Third Time Lucky - Fingers Crossed!!!

[mannymoo]

Bananas - so pleased that I have a SMEP buddy for this cycle. Today is CD8 of a 28 day cycle so my plan starts...TONIGHT!

I used to get really bad AF pains - not causing me to double over in pain but significant enough to warrant a pain killer. I know there is a strong link between endometriosis and AF pains as well as a connection between endometriosis and mc but don't really know too much about it. I've actually found the my AF cramps have subsided dramatically since my miscarriages - not sure why?!?

Cheryl - I agree 100% with PopTart... I think your doc is completely off-sides for not believing you're pregnant. It happens ALL THE TIME! I've read star of stories on this site from women that get pregnant 2 weeks after a mc.

 

[Lou15]

Cheryl I agree too! I think it's terrible that your Dr doesn't believe you're pregnant! But at least you know you are and the test will be positive so it's not your problem. So exciting that you have a scan date already arranged! Did they say if that's the earliest they would see enough to make a scan worthwhile? When I went to the hospital having my 2nd m/c (having been sent by my GP) the horrible Dr said I had probably never been pregnant and it was just AF coming! This was before any scans or anything! I was absolutely mortified but just calmly said, 'well, lets see what my HCG levels are before we jump to any conclusions'. I also told her I'd taken several pregnancy tests and as far as I was aware you're highly unlikely to get a false positive. Right enough, HCG levels proved that I had been pregnant, but she never apologised and I will never forget how she made me feel by doubting me.

Bananas and Mannymoo, looking forward to hearing how your SMEP-ing goes this month! Seems a fail-safe method if ever there was- no way an egg could slip through the net unfertilised!

PopTart- although I am feeling very sick, eating doesn't seem to make it any worse, so I have been going all-out healthy! Natural yoghurt and fruit for breakfast (can't stomach my usual cereal/ porridge for some reason), salad and couscous for lunch, and something like home made veg curry or enchiladas for dinner (weirdly find spicy things easier to stomach...bizarre!). I have also discovered that the little deli shop near us does all sorts of different flavoured rice cakes which are good to snack on as I'm more into savoury than sweet. What about you? I am really struggling with this whole tiredness thing now- exhaustion and 11 hour working days really don't mix!

Dodge - thinking of you and really hoping that this is your month!

Lots of love to all xxx

 

[Lou15]

Oh Elaine I'm sorry I forgot o ask how you are today? Have you come to a decision yet? I'm sure as PopTart says, if you try before AF and your body isn't ready then you won't get pregnant....after all our lovely Dodge wouldn't be here if her Mom hadn't tried before AF so there may be a lovely baby ready and waiting to be conceived! Maybe just not try not prevent before AF and then if you don't get pregnant then really go for it the next month? Thinking of you xx

 

[dodgercpkl]

It's not my month. My temp dropped this morning, and I *feel* like AF is on it's way, so I'm just waiting for the flow to start. So if I was pregnant, and I do think I was, then it's another chemical.

Elaine - Do what makes you feel the best about things. You are going to have moments of anxiety and worry and sadness no matter what path you choose and we'll be here to cheerlead you past any wobbles. *hugs*

Lou - omg! That dr needs a good smacking. *hugs* So sorry you had to deal with that during an already emotionally draining time. I'm glad you are able to eat and aren't feeling too bad, but on the otherhand I'm glad you are having obvious symptoms!

Manny - I've had the same experience with the disappearing cramps since the miscarriages. Today is actually the first time in a while that I can recall having that generally light crampy feeling that usually heralds my AF. YAY for your plan starting today!

Cheryl - I'm with the other ladies. I'd probably just not feel comfortable with that dr anymore and would likely look for a new one that treated me like a person that could actually have a clue. How are you doing otherwise?

Poptart - How are things going with you?

