DH:
- We went to your brothers wedding last Friday (400-mile round trip, and where we stayed and where he got married were still an hour and a half apart..) We stayed a lot later than we said we would, I was shattered, but I didn't moan. The whole weekend messed up her routine something chronic, and she's refused to sleep properly all week. I also came back with a stinker of a cold, had a fever on Monday and could barely even look after our LO.. Yet you seem to not actually give a damn. You still insist we can't go to bed 'til after midnight, and even thn you put up a fight about it. I can't go to bed on my own earlier, because you'd never end up coming to bed, and I'm not repeating what happened before where you wouldn't sleep, I'd be dragging you out of bed by your ankles in tears, and you lost your job. You faff around when we do go to bed - either sitting on the loo playing on your phone for ages, pr playing with it in bed which I HATE! I'm in tears begging you to turn it off, and LO will wake up. Or, you'll be banging around (as you clearly don't know the meaning of "be quiet") and she'll wake up.
She woke up at 4am this morning, when I didn't get to sleep 'til gone 2 (a combination of going to bed late again, you faffing around for ages once in bed, then you snoring). I begged you to put her dummy in because sometimes that works, as if she seees me she'll assume she's being fed and wont settle. You STOMP over to the crib, and practically force the dummy in her mouth going "FUCK SAKE!" waking her up fully. So I feed her. For TWO HOURS. At 6am I decided enough was enough (especially after listening to you snoring for 2 hours) and begged you to take her for an hour, and after 5 minutes you shouted "SHE WON'T F**KING SETTLE!" and was trying to force the dummy in her mouth again, whenever she spat it our you swore, then you put her down really hard on the bed!! What the F**K?? Yeah, thanks for the help!
When you're not doing a half-arsed attempt at helping me once I've begged you, you're generally playing on that STUPID PHONE. Any other sane woman would assume you're having an affair, since it's attached to you, and you NEVER put it down! Even when holding LO, you're always doing something on it! I beg you to put it down, and you say "Yeah I'm just..." you trail off, move your phone to the side as if you're going to put it down, but never do! And what was with playing videos/games on it with the sound on the other night when I was trying to get LO to sleep? And then sneezing REALLY loud (yes you can hold in a sneeze, I have to do it when I'm feeding) and then think it's funny that it's woken LO up!!
Oh, and thanks for coming into the room just now and saying: "Will you please be nice tomorrow" .. Fuck you. I'm just the dowdy old wife who's got to sit in the corner with the screaming baby, while you socilaise with old friends, get drunk, and rub shoulders with your ex-girlfriends and that man you shagged once. I'll be sitting there bored, overtired, trying to console an inconsolable (reflux/teething/overtired) baby while I'm covered in a red rash (which started to come up today as it does when I'm run down) so not exactly looking my best, and trying to keep the drunk people from picking up my baby! Then I've got to stay in a hotel with you while you snore the night away, keeping me and LO awake most likely, and deal with a moody hungover you the next morning. You say you won't get drunk, but how can I believe that? You want us to do a 400-mile round trip, for the second week in a row, for THAT??
Thank you for going up to LO as she's just woken up AGAIN (seriously LO, why wont you SLEEP?), but there was no need to give me a stare first.
Oh, bet you don't know I have been looking at statistics for divorces after having a baby, and marriage counselling.. Then just divorces again. Even if I did tell you, you would just do your usual of changing for a couple of days, then slipping back to how you were.
j/k its more than that) Thankfully he keeps me happy in return, all the cuddling when we can he plays with my hair, picks up Chinese food when I don't feel like cooking. Lets me sleep in on the weekends. Works 60 hrs a week so I can have my dream of being a SAHM. Find out what makes you both happy and go from there.
but none of those things stop him from picking up the phone/laptop/xbox straight after he's rejected me!!! He'll only offer when he KNOWS i'll say no, such as when i'm breastfeeding (!!) or at stupid o clock when i've spent hours rocking LO to sleep. It's not just the fact we have a baby, he got like this before too. If I stopped offering he wouldn't even notice either.
