Third Time Lucky - Fingers Crossed!!!

[Lou15]

How is everyone doing today?

Cheryl I think I will be due 12/4/13, so exciting!

Dodge- any more poas-ing today or are you holding out til tomorrow?

I spoke to my GP yesterday who is going to refer me to a consultant obstetrician straight away which I'm very happy about- looking forward to getting a letter through with my first appointment date now!

I am struggling with constantly analysing everything- do I feel as sick today as yesterday? Do my boobs hurt as much? Was that a cramp I just felt? It's driving me mad! Are all the other pregnant ladies feeling the same or are you managing to relax at all?

Sending lots of love xxx

 

[CherylC3]

Hey missy I'm feeling the same but I'm trying to put being pg and. The Miscarrages to the back of my head... We just nd to take one day at a time ..

 

[thethomsons]

Hi Lou and other 3rd timers, thanks for inviting me to this post, I am just through my 2nd m/c and am so confused as to whether to ttc straight away or to wait? Did you all ttc straight after? I had DNC last Monday. Emotionally my family think we should wait but I feel like I so want to be pg (and it to be ok) I have a 4 year old son so know that I can carry a child but in last 7 months have lost 2 at about the 6 week mark. We even saw a heartbeat this time but three weeks later was gone. They found out I have minor Bicornuate Uterus but the consultant said as I have had a child and the fact the middle part is only short (not fully down middle) I should put it out my head. I am soo scared of having a third miscarriage. Wish I had a crystal ball. I am booked for clotting tests on 20th September but that seems so far away and then it takes 8 weeks more for results. Do you think I would be better waiting and giving my body time to heal and find out if any probs or should we just go for it?? I'm so confused. M/Cs are so hard and the thought of a third is horrible but the only way going to get more tests done is if it happens again. And if it doesn't then that means will carry baby to full term as so wanted. DH and I are totally torn as to what is for the best. Anyone taking Baby Aspirin just to be safe or is that not recommended. Any advice girls greatly received and once again thanks for inviting me, reading your posts from this thread has made me feel much less alone already and DH is pleased I have somewhere to go that I feel part of something. Congrats to all with BFPs again, was this without waiting? How long after m/c did you wait?

Thanks again Elaine xxx

 

[CherylC3]

look wot i got today at 13dpo thot id wud be 1-2 xxx

 

[CherylC3]

Welcome the thomsons I'm so sorry for yr losses...xx

I take baby aspirin and pregnacare. Cxx

 

[Lou15]

Cheryl congratulations again! Isn't it lovely to see the word pregnant?!

And welcome Elaine, to the luckiest thread going!

You are in exactly the position I was in a few weeks ago; I just didn't know what to do. I was not offered any testing though- I was told that 2 in a row was likely just bad luck, and I would only get testing if I had 3 in a row. I'm no expert but given that you have carried a baby to term, I would be surprised if it's anything other than bad luck for you. I thought long and hard about taking some time out, but ultimately realised that although time heals to an extent, the only thing that will really make me feel better is holidng my own baby in my arms. This time, I waited for my first period and then tried and got pregnant straight away

I have thought about taking baby aspirin but I personally am not comfortable doing something which has not been medically recommended to me. I am being referred to a consultant soon for extra care during this pregnancy so I will ask about it then and let everyone know what he says.

Overall, I would say don't try straight away if you're not happy to do so, but if you do decide to try, we'll all be here to support you. Good luck!

 

[thethomsons]

Cheryl congrats, thats great news, have you had AF between m/c or did you get pg straight away? Did you have D and C? Sorry just really trying to work out what I should do for the best!
Lou, you gave me some great advice thanks, I think I am going to wait till I have had one AF as I reckon it will be about when I'm due blood test anyway. Then can start trying then as I will have a clear date in my head for dating etc. If AF hasn't come by 20th Sept then we will just go for it. Just bit worried if we try in next couple of weeks then I may not be fully mended inside and it increases chance of M/c? Do you think D and C makes a difference in any way?

So unsure really!! Lovely to be with people in same/similar situation!
Elaine xxx

 

[dodgercpkl]

Congrats Cheryl!! I got just the opposite message today with my digi, so I'm pretty sure that I either had a chemical, or I've got a bad case of line eye. I'm 15dpo today and af is due at some point today so I'm pretty sure that I'm out. Now it's just a matter of when it will show up. I'm messing up the lucky thread!

Lou - Glad things are going well for you!

