samsugar7
1 Son + 5yr step daughter
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Simple answer YES!!!!!!
You hear stories about nice wards and a few hours later people are back home with their bundle of joy.
44 hours i was in labour, started about 5pm on sat. Our local ward was packed so i hung on till 9am sunday to go in and get checked out. Contractions coming every 3min and lasting over 60 seconds. I was in and back out 2cm dilated within 30 mins. Was told to go back when they were 90 seconds apart. I hung on till 5pm but i was in agony tried everything in the book but no relief.
Checked out and i was 5cm so they let me stay in. I was planning gas and air possibly the water bath if it was available. Moved out of waiting area and into birthing suite at 7 pm and given gas and air. Managed to get into the pool at 10pm but it just didnt work for me.
Checked out at 1am and the baby's heart rate had dropped but i was 9cm so had a sweep to make 10cm, encouraged to push but no doing i used every ounce of my energy pushing for 90mins and he just kept on going back up the birth canal. So the MW told me that i obviously wasnt doing it right and she would come back in an hour to try again.
She returned at 3.30am and tried again, during the time she was gone the heart rate dropped several times but no one seemed very worried. By this time i was exhausted and in so much pain due to previous back condition so gave in and asked for an epidural. Had the epidural at 5am and slept till 8am, when the next MW came on shift. Encouraged again to push and heart rate dropped again several times, as its supposed to the epidural left me with no feeling so i had no clue if i was pushing right or not at all, very strange experience.
She went on her break at 9am and returned with a trainee at 10.30am tried pushing again and heart rate dropped, suddenly the MW and trainee left the room not a word just up and left within 2 mins the room was full of people and equipment my epidural was turned down so suddenly i felt everything and this 6ft something huge black doctor was putting my legs in stirrups holding a knife. My OH had to ask 10 times what was going on before we got an answer, i was utterly terrified and clueless.
It turns out that the cord was wrapped twice round his neck which is why his heart rate dropped everytime i pushed - i was strangling him. It was the trainee that put the two together. Lo was born at 12.37pm with the help of Doctor and MW both with a set of forceps and scalpel. At 1.37pm after 28 stitches and a lot of blood clean up i finally had my first hold. In all the time in hospital not once was OH offered a drink and there was only a small stool in my room i think the treatment of OH's in this hospital was discusting, they had to leave the LWard and walk 5 mins to the A&E to buy a drink and then had to ring to get back onto the Lward which was busy so often took 10 - 15 mins.
I cant belive that my labour could have been hours shorter if someone had realised thats why his heart rate was dropping and he was being pulled back into the birth canal. I am so lucky that he survived and horrified by how badly the nurses and MW acted. I know how busy they are and tired but this should have been detected early on and delt with accordingly.
If my scar heals enough for me to be able to have another Vaginal birth (doc says that at the moment even 8 months on it could tare badly and cause deadly bleeding) I dont know where or exactly how i would choose to give birth as a result of this. I dont know if anyone else would consider this really traumatic but it was so scary not knowing that for me and OH it sure was and i wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy.
Im not sure it gets easier but your memory of what happend slowly fades, take it one step at a time and dont be afraid of asking for help it doesnt make you a failure xxx
You hear stories about nice wards and a few hours later people are back home with their bundle of joy.
44 hours i was in labour, started about 5pm on sat. Our local ward was packed so i hung on till 9am sunday to go in and get checked out. Contractions coming every 3min and lasting over 60 seconds. I was in and back out 2cm dilated within 30 mins. Was told to go back when they were 90 seconds apart. I hung on till 5pm but i was in agony tried everything in the book but no relief.
Checked out and i was 5cm so they let me stay in. I was planning gas and air possibly the water bath if it was available. Moved out of waiting area and into birthing suite at 7 pm and given gas and air. Managed to get into the pool at 10pm but it just didnt work for me.
Checked out at 1am and the baby's heart rate had dropped but i was 9cm so had a sweep to make 10cm, encouraged to push but no doing i used every ounce of my energy pushing for 90mins and he just kept on going back up the birth canal. So the MW told me that i obviously wasnt doing it right and she would come back in an hour to try again.
She returned at 3.30am and tried again, during the time she was gone the heart rate dropped several times but no one seemed very worried. By this time i was exhausted and in so much pain due to previous back condition so gave in and asked for an epidural. Had the epidural at 5am and slept till 8am, when the next MW came on shift. Encouraged again to push and heart rate dropped again several times, as its supposed to the epidural left me with no feeling so i had no clue if i was pushing right or not at all, very strange experience.
She went on her break at 9am and returned with a trainee at 10.30am tried pushing again and heart rate dropped, suddenly the MW and trainee left the room not a word just up and left within 2 mins the room was full of people and equipment my epidural was turned down so suddenly i felt everything and this 6ft something huge black doctor was putting my legs in stirrups holding a knife. My OH had to ask 10 times what was going on before we got an answer, i was utterly terrified and clueless.
It turns out that the cord was wrapped twice round his neck which is why his heart rate dropped everytime i pushed - i was strangling him. It was the trainee that put the two together. Lo was born at 12.37pm with the help of Doctor and MW both with a set of forceps and scalpel. At 1.37pm after 28 stitches and a lot of blood clean up i finally had my first hold. In all the time in hospital not once was OH offered a drink and there was only a small stool in my room i think the treatment of OH's in this hospital was discusting, they had to leave the LWard and walk 5 mins to the A&E to buy a drink and then had to ring to get back onto the Lward which was busy so often took 10 - 15 mins.
I cant belive that my labour could have been hours shorter if someone had realised thats why his heart rate was dropping and he was being pulled back into the birth canal. I am so lucky that he survived and horrified by how badly the nurses and MW acted. I know how busy they are and tired but this should have been detected early on and delt with accordingly.
If my scar heals enough for me to be able to have another Vaginal birth (doc says that at the moment even 8 months on it could tare badly and cause deadly bleeding) I dont know where or exactly how i would choose to give birth as a result of this. I dont know if anyone else would consider this really traumatic but it was so scary not knowing that for me and OH it sure was and i wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy.
Im not sure it gets easier but your memory of what happend slowly fades, take it one step at a time and dont be afraid of asking for help it doesnt make you a failure xxx