 

[CherylC3]

Aw I will be changing drs very soon... Yeah at 6 wks il see a heartbeat and I think il be 6 1/2 by then... Got my results for my blood clotting tests nd I'm good nothing wrong with clotting

 

[thethomsons]

Hey girls, you know you all make so much sense and today I feel quite clear about things. Going to go for the plan that after the 2 weeks from D and C is over we are going to NTNP and then if AF comes then we will go for it then. You are right when you say I am not going to get over all this till I am successfully full term with baby in arms so may as well just get on with it. As for tests I honestly don't think they will come back with anything as I already have DS but will go for them anyway regardless of where I am at!
Cheryl when exactly did you try to conceive after D and C? I am only one week past it so need to wait another week as advised. Did you try after that?
DH and I not going to tell anyone our plans meaning we have bit more control and no pressure.
Will have to be very detached if get PG third time so that don't get so hurt when things go wrong. Anyway this is y plan today, mights change tomorrow lol.
Hope al you PG girls doing ok, and those SMEPing, be interested to see how it goes!
Thanks again and speak tomorrow Love ELaine xxx

 

[PopTart28]

Hey Dodge Im wishing you good luck and will be thinking of you while you give SMEP a go this month, Im sorry its been a crappy few weeks for you and hope you start to feel alittle better soon....

I just have to say 'thankyou' as even tho you have had it really tough again you have still asked how im getting on - you star, your stronger than you give yourself credit for

Im am getting on fine and have worked soooo hard to not worry all the time and with my DH help i am starting to enjoy this alittle - but not get over the top just yet and am not even testing to prove im still pg anymore: my symptoms are sooo strong and all the time both all day and if i wake up in the night so i know im deffinately pg still.

Lou, Im like you in that im eating good things but my trouble is eating regularly enough to keep my body happy, plus my DH thinks finding me napping every now and then really funny hope your doing ok today - keep me posted on symptoms/changes ok as its nice to compare.

Bananas - Im sending you lots of luck and positivity for SMEP his month and hope you get that BFP soon honey, keep us posted on how its going.....

Manny, How are you this month and how goes the new plan going? fingers are crossed for you this time babe...

Elaine, I am sooo happy to hear you have decided to wait the two weeks after your d and c and then NTNP to get back in the swing of things, i really have everything crossed that you get what we all deserve soon - a BFP, a sticky bean, a happy and healthy 9 months and to finally hold a beautiful healthy baby at the end of all this...
Keep us posted with how you get on this month or if anything changes, remember we are here to support you with whatever you are up to or decide, x

Cheryl, Im glad your reaults came back ok and im glad your changing docs, hopefully the next one will be more 'human' towards you. how are your symptoms coming along- any changes?

AFM, I have been feeling rather strange the past few days - it started with being hungry all the time even after just having a meal and feeling sick in between which made working out what to eat next difficult.
Now since saturday its been a constant fuzzy head with on and off headaches, feeling sicky most of the day - needing to wee lots and drinking the largest amount of fluids and now im struggling to eat much and have to have a meal slowly in case i come over all light headed (being lightheaded is due to my body being hungry and wanting food) but me not being able to get it into my body quick enough due to sickness so im finding that hard as you get more tired when your not getting as much food that your body needs, but im having lots of little meals and hoping it gets better and im able to start eating more soon, and hopefully this fuzzy head will go too.....
Other than that my boobs are still swollen and my nipples are very sensitive and despite not overeating or even eating my normal portions ive got a little tummy bump already (which i dont normally have) and its really hard to touch, so if that keeps going it may be difficult to keep it out of site of family and friends....will keep you posted...

I have got a few more spots and my skin has been alittle more dry than it has been in a long time and im loosing more stray hairs on my head than usual for this time of the year but not enough to be a problem as my hair is now very healthy and strong and my nails have grown very strong in the last 2 weeks too, so not all the sypmtoms are hard to deal with

Oh have any of you ladies found sex while pg to be alot more sensitive and intense (sorry maybe TMI) we've only DTD a few times since getting my BFP but its been great - just wondered if any of you ladies found the same in any of your pg's......Not had much appart from cuddles from DH the past 5days though due to feeling faint and sicky but just wanted to ask....?

