I'm sorry to crash the thread but I need somewhere to get this out but don't have anyone to say it too and this thread looks like the best place.
OH - talk to your mother about us all going bankrupt or we will end up paying for HER debt for the rest of OUR lives while she has decided she wants to book another cruise her 15th or so? If she books that cruise and won't sort out this problem with us then I don't think I can sit in the same room as her while she whinges about having no money for food and borrows money off us when she knows we have nothing!!! That means Emma will not be going there either. I did not want to go bankrupt at 21 but if I have to for OUR family I will. Do not forget that your mom got herself into this just because she decided she didn't want anything to do with the business/debt does not mean it fucking disapeared!!! The last 2 years have been hell balliff threats borrowing money from my parents and not being able to eat at some points, we have just got back to stability do not screw this up I cannot handle anymore. I put the money my mom gave me for our wedding into that business we borrowed money from her too how is it fair for us too live without luxuries when your mom thinks she can go on another cruise?
I still cry about loosing the business, but if I told you then you would break down too, I'm being strong for you because it was your dads creation and we didn't screw it up, the damage was done before we tried, and we tried so hard there was nothing more we could have done.
Look for another job!! You know you are being taken for a fool, you are better than this but for some reason the only person you will not listen too is me and it drives me crazy!! And applying for one job does not really count as you were meant to be looking for the last 5 months, that is not effort!!
Mom - please leave him, he controls you, cheats on you, practically steals yor money, you paid off his debts and he has created more, you could risk your house which you paid for, he stops you seeing us and your granddaughter, the money you give us and things you buy us may be fantastic but it does not replace having you around when we need you.
Myself - pull yourself together!! You are a mom, you do not need anything else, the fact that every time a wedding car goes past you want to cry because he still hasn't asked is pathetic!! Just accept it is never going to happen and you will not be let down.
. They are ASSHOLES. They tried that on with us, told us we hadn't paid the council tax, whereas i had bank statements that proved we had paid direct debit. 
Plonker.
I'll spend all his visits waiting to hear from a hospital/the police to tell me my baby has been hurt or worse. 
