Hello Ladies, i really hope you won't mind me popping in.
First of all, i am extremely sorry for all of your losses. I can't imagine what you all have been going through and how strong you seem to be!
Why I am here, as I have not had to endure a 2nd tri loss: A coworker who i had become very close to just lost her twin girls at 21 weeks. I am heartbroken at this news and I want to let her know and that i'd be there for her if she needed anything at all. Though I don't suspect she will take me up on any offer, i'm sure she'll have her sisters and parents and in laws (large family) and friends she's closer with and also i'm a new mom so i don't think she'll want to be around anything remotely baby related. Which i totally understand with no hard feelings at all, even if she were to bluntly tell me to back off and she can't handle being friends right now.
That's all hypothetical because I have not messaged her yet and I'm not sure how to go about it, which is what takes me here.
I have a feeling there probably isn't a right thing to say but millions of wrong things and I don't want to pile on her heartache.
I am thinking of emailing her in a couple of days, so she can choose when/if to read and when/how/if to reply. I want her to know I'd be there if she needed anything, that i can't imagine what she and her husband must be going through and i'm so sorry for their loss. I would like to tell her that her beautiful baby girls will not be forgotten and that they will forever be their parents.
Do you think that is an ok thing to write to her? I probably can't make them feel any better but i would hate to make them feel worse and add to their pain by being insensitive. I'm just so sad for her and want to tell her how sorry I am for her loss - or is that selfish of me, as in I might want to tell her but maybe it's best to not say anything at all?
I hope all of that made sense and i hope you don't mind me asking for advice on this here.. I realls just don't want to add to anyone's pain..