Elaine - I'm in kind of the same boat you are. I've had 2 miscarriages in the last 9 months and neither of them have lasted even up to 5 weeks. I don't have any kids though, so I don't have proof that I can carry to term. I'm lucky in that my insurance will do testing for me now - probably because of my age and the fact that we've been ttc for over 2 years. As for the baby aspirin, I didn't start taking it despite all the recommendations that I read because of my MTHFR prognosis, until my RE recommended me to take it. There's a lot of evidence that says that it could help, but then there are cases where it's not been good for people. Do you know if you have any kind of clotting issues or a family history of them?

Poptart - I hope you had a great weekend! We miss you here!

 

[PopTart28]

Hi my lovely ladies,

I have had a great weekend, we've seem some of our amazing friends (who asked no questions of me not drinking) and our parents - we managed to keep it from all of them and enjoyed it still being our little secret, with my DH checking up on my and 'bump' evey now and then when we were alone, we had a fantastic time....glad to be back at home now, the woofs also enjoyed themselves investigating everyone elses gardens while we all had a good catch up....

So Dodge im sorry your digi said neg! dont worry you may still have it change.....your not out yet so just keep us posted and im thinking of you.
In NO way are you messing up the lucky thread - its still a mega lucky thread whatever happens......

YAYAYAYAYAY Cheryl, I love testing with a digi and getting to finally see that word 'pregnant' it confirms it for me after using the normal tests. How are you getting on?

Welcome Elaine :wave: Im sooo sorry for your losses and I hope you have a gentle recovery this time and have people around you to help you through the next few weeks. I waited one cycle after the first mc but started trying straight away after the second and i would get pg when my body was ready....and this time It definately was......
So you are welcome to join us and we are more than happy to have you with us on this very lucky thread.....

Elaine I too was told they wouldnt do any testing unless i had 3 mc's which is really crap but I will be given extra care during this pregnancy because of my history which helps me feel alittle better. also i have an early midwofe app and will be having an early scan as well which will be very good to let me know whats happening in there...

I have been taking pregnacare since we started ttc and would strongly recommend you definately talk to your gp before you take anything else...besides with aspirin its only supposed to be taken once you actually get that BFP (and its GP recommended) and not before!!! You should google 'baby aspirin' and write down some questions you have from the information you ready and take them to your doctor before taking it yourself - best to be safe about it.....

And i agree with Lou that we will be here to support you whenever you decide to try again and help anyway we can.....all i will say is that you will start trying when your mind is ready but if everything wasnt ready on the inside your body wont fall pg...so please dont worry about if you concieve before AF as my GP said to me there is no evidence that concieving straight after a mc makes the changes of it happening again any higher......

Remember your body wont release that egg this month if things are not ok inside after your d and c ok.....and if you are concerned then ask your gp.....I didnt O till the second cycle after my first mc, i put it down to me not being ready, so everone is different and you will be ready in your own time..

Also you said about waiting a cycle so you could be sure about dating your next pg...i got my BFP before AF and because i have been using ovulation tests and charting any body changes each month I have almost a better idea what my body has done this month than any of the other ttc months....and i know my O date, implantation day and have found it really easy to work out all the other important date too so dont worry about that besides if your not sure then your first or second scan you have will confirm it for you anyway..

Hi Lou I was more than alittle nervous the first week after i got my BFP and was testing every other day wit a dip stick and then every two days the next week and now ive managed to settle down and havent tested since the start of last week.....my DH has been amazing with me too.

FOR ALL YOU LADIES WORRYING ABOUT THINGS CHANGING - TRY THIS:

I have been keeping a note book in my bag (you can keep notes on your phone if its easier) and each day if i feel sick, tired, hungry, sad/emotional or any other symptom then i write it down and when it happened and what i was doing/eating or did with that symptom it means i dont try to over think about it or whats going on and can let go of it and not let it worry me...its really worked and is soooo interesting to look at each week to see whats changing......

Its also handy as you can see patterns imerging and can stay away from things that make you feel sick etc etc etc...let me know if you try it and it helps....

Try to relax and enjoy it this time - i refuse to panic at everything - 1. its not healthy or good for me or my little jelly bean and 2. I want to enjoy being pregnant (I will deal with what happens only if and when it happens again)

I refuse to let what has happened before dictate how i feel and act in this pg, its a wonderful time and im working on really enjoying everyminute of this pregnancy for as long as its with me....

