Things I cannot say out loud....

[Lettuce]

That's so hard broken, but it will be ok. He's such a Dick. Thinking of you. Xx

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Tbh, I'm more fucking angry that he's reporting me to fraud out of spite cos I've gone to the CSA.

It is totally out of spite, he won't get anything out of it. He won't get any money back, or get the csa claim stopped.

 

[Natsku]

Men suck Broken, they make stupid accusations thinking it'll help them but it never does. The truth wins out.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Thats very true Nats. We certainly deal with some utter morons.

 

[Natsku]

Indeed we do. Nevermind, our kids will know in the end who truely loved them and did what was best for them

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Very true. I just hope it works out like that & I'm not the one beign blamed in yrs to come when Paul lets him down time & time again.

 

[Natsku]

You'll probably get blamed at some point, thats what kids do, but in the end Josh will realise that you always did right by him

 

[StarlitHome]

Well done, aunt-in-law, you reigned it in today at lunch.
But please, don't buy M any of the flashing-light-loud-noises toys you asked about... She doesn't like them and would FAR prefer some cute farm animal toys, a doll, etc.

Neighbor: No, I do not have to have another girl so you'll have someone to give your hand-me-down baby clothes to. That is the DUMBEST reason I've ever heard.
Of course I'll be happy with a healthy child whatever their gender, but I am secretly hoping for a boy next and YOU KNOW THAT.

 

[Mrs_T]

Love this thread! Read the first 20 pages and decided it's my turn!

To mil/fil:
Please do not refer to my cute baby girl as a 'sexy beast' - it is completely inappropriate and just plain WRONG! (quite reassuring to read others having problems with the whole 'sexy' thing- although think the word beast tagged on makes in 1000000x worse!)

No she does want a biscuit/ chocolate/ sweets, her favourite foods are mango and peach- have you heard of them before?

No, I don't need to watch out when I'm feeding her now she has a tooth- she is a very good feeder and despite her teeth bothering her, hasn't bitten me. But more to the point please don't talk to me about my nipples- it makes me feel uncomfortable!

Please train your dogs- it's no use saying no in your sing-song voice, clearly they have no concept of what the word no means! (we have a dog too and I'm not over-the-top concerned about them being around Lily but when they're trying to tale her lunch out if her hands it kinda pees me off!)

Lastly, I love you both very much, which is why I'd never say these things to you!

OH- you don't realise how lucky you have it at the moment- you are doing less now than you did before Lily was born. I wish you'd take note if that and occasionally offer to do things around the house to give me a break!

To my parents :

Thanks for keeping your mouth shut! I know you have your opinions but am so grateful that you keep then to yourself unless asked!

 

[Emma&Freya]

To my FIL,

Dont expect to start shouting your mouth out in MY house when you visit. Thats even if you bother to organise anything! You have called me poision yet I give you loads of photos, keep you updated on your grandchild even though you wanted me to get rid of her. I dont understand why you say you love her so much when you have seen her twice when you came to see her when she was born, the day you were leaving you were shagging a prozzy.

Me and your son are happy and we are planning to have another baby and talking about getnig engaged.

I suggest you keep your gob shut or I will destory your relationship by telling the truth.

All my love.

DIL

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Ugh... EPIC RANT TIME

Sperm donor: Enjoy your smugness while you can. This was one time. Next time I WILL make sure Josh is super tired & super cranky. Then you can see what it's like to deal with him screaming the place down. You are a selfish pig & I hope you choke!

Your card went straight in the bin, the moment we left the centre. Josh has a birthday card from his daddy, you are nothing to him.

Thanks for buying YET another disney teddy. Don't fob my child off with bid up tv shit, or worse second hand cast offs from your gfs LO. I took the batteries out & chucked it in cupboard with all the other toys he doesn't play with anymore. I will repeat, you are nothing to him.

Also, thanks for calling fraud on me...again! Are you so stupid you don't realise that you won't get any money back, even if I were commiting fraud... which I'm not! & calling fraud won't stop the csa claim for money Joshua is entitled to! Why on earth do you think your dad knows better than my mom... my mom has worked for DWP for 25 fucking yrs! She deals with benefits every single day! Fool!

You are doing this purely out of spite, you pathetic child! Also... don't think I'm too stupid to notice you stopped your maintaince so you could afford contact. Oh yeah... thought I wouldn't see that didn't you. Surprise motherfucker!

I wish I could see your face when you find out that your ex is going for csa for the son you've neglected for 4 yrs! HA! & she's only doing it to spite you, she doesn't want you in her son's life...she just wants whats owed for her child! You won't be able to spend all your sick pay on slutty clothes for your tart then will you... no you'll have to maintain your children.

Mother: Don't ask me & Josh to stay & then tell me Josh can sleep in your room if you have no freaking clue what the routine is for him waking in the early morning. He has a bum change, a bottle & some calpol if you think it's his teeth...all this if he won't resettle with a dummy. You don't just give him his dummy, pick him up for 30 seconds, put him down & go downstairs & leave him screaming!! & don't tell me you were "just gunna" anything! He was screaming for about 25 mins! Not cool!!

