The One Year Strong Ladies!

[DaretoDream]

mrsmmm i'm sorry love. it's not over yet though.

 

[mrsmmm]

Thanks, Dare. I know it's not over. I'm still not feeling 100% like myself. My nose is giving me trouble....still. Stuff doesn't smell right. I don't have a stuffy nose or cough. I just feel off. I hope my poor child doesn't ever suffer with any seasonal allergies. It's a pain.

 

[NJAngelAPN]

Hey girls, I know I've been MIA lately. I finished baby-cross-stitch number two, so I have to get it framed and ready to ship to CA. I'll post a picture once it's framed. Now I'm working on one for a wedding in December.

I'm at 9dpo and determined not to stress - part of why I haven't been around. Mostly just intermittent cramping, some thick whitish-yellow CM that turned very watery and almost EW-like today. Sore nips, but not bbs. Stuffy nose, but probably allergies. I'm not going to test until I'm sure AF isn't showing. I usually (lately) start spotting the day or two before, and AF usually shows 13dpo. I had a dip in my temp this morning, we'll see if it's AF or implantation. At this point I'm trying not to get too excited either way...

 

[wannabeprego]

Hi ladies, I just got into a big fight with DH about facebook. Just some background information... When DH and I first met we were both on another social networking website and I found out he was talking to another girl on there in an inappropriate way, and there would be different women flirting and trying to get with him on the website. It happened when we were first dating which is like 9 years ago, and I know that he never met the women or anything, long story short, I forgave him, but i never forgot it.

So fast forward to present day, there are these random women he has as friends, single younger women, that he knew from back whenever, and I am not alright with him having them on his friend's list. I dont know these women and i dont trust these women. I do trust DH but i think the website opens up a doorway for problems to occur. I offered for us both to delete our Facebook pages, and he says no, All the website does is make me get stressed about who the different women are on his friends list and I get paranoid. I finally said "I guess the website means more to you than our relationship does" because obvioulsy you are choosing it over us.

At one point we both vowed to never have another social networking page again because of what happened at the beginning of our relationship...than fastforward to the last year or 2 to friggen Facebook!!!

Than some chick he knew from the army back in the 90's wants him to be a godfather to her son, and i flipped out. Here i am trying to have a friggen baby and this random chick from like friggen back whenever asks him this, i am insanely jealous when it comes to this whole thing since i am struggling to get pregnant. I have gained some weight over the years. Being in my 30's things are just different now, ugghhhhhh.........Long story short, I cant handle these women on facebook, I cant compete with them, he wouldnt be talking with them and seeing there slutty pics if it wasnt for this friggen website... long story short if there was something that was upsetting him and he asked me to change it, than I would. Especially some shitty friggen website. Sorry for the rant but i am very upset and emotional right now. It is probably the friggen PMS hormones kicking in!!! I flipped out yelling, threw stuff when DH said "LEts get a divorce".... I was like so u would want to end the marriage so u could keep friggen Facebook!!!! I am giving him the silent treatment, earlier i locked myself in the bedroom and wouldnt even let him come near me......
He did apologize for the comment about getting a divorce, told me he loves me and he loves only me etc........


There are alot of other issues and alot of pent up resentment i have towards DH, we have been through alot over the years, if I got into that background than i would be writing a friggen book. I spent almost 7 years by myself well he worked overseas... I put my life on hold, I turned 30, was alone, left my close family and friends in another state i used to live in when i moved away with him...i went through alot well he was away, spent time in the hospital alone well he was overseas since i was so sick..... there is alot more to the story.. but i think i have some pent up anger towards him from spending all of those years alone well he worked overseas....

Sorry for the rant, i am probably not making any sense, but i just had to tell someone...

 

[HappiestMom]

Aw Wannabe!!! we are here for the rants hun...we all do it and of course we are happy to be supportive..and I totally agree you have every right to feel that way!! and every right to be pissed... I don't even know what to say but I know its hard and it wont go away (same with me and the hubby and the porn issue) but feel free to rant all you want!! I hope you feel better although I know it might be a while before you do...but being upset is perfectly fine and understandable..

 

[HappiestMom]

Also..you graduate 3 days before I turn 24!!! lol..lol..

 

[wannabeprego]

Thanks so much for the kind words Mrs Jerome, it means alot to me right now...

 

[HappiestMom]

Its no problem hun...if you want a good laugh..you should watch Outsourced on NBC..its toooo funny...

 

[mrsmmm]

Wanna - It's OK to rant. TTC will drive anyone nuts. Then couple that with the stupid BS of facebook and it's a recipe for a good fight. DH and I argue only when I'm fed up with cleaning and whatnot. While he was out of town, I missed him but not his crumbs on the rug and the forgetting to change the cat box. I swear to God their shit would fossilize before he changed it. And I hate reminding him to change it on his days off. I clean it 5 days a week. I just ask you for two. Men are dunderheads.