AFM my symptoms have been getting stronger but changing from day to day (hence my note book idea - its hard to keep up with the changes otherwise) over the past few days ive been mega tired and soooooooo damn hungry even after a big meal and at regular intervals if i dont have something small to eat or enough of something i feel dizzy and alittle faint so my notea are helping keep track of that which will also be great for the midwife to look at.....

Ive also become alittle more spotty which is unlike me but another symptom im welcoming - as ive said before ill put up with most things as long as i get to hold my healthy baby at the end of it all...

Right time to get some dinner on as funnily enough im really hungry again

Love to all my Third time lucky ladies, xxxx

 

[Lou15]

Dodge so sorry to hear about your negative test today. Don't be worrying about messing up the lucky thread! I really hope we can keep this going until we all get pregnant and then finally all have our much longed-for babies! But you're not out til AF shows so keep us posted.

Elaine- I was told to wait until at least one normal AF so that's what I did. I believe lots of people get pregnant before AF and all is well, but I just felt that if I went against advice and things did go wrong, I would feel even more dreadful than I would have otherwise. That's just my feelings on the matter though. xx

 

[Lou15]

Hi PopTart! Think we just posted at exactly the same time, your post wasn't up when I did mine! So glad you had a lovely weekend and all went well. Your notebook idea is a great one, I think I'll start too! Again I am so impressed by your positive attitude- I am a bit of a nervous wreck. But my nausea is definitely getting worse which must be a good sign I hope! On the plus side re the nausea, absolutely no food appeals to me- so I might as well eat healthy foods since it makes no difference to me whether I'm eating a salad or a pizza- both make me feel awful! I also feel so much more tired than with either of my other pregnancies- I can barely keep my eyes open! In fact, I think I need a wee nap before I cook dinner....bye for now ladies....zzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!

 

[PopTart28]

Hi Lou, I also find myself needing a nap as if i dont I also get alittle dizzy and faint - it seems that when a symptom sets in if i dont do what my body it telling me then it cant quite function properly and i get faint and dizzy!!!

My note book has really helped me out this last week to not only understand my symptoms but also not worry as much about things so i hoe it does the same for you honey, xxx

As for my being positive - i have to be otherwise if i dwell on whats happened it will eat me alive and i wont enjoy this pg at all and this is an experience that im going to cherish and remember and laugh about being nervous over once im holding my baby at the end and i hope you ladies will all get there and feel the same too.....

I have been feeling really hungry but like you Lou not really craving anything in particular...which makes what to have when your soo hungry you could eat your own arm rather frustrating.....

So ive been eating loads of fruit and veg and drinking the most juice and squash i can get my hands on....does make the amount of times i wee in the night go up but i get a bad headache if im dehydrated so id rather have to get up a few more times than put up with a bad head...

Im loving sharing and discussing all this with my bump buddies and cant wait to compare what we were all like once you other lovely ladies get your BFP's and join us soon, xxx

 

[thethomsons]

dodgercpkl - I dont think there are any clotting disorders in my family and to be honest I really doubt it's a prob as I have had my son Flynn. I am so scared that I have a third M/c but can't give up as I really want another baby and having two m/c makes me want it even more.
PopTart28 - Thanks so much for all your advice, it's unreal having such supportive people to help me through this. No one at hospital told us to wait except for two weeks after D and C but i'm not sure if it is more wise to wait for one AF or whether just to go for it in a week or so? You are right that will only get PG when time is right. So scared that it m/c again as that will be more worrisome as something must be wrong. I agree about the scan being able to date so wont worry about that. It has crossed my mind that if we tried from next week then I would have no idea where my body is at so wouldnt be aware of 2WW etc which is torture. If that makes sense!
Lou - The advice that you got about waiting on AF def makes sense and I do feel that makes most sense, just dont know if will be able to resist once DH and I get together lol. NOt much been going on in that department between PG symptoms then going through loss, getting back to stage really missing him lol. To be sensible or risky??

Who has got PG before first AF? Does anyone know someone who was successful in carrying to full term in this situation.
I am a LIBRA and soo bad at making decisions. lol

My friend suggested today just going with flow and see what happens, but just makes me think do we go with the flow now, or wait till after Af?? AHHHH

Sorry ladies I feel so confused at moment. Just want to have successful PG sooo bad.

Thanks for all input, means so much xxx

 

[PopTart28]

Hey honey,

I know how you feel - i was a complete nervous wrek for a while along with all the other feelings you get and it has taken alot of will power and support from my DH and close friends (and my lovely ladies on here) to get me to were i am ow and i just hope that we can help you get past this and on to another chapter gently and in your own time.....thats what we are here for!!!