Also... stop this shit about not letting Josh sleep at my grandad! The kid was fucking beyond knackered! Thats why he was screaming the place down. Yes he was screaming while I was trying to get him off to sleep. You know he fights sleep when someone is holding him. If you'd left me too it he would have gone off to sleep & it would have been fine. But noooooooooo you made me let him up, let him come running over to you so you can comfort him & I'm the ****!

I am his mother! I am SICK of you undermining everything I do with him. I've kept him alive for a yr... I think I can fucking cope!

Grandad: Why must we keep doing this... you've been doing it since he was born... if I'm trying to get Josh off to sleep...STOP PLAYING WITH HIS DAMN FEET! I know you want him to be awake, so he can be your little performing monkey. I know you love spending time with him, but ffs sake stop being so damn selfish!! He needs sleep more than you need entertainment. If you'd let him sleep for 30/45 mins he's much much happier to sit with you & play.

OH: Funny how you always make sure you're not working so you can do things you wanna do. I really don't wanna take Josh to a job centre app tomorrow...at 10 to 4... when he's cranky as fuck cos he's tired. But no, you didn't think of that did you.

Damn right you're paying for the hobbit on friday. After last time, damn right. Maybe now you see why I was so upset you refused to wait for me to have cash to see a movie with you. It's not about the film, its about the time spent together, as adults. But no, you rushed off without even thinking about me. It's ditto when you go watch WWE, you know I enjoy it, but no invite is ever thought of. Nope, you just go do whatever you want, cos you're not stuck in with the baby every night. You're turning into quite a selfish person & I don't like it.

Or maybe I'm just looking for flaws at this point. I don't expect much from you, just some support. Apparently thats too much to ask. I don't trust you're there for me anymore & it's caused a change in my feelings for you. I still love you... I think.

And another thing... sort your shit out when it comes to sex! I feel so unattractive when you don't wanna have sex with me... or worse, can't have sex with me! It's making me seriously paranoid that you don't want me & you're only sticking around for the status of having a gf & a child. You are 23 yrs old & you have no idea how attractive I find you. I make an effort to always look good, even in just pjs. I'm pulling myself back together after having Josh, getting my figure back etc. I wear nice underwear all the time & still nothing. If you have some issue, with anything... ED, sex after the loss, whatever then please just talk to me about it & we'll get through it & sort it out. But just telling me its a phase & it will pass just isn't cutting it anymore. I'm starting to think more & more about if I would even feel bad if I cheated on you. This has to be sorted... NOW!

Job centre person tomorrow: Please don't be a twat. I can help myself find a job thanks, I'm only attending so you can tick the boxes & I get paid. So don't be a twat with me.

Annnnnnnd breathe!

 

[Natsku]

*hugs* Broken

 

[tanya]

*hug*
I think you're both under a lot of pressure at the mo broken. Xx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I love you Mom and Dad, but honestly? A toy with no off switch? And one that makes siren noises to boot?

 

[Lettuce]

broken, tough times hunny.

ozzie, look for a cupboard.

 

[luci and bump]

My great Grannie died today She was taken into hospital yesterday, as we were told she was full of infection, so we could either leave her in her nursing home and wait for her to die, or they could take her in, give her antibiotics and hope for the best. They put a DNR on her, because she was 90, and this morning she stopped breathing I'm going down to Bournemouth tomorrow to be with my family, so we can start arranging the funeral etc. I can't believe it's actually happened. It just felt like she was always going to be there
Now I don't really have any grandparents. I have a Grandad on my mums side, but he isn't really bothered about us, and just wants to die, so he can be with his Wife, who died 3 years ago. He had a brain infection (encephalitus (sp)) and hasn't been the same since. He hasn't even held Evie, just says "no thanks" when we offer.
The other thing I have to worry about is, what am I going to do with Evie while the funeral is on?? Because everyone in our family, who could normally look after her, will be at the funeral with us. And as much as I like them (most of the time!) I don't want OH's parents looking after her when I'm not there. Would you take a 6month old baby to their Great, Great Grannies funeral? My Grannie absolutely adored her.
Makes me sad that I'd just wrapped her xmas pressies last night, had a special picture of LO for her, and some posh sweets from her favourite shop. Now I have no idea what to do with them Seeing them under the tree, with their tags written out is making me really sad

 

[Ozzieshunni]

luci

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

luci

 

[Natsku]

If you think she'll be ok during the funeral then take her

 

[Bartness]

You send your kids to school expecting them to be safe. You expect to see them after work at the end of the day...what you dont expect is to get a phone call informing you there is a shooting at your childs school. What shocks you even more is finding out you will never get to hug and kiss your child again...

My heart is breaking for the families of the Sandy Hook elementary school shooting victims. May your loved ones rest in peace.