Waiting on the dunderhead now so I can say hello and go to bed. I'm exhausted. I'm VERRRRY PMS and still off. I almost fell of the treadmill from losing my balance. Embarrassing!!! lol

 

[DaretoDream]

Wanna- i had similar situations with my dh.

He was talking to a girl and not telling me about it- before our wedding, and every summer after that because they had the same birthday. He would keep it a secret so it 'wouldn't upset me' I found out by accident borrowing his computer and it was logged into his email. And i saw her name, and then, of course i read it. I felt bad about reading it but felt angry when i opened it and found out he was keeping it from me. She tried to break us up, and tried to get him to date her, and she was practically throwing herself at him. I was very upset.


I told her i would really appreciate if she could understand and please leave us alone. I was nice. Until i got her letter back telling me what a bitch i was and how i had no control over anything. So.... i called her out on her throwing herself, and how she CUT HER HAIR to look like me, and started dressing like me, etc. She was bad. She never responded and left him alone.


He doesn't get it.

But he did as he was told. She did try to contact him again this winter, and he never responded AND he told me about it so i felt ok.


BUT for a while i was monitoring his emails because i didn't trust him. Then i found in his myspace (he still had one a few years back) that some naked girl contacted him and asked him if he 'wanted to chat because she found him cool.' and he had written back 'lol you think i'm cool? Sure what do you want to talk about' we had some real problems for a while.

But, he got himself together and as far as i know- nothing since. So you're not alone.

 

[mrsmmm]

Dare, just more proof men are dunderheads.

12 DPO....bfn. I only have tomorrow to test before my friends expect me to booze it up for our girl's weekend/birthday celebration. If it's bfn tomorrow, I'm taking it as a sign AF is on the way and not worrying about a couple of drinks. Sweet DH did take off the next two OV times. He's precious at times. I'll buy preseed for sure this go around. I never get stretchy ewcm. So, maybe it can help.

 

[Spunky]

Hi ladies, I just got into a big fight with DH about facebook. Just some background information... When DH and I first met we were both on another social networking website and I found out he was talking to another girl on there in an inappropriate way, and there would be different women flirting and trying to get with him on the website. It happened when we were first dating which is like 9 years ago, and I know that he never met the women or anything, long story short, I forgave him, but i never forgot it.

So fast forward to present day, there are these random women he has as friends, single younger women, that he knew from back whenever, and I am not alright with him having them on his friend's list. I dont know these women and i dont trust these women. I do trust DH but i think the website opens up a doorway for problems to occur. I offered for us both to delete our Facebook pages, and he says no, All the website does is make me get stressed about who the different women are on his friends list and I get paranoid. I finally said "I guess the website means more to you than our relationship does" because obvioulsy you are choosing it over us.

At one point we both vowed to never have another social networking page again because of what happened at the beginning of our relationship...than fastforward to the last year or 2 to friggen Facebook!!!

Than some chick he knew from the army back in the 90's wants him to be a godfather to her son, and i flipped out. Here i am trying to have a friggen baby and this random chick from like friggen back whenever asks him this, i am insanely jealous when it comes to this whole thing since i am struggling to get pregnant. I have gained some weight over the years. Being in my 30's things are just different now, ugghhhhhh.........Long story short, I cant handle these women on facebook, I cant compete with them, he wouldnt be talking with them and seeing there slutty pics if it wasnt for this friggen website... long story short if there was something that was upsetting him and he asked me to change it, than I would. Especially some shitty friggen website. Sorry for the rant but i am very upset and emotional right now. It is probably the friggen PMS hormones kicking in!!! I flipped out yelling, threw stuff when DH said "LEts get a divorce".... I was like so u would want to end the marriage so u could keep friggen Facebook!!!! I am giving him the silent treatment, earlier i locked myself in the bedroom and wouldnt even let him come near me......
He did apologize for the comment about getting a divorce, told me he loves me and he loves only me etc........


There are alot of other issues and alot of pent up resentment i have towards DH, we have been through alot over the years, if I got into that background than i would be writing a friggen book. I spent almost 7 years by myself well he worked overseas... I put my life on hold, I turned 30, was alone, left my close family and friends in another state i used to live in when i moved away with him...i went through alot well he was away, spent time in the hospital alone well he was overseas since i was so sick..... there is alot more to the story.. but i think i have some pent up anger towards him from spending all of those years alone well he worked overseas....

Sorry for the rant, i am probably not making any sense, but i just had to tell someone...

Major I had some chatting calling issues early in our relationship. Luckily I gave him an ultamatum before we got married and he picked the right side (after arguing about it). He recently got an e-mail from a girl he used to make-out with. He told me about it, forwarded it to me, responded with me next to him, sent me the reply that came, and has made an effort to be very trnasparent, because like you I sacrificed a lot (He was Navy and gone overseas a lot) and I'm a jealous person. I'm sorry your DH sounds like he's being a ******* right now and I hope things settle down soon.

 

[Spunky]

Wanna- i had similar situations with my dh.