I know it seems impossible at the moment but the best thing i did was to write down any overwhelming feelings or thoughts and let them go...i burnt alot of paper for the first two weeks after my second mc but my god it helped me to let go of alot of hurt, anger, frustration and pain, plus all the feelings that come up when your in that 'its not fair' stage and the 'why me' stage - give it a go and if it helps let your DH read them so you can discuss and he can understand how you are actually doing before you both let go of them together by burning them in the evening.....just a thought/idea that might help you decide if you are ready or not yet.....the less you feel you have to get away from by writing down and burning/binning the better you are doing.


I was told it was best for dating reasons and for my body to recover to wait for a cycle before ttc again and as i didnt even O in my first cycle and both me and DH didnt feel ready to DTD after my first mc it was clear that both my mind and body just wernt ready....

After my second mc we wanted to get close again and just enjoyed DTD and whatever happened we'd be ok with (i didnt think id O that cycle again) and I got my BFP (the earliest ive ever got a + before AF and the strongest line too)- so its true = when you and your body are REALLY ready and in sync then you WILL get that BFP....

I have a close friend who had 2 mc and got her BFP before AF like me on the third go and has just had a beautiful baby girl - no problems with pg or birth and like you she already has a little boy, so it can happen and unfortunately the reasons being 'just bad luck' are more common than they should be....so it can happen.

I know its hard but i would try wait the 2 weeks as suggested by your doctor after the d&c then see how you and DH feel - if you want to DTD then do it...enjoy yourselves and like me keep doing it when you want then see if AF shows and if it does show you both need to see it as you getting closer again and started working past whats happend together - but if AF doesnt show then take a deep breath and take a test......and let me know asap what it says ok

If you need any further information or someone to moan to offline then message me ok.....

I hope you start to feel alittle better as the days go past and im wishing you a gentle and supported recovery and as i said earlier this is a very lucky thread and we WILL all become bump buddies in the next few months i can feel it.....

Love to you all, xxxx

 

[dodgercpkl]

I have more I want to respond to but not the time, so for now:

Elaine - I asked those questions because I feel that's the only reason that you should really consider taking baby aspirin. If you don't have clotting issues or a family history of them, then the baby aspirin isn't going to do you any good and could actually cause you harm since it's used in these instances as a blood thinner. So based on your answer, I'd definitely say no to taking baby aspirin unless a dr. tells you that you should.

Also, you ask if anyone has gotten pregnant and successfully carried to term before their first bleed after a miscarriage. My mom has. I'm the result of that pregnancy which happened just a couple of weeks after her one and only miscarriage.

 

[mannymoo]

Dodge I hope AF has stayed away. Have you tested again? How many tests did you get the faint line on? Fingers crossed for you. x

Welcome Elaine! I hope this thread brings you lots of sticky baby dust luck! Even though my clotting tests came back as normal, my gynae told me that they only test for the basic disorders and there are hundreds of possible clotting issues that someone could have. He also told me to start taking low dose aspirin before I even get my BFP as a precaution. But now I am a bit concerned... I also have progesterone lined up to start taking the day I get my bfp so hoping that will help me carry a baby to term.

Preggy ladies - if I recall some of you have appointments this week. Looking forward to lots of good news. Glad to hear the symptoms are nice and strong!

FMS - I start SMEP this week! Feeling VERY positive that this is going to be a good month for us.

xxx

 

[CherylC3]

Dodge so sorry Hun I'm hoping next month is ur month Hun.. PMA all the way xxx

Elaine I'm pregnant right after a dnc no af I between I heard loads of ppl in here who hav been fine after falling straight away I waited after my 1st and still miscarried so I wasn't waiting this time..cx

Pop tart so glad you had a great time, how far on are u now?? Me and hubby hav decided we're not telling our parents till after our 8 wk scan so 4 more wks to go lol...cx

Lou I feel u I'm shattered too and starving all the time. Xx

Manny good luck on stepping yourself a baby so excited for ur BFP Hun..x

Handed a urine sample into the drs to confirm pregnancy since she doesn't believe tht I can be pregnant so quickly and hav bloods to get tomoro and next wk then my scan is the 22nd

 

[PopTart28]

Hi Cheryl,

We had a fab weekend and managed to not tell anyone or give it away so think we did rather well.

