The 'chit chat' thread

[yellowyamyam]

DH won`t do anything until we have seen the professor - even though her email says ok to.

I just want to TTC now to make me feel better. I think the only reason i don`t want to see her is if she says that there is no way we can have another baby due to xxx problems.

I don`t know how I would handle that.

just feeling totally crap again today. I am living in a nightmare - have to wait now at least another 4 weeks to see if DH agrees and even then he might not.

however, if this professor says we are good to go, i think he will agree, because he knows the total devastation there will be if he says no.

he does not want another, but he would do it for me, as he knows how much it means to me.

Deep down i know he is right to wait to see this professor, but it`s just the waiting around that is getting me down.

*sigh* I feel your frustration...

When is the start of your next cycle? If it is within these 4 weeks, you still have a chance to jump on it immediately after your appointment, no?

Also are you taking your vitamins? You can focus in preparing your body to be at its optimum these few weeks. After the bleeding from my MC, I was 1/2 hearted in TTC immediately because I wanted to know that it wasn't a serious problem that caused the MC but I immediately started on the regular vitamins, EPO, etc. Just to make sure I have healed properly from the MC.

I know DH and I are absolutely lucky this time to be pregnant again without the 1st AF after MC but honestly, I live in fear daily. I keep having negative feeling that my body had not healed properly before conceiving again. Also because my MC was caused by bacteria infection and since I got my BFP two weeks ago, I've been having thrush! The consultant didn't specify which strain of bacteria but like I said... live in fear daily.

I really do understand how you feel about wanting to TTC immediately because that was how I felt after losing Cocopop. I knew in my heart that it was the only way to overcome the MC. I read that it was possible to conceive without AF and I got really excited. DH was ok with it but after waiting for 2 months for AF and she did not show, I started wondering if my body was ok... then came my consultant's appointment and after I got my results, I was quite sure I didn't want another child just yet because chance of me losing another is up to 50%!!! BUT 4-5 days later, I got my BFP. So you tell me... good news or what?

A day at a time, everyone!

 

[dancareoi]

DH won`t do anything until we have seen the professor - even though her email says ok to.

I just want to TTC now to make me feel better. I think the only reason i don`t want to see her is if she says that there is no way we can have another baby due to xxx problems.

I don`t know how I would handle that.

just feeling totally crap again today. I am living in a nightmare - have to wait now at least another 4 weeks to see if DH agrees and even then he might not.

however, if this professor says we are good to go, i think he will agree, because he knows the total devastation there will be if he says no.

he does not want another, but he would do it for me, as he knows how much it means to me.

Deep down i know he is right to wait to see this professor, but it`s just the waiting around that is getting me down.

*sigh* I feel your frustration...

When is the start of your next cycle? If it is within these 4 weeks, you still have a chance to jump on it immediately after your appointment, no?

Also are you taking your vitamins? You can focus in preparing your body to be at its optimum these few weeks. After the bleeding from my MC, I was 1/2 hearted in TTC immediately because I wanted to know that it wasn't a serious problem that caused the MC but I immediately started on the regular vitamins, EPO, etc. Just to make sure I have healed properly from the MC.

I know DH and I are absolutely lucky this time to be pregnant again without the 1st AF after MC but honestly, I live in fear daily. I keep having negative feeling that my body had not healed properly before conceiving again. Also because my MC was caused by bacteria infection and since I got my BFP two weeks ago, I've been having thrush! The consultant didn't specify which strain of bacteria but like I said... live in fear daily.

I really do understand how you feel about wanting to TTC immediately because that was how I felt after losing Cocopop. I knew in my heart that it was the only way to overcome the MC. I read that it was possible to conceive without AF and I got really excited. DH was ok with it but after waiting for 2 months for AF and she did not show, I started wondering if my body was ok... then came my consultant's appointment and after I got my results, I was quite sure I didn't want another child just yet because chance of me losing another is up to 50%!!! BUT 4-5 days later, I got my BFP. So you tell me... good news or what?

A day at a time, everyone!

Hi, I think that when we see her, i will probably ov shortly after, so would be possible i suppose if all ok to try then.

I am taking pre-conception pregnancy care tablets and I am trying to eat healthier and lose some weight, so far since i lost my LO I have managed to lose about 9 pounds, so I suppose this can only help.

try not to worry yourself too much, the main reason the docs tell you to wait for an AF is mainly for dating purposes. After my first mmc i did have 1 AF, but then got PG next cycle and everything was fine.

Perhaps you should go and see your doc when you get back from Oz, when are you due back?

One day at a time!

 

[Miss Mitch]

That email does sound positive Lisa! Fingers crossed that it happens for you asap too! I phoned the hospital again yesterday, and still no answers. She apologised saying she feels like she's just repeating herself etc and that she is now emailing the consultant (why didn't she do that the minute they didn't get back to her???) so I will give it till Friday before I start swearing down the phone, I don't want to but needs must and all that xx

 

[dancareoi]

That email does sound positive Lisa! Fingers crossed that it happens for you asap too! I phoned the hospital again yesterday, and still no answers. She apologised saying she feels like she's just repeating herself etc and that she is now emailing the consultant (why didn't she do that the minute they didn't get back to her???) so I will give it till Friday before I start swearing down the phone, I don't want to but needs must and all that xx

I agree, i think you do need to start been more assertive with them, it is not fair that they are treating you like this.

DH still wants to wait until we see professor, depending on what she says, depends on whether is prepared to try again. if she says we are good to go and she sees no obvious problems, i think he will say yes. 4 weeks tomorrow until we go.

In the meantime we have booked a trip to euro disney for first week of June. If i am pg it will only be about 4 weeks, but we felt we needed to so something for the kids as they have been through a lot as well. If we do decide to TTC again, it could be a while before we can go, so thought let`s do it now. They are so excited.

Keep nagging the hospital, ask to speak to a manager, if there is such a thing.

Lisa xx

 

[Miss Mitch]

Surprisingly she is the manager! Tbh, I'm staring to feel like we don't matter and its getting to me now.

Ooh the kidswill love that! Are you going to tell them or surprise them on the day? That would be great! xx

 

[dancareoi]

Surprisingly she is the manager! Tbh, I'm staring to feel like we don't matter and its getting to me now.

Ooh the kidswill love that! Are you going to tell them or surprise them on the day? That would be great! xx

Oh dear, i suppose the only thing you can do is just keep phoning. Could you get another number off her of anyone else that could help.

We have told the kids about Euro disney. We were chatting about it sunday morning and looking at the computer and deciding what to do. My 7 year old was in the room and her ears were flapping, she went running off top tell her 10 year old brother we were going to Disney - at this point we hadn`t decided.

anyway we booked it there and then, so 9 weeks today we go. My little boy has no idea, but then he is only 22 months old, but i think he will love it as well.

All I need now is to know i can TTC again and I can start trying to feel normal again, because even this trip hasn`t really made me feel any better.

I sooo need to be PG again as soon as possible, but then at my age, it might not be that easy - oh well, I can dream.

Just keep nagging that women until she gets so fed up of you she pulls her finger out and gives you the answers you need and are entitled to.

 

[Miss Mitch]

Well the next time I call, thats what i'll be asking for. It's just plain cruel putting me and Jamie through this! I feel like I can't have a sense of 'closure' untill we have the results etc. I suppose you're feeling this way untill you see your consultant with ttc! xx

 

[dancareoi]

I know what you mean about closure. We didn`t go for PM so we had our service for little one 2 weeks after we found we had lost it, I didn`t want to wait around, so in some ways we had our closure quite early.
However, the recovery from it is taking it`s toll. Last time it happened i was PG 2 months later, which really helped with what had happened.
I feel that being PG again will help, it will give us something to look forward to and hopefully make me happy again.
However, because i don`t know if we will try again, I suppose from that respect we do not have closure. until you have that answer, whatever it may be, for you the PM results, for TTC again, we do not have the closure we need to move on.
2012 has been a totally shit year so far. My DH mom is now in hosital and it`s her 80th birthday today!
My DH went to see her earlier, she is in the exact same room that we were in when we had our LO 12 weeks ago - what are the odds of that?
I won`t be going in to see her and to be honest knowing where she is, I don`t think I`d be able to. Must be difficult for hubby.
4 weeks tomorrow until we see the professor, I hope time goes quickly. We are in Wales next week, so by the time we come back it will only be 2 weeks.

 

[DueSeptember]

AF came yesterday whew

 

[dancareoi]

AF came yesterday whew

Sorry you are not PG, but at least you know everything is working correctly for when you do TTC again.

 

[Miss Mitch]

I know what you mean about closure. We didn`t go for PM so we had our service for little one 2 weeks after we found we had lost it, I didn`t want to wait around, so in some ways we had our closure quite early.
However, the recovery from it is taking it`s toll. Last time it happened i was PG 2 months later, which really helped with what had happened.
I feel that being PG again will help, it will give us something to look forward to and hopefully make me happy again.
However, because i don`t know if we will try again, I suppose from that respect we do not have closure. until you have that answer, whatever it may be, for you the PM results, for TTC again, we do not have the closure we need to move on.
2012 has been a totally shit year so far. My DH mom is now in hosital and it`s her 80th birthday today!
My DH went to see her earlier, she is in the exact same room that we were in when we had our LO 12 weeks ago - what are the odds of that?
I won`t be going in to see her and to be honest knowing where she is, I don`t think I`d be able to. Must be difficult for hubby.
4 weeks tomorrow until we see the professor, I hope time goes quickly. We are in Wales next week, so by the time we come back it will only be 2 weeks.

That's what I want, to have Olivia's results and my results (I currently have alot of issues with my back, bowels/stomach, joints and antibodies in my blood) and then just to know that we can ttc again. Sorry about DH's mum, will she be staying in hospital or coming out again? That is strange with the rooms, although that happend to me when I was back in hospital for my D+C 4 weeks to the day after Olivia! Maybe it's little signs? I'm going to see a medium soon, I don't whether any of you ladies believe in that sort of thing but i'm clinging to that hope I think. Ooh, Wales! As a holiday/visiting etc? xx

 

[dancareoi]

I know what you mean about closure. We didn`t go for PM so we had our service for little one 2 weeks after we found we had lost it, I didn`t want to wait around, so in some ways we had our closure quite early.
However, the recovery from it is taking it`s toll. Last time it happened i was PG 2 months later, which really helped with what had happened.
I feel that being PG again will help, it will give us something to look forward to and hopefully make me happy again.
However, because i don`t know if we will try again, I suppose from that respect we do not have closure. until you have that answer, whatever it may be, for you the PM results, for TTC again, we do not have the closure we need to move on.
2012 has been a totally shit year so far. My DH mom is now in hosital and it`s her 80th birthday today!
My DH went to see her earlier, she is in the exact same room that we were in when we had our LO 12 weeks ago - what are the odds of that?
I won`t be going in to see her and to be honest knowing where she is, I don`t think I`d be able to. Must be difficult for hubby.
4 weeks tomorrow until we see the professor, I hope time goes quickly. We are in Wales next week, so by the time we come back it will only be 2 weeks.

That's what I want, to have Olivia's results and my results (I currently have alot of issues with my back, bowels/stomach, joints and antibodies in my blood) and then just to know that we can ttc again. Sorry about DH's mum, will she be staying in hospital or coming out again? That is strange with the rooms, although that happend to me when I was back in hospital for my D+C 4 weeks to the day after Olivia! Maybe it's little signs? I'm going to see a medium soon, I don't whether any of you ladies believe in that sort of thing but i'm clinging to that hope I think. Ooh, Wales! As a holiday/visiting etc? xx

i hope you sort everything out - I would like to see a medium, but then i would be worried she would say something i didn`t want to hear.

We are not sure about DH mom, we were hoping she would be out yesterday, we think its just a precautionary measure to keep her in.

We are going to Wales for a weeks holiday, just hope the weather gets better, its freezing cold outside and keeps snowing, not sticking, just that horrible wet stuff.

I too wander about little signs. You know people always say things happen for a reason and when you start looking at things you wander is this why this is happening.

I lost my Lo as you know, can`t see the reason for this. Anyway, i want to TTC asap but DH wants to wait. However, if it were up to me i would have started trying last month, however the week we could have tried I had a very bad stomach bug for a week and didn`t eat anything for days, so wouldn`t have been able to DTD!
I lost quite a bit of weight when i was bad and have managed to keep this off and lose a little more - currently lost 10 pounds . Also we would be looking to try again next week sometime, but at moment DH is worried about his mom and can`t think about anything else.
therefore the next time for trying will be just after we see the professor.
We have also booked holiday for euro disney at start of june, I wouldn`t have wanted to go if i was too far pregnant (most i could be would be 4 - 5weeks)
so when I look at all these things together, it`s as if it`s all meant to be and that if and when we do try, events have conspired to ensure it is the right time!
Can you see where I`m coming from? i really hope this is all for the good.

I really hope the medium gives you lots of good and positive information.

 

[Miss Mitch]

I know what you mean about closure. We didn`t go for PM so we had our service for little one 2 weeks after we found we had lost it, I didn`t want to wait around, so in some ways we had our closure quite early.
However, the recovery from it is taking it`s toll. Last time it happened i was PG 2 months later, which really helped with what had happened.
I feel that being PG again will help, it will give us something to look forward to and hopefully make me happy again.
However, because i don`t know if we will try again, I suppose from that respect we do not have closure. until you have that answer, whatever it may be, for you the PM results, for TTC again, we do not have the closure we need to move on.
2012 has been a totally shit year so far. My DH mom is now in hosital and it`s her 80th birthday today!
My DH went to see her earlier, she is in the exact same room that we were in when we had our LO 12 weeks ago - what are the odds of that?
I won`t be going in to see her and to be honest knowing where she is, I don`t think I`d be able to. Must be difficult for hubby.
4 weeks tomorrow until we see the professor, I hope time goes quickly. We are in Wales next week, so by the time we come back it will only be 2 weeks.

That's what I want, to have Olivia's results and my results (I currently have alot of issues with my back, bowels/stomach, joints and antibodies in my blood) and then just to know that we can ttc again. Sorry about DH's mum, will she be staying in hospital or coming out again? That is strange with the rooms, although that happend to me when I was back in hospital for my D+C 4 weeks to the day after Olivia! Maybe it's little signs? I'm going to see a medium soon, I don't whether any of you ladies believe in that sort of thing but i'm clinging to that hope I think. Ooh, Wales! As a holiday/visiting etc? xx

i hope you sort everything out - I would like to see a medium, but then i would be worried she would say something i didn`t want to hear.

We are not sure about DH mom, we were hoping she would be out yesterday, we think its just a precautionary measure to keep her in.

We are going to Wales for a weeks holiday, just hope the weather gets better, its freezing cold outside and keeps snowing, not sticking, just that horrible wet stuff.

I too wander about little signs. You know people always say things happen for a reason and when you start looking at things you wander is this why this is happening.

I lost my Lo as you know, can`t see the reason for this. Anyway, i want to TTC asap but DH wants to wait. However, if it were up to me i would have started trying last month, however the week we could have tried I had a very bad stomach bug for a week and didn`t eat anything for days, so wouldn`t have been able to DTD!
I lost quite a bit of weight when i was bad and have managed to keep this off and lose a little more - currently lost 10 pounds . Also we would be looking to try again next week sometime, but at moment DH is worried about his mom and can`t think about anything else.
therefore the next time for trying will be just after we see the professor.
We have also booked holiday for euro disney at start of june, I wouldn`t have wanted to go if i was too far pregnant (most i could be would be 4 - 5weeks)
so when I look at all these things together, it`s as if it`s all meant to be and that if and when we do try, events have conspired to ensure it is the right time!
Can you see where I`m coming from? i really hope this is all for the good.

I really hope the medium gives you lots of good and positive information.

Apparently, professional mediums will not tell you anything negative, only good! When I first went to a group medium, he came to my row, asked who was pregnant (me, NOBODY else knew as I was about 5 weeks) and then told me I would have a little girl. When I asked him if everything would be ok, he just said 'hhmmm' so now I keep thinking did he know? Could he see?

I also think that about it being meant to be, cause now my body is in such worse condition (still able to work mind, I haven't a disability) than before I was pregnant, maybe I needed to look after myself before I could look after a baby? But then my maternal instinct kicks in and thinks hell f*cking no, my baby would have been damn well looked after! Aw I hope DH mum is well soon as you can start ttc, its such a horrible waiting game!

 

[Miss Mitch]

Where's all out other ladies gone?!?! xx

 

[dancareoi]

Where's all out other ladies gone?!?! xx

Is your Doc doing anything to help in sorting out your problems and have they indicated when you could TTC again?

I was wandering where everyone has gone, it`s gone really quiet out there.

Perhaps a lot of people are away due to Easter.

It`s weird around here at the moment as my kids go to a solihull school and Solihull schools don`t finish until tomorrow, however all other areas around us, warwickshire, worcestershire and birmingham finished last week!

At least our 2nd week it will be noce and quiet everywhere!

Even though i will be away next, i will still be on the computer everyday so you won`t be left alone!

 

[Miss Mitch]

Where's all out other ladies gone?!?! xx

Is your Doc doing anything to help in sorting out your problems and have they indicated when you could TTC again?

I was wandering where everyone has gone, it`s gone really quiet out there.

Perhaps a lot of people are away due to Easter.

It`s weird around here at the moment as my kids go to a solihull school and Solihull schools don`t finish until tomorrow, however all other areas around us, warwickshire, worcestershire and birmingham finished last week!

At least our 2nd week it will be noce and quiet everywhere!

Even though i will be away next, i will still be on the computer everyday so you won`t be left alone!

Luckily my doctor is pretty good and I have hospital apps coming out my ears for April and May! Rheumotology, general medicine and gastro-something-or-other (sorry, can't think of the actual deparment) and to top it all off its my birthday Monday, hip hip bloody hooray! Ooh yes, please don't leave me! Although I only come on here at work lol xx

 

[dancareoi]

At least you should get some answers and be able to sort things out which hopefully will help with future pregnancies.

At least you know not to try again just yet. Although all the waiting is fustrating, like with me, it`s probably best to get things sorted before TTC again and have the risk of another MC.

 

[Miss Mitch]

At least you should get some answers and be able to sort things out which hopefully will help with future pregnancies.

At least you know not to try again just yet. Although all the waiting is fustrating, like with me, it`s probably best to get things sorted before TTC again and have the risk of another MC.

1001% yes. I couldn't do this again. It's strange isn't it, before you've ever been pregnant, you ask people 'what do you want, boy or girl?' and 90% of the time they reply 'I just want a healthy baby'. And at the time you think 'Oh bs you have a preference' but that is soooo the case for me now.

xx

 

[yellowyamyam]

hi ya,

My friend finally gave birth to a baby girl yesterday. So I've been solely in charged of her 2.5 year old. Surprisingly, she has been behaving really well without the parents around!

Anyway, I visited my friend and baby Stacie in the hospital today and it killed me. Of course I controlled myself really well but it just killed me. I was to have my own little one this early June and someone decided to take him away from us.

I'm not doing really well on my own but I am still strong enough to put on a front in front of my friends. Sad isn't it?

Is it cruel of me to keep thinking that I will loose the bean in me soon? I have almost 0 confidence of its survival, really. Do you believe in self-fulfilling prophecy? When you keep thinking something is going to happen, it will... but yet, I really don't dare or know how to be positive. It is as though I am waiting for something to happen; bleeding especially. I keep having the same image in my head that in my 1st scan, no heartbeat detected.

Perhaps I rather I loose this bean in this 1st trimester to natural causes rather than losing another in 2nd trimester after knowing this bean has survived the odds but MY BODY kills it. Stupid useless cervix and the bacteria in me!

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

p/s: I feel your frustrations for not able to get the results you need, Tayla. Annoying people!!! Lisa, yay on holidays. That will definitely cheer you and family up.

 

[DueSeptember]

AF came yesterday whew

Sorry you are not PG, but at least you know everything is working correctly for when you do TTC again.

True LOL!!! I cant wait we decided to wait until end of summer