Together we're strong & ready to try again

[minkysouth1]

Hi again,

Nataliek and TTCMoon - it took me a year to conceive each of my children, but I had happy healthy pregnancies with both. Conversely, last time I conceived the first month trying, although that pregnancy was unfortunately lost. I think that trying not to be too anxious definitely helps, but is hard in practice, I know. If you are worried, try charting and get an idea of your cycle. Between my two children, I had an early loss. When I started charting after that, I realised my luteal phase was short, which may have led to the early MC and also may have explained the difficulties we were having conceiving. This was a hormonal problem and I sorted it out quickly that time by seeing an acupuncturist specialising in fertility issues and by taking soya isoflavones to boost my chances of conceiving (there are threads relating to this on the forum). I conceived extremely quickly after that with my DD!

I have decided this time to TTC after my AF without using these extras, but to look into them again if I have difficulties this month. Keep these options in mind if it doesn't happen for you as soon as you'd like. Mainly, I don't want to get too hung up about the TTC journey yet and will try to relax. I will chart and use OPKs though, as knowledge is definitely power. The natural boost to fertility from a recent MC may hopefully be enough for me and for you too. Good luck!

I have been feeling quite emotional and short-tempered today and was wondering earlier why I was feeling so tetchy. It slowly dawned on me that this may be a sign of PMT and that AF is coming soon. Oh, I do hope so!

Minky

 

[Nataliek]

@Minky, I completely agree. I don't want to fear the process of TTC and having another miscarriage, I am going to try and relax and be excited about the possibilities. I am really a nightmare when I get PMS, very similar to what I am like without my morning coffee!! Lol

 

[amanda111308]

Any promising signs or bfps ladies?? I thought I was getting my AF the other day BuT it is very close I just know it! I am all bloated and breaking out!! So excited to start a new fresh cycle!!

 

[tamzing]

Haven't tested yet. Based on ovulation AF should be coming anytime...I think? [I'm gearing myself up for AF's visit as I want to be realistic, and not set myself up for disappointment!] Would be so awesome to get a BFP already though... I'm not going to test until sometime next week though, at least.

Even with AF's visit it will mean a new cycle and new beginning, and that's OK too.

 

[ttcmoon]

Thanks Kel and Natalie - I am taking injectibles,tamoxifen (similar to clomid) and many other medicines.

Minky- Thanks for those kind words and support.I know getting less anxious helps.But 2 losses and almost 3yrs of TTC with loads of medicines,IUI's without any success made me to look back.It is too hard to relax when you spend so much.My doctor gave me progesterone,ecosprin (aspirin),vitamins,estrogen,Homocheck(for homocysteine level) and anything possible.We did B2B IUI's this time.So I am at least sure that I am trying my best.
TTC appears like 2nd job to me.So much of time money and effort.I do a 10hr/day job so its pretty hard.

Amanda - All the best for the fresh cycle.New cycle new hope

Tamzing - I would test as AF date is approaching.Keep us updated.

Thanks to all for being a support!I needed it much.

 

[Bumblebee24]

Morning ladies & welcome to the new ladies.
Well my AF is coming to a stop from the looks of things am due to O a week on Monday-Wednesday. Am currently charting & on cm watch my plan is to be every other day during my fertile patch. I am excited & hopeful that this will work but like the a lot if u it took us almost 10 months to get our last BFP which ended in mc x

 

[ttcmoon]

Bumblebee24 - I know what you mean dear.It took me 1.5yrs to conceive a baby and then it ended in blighted ovum.Now I am struggling for 10months to get pg again.But no luck.
I am so sorry for your loss.They say you are more fertile after MC.Though I never experience it myself.But it may happened.Happened to so many girls like us.So new cycle is a new hope for you.Keep your hopes up.I pray this to be your lucky cycle.

 

[Bumblebee24]

Had a mini melt down 2day don't no if it hormones or wat but I totally freaked out about ttc. It was the thought of how close we finally where but yet how far away we really where, how long it took to first get BFP, the 4 days in hospital of not knowing, the possibility of going through it & that was it freak out. I even thought that I don't think I could do it all again .
So sorry ladies to bring this positive thread to such a low level but I didn't no wat to do. My fella kinda made me feel like a spoilt brat when I came in crying. In a sense that he described not having a baby as I can't have everything. I am not by any means a needy person or a materialistic person so unsure why he said it. My hubby was so supportive through it all so I wonder if he's just had enough of it too & reacted like that ?

 

[Espero]

Had a mini melt down 2day don't no if it hormones or wat but I totally freaked out about ttc. It was the thought of how close we finally where but yet how far away we really where, how long it took to first get BFP, the 4 days in hospital of not knowing, the possibility of going through it & that was it freak out. I even thought that I don't think I could do it all again .
So sorry ladies to bring this positive thread to such a low level but I didn't no wat to do. My fella kinda made me feel like a spoilt brat when I came in crying. In a sense that he described not having a baby as I can't have everything. I am not by any means a needy person or a materialistic person so unsure why he said it. My hubby was so supportive through it all so I wonder if he's just had enough of it too & reacted like that ?

Oh honey.

I'm sure he didn't mean to make you feel that way. I know I constantly forget that my hubs went through just as hard a time during our losses as I did - we had a few seriously horrible rows before I figured that out.

If I was you (and feel free to ask me to bugger off at any point) I would try gently broaching the subject again and explaining how that made you feel. He might not be aware.

And again, coz there's never enough hugs.

