Trying before AF?

[jennyb86uk]

I told my husbands mum and a couple of close friends with my last miscarriage. If it happens again, I'm fully intending to book an early scan and see that heartbeat before opening my mouth.

 

[aknqtpie]

So much happened while I slept!!

Viet - I made the mistake of telling too many people too early, and I hope your friend doesn't have to go through a mc and telling people. Next time I will tell a few people and the rest after 12 weeks.

Emmy - I can relate to having an older parent. My dad is almost 80 and I want him around with my child, even if it's only for a little bit.

Jenny - I was 23 when I got married. So 22 isn't that young. I had a few friends get married younger than that!

 

[xxemmyxx]

Haha that will be the time difference! I cracked this evening and did a frer I don't even know why I did that...it was bfn

 

[flapjack10]

So sorry Emmy!

You girls have been so chatty I'll have to catch up tomorrow!

xxx

 

[jennyb86uk]

Sorry Emmy! *bighugs*

 

[xxemmyxx]

It's ok I just had to test I couldn't resist! Going to be stronger now and try and wait until Wednesday to test again, I'm not out until the witch arrives xx

 

[mummy2o]

Viet: I think you did the right thing. I hope your friend doesn't go through what we had to but it can be annoying. I can imagine your pain

Emmy: Sorry for your BFN but like you said your not out yet

 

[vietmamsie]

so I just tested with two cheapy dip strips(7am over here!) and had a bfn on one and a very faint second line on the other. I used the same brand a few days ago and had nothing, so it might be for real. Don't know how I feel yet. Need to wait a few days and see if this is real or not. Not calling a bfp yet.

 

[beckysprayer]

Haha that will be the time difference! I cracked this evening and did a frer I don't even know why I did that...it was bfn

So sorry Emmy. I hate seeing the BFN it is just so heartbreaking. The witch isn't here yet so you still have hope!

Keeping my FX for you until then vietmamise.

AFM I feel a bit crap. My cousin told me she might be pregnant. She slept with some random person whilst she was on holiday and already has a 3 month old. Who will just be 1 when this one is born. She doesn't even want the kid, but will keep it if she is. Just feels life isn't fair when I wanted the one I lost.

Anyway rant aside AF is lighter than normal, but putting it down to my mid cycle clot and the fact it takes a while to get your body back to sync after a mc.

Ah rant away, I hate that so much. It is so hard to understanding why they get babies right away and others like us have to wait forever.

AFM, I've been having a pity party for myself since AF came. I just realized I will be 27 at the youngest when I have my first child and it hit so hard. My plan was to be on my third kid by this time and I'm still waiting for number one! I've been married for 5 years, but my husband wasn't ready to start TTC until a year ago. I know it's not that old to have your first, but it feels like I have been waiting forever and then add to that having a miscarriage two months ago... Sorry, I'm just having a cry baby, feel sorry for myself moment.

You guys were busy when I was having a pity party by myself. Time to keep reading and catch up!

 

[beckysprayer]

so I just tested with two cheapy dip strips(7am over here!) and had a bfn on one and a very faint second line on the other. I used the same brand a few days ago and had nothing, so it might be for real. Don't know how I feel yet. Need to wait a few days and see if this is real or not. Not calling a bfp yet.

Ohh FX!!

 

[Libbysmum]

I told my husbands mum and a couple of close friends with my last miscarriage. If it happens again, I'm fully intending to book an early scan and see that heartbeat before opening my mouth.

With my miscarriage I found I had hardly any support cause only about 2 friends and my sister and my mother knew I was pregnant, and while going through it my mother was useless for support - both my hubby and I found it very hard emotionally. We decided if we were to ever be blessed to have another baby we would tell everyone straight away. We figured that way if it is a healthy pregnancy (which I hope it will be) all is good but if for some mysterious reason it ends suddenly like the other we will have more people who can support us during that time.

