Trying before AF?

[shefali83]

Hi ladies.

I started MC on Friday when I would have been 9 weeks but baby's HB had stopped a week before.

As I knew it was coming it wasn't too big of a shock on Friday when it all started. Had a scan today and shows there is still some tissue left but that the worst is over. I'm bleeding like a period now, tend to have a few hours of cramping each day, but that's slowly getting better.

Looking forward to TTC again and don't think I'll wait for AF as it sounds awful but I put DH on a sex ban as soon as I got my BFP and we're both realising its been a loooong 6 weeks now. Lol!

hey dear, so sorry for your loss. i too got to know on tuesday at 10+1 that baby stopped developing at 7+6 nd hb stopped. i opted for medical termination with pills. i am too bleeding like a period but on and off. sometimes its less sometimes more.. and cramping for few hours everyday..
i too dont want to wait for af!!

what did they say about the tissue left over?

 

[CherylC3]

It's fine if it's defo af but if it's implantation bleeding it can cos harm. Xx

 

[shefali83]

It's fine if it's defo af but if it's implantation bleeding it can cos harm. Xx

ya thats true.. i just use it for af ... towards the end i use pantyliners..

 

[CherylC3]

Sorry for ur loss cupcake. Xx

 

[CupcakeBaby]

hey dear, so sorry for your loss. i too got to know on tuesday at 10+1 that baby stopped developing at 7+6 nd hb stopped. i opted for medical termination with pills. i am too bleeding like a period but on and off. sometimes its less sometimes more.. and cramping for few hours everyday..
i too dont want to wait for af!!

what did they say about the tissue left over?

Thanks for the welcome and kind words. Sorry you're going through this too. They scheduled me an ERPC for this Friday but I knew I wouldn't make it that long. Now in retrospect I'm glad I did it naturally.

She said it all looks as she'd expect and that it'll continue to come away but if I'm still bleeding in 2 weeks to have another scan.

I'm only really losing clots here and there, not the huge fallout I was expecting so I wasn't surprised there's stuff left to come. I expect I'll keep bleeding moderately for a week or so and maybe pass another few large bits.

Feeling much better in myself though, and my boobs and skin and stuff have changed so I can tell my hormones are definitely changing. Got a huuuge chin spot grrrrr.

 

[CupcakeBaby]

Oh and I'm getting fed up of pads all the time. My skin is getting sore.

Sounds weird but a nappy rash cream helps, stops the moisture and the pad rubbing and irritating you. Xx

 

[shefali83]

hey dear, so sorry for your loss. i too got to know on tuesday at 10+1 that baby stopped developing at 7+6 nd hb stopped. i opted for medical termination with pills. i am too bleeding like a period but on and off. sometimes its less sometimes more.. and cramping for few hours everyday..
i too dont want to wait for af!!

what did they say about the tissue left over?

Thanks for the welcome and kind words. Sorry you're going through this too. They scheduled me an ERPC for this Friday but I knew I wouldn't make it that long. Now in retrospect I'm glad I did it naturally.

She said it all looks as she'd expect and that it'll continue to come away but if I'm still bleeding in 2 weeks to have another scan.

I'm only really losing clots here and there, not the huge fallout I was expecting so I wasn't surprised there's stuff left to come. I expect I'll keep bleeding moderately for a week or so and maybe pass another few large bits.

Feeling much better in myself though, and my boobs and skin and stuff have changed so I can tell my hormones are definitely changing. Got a huuuge chin spot grrrrr.

awww.. all this sucks really

when do you plan to start trying? what did your doctor say?

 

[shefali83]

Oh and I'm getting fed up of pads all the time. My skin is getting sore.

Sounds weird but a nappy rash cream helps, stops the moisture and the pad rubbing and irritating you. Xx

ditto!! same here.. i am allergic to pads !

 

[nevergivingup]

Hi ladies!

Wow so chatty round here now!!

Welcome to all the newcomers and so sorry for your losses.

