Things I cannot say out loud....

[KittenKat]

To the fancy scones in the kitchen - Stop calling my name I am not going to eat all of you so you can stop it now.

In my defence they are really yummy....especially when they had not long come out of the oven

 

[BabyBoo36]

To all the "do-gooders" - Yes we did know Freya has Spina Bifida before we had her. Yes we did decide to carry on the pregnancy regardless. No its not because we have some moral or religious objection to abortion, but because her consultant reassured us that her case was not severe. And guess what? She has no functional problems at all. So am I glad we carried on? You bet. And yes, I do feel guilty that she had to have a major operation because we decided to continue the pregnancy, and yes, I do worry that she'll resent me when she's older because she has a 4" scar on her back and MAY have problems with her bladder. But it was our decision to keep her - you might not agree but I couldn't give a flying monkeys butt what you think, so feck off. And no, she's not registered disabled, because she isn't fecking disabled, so there!

 

[keeks1987]

Some people are just stupid and rude BabyBoo. Hugs x

 

[BabyBoo36]

Some people are just stupid and rude BabyBoo. Hugs x

Thanks. I just hate the "Oh, didn't you know until she was born" thing that most people say. Then when I say "Yes, we found out at her 20 week scan" they go "Oh. And you decided to continue anyway?" Er, well obviously as she's sat in the pram cooing and waving her arms and legs about......

We had to think long and hard, and I've actually had more crap for not terminating - and that includes off "family"! x

 

[Emmy1987]

LO, today is not the day to be difficult. I know your bums sore but carry on as you are and I will lock you in the shed.

OH come home now.

 

[cowboys angel]

to all

BabyBoo, extra hugs to you. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. We were told our LO would likely have some sort of birth defect, because of her umbilical cord deformity. We refused to do the amniocentesis, and I took a bit of crap for that. I absolutely would not do it though, and the specialist agreed with me. But there were some upset people over that. They thought I should do it so I would know if "something was wrong with her" and terminate "before I got too attached."

 

[Mizze]

^^^^As if we arent completely attached the moment we find out they are in there!

Anyway

TO MIL - NO the answer to our feeding problems with C is not "give her a good dinner with plenty of gravy" but if you think you can get her to eat it you are welcome to try!

Actually I did say that out loud v loudly before I walked out of the room- strangely she didnt actually offer to feed her......

BAH!

Mizze xx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

BabyBoo, if anyone said anything like that to me about Alex's heart, they better start running fast.

 

[BabyBoo36]

BabyBoo, if anyone said anything like that to me about Alex's heart, they better start running fast.

SIL actually said did we not want to "start again" so we could "have a normal one".......just one of the many reasons I hate her guts.

Emmy, I threatened to lock Freya in the garden on sunday, so I know how you feel! x

 

[Cupkake.Luver]

^^I would have broke her face if she said that to me. Uhhh...Spina Bifida or not, she is still a living breathing human being.

I'm glad you decided to go on with your pregnancy. Good for you! And see, your LO is fine! =) She won't resent you, you saved her life.

 

[tiggerpony]

To all my friends who keep saying I will have another one, despite everything I have been through: "NO I am not having another baby, my body can't cope with carrying another baby let alone giving birth to one and we don't have enough money. STOP saying "oh you'll have another" and upsetting me cos I MENTALLY AND PHYSICALY CAN'T SO PISS OFF!"

To my so called "friend" - Yes I know you had the perfect pregnancy and the perfect, painless birth (apprnatley) with no tears or stitches or anything but stop rubbing it in my face - I feel like I have missed the first 8 weeks of my babies life because of what happened at my birth so just shut up about how perfect your birth was - you only needed to tell me once and not remind me every time we talk!"

To my hubby - "I love you loads but please understand how I feel about how I worry about how you might find someone else cos what's happened to me...don't just assume I'm ok just because I'm not crying all the time. I'm NOT Ok and looking after LO every day while your at work and I'm in pain is HARD. I need hugging - lots!"

 

[Housewife83]

BabyBoo, if anyone said anything like that to me about Alex's heart, they better start running fast.

SIL actually said did we not want to "start again" so we could "have a normal one".......just one of the many reasons I hate her guts.

That really disgusts me. Some people have a lot of nerve. Or no nerve because if they had any sensitivity they wouldn't behave like that!

 

[BabyBoo36]

^^I would have broke her face if she said that to me. Uhhh...Spina Bifida or not, she is still a living breathing human being.

I'm glad you decided to go on with your pregnancy. Good for you! And see, your LO is fine! =) She won't resent you, you saved her life.

