I hope its okay that I join this thread. DH and I are in month 9/cycle 10 of not preventing/actively trying, and I have never once seen a BFP (or an evap line for that matter).
I just had to join in because I read a poster way upthread who said something that Im always telling DH these days: I will never prevent pregnancy again until (if/when) we finally reach the number of kids we want to have. I dont care if we end up with babies nine months apart if its taken this long, Im not going to assume that well have a short wait the next go round, and I dont want us to waste anytime TTC #2 (if we can ever conceive and bring #1 into the world).
Sometimes I feel like I just want it too bad, and thats why it wont happen for us. I know thats crazy, but it just seems like I know so many people who say they took the if it happens, it happens approach and BAM! They were pregnant. Yet DH and I (well just me really) planned for years for the time when we would TTC so we would be completely ready and wouldnt have long to wait before we got pregnant. All that time spent planning and reading and researching and all I have to show is the knowledge that there is probably no reason why we havent gotten pregnant we just havent. It sucks.
Love this thread though! I hope we all get a BFP in 2012, if not in the next 48 hours of 2011!