Things I cannot say out loud....

[BabyBoo36]

Thanks ladies. SIL has done this before. She demanded to be bridesmaid at our wedding, and demanded she be sat on the top table. I said no to both. So she chucked her toys out the pram and said she wasn't coming, and MIL said if SIL wasn't on the top table, she didn't want to be either! I held my ground and MIL backed down because she didn't want to miss the wedding or have to answer questions about why she wasn't sat with us. We get this ridiculous charade every time DH and I make a decision which SIL doesn't like/agree with.

Ironically, this is the SIL who told us to get rid of Pud when we found out about the spina bifida. NOW she wants to play the doting godmother. I don't think so, love! I'm actually glad she's pagan - handy excuse for why we're not having her as there's no way in hell she'd be godmother, religious or not!

 

[Lettuce]

I can't actually believe a grown woman would act like that! Nutter. I have my big bro as godfather and my DHs sister as godmother. We are all catholic. DH doesn't practice but I go most Sundays.
As for the wedding thing...

 

[BabyBoo36]

I know - it's like she's 4 and still in nursery school. The sad thing is, we can't have my brother as godfather because of it, because all hell and World War 4 will break loose if we do. While I just about have the energy to cope with the situation as it is, if hell breaks loose, I think I'd go under. My bro (who is a sweet heart) says "I'm her Uncle - nothing tops that anyway!"

I knew this would happen, which is why I wasn't actually that bothered about getting her christened anyway x

 

[Lettuce]

Seriously, you can't even have who you want because of her!? That's disgusting. She's total poison.

 

[Karlie06]

Is there no way round it Babyboo, it seems such a shame that your brother can't be a godparent because of your demented sil?

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

BabyBoo that's just so wrong! Your SIL needs a kick up the ass!

 

[StarlitHome]

BabyBoo that's just so wrong! Your SIL needs a kick up the ass!

Totally agree. My SIL used to kind of be like that - difference being, she's just barely 18 years old!
Our parents were kind of iffy about our choice for Molly's godfather because we chose TM's brother - he's a Christmas/Easter Catholic but you know what, we trust him to support the way we raise our daughter and at the end of the day it's our choice as her parents!!

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Totally agree Starlit. It's up to you how you wanna raise your kids.

Happy birthday mummy! I hope you like your balloons & stuffs when you get up

 

[StarlitHome]

Dear Everyone,
I am allowed to be disappointed when plans fall through. And yes, my plans fell through due to the weather. In Hawaii. Yes yes I know it's fucking paradise and all but guess what - you can't have a playdate outdoors with 3 babies when it's raining.
And so my plans fell through.
I live 3000 miles away from all of my family and all but one of my friends. I rarely get to see the friend I live near because we both have babies and we live on opposite sides of the island and we don't generally have access to our family cars at the same time.
So, yeah, plan for our first get-together in 3 months - fell through.
I'm allowed to be disappointed.
I guess this is why I hardly ever complain about anything on Facebook - because I get "you live in Hawaii therefore everything in your life is perfect so you can't complain ever" response.
Fuck that - my life is not a vacation. And don't you understand, you're kicking me when I'm down??
Think about it.
- me

 

[tanya]

Starlit- id be frustrated too, is there no indoor places to rearrange to, being British and in yorkshire we usually plan stuff indoors or get wet, it's always just about to rain lol!!

My poor baby! Yesterday he was sat on the floor and threw himsel back before I could catch him and banged his head, this morning he's rolled off our bed, one second he's laid next to me the next he's tried rolling over and was sliding off the bed, he's fine, it's a low bed and thick carpet but we still both had a bit of a cry.

I'm gonna give up lol

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I'm Pagan

Your SIL is still nuts though.

 

[BabyBoo36]

I don't have a problem with her being Pagan (she's Wicca) thou Ozzie, it's totally her choice - but we're not and it therefore means she can't be godparent. She's spent years pushing her Pagan views down our throats and denouncing christian beliefs, yet now thinks she can be godparent when she doesn't share the beliefs expected of a godparent!

Plus, either MIL doesn't understand, or she's lied to MIL, as MIL is adamant SIL goes to church (absolute b******s) and that Paganism is a christian religion! Hence the threats not to come.....

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Oooooo! That's bad! The whole concept of Paganism is to be at one with nature and to be relaxed and accepting! She's clearly not read much about the religion, has she?

 

[Lettuce]

I was going to say that Ozzie! I don't know much about it, but had believed it was to be quite a calm and thoughtful type of spirituality... She's crap at it.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

It is! It's really calming and you're supposed to be at one with nature and respect nature. It's about a balance in all things.

 

[StarlitHome]

Starlit- id be frustrated too, is there no indoor places to rearrange to, being British and in yorkshire we usually plan stuff indoors or get wet, it's always just about to rain lol!!

Oh I know - I grew up in a very rainy place (Northern BC, Canada) so I'm used to rain! But no, there are not really any indoor places to rearrange to. I'd have offered our place but it is tiny and we have a wall of non-closing window overlooking a busy highway, so it's tiny and LOUD.
We are trying to re-plan for next week so hopefully the weather cooperates.

I'm just so damn tired of being told that I am not allowed to complain about anything because I live somewhere that people like to visit on holiday. When you live here, it's not like constantly being on holiday - it's just like living in any other city. AND I'm 3000 miles away from my family and friends. So. I'm allowed to complain about missing people sometimes, dammit.

 

[BabyBoo36]

I quite like all the fundamentals behind it, I just resist having things pushed at me and told "You must do it my way" which is what SIL does. She accused DH of being a "born again christian" because he gave the sign of the cross at his elderly uncle's funeral during the service to pay his respects, and is always putting huge rants on facebook about the horrors of christianity etc etc. She expects everyone else to accept her differences, but doesn't want to accept anyone else's, if that makes sense.

Plus, I'm sure you can't just "give up" Paganism for the day, just so you can become a godparent!?? ha ha x

 

[Ozzieshunni]

She just sounds nuts and obviously doesn't know anything about Paganism

 

[BabyBoo36]

She's been Pagan for 30 years - the issue is she thinks I know nothing about it, so thinks she can tell me crap like "I can still be godparent" and that I won't realise She thinks I'm thick, and a pushover - I'm neither!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

What a nutjob!