Things I cannot say out loud....

[BabyBoo36]

Happy brthday kiddies! xx

Freya's in 1 week! Eeek! x

 

[Emmy1987]

Happy birthday!

To the man earlier - how dare you shove the catalogue back at me!! It's not that bloody expensive! Also amazing how you wanted it back when I said the code for your freebie was written on it! Argh I hate rude people!

 

[StarlitHome]

DH - I love you and you are wonderful.
But good Lord man, I am so over reminding you to go to bed at a decent time!
It's your family we're seeing tomorrow, it's your mother who planned a get-together starting at 7am, and it's you who said "Set the alarm for 6".
You bloody well better NOT complain about being tired tomorrow - I went to bed at 11, fell asleep around midnight (thanks to you being on your computer/making popcorn/etc), then woke up at 2am because LO woke up. Then I reminded you to go to bed. Then I ended up getting UP with LO and taking her temperature, giving her medicine, and then got her back to sleep.
It's now 4am and I haven't gotten back to sleep yet. So.
Yeah.
If you complain tomorrow...

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

So sperm donor has 2 children. Joshy & another son who is 3.

Regular contact with his 3 yr old (Daniel) stopped in august of 2009. Sperm donor has popped up every so often, tried to see D, either got bored or been stopped by D's mum for not being cosistant.

D has a step dad & is quite happy with his family.

& then there's me & Joshy. I have a new partner & Joshy is happy with us & his family. But sperm donor is taking me to court next week for access to Joshy.

When I found about him taking me to court I got in touch with D's mother (we do speak sometimes about the kids & stuff) & she told me he had asked to be put on D's BC & to be able to see him again. She had refused & that was the last I heard.

I now hear today that he has left her & D alone now, cause he has a new gf.

I am abso fuming! How can he choose between his children like that. Why will he leave her alone & keep harrassing me like this! He hasn't seen Joshy since the 1st of march.

Why me, why won't he leave me alone cos he has a new gf.

All anyone can say to me is oh its not right, its a joke but thats just the way it is.

Well no thats not just the way it it. I'm fucking fuming! How can that be right. & the court will take no notice of him doing this. I shall be telling my solicitor this & saying I want the judge made aware that he doesn't give a fuck about his kids. But I doubt it will change anything

I'm so angry!

 

[Natsku]

Happy birthday Alex and Jen!

Tell your solicitor all this Broken, I doubt he'll get access

 

[Fergie]

Happy 1st Birthday Little Ones

Broken, i agree with Nats. They can't decide the case without the full facts behind them.

 

[Natsku]

Well my ex just told me today that he wants sole custody....

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Big big Nats. Never gonna happen hunny

 

[Natsku]

Yeah I know it won't happen but I hate that this is causing us to argue again just when we had started to get on better.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Can you not bring Maria back to England?

I remember back when I was pregnant you saying he had some issues & wouldn't take his meds & stuff. Surely you can't be forced to stay in Finland. That is assuming you wanna come back to the uk.

Then custody won't be an issue. I know its hard

 

[Natsku]

I could only leave Finland if I have sole custody, otherwise I'm not allowed to.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Do you want to leave Finland?

That is a very silly law though imo.

 

[Natsku]

I don't really want to leave, at least not right now.

Its cos the law is that a child has a right to both parents so they have to protect that right. I can see the point of it.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

I understand the law & I see the sense in it. But it feels a bit like holding people against their will y'know. What if you had a job offer in another country but you'd split from FOB. Ehh, its not something I can change.

Sit down with your ex & try & figure something out.

I know I'm probs just telling you thing you already know/have already done. I'm sure you will work something out for Maria though

 

[Natsku]

We're going to talk about it on tuesday at his dad's, hopefully he'll see sense.

 

[Lettuce]

I hope his parents help him see sense, there's no need for him to demand sole custody!
Broken, your ex is a dickwad.

Me: your cake was awesome, revel in it.
DH: I love that we've been getting on, this trying to say something kind/nice every evening is lovely.
Jen: best baby in the world.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

...is making a first birthday cake mandatory. If it is...I'm screwed

 

[Natsku]

Make birthday cupcakes instead - much easier!

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

I can't bake!

 

[StarlitHome]

Family-in-law.
When you call and say "We're leaving, see you there!" And we say "Okay we're leaving now too".
You don't need to call when you arrive there to make sure that we're coming.
You definitely don't need to have one person call to make sure we're coming, and then another person call less than a minute later to make sure we're still coming.

If we say we're coming, we're coming. I'm sorry, we have a 9-month-old, it takes us a teensy bit longer to get out the door these days. I'm sorry the restaurant wouldn't seat you till the whole party was there but it wasn't even busy so why was it such a BIG DEAL??

Thank you for the nice breakfast though.

MIL - why did you buy me a hat?
You asked if I wear hats.
I said no, I do not wear hats.
Then you came back with the ugliest, most old-lady-tourist-ish hat I have ever seen.
And gave it to me.
And put it on me and told me it looked "really nice".
But then looked again and said it made me look like a tourist THANKS SO MUCH THAT IS THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF WHAT I AM GOING FOR...
I have no idea what to do with this awful hat.

Anyone want a hat?