Twister - I'm so sorry to hear your story! I hope you and your children are doing well now and FX'd for your wonderful rainbow baby.

Hugs and sticky dust to everyone.

AFM - 12dpo and 2 BFPs!!! Flapjack we are bump buddies!! But I am now so scared it could be a chemical or I will lose it again. Gotta keep the PMA though!

I know I've been gone and popping in and out but I'm always lurking to check in on Jaggers, Twister,flapjack and Baileybubs!!! And Congrats Baileybubs, I'm Soooo happy for you this is def a journey for us all.

Twister! I'm sooo sorry you're going thru this but you are such a superwoman for everything you've been through, I'm Always rooting you on!!! I agree with you, you got prego before now we know you can do it again!!

 

[twister7]

Hiya cupcake, so sorry for you loss Your not alone with the chin spots I feel like I have 2 volcanoes on my chin..

Hey nevergivinup how's you, hope your pregnancy is going swimmingly, hows the symptoms? Nice of you to pop by and say hello..

AFM Well bought some more OPK and there was no second line at all, so think Im going to have to go with what I thought, though remain sceptical , FF not playing ball neither so feel like Im riding this cycle blind to a degree...

 

[twister7]

Tis quiet in here tonight.....

 

[xxemmyxx]

I'm here twister, I'm having a really tearful stressing and googling symptoms night! I don't know what's going on I have felt fine all week after my spotting/period but now I have pressure down in my uterus and back ache like I had when I was pregnant before, but I had convinced myself it was period so now I'm so confused! What is this pressure pain? I don't have any hpt's so I'm stressing out! I'm worried I'm actually crazy and making myself believe all these things cus I want it so bad!

 

[twister7]

I'm here twister, I'm having a really tearful stressing and googling symptoms night! I don't know what's going on I have felt fine all week after my spotting/period but now I have pressure down in my uterus and back ache like I had when I was pregnant before, but I had convinced myself it was period so now I'm so confused! What is this pressure pain? I don't have any hpt's so I'm stressing out! I'm worried I'm actually crazy and making myself believe all these things cus I want it so bad!

First things first big hug

Your not going crazy sweetie. Your body, your emotions, ALL of you has just been on the biggest rollercoaster and it's so so hard to comprehend. Im still struggling tbh.
I also had some pressure that would come and go, sometimes it was a little painful, not sure what it was I put it down to my body adjusting itself back to some sort of normality.
It's heart renching at times wanting this so bad isnt it, you get it in your head that it's never going to happen .
WELL...... NOT ON THIS THREAD
We will get our rainbow babies all of us
And hopefully be able to help each other on the journey xxxxxxx

 

[nevergivingup]

Twister you're just SOO sweet!! My Symptns are non ending, between vomitting every other day and then spitting in a bottle every 5 minutes and nauseated every hour I don't know what to do first, vomit or spit. My boobs were sore but I guess those got trade in for extra nasty saliva, but in it all I'm
Am grateful for every thing!. I think I read it but can't remember are you waiting to "O"?

 

[twister7]

Twister you're just SOO sweet!! My Symptns are non ending, between vomitting every other day and then spitting in a bottle every 5 minutes and nauseated every hour I don't know what to do first, vomit or spit. My boobs were sore but I guess those got trade in for extra nasty saliva, but in it all I'm
Am grateful for every thing!. I think I read it but can't remember are you waiting to "O"?

Awwwwwww hope your not too sick, but sick enough to enjoy it if that makes sense

I dont know if I am batting or bowling atm lol.....

Emmy how you feeling this morning? xx

 

[xxemmyxx]

BFN this morning wow I went nuts last night, a certified crazy person!! I don't know what bought all of that on, I suppose I feel the same as u twister, I'm really going into this cycle blind cus I'm not 100% sure where I am in it so every little thing my body does I try n make sense of! And it's impossible right now cus my body is doing really crazy things, I get cramps almost everyday, back ache, bloating, sore boobs, I know it's my body getting back to normal but boy does it put some crazy thoughts into a women's head!