Unfortunately, SIL has persuaded PIL that she is bipolar (she isn't, she's just a manipulative, nasty, immature piece of work) so I'm supposed to "ignore" her comments as she "can't help it". My DH has spent his whole life bowing down to her because "she's ill", and although he knows she's not, its a hard habit to break. She complains we don't include her in Pud's life, yet Pud has been out of hospital nearly 4 weeks, and she hasn't once even enquired about her. I spend as little time as possible with her, but don't have the heart to make DH choose between us x

 

[Ozzieshunni]

To self: Stop getting so excited about BLW! It'll just be more of a mess to clean up! j/k! I CAN'T WAIT! I got my BLW cookbook today, lol!

 

[Natsku]

To self: Stop getting so excited about BLW! It'll just be more of a mess to clean up! j/k! I CAN'T WAIT! I got my BLW cookbook today, lol!

Its lots of mess! But is good fun

 

[Cupkake.Luver]

Dear pimple on my forehead,



Thanks.

Oh yea and thanks again...for inviting your other pimple friends to my forehead as well... FANTASTIC.

 

[Emmy1987]

To all my friends who keep saying I will have another one, despite everything I have been through: "NO I am not having another baby, my body can't cope with carrying another baby let alone giving birth to one and we don't have enough money. STOP saying "oh you'll have another" and upsetting me cos I MENTALLY AND PHYSICALY CAN'T SO PISS OFF!"

To my so called "friend" - Yes I know you had the perfect pregnancy and the perfect, painless birth (apprnatley) with no tears or stitches or anything but stop rubbing it in my face - I feel like I have missed the first 8 weeks of my babies life because of what happened at my birth so just shut up about how perfect your birth was - you only needed to tell me once and not remind me every time we talk!"

To my hubby - "I love you loads but please understand how I feel about how I worry about how you might find someone else cos what's happened to me...don't just assume I'm ok just because I'm not crying all the time. I'm NOT Ok and looking after LO every day while your at work and I'm in pain is HARD. I need hugging - lots!"

xx

To OH - thank you for coming home early, I needed that. And thank you for cooking tea.

 

[Lettuce]

Baby boo, that is unforgivable! your wee girl is perfect, and that SIL is horrible, mental illness (even if it is true) is no excuse for that.
Tiggerpony I hope you heal physically and mentally soon.

To myself.... Do not whinge about being fat then eat pancakes, ice cream and maple syrup for dessert. (yummy yummy maple syrup specially from Canada... Sooooo good)

DH, I'm sorry the cats peed on your work! I don't know how or why, and I'm sorry, but please dont make me give them away! xx

 

[tanya]

Dh, I told you I started my first period in a year, you can see that I've ha to put a towel on the sofa and I'm sleeping on a towel, I've told you I'm bleeding so heavy I'm using two maternity pads at a time. There's blood flooding out of me and you really really did say to me "and when we go swimming on Thursday" excuse me? You really think I'll be going swimming? Earlier on I fell asleep on the sofa and slept for an hour meaning it was two 1/2 hours since I changed my pad and then spent the first 20 min after waking up scrubbing the sofa. When I cried earlier I think the acceptable thing to do would be give me a hug and support me not say "please don't start I've had a bad day at work and haven't you started tea yet?"
Flynn, I feel so guilty for taking you for your jabs today but you need them, im sorry it hurt and you cried, I'm sorry you got blood on your favourite sleepsuit. Well done for being brave and not crying for long and extra well done for showing the doctor how clever you are holding your head up now, she's finally signed off on her concerns about your development which means you caught up! Clever boy!
Also Flynn, I'm sorry I've been a bit clingy and grumpy today one day when you are much older I'll explain it to you. Please settle
Better than you have all day, I know we feed on demand but an ounce here and there all day is just odd! Hopefully you waking at 11pm for three oz which you've not done since you were 2 weeks old will help you sleep longer through the night.

Dh, every fart is not a poo and you are not incapable of changing a nappy!

If someone could invent a tablet that meant you could have your period at a convenient time when you could sit on the loo for a couple of hours and just get it over with in one go that would be amazing! Why has no one done this already? Dragons den it is lol!

 

[pinklightbulb]

I'm still spewing about the taxi thing this morning too...

To Eamon: Honey I love you but PLEASE stop holding onto your poos for 1-2 days at a time and then screaming in pain because you are constipated as a result. I can't do anything to help you if you won't help yourself baby I hate watching you struggle but unfortunately it's your own fault, when are you going to stop this? You're doing it right now and looking at me with that awful screwed up face and tears running down your cheeks and I don't know what else to do for you