Its not easy especially as im so tired and just sooooo damn hungry all the time and if i dont have anything to eat that my body wants (and yes its hard to work out what that is when you dont really want to eat anything due to feeling sick) I end up feeling very lightheaded and abit dizzy which isnt fun atall.

We are going to hold out till our 12 week scan as that was our goal from the start and we will be sticking to it as it will be the longest i will have been pg so far so want to reach that mark before telling anyone...

I hope you and Lou are getting on with your symptoms ok now and starting to relax abit now....

Mannymoo I was going to use the SMEP programme but them DH got his new job with time working away so it wouldnt have worked for us, but I wish you all the luck and cant wait for you to get your BFP next month.....are you looking forward to the programme and what did your DH say when he saw all your tables put up everywhere?

Oh one more thing for you Cheryl - I would consider changing doctor- how dare she basically ask you to prove it to her - women CAN and DO get pg this soon after all types of losses (she should know that being a doctor anyway)and i think she is out of order really - she should have said congratulations to you and then given you the option to confirm it for your benefit by urine sample(because of your history)- not saying you have to give one in as she doesnt believe you!

Sounds like you handled that rather well tho - I hope she is more positive with you when she looks at the result and is a supportive doctor through your pg.

Im trying to not focus on how far along i am and what my due date is at the moment as im taking each day as it comes and not getting too ahead of myself, its my way of getting to and past each milestone one at a time - I will then go crazy and start getting very excited once i have seen my little bean safely and happily growing inside my currently bloated tummy

Love to you all and I hope you are all doing well this week.

Right ive come over all funny - exactly 2.5 hours after last food intake means I must have more fruit to eat and more water (ill be giving birth to a fruit salad at this rate - at least its not crisps and chocolate im eating) Hope you ladies are getting enough of the good things - what sort of things are you able to eat without feeling bad during or afterwards at the moment?

Love to you all, xxxx

 

[bananas2]

Hi all!!!! Sorry been one of those weekends!!

Dodge sending u big hugs!!! I had a chemical beg of june. Ur hopes rise and are dashed in a week!! Not nice!!

Hello elaine welcome!! Sounds like you have had a really rough time but ur in the right place for support! Let's hope the baby dust and sticky stuff gets spread our way!!

Hope all our other prego ladies are doing well!!

Well last thursday the AF pains started with a tiny bit of spotting but didn't actully start until saturday! The pain was beyond a joke I was doubled over in pain crying to DH all afternoon saturday but he was a star and really looked after me! I'm a very lucky girl! So we have talked and also decided to go for the smep he said he will leave it all up to me ie just jump on him and he won't say no even if tired lol I have also got hospital wednesday to find out what's going on I feel its just gonna be routine bloods then aspirin and progesterone! But oh well will give it a go and see how it goes! I also really want the AF pains to be looked into! In ur experience ladies do u think the doubled over pain with AF and m/c could be related??

Mannymoo what day are u on I'm day 3! How long are ur cycles mine are 30.

Take care ladies and look after ur selves!!!! Lots of fresh fruit and veg like poptart!! (Me and DH also started a health boost last week fresh veg fruit and walking in the eveings in the woods near our house! Gives us time to chat and have fresh air!)

 

[bananas2]

Hi all!!!! Sorry been one of those weekends!!

Dodge sending u big hugs!!! I had a chemical beg of june. Ur hopes rise and are dashed in a week!! Not nice!!

Hello elaine welcome!! Sounds like you have had a really rough time but ur in the right place for support! Let's hope the baby dust and sticky stuff gets spread our way!!

Hope all our other prego ladies are doing well!!

Well last thursday the AF pains started with a tiny bit of spotting but didn't actully start until saturday! The pain was beyond a joke I was doubled over in pain crying to DH all afternoon saturday but he was a star and really looked after me! I'm a very lucky girl! So we have talked and also decided to go for the smep he said he will leave it all up to me ie just jump on him and he won't say no even if tired lol I have also got hospital wednesday to find out what's going on I feel its just gonna be routine bloods then aspirin and progesterone! But oh well will give it a go and see how it goes! I also really want the AF pains to be looked into! In ur experience ladies do u think the doubled over pain with AF and m/c could be related??

Mannymoo what day are u on I'm day 3! How long are ur cycles mine are 30.

Take care ladies and look after ur selves!!!! Lots of fresh fruit and veg like poptart!! (Me and DH also started a health boost last week fresh veg fruit and walking in the eveings in the woods near our house! Gives us time to chat and have fresh air!)