Things I cannot say out loud....

[tanya]

Mil- I know you have a decent amount of money in your bank (fils death in service grant) we're really grateful that you gave us all some and we've put it to good use, I know you don't want the money and I know you think it's profiting from fils death which is stupid, he would want you to have it he would be fucking livid with you for wasting it.
Literally everything she sees she wants to buy for people, she's trying to spend the money fast to be rid of it and is constantly trying to give us money or pay for things it's remarkably fucking annoying, every time she's with Flynn and he looks at something she asks if she can buy it (we argued with her when he was tiny and told her that if she buys him stuff without checking with us we will be angry and bin it) dh gets offended coz to him it seems like she thinks we can't buy our own shopping. (Everything from a cup of tea to a full shop she tries to pay for) sil was so fed up with her today (we've all been to a chrismas market) that we ended up driving her home coz sil didn't want her in her car for two hours

Flynn- stop pushing your fingers in your throat, it's not a fun game and puking all over the restaurant last night was not good, the bloke on the next table was gagging! I hope it's a short phase, I hate sick.

 

[StarlitHome]

How not to keep me as a friend:
look at my daughter's toy shelf (full of stuffed animals, cute baby dolls, board books, a shape sorter, wooden toys and puzzles, animal toys....) and say "Wow, your kid has some weird-ass toys. If I was buying her a gift I'd get her some LeapFrog stuff, electronic toys!"

Hello?
Obviously that is the OPPOSITE of what we have made available to her. She has one noisy stupid electronic toy and after about 5 minutes of pressing buttons, she is bored with it.
Conversely, she will play for hours with a teddy bear, a toy blanket, and a handful of shapes from her sorter.

Don't bother buying her ANYTHING, it'll go straight to the thrift store...

 

[StarlitHome]

Also,
Dear in-laws.
My sister? Is coming to see ME.
And my daughter.
And my husband, who happens to be your son.
But she's coming to see ME - her sister who she sees very rarely.
She's not coming to see you, mother-in-law. She's not coming to see your other son. She's not coming to hang out with your daughter.
Yes, she and your daughter had a decent time hanging out at my wedding - 3 years ago.
They haven't seen each other since - so WHY would you suggest that my sister get on another plane once she gets here, and go visit your daughter??
SHE'S COMING TO SEE ME.
Anyone who comes to MY house, and sleeps on MY couch, is COMING TO SEE ME.
Not you. Not your daughter. Not your other son.
They're my friends and my family, you met them like once 3 years ago.
GTFO.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Insomnia sucks! I should be sleeping, instead I'm wondering how quietly I could hoover.

 

[CazM 2011]

OH why won't you marry me,? It's been 6 years, I have stood by you through business collapse, financial ruin, illness, depression and bereavement. I have carried and given birth to your child, I have made sure that you eat every night come home to a clean(ish) house, what is wrong with me? I feel so let down and wonder why I even hold this hope anymore that you will ever ask. I may just change my surname and give up on one of the few things in life I really wanted and believed in, I just wanna curl up in bed and cry but I know you'll take it badly.

 

[Bartness]

Caz, I know what you mean...my OH wont marry me either...and I have actually given up all hope that he will ever ask. Depressing as can be, and christmas and Valentines bring back a bit of hope only to bring me right back down....

 

[CazM 2011]

Caz, I know what you mean...my OH wont marry me either...and I have actually given up all hope that he will ever ask. Depressing as can be, and christmas and Valentines bring back a bit of hope only to bring me right back down....

Exactly me at special times my heart starts wondering then it breaks again, the thing is we gave Emma his last name with the thing of us getting married so we would all have the same name, I feel like we arnt even a family, every time we go to get her weighed or anything official and they say her last name or mine in the wrong way I have to correct them and it kills me to be different, even the surestart centres have started asking last names and I have to admit that I have a different surname and I hate it so much. Marriage was always important to me and he knows which is why it hurts so much.

 

[Bartness]

Caz, I know what you mean...my OH wont marry me either...and I have actually given up all hope that he will ever ask. Depressing as can be, and christmas and Valentines bring back a bit of hope only to bring me right back down....

Exactly me at special times my heart starts wondering then it breaks again, the thing is we gave Emma his last name with the thing of us getting married so we would all have the same name, I feel like we arnt even a family, every time we go to get her weighed or anything official and they say her last name or mine in the wrong way I have to correct them and it kills me to be different, even the surestart centres have started asking last names and I have to admit that I have a different surname and I hate it so much. Marriage was always important to me and he knows which is why it hurts so much.

