The Bad Mothers (Guilt Free) Confessional Thread

[kimberleyrobx]

My confession? My dad is in the critical care unit right now. He had Necrotizing fasciitis. He was taken in by a work mate on wednesday night. We got a phone call from a nurse around 7pm telling us that he was being taken into theatre and being operated on and the next 24-48 hours were crucial. The disease is life threatening. Packed a bag and started the 5 hour journey to the hospital he was staying in. Only got home last night after... two days? i cant remember right now but my confession is that i really, immensly enjoyed the couple of days away from OH and the babies. It was amazing to only have to worry about myself to feed and clean, and not have another 3 people to look after. I got home last night and felt severely depressed. I cried all night because as much as i missed my babies when i was away, i really wished i hadnt come home. I wanted to stay on at the hospital, and i couldnt stop crying because i felt so guilty about leaving my dad in critical care and i felt even guiltier for wanting to leave my babies for longer. The only reason i came home was because OH wasnt coping very well on his own. My confession is that i wish i were 300 odd miles away from my babies. They dont need me right now, not really... i felt guiltier because emily is just by with the chicken pox, and our 3 month old has just came out in them. Am i a terrible mother for wanting to leave my babies? chicken pox or no chicken pox?

 

[Tess.ie]

Am i a terrible mother for wanting to leave my babies? chicken pox or no chicken pox?

No no no you aren't a terrible mother!!! You are human It is an all day every day and night job looking after lo's and its quite natural to want time to yourself. I dream of running away to a hotel for 24 hours and spending the whole time eating and sleeping and in the bath! You are a great mum with a lot of stuff going on at the moment, not a terrible mother at all. I hope your dad is ok, and I hope your kids get over the chicpox quickly. Hugs x

 

[kimberleyrobx]

Am i a terrible mother for wanting to leave my babies? chicken pox or no chicken pox?

No no no you aren't a terrible mother!!! You are human It is an all day every day and night job looking after lo's and its quite natural to want time to yourself. I dream of running away to a hotel for 24 hours and spending the whole time eating and sleeping and in the bath! You are a great mum with a lot of stuff going on at the moment, not a terrible mother at all. I hope your dad is ok, and I hope your kids get over the chicpox quickly. Hugs x

Thank you, i think it was the lack of sleep that was making me feel so overly guilty. I feel a hell of a lot better today after getting almost 12 hours sleep last night! We'd been staying awake on energy drinks and my head was frazzled! But i still feel guilty that i wanted to leave my babies, but i dont feel as guilty about it today xx

 

[jodilee6]

I've had a cold all week, and Saturdays are OHs day to get up with LO however often i Hear him first and get him up and changed so OH can take him down for breakfast.

I had such a bad nights sleep I didn't hear LO wake this morning and it was only when OH got up for a wee at 9:30 I realised what the time was! We checked back through the images from our video monitor (it takes a snap shot every 5 mins) and realised LO had been up since 8am

We both slept through him playing in his cot for an hour and a half! He was ravenous when OH finally gave him his breakfast

 

[BabyBoyLove12]

I have a really pointy ring with sharp edges, it's never been a problem because I usually flip it around my finger depending on what I'm doing with LO. When I was changing his diaper today, the ring got him His little leg bled a little, fortunately he didn't cry, but I still feel so terrible about it

 

[BettyBoop152]

Our little baby boy is showing signs of the same milk intolerance Livvy had.. I have been making sure to keep my eldest as bust as possible when he sleeps during the day so she doesn't feel neglected but today I'm tired and fed up of bubbas constant whinging that I have plonked my eldest in front of the TV for entertainment.. bad mum xx

 

[lemongrass]

I was in the car today with my sister and my son was whining like he often does in the car and I'm not too fussed about it and talking to him. After about 10 mins of him fussing she turns around and puts his blankie on him (I was fairly warm) and he stopped fussing and started talking. It made me wonder how much of my baby's fussing is actually him cold

 

[A132429]

Ive hit his head off car doors a few times, hes never cried though, I just felt terrible..
Once he woke up and I could hear him playing in his cot so left him, when I checked on him his nappy was off and there was poo EVERYWHERE!!!
Another time he was behind the sofa but being really quiet so I checked on him and his nappy was off and he as eating his own poo :O
Another time I was half asleep when I was watching him for a couple of minutes and he fell and scratched his ear off the side of our tv table!!
And once OHs cousin was over and was eating food and she left a knife on the floor and I didnt noitce untill Jacob had it in his hands!!!

