Know what you mean about people pleasing, we would've liked to have got married in Italy but stayed here so that all the grannies could make it, though it was a fantastic day. Only 4 years ago but seems like ages! Dunno whether it's your kinda thing but I've got some beautiful Monsoon dresses off eBay at bargain prices, we were at a wedding 3 weeks ago and I got a teal silk empire line dress for £24, it was immaculate too. Noticed no cars or flowers on your list but maybe you're not bothering with either? Happy planning!