@ Kitten, I hope you dont get upset with me hun, and I dont know everything about your relationship other than what you are saying online, but I am concerned about you, so i am going to be brutally honest right now.
The fact that your OH is unsure of his feelings around you guys having a baby worries me. I dont want you to end up as another single mom struggling on her own because your OH gets cold feet and bails on you when the baby comes. I want you to demand more from your OH, (although if you are pregnant already than what i am saying you can disregard) He should be sure about your decision to have a baby, and be committed 100% to you and your child. I dont know how you feel about marriage, but I know for me before I even considered having a baby, i wanted to be his wife, not just his "baby's mamma." I dont know your age hun, but i am guessing you are young and have plenty of time to have kids still, just based on the things you have said so far. I think you should take control of the situation, and if that means birth control than do so, at least until your OH can commit beyond any shadow of doubt to you. I dont want to see you hurting, alone and vunerable on here and regretting anything hun. It sounds like your OH is worried about your living situation and finances possibly as well? (Not saying that you guys wont be just fine the way you are and i do beleive you guys can raise a family) But lets face it financial strain takes its toll on marriages/relationships and money problems break them up all of the time. I do care, and that is why i am saying these things to you, please dont get mad at me.
I also understand that marriage is not for everyone, and if you dont want that, it is perfectly fine as well. I do know that you deserve more of a committment from him either way, and he needs to be sure of the choice, because once baby comes they are there for life. It is huge commitment and decision, even more of a comittment than marriage because with marriage you can get a divorce. I just see so many women today than end up as single moms, when they egnore all of these red flags (problems) popping up in their relationships early on. If you are not pregnant this month, than empower yourself and take control of the situation, whether it be birth control/condoms until he can be sure of what he wants, this isnt fair to you, or to the potential new baby.
If you are pregnant right now than I hope he is just getting cold feet and that he does right by you and the baby. I hope everything works out for the best hun and that you guys have a happy future together.
I hope you arent upset with me after this post, but if I am a true friend than I will tell it like it is even if it is hard to say.
its not allowed...you need to keep positive... you had 3 good positives stop stressing out makes me want to give you a hug.... and i can't 
friends like you guys are so hard to find 
