Hi all!
Ok, so I got really excited when I found this post, and just blurted out a bunch of advice above, but really, I should introduce myself!
So, the short of it is:
I'm 38 and my partner (whoops, fiancee!) is 35. We are TTC with a local male friend who comes over to make a donation, and then we do the insemination ourselves with a drugstore syringe (needle-less, of course). He is doing a favour, and will not be involved in the parenting.
I've been charting since December. The first month was a bit loosey-goosey - I didn't treat the chart like the bible it has now become. We tried the first insemination in January, but I ended up getting much more obvious EWCM two days later, so I think our timing was a bit off.
We tried again in February, this time using Pre-seed because I wasn't seeing much EWCM, and BOOM, I got a BFP! We were both so shocked, because I have polycystic ovaries (but not PCOS) and I'm 38 and it's always SOMEwhat of a guess when you are going to O, and and and... we just didn't expect it to work so quickly, but were delighted.
We did the pee stick (well, I did the peeing - she did the waiting) on Feb 20, at it was positive. At that point, judging by my chart, I was 20 DPO. I know I know, I waited a long time to do the test, but sometimes my cycles are long, and we wanted to keep thinking it was POSSIBLE that I was pregnant before finding out the truth (a little fantasy, a little hope). Anyway, it was positive.
Three days later, the morning I was to go in for the first blood test, I got some dark brown spotting. Not much - just enough to show up on toilet paper. We did the blood test. Then three days after that, we went in for the second hCG test (to do a comparison), and by that point it seemed like I was having a full AF. When the results of the tests came back, the hCG had gone down from one test to the next, so it was clearly a miscarriage. The numbers were already low - lower than they should be for a pregnancy at 23DPO (by that point), so it seems the zygote had died even earlier - maybe a week before the bleeding started.
So that brings us to now... I counted the first full day of bleeding (Mar 4) as DPO, and have been charting. I bled fully for 7 days, then spotted for two. Then nothing for 5 days, and my body felt normal. The last two days I have been having little bits of brown spotting, and today I just got a huge amount of EWCM, so that's why I have popped back on the internet. Apparently it's possible to be ovulating so soon after the m/c, but I am not sure...
Which brings me to why this forum is such a great find: so many sites and books will say "well, if you think you MIGHT be ovulating, go for it! Have lots of sex, and you never know" But as you gals understand, it's not that easy. I have to get the timing pretty much spot on, because there is only one chance per month (or maybe two, if the donor is not too busy). It's hard - he says to call him anytime and he's fine with donating more than once in a couple of days, but I don't want to push the boundaries too much, you know?
Anyway - if anyone has advice about TTC after an early natural m/c, or the brown spotting and EWCM stuff, let me know! I don;t know if I shoudl call him to come over today, or wait a day or two to see what's going on. My temps are still clearly pre-ovulatory, but who knows, my hormones are probably all still off...
(Sorry if any of this was tooo much information - I figure we're all in the thick of it, so...)