Thank you for your help twister

I think we should just stick to our original thoughts, I'm cd9 waiting to ovulate and you are 5dpo?

 

[baileybubs]

Aw emmy I'm so sorry you felt so awful last night!! And twister is so right, everything she said I couldn't have said it better!! Twister you are so lovely!!!

Ttc is the worst kind of hell at times isn't it??

But keep the faith ladies and PMA!!! When I had my mmc I really thought I'd never get back to ovulating properly again. I was bleeding for 5 weeks, had to go back to EPAU 4 times, had 4 follow up scans, took misoprostol 3 times and had to have my cervix manually dilated to remove the last bit of stuck tissue (not a d&c, I was awake coz there was so little they didn't want to scrape all of my womb). Then I had to wait another 4 weeks for AF to come having no luck with opk's and no idea whether I ovulated, I thought I was preggars twice and then panicked coz i thought my baby would be effected by the misoprostol!! I then had 2 cycles, that were longer than usual of actually realising I was ovulating but not catching the egg. And finally this time, just as I was becoming ok with the idea of not getting pg yet coz I'm getting married next year, I got my BFP.

I have put all this down to show you that it is all possible, and it may seem like it will never happen, but it will, I promise!! And its also perfectly normal to think that it won't happen, or to be scared and paranoid, or to have crazy thoughts!! You are all coping so well and you are all such strong brave women. I've said on many occasion that anyone who can have a mc and live through it to carry on ttc is amazing and can cope with anything life had to throw at you.

You are all amazing and all deserve your rainbow babies and to you all xxxxx

 

[xxemmyxx]

Thank you baileybubs your right it can be so hard and feel never ending sometimes! And yes we are all strong women and we can do this, we have to do it to get our rainbow and wen it comes it will be even more special!

I agree it always comes when u least expect it, wen I relaxed somehow and gave up I got my first BFP but I'm so far from relaxed now I don't really know how to get there...I'm looking for a holiday now for me and OH cus I must be driving him nuts too

So hows everything with you baileybubs? Hope the sickness isn't too hard, eat some ginger biscuits xx

 

[baileybubs]

Actually I have no ms at all, but that doesn't worry me. I didnt have any last time and my mum never had it either. I have a really strong stomach. A part of me does want it though so I feel more pregnant lol, daft right?!

And yeah you will get there. Somebody said to me that in order to get a rainbow, first you must endure the rain. Seems pretty fitting to me and so true. Eventually the rain will end.
And I didn't know how to stop thinking about it either. Don't get me wrong I was still doing opk's and dtd every other day, but I started thinking that if I didn't get pg it would be ok, and I distracted myself with the wedding planning. Maybe planning a holiday could do that for you too Emmy.

 

[twister7]

Glad your feeling a little more chipper this morning Emmi..xx

I never had MS with any of my pregnancy's either Bailey bubs, but allways secretly wanted it lol....

Sorry to keep banging on about my cycle but what would you ladies think if this was you?

Right hope I can explain this in simple terms lol...

Before MC, cycles were around 30 days and Ovulation was around CD18
FF used to pick up O fine, even with out a positive OPK.

After MC, long cycle before first AF after MC of 47 and O CD36 ( had a very dark positive OPK that cycle, though this is the first dark one I have seen in all the time of doing them).
This cycle CD26 so far, recorded quite high temp today which FF has responded too by putting me at 6 DPO, however if I take my "IFY" positive OPK out of the graph it does not recognize O Grrrrrrrrr
Have had some quite noticeable cramping yesterday and the day before.
So *IF* I did O on CD20 I would be quite pleased as cramping could be a positive sign also I dont have sore boobs, didn't get sore boobs like normal at O when I fell pregnant in April. BUT have a gut feeling dont know why, that I maybe have not O'ed yet and that is more likely the reason for no sore boobs lol

Stop julie stop your going on again lol...