I also used to be in the "if I had a loss I'd want the support, so go ahead and tell" camp, but now having had a loss, I know it was so much harder going to school (where people knew I was pregnant and I had to face the looks of sympathy/pity) than going to work (where no one knew). Not that I didn't need support, but really the best support most of the time was distraction... and people letting me feel normal from time to time.
This time around... I've told a few people (need to know) and soon I'll need to tell more at work due to scheduling issues when the baby comes... but I really wish I could keep it a secret until the baby comes. I just never want to have to tell people "oh, actually, no baby" again. And also, its hard for me to be really excited, and people want you to be REALLY EXCITED, but in my mind, I still could lose this baby. I hope I don't, but I don't think I'll truly trust it until after the baby is here.
So, yeah, keeping the discussion about baby things to a minimum. Need to know for the whole pregnancy.
Feel like such a downer. I envy others their innocence.
This time around... I've told a few people (need to know) and soon I'll need to tell more at work due to scheduling issues when the baby comes... but I really wish I could keep it a secret until the baby comes. I just never want to have to tell people "oh, actually, no baby" again. And also, its hard for me to be really excited, and people want you to be REALLY EXCITED, but in my mind, I still could lose this baby. I hope I don't, but I don't think I'll truly trust it until after the baby is here.
So, yeah, keeping the discussion about baby things to a minimum. Need to know for the whole pregnancy.
Feel like such a downer. I envy others their innocence.