OK time to have some more fruit (im sure the ladies at the shop will start asking Q's soon if i keep clearing them out of fruit every few days)

Right sending lots of love to you all and i hope you are doing ok today, xxxxx

 

[CherylC3]

Hey girls, you know you all make so much sense and today I feel quite clear about things. Going to go for the plan that after the 2 weeks from D and C is over we are going to NTNP and then if AF comes then we will go for it then. You are right when you say I am not going to get over all this till I am successfully full term with baby in arms so may as well just get on with it. As for tests I honestly don't think they will come back with anything as I already have DS but will go for them anyway regardless of where I am at!
Cheryl when exactly did you try to conceive after D and C? I am only one week past it so need to wait another week as advised. Did you try after that?
DH and I not going to tell anyone our plans meaning we have bit more control and no pressure.
Will have to be very detached if get PG third time so that don't get so hurt when things go wrong. Anyway this is y plan today, mights change tomorrow lol.
Hope al you PG girls doing ok, and those SMEPing, be interested to see how it goes!
Thanks again and speak tomorrow Love ELaine xxx

I conceived 13 days after dnc I never waited the 2 wks I started my OPKs cd7 and started bding tht day too but I only had one day of bleeding and no pain after the dnc... BABYDUST Hun. Xxxx

 

[CherylC3]

Hey pop tart all my symtoms are the same feeling hungover and was sick this morning, me and dh haven't ad sex I'm worried cos everytime we had sex I mc so I put a sex ban till I'm 12 wks but we will be doing other stuff to be honest I don't feel like it at all.xxx

 

[bananas2]

Ii back poptart in saying dodge ur being so brave!! Keep strong and we are all with u!!! We are in this together and we will all get out BFP!!! Sadly it may take some of us a bit longer then we hoped but it will happen!!!!

Glad to hear our PG ladies symptoms are coming along nicely!! And hope everyone else is keeping well!!!

Baby dust/sticky dust being sent to all!!

 

[thethomsons]

Hey girls, you know you all make so much sense and today I feel quite clear about things. Going to go for the plan that after the 2 weeks from D and C is over we are going to NTNP and then if AF comes then we will go for it then. You are right when you say I am not going to get over all this till I am successfully full term with baby in arms so may as well just get on with it. As for tests I honestly don't think they will come back with anything as I already have DS but will go for them anyway regardless of where I am at!
Cheryl when exactly did you try to conceive after D and C? I am only one week past it so need to wait another week as advised. Did you try after that?
DH and I not going to tell anyone our plans meaning we have bit more control and no pressure.
Will have to be very detached if get PG third time so that don't get so hurt when things go wrong. Anyway this is y plan today, mights change tomorrow lol.
Hope al you PG girls doing ok, and those SMEPing, be interested to see how it goes!
Thanks again and speak tomorrow Love ELaine xxx

I conceived 13 days after dnc I never waited the 2 wks I started my OPKs cd7 and started bding tht day too but I only had one day of bleeding and no pain after the dnc... BABYDUST Hun. Xxxx

So Cheryl, did you not wait the two weeks after D and C before starting to try? When you say you did OPK CD7, is that 7 days after D and C? What day do you think your conceived? Thanks, I'm so keen to get this right!!

How is everyone else today?

I feel quite excited that I have now got a plan organised and I think that what will be will be so going to stick with that. The only way going to be happy is to have another baby so need to try and put last two miscarriages behind me and look to the hopefully near future. So praying don't miscarry a third time though. It is a worry.

 

[CherylC3]

Yeah 7days after dnc I started bding and using OPKs and conceived around cd14 got my pos OPK on cd13. Xx

 

[thethomsons]

Yeah 7days after dnc I started bding and using OPKs and conceived around cd14 got my pos OPK on cd13. Xx

Cheryl, you give me such hope! I am now 8 days post D and C and no bleeding today. Really want to start trying asap but a bit anxious! Do you reckon I should to OPKs from today and see where I am at? Its DH birthday on Sunday and I wondered if we should start trying then as would be 13 days after D and C.
What is your normal cycle like? Mine is usually 34 days roughly so not sure if would go back to that?
Thanks Cheryl appreciate your advice xx

 

[dodgercpkl]

Thanks ladies!