Feel awful writing them all down!!They were all over a year though lol

 

[LaraJJ]

Literally ten minutes before my little girl's 1st birthday party she fell off the bed! I was rushing around trying to get everything ready & obviously wasn't paying enough attention!! Poor girl had a beautiful little tutu on for party, accessorised with a black eye!

And it shows in all the photos too, oops!!!

 

[Tess.ie]

Just a couple of days ago Chloe's sleep had improved coz I was making sure she had enough daytime sleep and I decided to really make an effort to always have 2 naps for her. Today however she only got the one morning nap and a 10 minute job in the car after lunch. Just put her to bed and she can not settle coz she is so tired. I hate myself coz its my fault she is overtired and so distraught she can't sleep. why do I put my wants before her needs? I am so crap for her

 

[Clucky as]

Just a couple of days ago Chloe's sleep had improved coz I was making sure she had enough daytime sleep and I decided to really make an effort to always have 2 naps for her. Today however she only got the one morning nap and a 10 minute job in the car after lunch. Just put her to bed and she can not settle coz she is so tired. I hate myself coz its my fault she is overtired and so distraught she can't sleep. why do I put my wants before her needs? I am so crap for her

You are not crap for your lo. Sometimes they aren't gonna nap well it does suck coz the hole day is off but u can't stay home just coz lo will need to sleep. Don't feel bad

 

[lily28]

I picked up my son from his stroller and I scratched his knee on the belly bar
I want to die every time I look at his poor knee.

 

[LisaL79]

I feed DD WAY too many puffs and things intended for 'snacks'. They're just so much easier to give her than feeding her real food that I have to clean up after! I do give her good stuff though... Thankfully she hasn't turned in to a total butterball from my laziness

 

[MrsSmartie]

I put DS down in his crib for a nap and when he woke over an hour later I realised he had projectile vommed everywhere obviously before he went to sleep... there was gallons and he was covered! His back was just soaked and he had been sleeping like it for ages. Poor bubba!

 

[cupcaker]

I just completely tangled my sons face up in some dungarees whilst trying to dress him as I was too daft to notice some buttons that open to help

 

[missk1989]

I forgot to change isaacs nappy today. Changed it at 7am then not until 1.30pm

 

[kimberleyrobx]

It says 'guilt free' but i actually feel guilty about this one! OH and nathan were having a VERY lazy morning yesterday and they didnt come downstairs until 1pm. Nathans new play mat came yesterday morning and from 1pm until around 10am he spent ALL DAY on that mat! he loved it! never moaned, never groaned, was smiling and quite happily trying to catch the dangles! He fell sleep on it three times!

 

[maisie78]

Gabriella is a little delayed with motor functions due to her blindness and has just started to get mobile. Had her in bed with me this morning, sat on the edge of the bed before getting up and didn't realise Gabriella had moved over and slipped over the edge of the bed and was just lying there hoping I'd notice. She was fine and laughed when I picked her up but I did feel bad

 

[kissesandhugs]

I feed DD WAY too many puffs and things intended for 'snacks'. They're just so much easier to give her than feeding her real food that I have to clean up after! I do give her good stuff though... Thankfully she hasn't turned in to a total butterball from my laziness

Yep same here

 

[BettyBoop152]

I feed DD WAY too many puffs and things intended for 'snacks'. They're just so much easier to give her than feeding her real food that I have to clean up after! I do give her good stuff though... Thankfully she hasn't turned in to a total butterball from my laziness

Yep same here

Same here lol