tempted to talk to FOB....I'm gonna cry!

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he mite of just got scared my oh gets a lil bit scared has times were he panics an thinks he wnt bond. dont think we will eva understand how men work just dont get ur hopes up there also bit let downs hehe
 
It must be a big change from running away from a pregnant girl to knowing you have a gorgeous little son actually out there in the world having nothing to do with you. Maybe he will change, for Jude's sake I hope so. But if he doesn't you have more than enough love for Jude :) xxxx
 
Maybe the thought of being a dad was to scary for him :shrug: And now he's seen how gorgeous Jude is he's had a change of heart...? xxx
 
awwww babe :D
maybe he is actually realising now he needs to be there!
men are strange creatures ... when u was pregnant maybe he didnt think u needed him.. not that u do anyway ur a great mommy :D... but maybe now he actually realises he has a gawjus little son :D xx
 
ide be sending him 10000000 of pics 2 rub it in hehe
 
He's nearly 30? Christ- I thought he was in his teens the way he'd been acting! (though I do know age doesn't matter- you girls are proof of that)

but STILL! glad he's starting to see the light, but this must be ver difficult for you
 
futuremommy91 said:
He's nearly 30? Christ- I thought he was in his teens the way he'd been acting! (though I do know age doesn't matter- you girls are proof of that)

but STILL! glad he's starting to see the light, but this must be ver difficult for you
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Honestly, me too. :dohh:

I'm glad he's being nice. Please don't get your hopes up! There's a difference being talking the talk and walking the walk, you know!....it would be nice to get a few "added bonuses" from his direction though! lol
 
Aw, glad his reply wasn't nasty. I think for men it can take the baby arriving before they realise that they have fathered a child, iykwim? Even my DH, who is utterly supportive (we were TTC) and excited to be a daddy, sometimes I wonder if he's quite in the 'zone' yet...He seems more distant than I would've thought at times... It's difficult because as the mummy we girlies feel all the kicks and the movement, have to think about what we're doing and how it effects our LOs and are physically connected to our babies before they're even born, sometimes it does just take a bit of patience to let the guy 'catch up' :winkwink:

It's nice that he's made some effort and obviously has some pride to have added the pic to his FB photos. :) I definitely wouldn't have guessed he was almost 30 either :dohh::lol:

xx
 
Just wanted to say- I do not know how old you are but what you did was sooo mature- you have taken the high road and nothing but respect for that, I have followed some of your story and just wanted to add that you are a beautiful, amazing woman and now mother to the cutest baby ever!! xx
 
aw his reply was nice maybe its been a wake up call for him to grow up and be a dad. pleased for you and jude
 
maybe seeing his son and if he looks like him he could really feel loads of love 4 him? or something? lol dont know how mens minds work :haha: but maybe he'll soften now and try to be a better person? after all he does have a gorgeous baby boy and might not want 2 miss out :shrug:
youre brave 4 mailing him :hugs: and glad he wasnt nasty lol his response was actually quite sweet compared to how i thought he was goin 2 react by your posts lol
edit- i agree with jadelm, ohmisslizzie is so right :) xx
 
nightkd said:
It's nice that he's made some effort and obviously has some pride to have added the pic to his FB photos. :) I definitely wouldn't have guessed he was almost 30 either :dohh::lol:

xx
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Glad I'm not the only one! hahaha

Also, nightkd, WHEN THE HELL DID YOU GET SO FAR ALONG?? I swear, you were hanging out with us WTTers just last week! :rofl:

Sorry. Off topic but I caught sight of te ticker and nearly crapped myself! lol
 
I just read every post!!.. Go me! :haha:
Sounds to me like he has finally realised what he's missing, sometimes it can be as simple as telling them the sex of the baby or showing them a picture when their born..
My OH left me 5 days after my nan passed away in september, then slept with one of my "friend" .. yehh i know **harsh**
I text him loads and he always put stupid things on his facebook about dna and all kinds of stupid things so he didnt have to deal with it.
he never replyd to my txts about scans and midwife appointments, unitl the day i told him he was going to have a son, now he's sittin across the room playin ps3 (STILL)
He told me that he always wondered if i had a bump how the scans went if the baby and me were ok.. so they do think about it sometimes, even if they do cover it up by being a dickhead!
i know your angry and upset because its taken him that long to realise what he has missed, but maybe if u wanted to, give him a chance to see jude under your terms, but dont offer wait untill he's desperate..
its up to you hun.. but you and Jude (Beautiful gawjus Jude) :D
Are doin sooo well and bonding well. maybe just wait untill your mind is a bit more clear on what u want :D
Send some cuddles to Jude and a nice gental kiss for his little cubby cheeks :D :D
xx
 
If you really want to call him you should or else you might keep thinking about it, or you could just write him a note and let him know.

I don't think he deserves you or your beautiful baby is his life, but you might feel better knowing you tried to get him to feel something for his baby.
 
ohmisslizzie said:
Just wanted to say- I do not know how old you are but what you did was sooo mature- you have taken the high road and nothing but respect for that, I have followed some of your story and just wanted to add that you are a beautiful, amazing woman and now mother to the cutest baby ever!! xx
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you almost sent me into tears with this. thankyou soo much :flower: that's a really lovely thing to say :)
I have tried my best, i just wanted what was best for Jude and i knew that his daddy wasn't.. Its a confusing situation cos he did run off, but at the same time i did tell him he wasn't responsible or mature enough to be a part of Jude's life but i did that after he ran off may i add in. He loves drugs too much :dohh: and not only that but you WOULD think he was the 17 year old and i was the 28 year old, its actually ridiculous.. At that age he shouldn't have acted as he did..
Grr i dont know why i suddenly have sympathy for him! But i guess i've ran out of angry energy now and i keep looking at Jude and imagining how it would have been to bring him into a complete family..
Not that i want him back, hell no, he always embarrassed me. He wouldn't let me throw away his brown cords, and he played with trains still :dohh: says it all really doesnt it?! :lol: xx
 
Sounds like my ex. At least mine is 21 years old though. (not that it's an excuse for what he put me through!!)

Among other things, he had no manners! He goes up to a friend and then-TEACHER of mine, full-well knowing that he was marrying my math teacher and goes, "Math teachers are from hell." I apologized like a crazy person and dragged his ass to the other side of the school...my teacher STILL heard me screaming at him.
 
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