Hi my lovely ladies.
Well sadly it was a bfn from me. Have started the horrible AF now (just to add insult to injury). I was very upset Saturday night, which is strange because deep down I always knew. I think it was the false hope it had given me. I didnt imagine the cramps and the fact the bleeding stayed away so long. Horrible progesterone!! So adoption is now our dream and I guess it was always meant to be this way.
So we are going to adopt and are going to an information evening a week Thursday. We are both excited, and kinda wanna get things moving asap. Dont think thatll be possible though and there needs to be a grieving period in between failed treatment and starting the process so more waiting! But means we can hopefully have a great Christmas, take time together and then start the process next year sometime. So a long road ahead but I am excited, and always knew deep down that this was the path we would end up taking. We are thinking maybe to adopt overseas so we get a younger child. It costs then as you pay for translating documents, legal fees etc, but our families have said they will help us. Lots to think about but a positive step as at least we know there is a definite plan, and not a lot of maybes. We also are going to get married. Its not the huge romance but it makes sense in every way. Love, a commitment, people can see we are a stable unit and I think it can mean more when going down this route. Maybe its wrong to get married as it makes sense but we were always going to, it just makes the reasons even more valid. We thought we would ask for money as a wedding present to help us complete our family pull at a few heart strings, well make a fortune!!!
I know that I will no doubt be sad again, its all still sinking in. But I will be a mum, its just not the normal way. But then none of this is normal. And as long as I can hold a child in my arms I know I will be fine. Whether its biologically mine or not isnt a huge thing to me to be honest. I have looked after so many children over the years and have created amazing bonds. And these were children I saw a few times a week. This would be always as they will be our baby, and I know it will be just fine. I think the worst bit is the time as I am so impatient!! But I guess I am only 26, I just feel a lot older and I have been through a lot at a younger ages with all of this TTC. I know by 30, I will have a child, and hopefully a lot before then. DP is happy too which is a massive relief. He said now we know a massive weight has been lifted and he can just enjoy us again and stop worrying about treatment, health, appointments, side effects, heartache. Obviously the appointments side will start again but this is something definite, so somehow is different.
I want to thank you ladies for all your amazing support through my journey. You have been amazing.
Lou, I need to to prove that third time can be lucky, ok! I know how much you need this, and you deserve to have your happy ending. Keep fighting for what you believe in and I pray that you get some answers to what has been going wrong. You are a very brave lady, and have been a true support to me. Thank you so much.
Angie, you have been amazing to me and I cant thank you enough. You are an inspiration and I hope that your little frosties are soon all nice and warm in you and getting ready for the long haul! You are so strong and I want this for you, and all of the ladies, so so badly! Keep positive and believe that you will make it this time.
Azreal,thank you for all your wonderful support. I truely have been so lucky with all of you girls. I pray that everything works out for you, we all deserve our dreams to come true. Wishing you all the very best for your journey.
Ann, so here I am, in the same boat as you. I know it is probably not the path we had thought we would walk down one day, but it is a path to happiness. I know the children we will have will not be biologically ours, but as soon as we hold them and look into their eyes and hurt will melt away, our babies will be home. We can do this and when we get our family we will be so happy to have been blessed with such heartache as it will ultimately bring us our happiness.
Nell, I am rooting for you all the way. Just like I have said to Lou, you go girl and show me that third time can be a charm! You deserve your forever baby and I am praying that this time you will get your greatest wish. All my love to you.
Sunshine, thank you for your lovely support along the way, especially during the 2ww, horrible thing that it was! I hope that your follie continue to grow and you get some fab eggs! I want one of those eggs to be your forever baby. You have been through tough times and deserve this so much. Stay strong and take good care of yourself ok hun. All my love.
Wallie, again third time must be a charm ok! You can do it lovely! Well done for trying again, I know it is not an easy thing to do, I admire everyones courage and determination for their dream so much. I am rooting for you all the way and believe that you will get your dream.
Ladies, you are all amazing, special people. I could not have done this, and come out of the other side so positively without the support of each and every one of you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I dont know if I will be back or not. I dont know how I will manage without you!! I just worry that I will not be able to get true closure if I do. Its all a bit jumbled in my head at the moment to be honest. But what I do know is please do not be sad for me. I am a peace with what had happened, and know clearly now where I need to go.
I hope that all of your dreams come true,
All my love, Lolly xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx