The 'chit chat' thread

[Miss Mitch]

Forgot to add, possibly getting made redundant from work. As you said Yellow, Life is Awesome. xx

 

[Miss Mitch]

Wil is 7. Yes we are going to try again - we've dtd a few times since i stopped bleeding and not protected.

Oh No hun bless ya - what rubbish. Fingers crossed for you everything will be OK xXx

I should know by Thursday whether we are good to go or not. I hope so anyway xx

 

[mhazzab]

Another hurdle for me, ladies. Tested positive for Strep B. I thought I had thrush but confirmed today it is Strep B. Not advisable to take antibiotics because baby is still forming. Possible for bacteria to travel into uterus because of weak cervix from miscarriage.

Life is simply awesome.

hiya...I hope you don't mind me butting in here!

Congratulations on your pregnancy and I am sorry you have been stressed out by these results.

Did they find the strep b in the vagina or urine?

strep b was found in my daughter's lungs and placenta when they carried out all my tests when I lost the twins - but they could never tell me whether it infected them after my waters broke, or caused the waters to break.

anyway...I've been getting vaginal swabs in this pregnancy, since 12 weeks, and every time strep b has been present. I've had many chats with my consultant over this, and we have never treated it. I show no symptoms and it's not present in my urine. I'm now at 29 weeks and all is going good. So, please dont instantly panic about it. the thread I started a couple of months ago might (or might not!!) help you, I have included a link below.

xx

https://www.babyandbump.com/second-trimester-losses/854401-group-b-strep.html

 

[dancareoi]

Tayla - glad the reults are in - i know you won`t be looking forward to going, but at least you will hopefully have some answers. sorry you might lose your job.

Anouska - i too am glad i spoke to this lady - if we had gone on 2 may to be told we had to wait at least another month to see the professor i would have been so upset again. DH won`t say if he wants to TTC until he has seen the professor. i just have a feeling he will put it off again until we receive the blood tests, but I think these will be negative anyway.

Zoe - i assume now you are now back home. i am sorry but i don`t know anything about strep b so can`t offer any advise on this.

It seems with everyone that it`s just one thing after another doesn`t it?

One day at a time ladies!

 

[Miss Mitch]

Tayla - glad the reults are in - i know you won`t be looking forward to going, but at least you will hopefully have some answers. sorry you might lose your job.

Anouska - i too am glad i spoke to this lady - if we had gone on 2 may to be told we had to wait at least another month to see the professor i would have been so upset again. DH won`t say if he wants to TTC until he has seen the professor. i just have a feeling he will put it off again until we receive the blood tests, but I think these will be negative anyway.

Zoe - i assume now you are now back home. i am sorry but i don`t know anything about strep b so can`t offer any advise on this.

It seems with everyone that it`s just one thing after another doesn`t it?

One day at a time ladies!

Doesn't it just! Well, my nan says that everything happens for a reason, not sure If I believe that, but I'll have to wait and see!

One day at a time! xx

 

[WILSMUM]

I'm with yr Nan - my DH got made redundant last July and we had to go on benefits till now but its meant we've got help from the government to set up our business and things are fingers crossed looking busy so far, if he hadn't been made redundant he'd still be working for a company he wasn't happy at and we'd still struggling financially.

We've been having a time of it atm as well - DH has 2 daughters from his first marriage and a son from a relationship he had after his marriage broke down and from time to time we get stresses from both exs and the girls but just recently its gone from a pain to a complete nightmare! You would not believe some of the language his 11 year old was typing to him in an FB conversation, words I can't even bring myself to say!! So needless to say after all that he's basically had enough and will carry on paying maintenance to them but thats about it. And then the other night DH's brother messages him asking him to tell me to stop sending abusive messages on FB to this lass DH went to school with! I'd never even heard of the womans name before that night! And that spiraled into DHs brother phoning us having a go then his wife doing the same and then his 14 (i think) year old daughter sending messages on FB having a go at DH! Doesn't help that DHs brother lives next door to DHs ex wife! So god knows whats been going on but you'd think with us living almost 400 miles away we'd get left alone and not dragged into their shit but no apparently not! Anyway DH and I have both blocked the lot of em on Fb now so fingers crossed that'll be an end of it! As if we need all this stress after the month we've had!!! Damn Family's eh!?

 

[dancareoi]

Anouska, sounds like you are having a right old time of it. i really hope your business goes well.

My mom, like Tayla`s nan, always says everything happens for a reason and that our life is already mapped out and that everything that happens is meant to.

Sometimes that is so difficult to see, especially when things that have happened to us happen, why could this possibly be supposed to happen?

However, when you look back at certain things you can see it was meant to be.

My cousin was in a relationship for a while with a guy who was quite controlling. He didn`t want to get married and he didn`t want kids. She went along with this, even though I knew she did want a family. They worked together and i think he was her boss.

Anyway, finally in the early hours of one morning she decided she couldn`t go on, packed her bags and moved back to her mom`s. She also left her job as she didn`t want to work with him anymore.

She was heartbroken but i said to her this has happened for a reason, you`ll see.

Guess what, shortly after she started a new job and met a lovely guy there who was also going through a break up, i think his finacee had done the dirty on him.

They have now been married almost 9 years and have a 7 year old daughter, so it was all meant to be.

Also after i had my MMC in July 09, i got all the same things - everything happens for a reason, it wasn`t meant to be. At that time you don`t believe it. however in May 2010 my lovely little boy was born.

A total little monkey and a right little character, who is adored by his brother and sister and he in turn adores them. As I am writing this, he has pushed a foot rest down a stair and has dived on top of it!!!!

Anyway, if i hadn`t had my MMC, this wonderful little boy would not have been given the chance of life. Yes, i would have another child, but this particular bundle of joy - who by the way is now throwing balls around, would not be with us today.

So, does everything happen for a reason? i suppose time will tell.

 

[Miss Mitch]

Bloomin hell ANouska, what a drama! Think thats the best thing you could have done, blocking them from fb!

Lisa, I do think things happen for a reason in someways, but u look at battered women men, rape etc and that makes me think surely not! xx

 

[yellowyamyam]

Dear ladies,

I need help in deciding my next step.

So I am still in Australia. I am from Malaysia originally staying in London now. I will be stopping over in M'sia for 3 days in 2 weeks' time before flying back to London. I've already made appointment to see my mum's friend who is a OBGYN. Initially, this was to find out exactly how far along I am (I didn't get AF after MC). I usually see her whenever I am home.

After yesterday's diagnosed of Strep B, my mum consulted this doctor. She said because the baby is still forming, she wouldn't advise me to take antibiotics for Strep B. It's a common bacteria that comes and goes during pregnancy.

BUTTTTTT... because I had a MC before due to bacteria infection, my case is slightly different. She suggested that I should start taking Progesterone tablets to ensure baby formation is on track and she even brought up Aspirin. So I thought oh this is easy. I just get mum to get the tablets from the doctor and courier it over. However, prescribed medications aren't allowed to come into Australia that way.

So today, mum went to see the doctor personally and had a chat. She said ultimately decision is mine, of course but she would be much happier if I start taking Progesterone immediately and be on bedrest. She said in the first place, I shouldn't have flown to Australia! She explained pregnant shouldn't really fly in the 1st trimester because of high radiation from the sun. It might affect the baby formation. BUT anyway, I am already here and I have to fly back to London so she can't say much about that now.

Mum said since she can't get the medication to me, she wants me to fly back to Msia ASAP. My question is ... I only have another 11 days here in Perth. Will it be too dramatic to cancel my existing ticket Perth to Kuala Lumpur and get a one way ticket this weekend?

I can seek private treatment here in Australia but I've counted the costs. I've already been to the GP twice here to had the swab done and two appointments have costed me £100. An ultrasound scan here costs £130 and to get this Progesterone tablets, most likely I have to see a OBGYN here which costs about another £80-100. Plus I believe they would want me to do the whole 1st trimester tests ie blood, urine, etc. Those are separate charges too. I know this because my friend just gave birth so she went through everything. Being an Australian resident, her bills are subsidised by their "NHS".

So the total cost of private treatment here is slightly more expensive than a one way ticket back to Msia. I think I should still be able to keep my original Msia to London ticket so that's not a worry.

So yes, what do you think I should do? I somehow feel situation isn't as panicky as my mum made it to be until I can't wait another 11 days. She said doctor's body language told her that doctor wants me to get the tablets ASAP. Doctor's words were if I am under her care, she would have started me on Progesterone from day 1 and put me on bed rest until 12-13 weeks, she would do the cervical cerclage and bedrest again.

*sigh* I don't want to dramatize my situation but I don't want to not do the right thing for my baby.

help?

 

[Miss Mitch]

Dear ladies,

I need help in deciding my next step.

So I am still in Australia. I am from Malaysia originally staying in London now. I will be stopping over in M'sia for 3 days in 2 weeks' time before flying back to London. I've already made appointment to see my mum's friend who is a OBGYN. Initially, this was to find out exactly how far along I am (I didn't get AF after MC). I usually see her whenever I am home.

After yesterday's diagnosed of Strep B, my mum consulted this doctor. She said because the baby is still forming, she wouldn't advise me to take antibiotics for Strep B. It's a common bacteria that comes and goes during pregnancy.

BUTTTTTT... because I had a MC before due to bacteria infection, my case is slightly different. She suggested that I should start taking Progesterone tablets to ensure baby formation is on track and she even brought up Aspirin. So I thought oh this is easy. I just get mum to get the tablets from the doctor and courier it over. However, prescribed medications aren't allowed to come into Australia that way.

So today, mum went to see the doctor personally and had a chat. She said ultimately decision is mine, of course but she would be much happier if I start taking Progesterone immediately and be on bedrest. She said in the first place, I shouldn't have flown to Australia! She explained pregnant shouldn't really fly in the 1st trimester because of high radiation from the sun. It might affect the baby formation. BUT anyway, I am already here and I have to fly back to London so she can't say much about that now.

Mum said since she can't get the medication to me, she wants me to fly back to Msia ASAP. My question is ... I only have another 11 days here in Perth. Will it be too dramatic to cancel my existing ticket Perth to Kuala Lumpur and get a one way ticket this weekend?

I can seek private treatment here in Australia but I've counted the costs. I've already been to the GP twice here to had the swab done and two appointments have costed me £100. An ultrasound scan here costs £130 and to get this Progesterone tablets, most likely I have to see a OBGYN here which costs about another £80-100. Plus I believe they would want me to do the whole 1st trimester tests ie blood, urine, etc. Those are separate charges too. I know this because my friend just gave birth so she went through everything. Being an Australian resident, her bills are subsidised by their "NHS".

So the total cost of private treatment here is slightly more expensive than a one way ticket back to Msia. I think I should still be able to keep my original Msia to London ticket so that's not a worry.

So yes, what do you think I should do? I somehow feel situation isn't as panicky as my mum made it to be until I can't wait another 11 days. She said doctor's body language told her that doctor wants me to get the tablets ASAP. Doctor's words were if I am under her care, she would have started me on Progesterone from day 1 and put me on bed rest until 12-13 weeks, she would do the cervical cerclage and bedrest again.

*sigh* I don't want to dramatize my situation but I don't want to not do the right thing for my baby.

help?

Sorry hun, I may have missed it, but how will you got the tablets from M'sia back to London? Is that allowed? xx

 

[yellowyamyam]

Yes that will be allowed because it is prescribed to me and I will be carrying it.

