No-one said it was his responsibility. What I said, which may have been misconstrued, is that the problem is the older child's behaviour, not my child not being "nice" enough.I can't get my head around this comment. If being "himself" means being inappropriate then no, that's not his right.The older boy has every right to be himself just as much as your LO in the setting.
I think it's a shame that the responsibility for your young childs well being seems to be put upon this slightly older child.
The whole thing is absolutely something that is down to the childcare providers to deal with, not by the older boy being removed
Can't see anyone suggesting the older child be removed either.
Itsychik: Thanks for the suggestion. There are Tagesmütter (childminders) affiliated with the Jugendamt (Youth Welfare Office) here too. LO's been in a nursery setting since he was 15 months and has always thrived. I'd like to keep him in the same setting, just don't want him bothered by this one kid. The best thing to do is to make the nursery nurses aware of it, if they aren't already.