 

[minkysouth1]

Amanda and Tamzing - fingers crossed for your AFs to come soon. I'm also still waiting and haven't had any more spotting. Sorry if TMI, but my spotting was accompanied by EWCM, so I'm now wondering if it was actually ovulation (kinda wishing I'd tested for that) and that the spotting was just leftover blood from the MC. I hope not! I don't wanna wait another 2 weeks for my AF. It really felt like I was ovulating a couple of weeks ago, but who knows how things go after an MC.

TTCMoon. My heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry to hear of all your troubles TTC. As you are feeling anxious, I would definitely recommend acupuncture as it helps you to relax as well as giving a hormonal boost. The old ways of dealing with health/fertility issues and the ancient knowledge they were built on have persisted through many generations for a reason. One more thing, I'm guessing your hubby takes conception supplements too. If morphology is an issue, they might give him a boost.

Bumblebee I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling down. Don't be too angry at your LO's reaction - he must have felt really powerless during your recent MC (I know mine did!) and he's probably as scared as you about your TTC future as a result. He may also be worrying that he's the problem and that it's his fault it went wrong. Although you're upset now, please don't be too angry about his reaction. It's prob not that he doesn't want to try again, but that he's terrified about what might happen (like you) and wants to know that you two as a team will be strong whatever happens. You do have a really good chance of making a rainbow baby though. And you won't always feel this low. We all have bad times, which make the positive times more special. XXX

 

[minkysouth1]

One more thing for TTCMoon,

My friend's husband is Indian and his sister spent nearly 4 years trying to conceive and was giving up hope, but now is in the later stages of a healthy pregnancy. She actually gave up work in the end to focus on TTC! Miracles happen. I have everything crossed for you and I'm taking you into my heart and praying for you now. XXX

 

[amanda111308]

Ok so I started leaking colostrum tonight... No AF yet but I stopped breast feeding my son in February gone... Wtf?? I hope it's just my hormones shifting and getting ready for AF!!

 

[Bumblebee24]

@amanda how very strange Hun, I am not sure wat this would mean I can only think like u said its probably hormones (little buggers). Mine have sure been all over the place.

I have been well & truly cheered up. Me my mum & my sister went wedding dress shopping today, wasn't in the mood at all. An getting married April 2015 & I found the one whoop whoop, I never thought I wud. Champagne, a little tear & everything u really do no when it's the one.
Hope everyone's ok & havin a good weekend am just about to chill, baths running & about to put a face mask on heaven xx

 

[mel28nicole]

I'm sorry I was MIA lol. My man came home yesterday after working outta town all week so I wanted to spend as much time with as possible! Sucks AF is here and we didn't get to dtd lol so I can't wait for next weekend. I work 16 hours tomorrow so by the time I get home he's in bed we ended up going to a bar tonight and had a good time!

Bumblebee that's awesome you found your dress! I found mine in May and I'm in love with it! I can't wait to have it paid off lol. We adjusted our guest list for the 2nd time today. I bought the save the dates and they're adorable! I'll probably send those out in January hopefully.

 

[amanda111308]

The leaking only lasted that one day so I do think it was just a wacky hormone moment. My hubby came home yesterday just before I had to go to work. We haven't seen each other in 2 weeks!! My little boy was SO happy to see his daddy. Today we are having a family day!! Have a great rest of your weekend ladies!!

Please pray for me, I want my AF to hurry up and get here!! I want to start a fresh new cycle!!! Arrg!!

 

[ttcmoon]

One more thing for TTCMoon,

My friend's husband is Indian and his sister spent nearly 4 years trying to conceive and was giving up hope, but now is in the later stages of a healthy pregnancy. She actually gave up work in the end to focus on TTC! Miracles happen. I have everything crossed for you and I'm taking you into my heart and praying for you now. XXX

Thanks so kind of you dear.I hope the miracles happens soon for me.Thanks a lot for your support and suggestions.Accupunture is definitely worth trying.But we both work 10hrs a day so days are stessful.Not sure when to go for it.But I guess it would help to control the stress as well.
Thanks again for sharing this story and boosting my hope.

 

[ttcmoon]

The leaking only lasted that one day so I do think it was just a wacky hormone moment. My hubby came home yesterday just before I had to go to work. We haven't seen each other in 2 weeks!! My little boy was SO happy to see his daddy. Today we are having a family day!! Have a great rest of your weekend ladies!!

Please pray for me, I want my AF to hurry up and get here!! I want to start a fresh new cycle!!! Arrg!!

Amanda's AF come soon.You have given her loads of trouble and waiting.come soon

 

[amanda111308]

Aww thanks ttcmoon out bfps are just around the corner!!

 

[florence_]

hi ladies please may I join this post? im newly married ttc since june, married in july, bfp end of august natural miscarriage September, had a period beginning of this month (9th oct) im currently on cycle day 12, no ewcm, no positive opk, do you think ive not ovulated yet (usually have 28day cycle) but as this is first proper cycle post miscarriage I don't know if my length may have changed? I bd'd 3 days ago, today, do you girls think I should do sperm meets egg method and do everyother day Bd'ing until I get +opk, then do it everyday until its finished, very confused and anxious x

 

[DaniBethBee]

May I join as well? I'm brave enough to hope as of a few days ago after my MC two months ago. It was natural, my darling angel left me quietly. The first cycle post MC was 5 days longer than my usual clockwork cycles. The second was dead on 28 days, which was the good news I needed. YAY US! it will happen for us. It will. IT WILL!