The wrong thing to say to a TTCer! Tell us here ;-)

[Calially]

Just been told today 'you wouldn't be able to cope with a kid!' because I said to a co-worker that thanks to the flu I'm suffering from I slept for 17 hours (I'd also only had like 6 hours of sleep in the previous 48 hours). She's not aware that we're TTC but still think it's a horrible thing for anyone to say. If I had a baby I know I wouldn't sleep as much but I'd have something that I wanted to be awake for.

 

[StephiiBaby]

You cant have an only child! An only child is a lonely child! I feel like screaming at them I'm trying my bloody best. Feel free to show me how it's done quicker! Grr x

 

[motherofboys]

oh wow stephii its not like your daughter is even that old!

 

[StephiiBaby]

oh wow stephii its not like your daughter is even that old!

Yeah i know, id like a close age gap but its not my fault trying for a baby isnt working right now. x

 

[Nicola27]

Just been told today 'you wouldn't be able to cope with a kid!' because I said to a co-worker that thanks to the flu I'm suffering from I slept for 17 hours (I'd also only had like 6 hours of sleep in the previous 48 hours). She's not aware that we're TTC but still think it's a horrible thing for anyone to say. If I had a baby I know I wouldn't sleep as much but I'd have something that I wanted to be awake for.

this totally reminded me of something one my colleagues said about a friend of mine that got pregnant. My friend doesn't work there anymore so i was telling everyone at work the good news (they'd been TTC for 6 months) and one lady (i use the term loosely) said, oh i can't see her with a baby, she's too selfish! wtf-one, you don't know her that well, and two, who says that???!!!! you're welcome to your opinion but everyone knows, if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all! what a b**ch!

don't stress over what she's said hun, it comes from a nasty place xx

 

[MackMomma8]

oh wow stephii its not like your daughter is even that old!

Yeah i know, id like a close age gap but its not my fault trying for a baby isnt working right now. x

I plan on having an only child. This comment would send me REELING angry. Guess I'm gonna have to grow a thick skin and come up with a snarky reply to this one, huh?

 

[Coconuts]

I'm an only child and I grew up fine. I made friends, learned to share, my parents didn't spoil me and I wasn't ever lonely. I learned how to amuse myself as well as mix with other kids and I still now like some alone time.
Nothing wrong with only kids MM!

 

[wishnhoping]

can not STAND the "relax and it wil happen" or "you have to stop thinking about it so much"

My bff says that to me EVERY time I go to her when Im upset about another BFN...it really makes me want to rip her head off

 

[mrs n]

the one i got once from a friend who caught on the pill was i didnt even really want it and was considering an abortion...WTF i mean who says that to anyone.the other one was a girl from work had an abortion at 14 weeks pregnant and then fell pregnant again the following month and i havent seen her but i heard she got rid of it again.....this really really upset me so i left my job with no notice i just couldnt stand to be around her!
My favourite line from pg was it was a accident we only had ssex once this month WTF how can some people be so lucky!!!!

 

[motherofboys]

I'm an only child and I grew up fine. I made friends, learned to share, my parents didn't spoil me and I wasn't ever lonely. I learned how to amuse myself as well as mix with other kids and I still now like some alone time.
Nothing wrong with only kids MM!

My Mum is an only child, she had plenty of friends and socialised well. The only problem she had was that my Nan and Grandad had a lot of issues, and they were all put upon her, and she always wished there had been someone to share that with. But thats more of an individual circumstance rather than because she was an only child. I don't think a sibling would have made things any easier really.
You know its funny that you mention learning to share, when my eldest was my only child he didnt mind sharing. It wasnt until his little brother could get around and grab things that he decided sharing wasnt actually any fun. And my 2nd and 3rd are not overly keen on sharing either!

 

[Coconuts]

Funny you should say about having to deal with the parents alone. My mum is also an only child and she very much felt alone in having to deal with my grandma in her old age. I'm sure a sibling would help take some of the burden in those cases.

 

[zilnu]

There are few that drive me crazy!

Said within earshot of me to my mom: "When's Zilnu going to get pregnant? Doesn't she want kids?" (I don't even know that woman's name.)

From a friend who just had her second baby and knows I'm trying: "Absolutely everyone is pregnant right now, it's amazing. There must be something in the water."

Another friend after I said it takes some time to get pregnant: "Well, it doesn't take time when you have superegg and wondersperm, like us, haha!"

Same friend: "Come over for wine and late-night snacks. Of course, just juice for me since I'm pregnant!" (Little does she know I'm in 2WW, so I don't even feel comfortable drinking.)

Yet another friend whose kid screams whenever anyone but her mother looks at her: "Why are you trying for a baby? You hate kids." (So untrue.)

From my sister, constantly: "You don't know what I'm talking about because you don't have kids." (Then why are you wasting my time telling me...)

From my brother AND husband's sister: "Have babies now. My kids need cousins!" (Sorry to ruin your life plan...)

 

[motherofboys]

From my husbands brother "Dont sit too close, you know what happened last time" (with a look at my youngest) Oh if only it were THAT easy