-esteem makes her feel (subconsciously) that she doesn't deserve any better.[/QUOTE]
yes, fx for all of us
I fell a bit for your friend, it's not easy dealing with low self esteem. It can consume people in different ways and as a result have minor or major effects on their lives. There is help out there, perhaps your friend is not receiving the specific help she needs. Have you heard of CBT - it's cognitive behavioural therapy. It's about how to handle your thoughts in different ways than is the 'norm' for you. It can be very helpful to ppl who have low self esteem...maybe you could let your friend know about it? It might be worth her looking into it or there may be something else that is out there that can help her work on believing that she is worth it and deserves good in her life.
Other than she shouldn't take people's rude/hurtful comments to heart because it's her problem, not theirs. She doesn't understand that sometimes you have to tell people that that was hurtful and that you'd appreciate it if they didn't do/say that again She constantly tells me to do this any time e.g. DH says something a bit hurtful and I tell him not to say that. She says it's because it's my issue and I shouldn't burden my DH with any of my issues She seems to think her psychiatrist's advice to her can be used for everyone else, not seeming to realize that his advice is pertaining to her and may not be applicable for everyone else or in all situations Think I need to tell her we don't want to hear about her man troubles because we've given her great advice on how to find a nice guy but she refuses to try it.