 

[Miss Mitch]

Well if I was you, I'd say go M'sia as soon as you can, get ur tabs, get home to London and rest away. x

 

[yellowyamyam]

So I just changed my ticket and will be in Msia by saturday night.

Tayla - how's the work scene? How did you find out about the redundancy?

 

[dancareoi]

Hi Zoe, oh dear, what a dilemma.

this is a situation where you want someone to tell you what to do, but things never work that way do they because at the end of the day, the decision has to be yours.

I think, if it was me, I would leave Oz now and head home as soon as poss, but that`s my decision. You must do what you think is best.

I hope you managed to get everything sorted out - how far gone are you now?

 

[Miss Mitch]

I'm in Limbo land atm Zoe, overhaul of the company going on, redundancies made at our Strood depo, apparently happening at every depo. A girl at my work was going to leave, and they basically said (not in these words obviously) we want you to do your job, and vicki's job, more hours, every other saturday too, for an extra £1000 per year!! But now, the dozy mare has decided to not leave and she wants to stay. There is 3 girls here at my work inc me, but apparently there is only work for 2. Total bs, we're always rushed off our feet! Sorry for the rant. xx

 

[yellowyamyam]

Hi everyone,

I am in Malaysia right now and my appointment to see my OBGYN is tomorrow. I am really nervous! First scan for this pregnancy. Heartbeat or NO heartbeat!!! URGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! That is the first step, I guess. The doctor is seeing me out of her usual clinic hours so I really am not sure if she would scan me at all. I sure hope so...

Lisa, I should be between 7-8 weeks, I reckon.

Tayla, shame about your work situation. Tried brain-washing the girl who was leaving to leave? Hope it all goes the way you want it to.

xx

 

[dancareoi]

Hi everyone,

I am in Malaysia right now and my appointment to see my OBGYN is tomorrow. I am really nervous! First scan for this pregnancy. Heartbeat or NO heartbeat!!! URGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! That is the first step, I guess. The doctor is seeing me out of her usual clinic hours so I really am not sure if she would scan me at all. I sure hope so...

Lisa, I should be between 7-8 weeks, I reckon.

Tayla, shame about your work situation. Tried brain-washing the girl who was leaving to leave? Hope it all goes the way you want it to.

xx

Zoe, fingers crossed for tomorrow - let us know how you get on please.

 

[mhazzab]

Hi everyone,

I am in Malaysia right now and my appointment to see my OBGYN is tomorrow. I am really nervous! First scan for this pregnancy. Heartbeat or NO heartbeat!!! URGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! That is the first step, I guess. The doctor is seeing me out of her usual clinic hours so I really am not sure if she would scan me at all. I sure hope so...

Lisa, I should be between 7-8 weeks, I reckon.



xx

I hope you get the scan! I had one at 7+3 and saw what looked like a jelly baby, it was amazing! Little arm and leg stumps and a beating heart! Will be thinking of you tomorrow, you and baby will be just fine x

 

[Miss Mitch]

Hi everyone,

I am in Malaysia right now and my appointment to see my OBGYN is tomorrow. I am really nervous! First scan for this pregnancy. Heartbeat or NO heartbeat!!! URGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! That is the first step, I guess. The doctor is seeing me out of her usual clinic hours so I really am not sure if she would scan me at all. I sure hope so...

Lisa, I should be between 7-8 weeks, I reckon.

Tayla, shame about your work situation. Tried brain-washing the girl who was leaving to leave? Hope it all goes the way you want it to.

xx

Oh yes, I've been doing that for months because she is 'Barbie's daughter' and doesn't stop moaning that she hates the job so everyone's tried to get her out lol. I really hope today goes well, please let us know asap! xx

 

[dancareoi]

Tayla, if they were going to give you extra work and a raise i am sure they will keep you if there are redundancies. Maybe as they knew she was going to go and then changed her mind, they might get rid of her.

Is it this thursday you are going to get your results?