 

[mummy2o]

Viet: When are you going to test again? I am getting all excited for you ^^

Becky: I don't blame you. I was beginning to think I'd be left all alone on this thread with everyone else getting their BFP! (Although I am very happy you all are!) I agree that is annoying when your childhood plans don't go ahead. In my ideal world I'd have been married at 21 with 4 kids by the time I'm 30 and on my way to adopt my last. Can't see that happening now. However we'll get our BFP this year. Lets keep trying and not give up and try not to get to stressed about it....

 

[flapjack10]

Viet! I'm so excited for you FX and !

Eeek you girls are so chit chatty! I'll be back later to properly catch up! to you all!

xxx

 

[jennyb86uk]

How exciting Viet! Sending good thoughts!

 

[vietmamsie]

Libby - I am planning to tell SOME people this time around but only my very close friends. I was so surprised that my friend announced it to EVERYBODY. Within seconds everyone had their phones out texting the news out. I would hate to run into people weeks later and have them ask how my pregnancy was going after I had had another MC. But then again, I guess now I think in terms of MC, rather than baby because I have never had a pregnancy that I have carried full term.

Thanks for all the support ladies. I'm hoping this is it, but at the same time I'm not super excited like last time, I guess I just don't want to get my hopes up. I have a stash of tests and plan to take one every morning this week. My mom is coming to visit me this week so I'm going to ask her to bring a FRER. I haven't ever gotten to use a "real" preg test since we started ttc as I live in a strange world where they only have cheap dip sticks. She'll be here on Wed night, so I guess I'll use that real test on Thursday morning? I'll keep you posted.

 

[xxemmyxx]

Good luck Viets!! Hope it's a BFP for you!

Mummy2o I'm a veteran in this group too haha when will it be my turn!!

Becky don't worry I had a cry yesterday too, and this morning, another bfn! I have such bad cramp and sore boobs and a snuffly nose boo hooooo poor me in my dressing gown and slippers

 

[flapjack10]

to all you girls feeling blue!

I am the only "original" i.e. I'm on the first page of this thread! I got quite sad a few weeks ago when I looked at the first page and nearly everyone else had tickers with how far along they were. Our times will come ladies - I always says it'll be worth the wait and we've got each other. There'll be new ladies who will join (unfortunately for them) and we'll get to know them and support them too.

I'm not going to tell anyone about this pregnancy until I've had a 6 week scan! Then I will tell my work, then at 8 weeks I'll tell parents and then at 12 weeks (Christmas) the rest of my friends and family. The first MC I told work at 3wks something and a friend at 4weeks 2 days. I had to tell 3 friends for my 3rd MC because I was away with them on a break. This time I'm determined to keep it to myself.

xxx

 

[xxemmyxx]

Flapjack u don't need to be sad anymore you got a sticker for sure!! I'm so happy to see bfp's they make me so excited and even when I do get my BFP I'm still going to come here and support the new group members cus we are the ones that have been there, this group helps me so much!!

It's so hard not to tell people when it's all you can think about! I will try and keep it a secret till my early scan at 7 weeks when I get my BFP

 

[mummy2o]

Flapjack, I've been stalking your tests and they look more and more positive every day! Don't feel bad for us, enjoy it you deserve this, besides you've been in our shoes more than long enough.

I think I'd keep my mouth shut until my 12 week scan. I will be having an early one to as I know I'm going to be paranoid especially by 8 weeks or so. I handled my mc overall pretty well. I had my OH when I wanted him, he took it well to, although I think he was sad. I don't know he's like an emotionless rock at times so its hard to know what he thinks.

 

[markswife10]

Looking like I'm out. BFN yesterday at 12 DPO (both pregnancies I had +'s at 11 and 12 DPO), and spotting has started. Looking like on to another month... *sigh*

FX'd Viet!!!

We decided with next pregnancy we aren't telling anyone until 8 weeks. We will tell the parents and family at 8 weeks (they were GREAT support with the miscarriage, but we want them to be excited and want them to not be gun shy about getting excited because of what happened last time. We didn't make it to 8 weeks last time, so that will be a great start for us). We will tell everyone else (i.e. friends and FB) at 12 weeks.