Exactly the same here...Jaxon has OH's last name, and mine is different. OH knows how important marriage isto me, but it doesnt seem to matter to him.

 

[tina3747]

Insomnia sucks! I should be sleeping, instead I'm wondering how quietly I could hoover.

Hahahaaaaaaaa!!!!

Me too!

 

[Natsku]

Maria has my ex's last name and I wish she didn't

But me and my OH have agreed that when we get married I'm still keeping my last name cos its better than his

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

I have an agreement with my OH that if he wants to marry me (I don't want to get married, I don't believe in it) he has to take my name, cos Josh has my last name & I want us to all have the same name.

 

[Natsku]

Timo can take my name if he wants but he's already changed his name once so I think he'd have to pay if he does it again

 

[Bartness]

I think my last name is better than OH's. OH has one of the most common last names in the US...Jones...whereas mine is very uncommon, so uncommon I have never come accorss anyone Im not related to with my last name....love it.

Im at the point where I have accepted OH is to selfish to marry me. It will never happen, and at some point I will get tired of his crap and just leave. Maybe then he will realize how good he has it, and how much I ment to him...it will just come to late.

 

[x Michelle x]

Bartness, i also have a unique last name, its only my family who have it!

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

I already changed my last name, before Josh was born, back to my moms maiden name. 1 so I didn't have to give Josh my last name, cos I hated the connection with my "father" & 2 so he could carry on my grandad's name, since my grandad only had daughters, who obvs all got married & gave away his last name.

I don't wanna faff about changing mine again & I won't. Besides, my name is nicer than OHs lol

 

[luci and bump]

ILs-as much as I will never admit it to OH, I hate you! You do fuck all for your son, who desperately wants your approval, yet run around after your daughter who acts like she doesn't give a stuff!
We are supposed to be coming to your house for the weekend. Your son is stuck in Bristol, because there are no trains due to flooding. You would rather pick your daughter up from a train station 5 minutes walk from your house than my other half who is stranded an hour away.
If we weren't due to be going to OHs grandparents tomorrow, we certainly wouldn't be bothering! You should have picked him up at 11.50, yet he's still stuck in bristol!!
If you dare pull the "we never see Evie" card again, I shall not bite my tongue anymore, and I shall tell you straight that the reason you don't see her is because you're too lazy to make the effort to come see her. It's ridiculous that you expect us to drive 2 hours each way, with a baby, so you can see your grandchild.

OH-grow a backbone! ! Your parents are shit. If you don't call them up on it, it will never improve. And I can't hold all this in much longer!!

Also ILs- we invited you to spend the Xmas period with us. My mum and brother are coming Xmas eve-boxing day, and we assumed the 4of you would do the same. Not stay with your daughter Xmas eve night, come to ours to eat (and by the way, Xmas dinner will be no later than 1. If you show up at 2 like you we're planning, not only will you have missed lunch, you will have missed your granddaughter opening her Xmas presents) and then go back to your daughter's! We invited you all to stay, both daughters included, but apparently you have to stay at SILs to make her involved!! Well, we assumed you were coming to Wales to spend your granddaughters first Xmas with her, not fit her in around staying at your precious daughters!

SIL-You are LOs godmother, yet you hardly bother with her. You live 12mins away by train. You didn't even give her a card for her christening, let alone a present! I wish we'd chosen someone else!!!

 

[MissFox]

Hi girls!!

Here I go...
You dumb bitch!! I know you were trying to ruin my surprise for my whole family!! You are a rude rude person and I've really enjoyed not having your negativity in my life. Everyone else has just been texting when they get the Christmas card announcing were expecting and you post it on facebook. I'm pissed. My family 3000 miles away won't get theirs til today. Anyways I hid that post from my timeline. So shove it.

 

[Natsku]

Grr to that person for trying to ruin the surprise but also congrats!

 

[StarlitHome]

I REALLY DON'T WANT TO GO TO THE MALL TODAY.

I don't care if Molly never meets Santa, we're not going to tell her that Santa brings the gifts anyway.
I wish we could do something else.

I hate malls. And I particularly hate busy malls. So no, I do NOT WANT to go to the mall on the Saturday before Christmas.
UGH.

only doing this to make my MIL happy and I sure as fuck hope she appreciates it.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Congrats MissFox

OH...grow a fucking pair! You will not "keep the peace" between me & your mom & it annoys me to disregard my feeling to not upset her.

You claim to be Josh's dad, you let everyone refer to you as daddy, so why am I the one protesting to rubbish she is feeding him & the routine she is allowing him to be in. Surely you can see these things too.

Time to pick a family mate, who is more important, me & Josh or your fucking mother!