He was talking to a girl and not telling me about it- before our wedding, and every summer after that because they had the same birthday. He would keep it a secret so it 'wouldn't upset me' I found out by accident borrowing his computer and it was logged into his email. And i saw her name, and then, of course i read it. I felt bad about reading it but felt angry when i opened it and found out he was keeping it from me. She tried to break us up, and tried to get him to date her, and she was practically throwing herself at him. I was very upset.


I told her i would really appreciate if she could understand and please leave us alone. I was nice. Until i got her letter back telling me what a bitch i was and how i had no control over anything. So.... i called her out on her throwing herself, and how she CUT HER HAIR to look like me, and started dressing like me, etc. She was bad. She never responded and left him alone.


He doesn't get it.

But he did as he was told. She did try to contact him again this winter, and he never responded AND he told me about it so i felt ok.


BUT for a while i was monitoring his emails because i didn't trust him. Then i found in his myspace (he still had one a few years back) that some naked girl contacted him and asked him if he 'wanted to chat because she found him cool.' and he had written back 'lol you think i'm cool? Sure what do you want to talk about' we had some real problems for a while.

But, he got himself together and as far as i know- nothing since. So you're not alone.

I still go through computer and e-mails sometimes due to things like this. LOL, I'm starting to get angry all over again and my husband hasn't done anything for years! Need to try to forget so I don't end up hitting him as soon as he gets up!

 

[mrsmmm]

Spunky, don't hit him when he gets up.....lol.....he'll be confused.

New symptom. I can smell my shampoo and it's making me sick to smell it. I so hate SS, but I can't help it.

 

[HappiestMom]

I tested today just for the hell of it..IC...was bfn of course lol...no more testing until AF isnt here..so..not here by Tues I guess I'll test...re-watching Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince prepping myself for the new one coming out next month lol...nothing to do today but fold clothes and tidy up certain stuff around the house..dinner is gonna be fish and chips and coleslaw unless he is nice and takes me out lol..lol...maybe I'll get lucky...no signs of anything yet..course thats how it was last cycle and I was preggie..but still not getting excited yet...as I know my cycle may just be mixed up...got my Metformin prescription in the mail so now just have to send it out to the drug company place and hopefully get the meds by end of next week..

 

[HappiestMom]

OMG...almost forgot..freakiest thing happened last night..we were watching tv and the dish thing was messing up..like the picture was stalling and then going weird and scrambled...this happened during one of those Gerber generation commercials where they flash through all the diff babies..well..when it stalled..it stalled on the one asian/american looking adorable little girl!!! with huge brown eyes and brown hair..she was adorable..just like we've always said we would want our kid to look like (if you dont remember hes half korean and well im just white lol..)....it was soo weird...maybe a good sign..

 

[HappiestMom]

For those of us worrying.... https://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting/the-biggest-risks-for-pregnant-women-2398750/ but always ask your Dr if you arent sure about something...

 

[wannabeprego]

Hi Ladies,

Thanks for all of your kind words and for sharing your experiences about what you have gone through with your OH's. I am sorry that you guys have had to go through those bad experiences in the past, but it sounds like most of you worked things out over time and that your OH was willing to make changes and has gotten better over time! It also sounds like sadly this is a common problem with men and the internet, ugghhhh, men can be so dumb sometimes!!!

I am feeling much better today, me and DH talked out our problems last night and were able to avoid going to bed angry. We were able to reach a compromise and we both got alot of feelings out and things off our chests lastnight. One good part of it is that DH is on board 110% with during my fertile window since i had told him that I felt like he wasnt putting in the effort to get pregnant since he has the low count and all.

Well my AF is due Sunday, so we will see what happens. I have been getting AF type cramps since this morning and have been feeling naseous as well. I didnt do a HPT this morning because I forgot, but I will do one tomorrow morning probably just for the hell of it since i got a bunch of the internet cheapys right now.

Good luck and baby dust to the rest of you ladies!!!!
I really hope we can all get our 's this month!!! You ladies are a great group of gals and so deserve it!!!!! I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!!!


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[wannabeprego]

So what is everyone up to for the weekend?

As for me, I have alot of school work to do over the weekend. Tomorrow afternoon I want to check out another Halloween themed fun park. A water park close by turns their place into a Halloween themed fun park with haunted mazes and houses. It looks like alot of fun with a bunch of attractions. I love Halloween so much and really enjoyed the other haunted house and hayride stuff we did a few weeks ago, so i think i will enjoy checking out this other place. Hopefully it wont be to cold and wont rain tomorrow night. I love the fall, the leaves are at peak right now and are so pretty here......

 

[HappiestMom]

Im supposed to get AF this weekend as well and so far nothing even close to any signs...so just waiting to see..there is a lady in the test gallery that posted "4DPO too early but here it is" or something like that..and you can see a line!!! I assume shes prolly just a bit off on her ovulation dates..but still..can you imagine..4 DPO getting the start of your BFP..would be amazing!!