Dream - That's just awful. Do they think it's just a fluke? I can't imagine how upset you must be right now. The whole process is one hurdle after another and it must be just devastating to not even get to the 2ww.
Africa - Again, I'm really sorry. Were you waiting a while for this round too? I seem to remember seeing you in one of the other threads a while back. You've had a terrible time of it and my heart goes out to you, especially after losing your mum.
Lolly - Hi! So nice to hear from you. You are sounding more positive, despite having such a tough time. I really wish I could find the strength to have your positivity, I really do. We will get our immune results on 30 Feb. Not sure what to think really. I just hope everything comes back OK, but I have a feeling it won't. This sounds crazy, but when I had the bloods taken I had been itching like mad for a couple of days, which I think was a reaction to my flu jab. I can't help but think this will affect my results and I hope it doesn't give them a false reading. I really should stop worrying, I know.
Helen - OMG, I do the same. I do it ALL THE TIME, looking to see if someone has kids and if they don't it makes me feel better. I feel like an idiot for doing it, but have this strange compulsion. Another thing I find myself doing is finding out how old someone was when they had their kids. If someone was late 30s or 40s, it makes me feel better because I feel like I have time still...Crazy, I know.
I was quite enjoying watching the TV show on Sky called Mount Pleasant because all the couples in it were childless, and it made me feel so much better to watch telly and not be reminded that everyone else has kids and families and I don't. Then I found out that the actress who plays the lead role (can't remember her name, but she was in Corrie and she's in Loose Women now) actually has kids in real life and it spoilt it for me totally. In fact I saw her on Loose Women yesterday and she spent the whole time talking about her twins and I took a major disliking to her. Sometimes I think I'm losing my marbles. I know it's not hear fault, but she ruined my illusion that I wasn't a freak and that there are plenty of childless couples out there. Clearly it's not the case, as the show is pretend.
I feel like a freak every single day.I now don't have any friends at all without kids, so we're the token infertile, childless couple.
Wallie - I often think that too. I feel terrible, because I want nothing more than to have kids with my OH and have a family with him, but then sometimes I upset myself thinking that I might never have kids of my own, and not because there's anything wrong with me. That's also when I start to get angry at the total lack of support and downright hurtful comments from MIL, as she has no idea what I might have to sacrifice. Sometimes I wonder if I actually can give kids up for him, which gets me even more upset.
Anyway, I had a totally shit day. Got a letter from my friend who lives abroad and is 20 weeks pregnant. The whole letter was about her pregnancy and how happy she is being pregnant. We both started TTC the same time and she now has a lovely little girl and is pregnant with her second. It was like someone was thumping me in the stomach repeatedly as I read the letter. Then she said she might visit in January. Now I don't see her very often, but I reeeeeally don't think I can cope with seeing her pregnant. I told OH how upset the letter made me and he just said, 'Oh, it's not her fault, she just doesn't understand'. I realise that (althougth she is aware of our situation), but it doesn't make it any more bearable.
Just feel so down about it all today. It really is a struggle carrying this awful infertility weight around, isn't it? We've now officially been TTC three years.
Love to everyone and sorry I've droned on so long. xxx