Oh ladies, I saw this posted in a group that I'm a part of on facebook and I HAD to share it. It's just so amazing and lovely to think of even though I cried like a baby while I was reading it. I hope you get the same sense of hope and peace that I do from it!

https://lauragraceweldon.com/2012/06/12/mother-child-are-linked-at-the-cellular-level/

 

[CherylC3]

Yeah 7days after dnc I started bding and using OPKs and conceived around cd14 got my pos OPK on cd13. Xx

Cheryl, you give me such hope! I am now 8 days post D and C and no bleeding today. Really want to start trying asap but a bit anxious! Do you reckon I should to OPKs from today and see where I am at? Its DH birthday on Sunday and I wondered if we should start trying then as would be 13 days after D and C.
What is your normal cycle like? Mine is usually 34 days roughly so not sure if would go back to that?
Thanks Cheryl appreciate your advice xx

Mines is a 28 day cycle and always got my pos on cd13 I'd start ur OPKs on cd10 Hun and start bding as soon as the get dark. Xx

 

[CherylC3]

Aw dodge just read it

 

[PopTart28]

Aaaaaahhhhh Dodge.....

Thats an amazing article and a wonderful read......

Thankyou for posting it, xxxxx

 

[dodgercpkl]

Glad to share it! It's really made me feel so much better about everything!

 

[Lou15]

Thank you for posting that link Dodge, very comforting

I'm thinking of everyone today but I'm afraid I don't have the energy to write much, sorry! Think it'll be the weekend before I can write in any depth- each day is like and endurance test at the moment! Hope everyone's ok xxxx

 

[PopTart28]

Evening my lovely ladies, I hope you are all well....

So today was alittle different, infact everyday has been alittle different this week so far...

Monday I felt aweful all day and could barely keep anything down and struggled to get much done except a slow walk with the woofs due to feeling extremly tired and sick ...I Didnt even sleep too well monday night - kept waking up despite being really tired...

Tuesday I still felt shattered and sicky, managed to have a small bowl of cereal and an apple and at about lunchtime my headache i'd had for the past 3 days had eased off alittle and I decided to take myself off for a swim.....strange you may think for someone whos feeling sicky but I have always been a water baby and wanted to see if it would make me feel any better...

IT WAS BRILLIANT.....it completely took my mind off everything that was making me feel unwell and queesy and I had a lovely swim, got completely relaxed, got my blood flowing and gently worked my body for just short of 2 hours (i was scared to get out incase i felt crappy again) and i was really enjoying myself....

So after finally getting out the pool and yes my legs did feel alittle wobbly but no sicky feeling or headache...RESULT!!! will definately be doing that again, especially as i was able to manage a small dinner and fruit afterwards and not feel crappy afterwards, plus got a better night sleep...

And so once again I though I would give a swim a try.....however something else took me by surprise.....I was actually sick this morning - with NO warning and not due to what i had eated for breakfast as it was at least an hour after I had had something to eat.....

So the sypmtoms are really kicking in and I think im doing well to combat then at the mement.

I gave myself abit of time to calm down after rushing to the bathroom then got my thing together and went for another swim (i know you must think im mad after being sick to go swimming) It was great again - being in the water must really agree with me, ive always loved swimming and was horrible to get out of the bath when i was little as my parents say so it must have a relaxing effect on me as it just makes me feel much better.....

I have begun to feel sicky again this evening but i guessing its because i went for an earlier swim today, so i will be working out the best time for me to go so i feel ok through the day and evening..

Right time for bed as im struggling to keep my eye open, xxx

I hope you are al doing well and looking after yourselves - what have you all been up too? Anything to update us on?

Sending love, hugs and sticky baby dust to you all, nighty night, xxxxxxxx