Trying before AF?

[xxemmyxx]

Yeah, we just started trying earlier this year... I kind of feel like I got a late start on TTC.. but compared to others, I guess I didn't.

28 isn't late at all! All depends on individual circumstances and like you said there are some people ttc a lot later than you xx

 

[aknqtpie]

Yeah, just the right time for us. We traveled and such before.. so glad we got that all out of our system. We are just in the right place to have children now.. I am just counting down the days to getting to try again!!! (Hence my ticker counting down for AF to arrive) lol.

 

[Libbysmum]

I was born in 84 ... I don't feel that young.. haha maybe 28 is the year people start feeling old. My DH is 30 .. so at least he is older than me.. hahahaha.

We have been married for 5 years and together for 9 total.

28 was the year I wanted to get married. However my now husband was not ready. We finally got married when I turned 34!

 

[mummy2o]

I will admit my son was an accident and was on the pill when he magically appeared. I have never regretted him, just wish I waited. However, a messy split from his dad, a long custody battle and a new partner a couple years on now seems good. I would have loved to travel younger but we're planning on going when we're about 40 and take any kids with us if money permits. Lots of dreams.

But 28 isn't old to start a family, my OH will be 28 soon so not late at all. My gran was 31 when she had my mum and 40 when she had my uncle! Just when the best time for you.

 

[vietmamsie]

EEECK! I've gotten so behind!

Mummy2o - I would be so frustrated about your cousin, but aknqtpie is so right, she will face many very different challenges with her children. I feel for her, being B-polar and all. Her children will grow up in a very unstable household... I have a lot of friends in the last year who have gotten pregnant or gotten a girl pregnant and it although it has been hard for me to watch happen while I struggle with loss and ttc, I can't say it hasn't been entertaining! Most of them have all settled down with their partner and seem to be doing ok, but one guy is suck a train wreck now. He was unemployed until the week the baby was born, has no savings, an insecure job, a nut of a baby's momma, and he is jut so stressed now. All because he didn't use a condom.

Emmy - don't know much about CBFM, but it sounds like you might have Oed. I finally had to give up OPK tests because I found them so frustrating!

I sure wish I could be in the snow! I live in South East Asia, so there is no snow in sight, just tropical heat all day long. I'm in my third year of straight summer with a few months of monsoons every year! I'm hoping in winter of 2013 we can experience winter weather somewhere, maybe back in the states? I miss pants and boots and sweaters so much!

I always thought I would be married at 25 and have a baby at 28. So far i was right on the marriage part, but starting to wonder about the baby part. I need to get pregnant in the next 6 months to make it possible, and seeing as though ttc has been a harder road than I had expected, it seems like an impossibility. DH is the same age - 27, nearly 28 and I really wonder if he is ready for a baby sometimes, but I think men are different and it really takes the baby being there in their arms to be ready.

 

[aknqtpie]

Men are definitely different when it comes to babies.. My DH could be happy not having kids.. but I think once they have a baby it really changes.

 

[vietmamsie]

Men are definitely different when it comes to babies.. My DH could be happy not having kids.. but I think once they have a baby it really changes.

I hope so! I feel the same way about DH, but I know once he has one, he'll be so happy he does. When we first started ttc, and the year before it, we argued so much over having a child and waiting. He wanted to wait until we were in our thirties! but now that we have been ttc for 10 months and after a holiday where we found ourselves around some awesome kids, he's changed his tune. I think is really looking forward to a little buddy to hang out with all the time and teach things to!

 

[aknqtpie]

I told mine I wanted to start trying (and hopefully have one) before 30. I won.. hahaha

 

[Libbysmum]

I was late starting...34 married and 3 months later found out I was pregnant with my DD and then the recent miscarriage and now with this one I will be almost 37! But a friend of mine had her 4th child at 47 so I figure I still got a good 10 years in production hopefully!!

 

[vietmamsie]

I think it really depends on the person, some women just seem to be fertile forever! My mom had my brother at 30 and me at 35. Her best friend had several miscarriages (I just found this out since I had mine) and finally had her first daughter at 37 and second at 42. My Grandma's mother had 5 children in her 20's and early 30's then had my grandma, a total surprise, when she was 45.

It's hard because since I told my mom about the MC, Her response was not to worry because we're so young. But seeing as though I have had possibly 2 MC, don't O every cycle, plus have really long cycles, I figure the earlier the better to start, right? It's only going to get harder. And since I basically only O a few times a year (only 5 times in 2012 so far), We should take advantage of my few fertile windows when they happen. Thankfully I learned about temping and OPK early on in TTC, otherwise we really would have had a slim to none change of getting pg.

 

[xxemmyxx]

My OH is nearly 37 and never had any kids, he is so desperate for a baby and the mc killed him I could see it in his eyes, he was strong for me at the time but about 4 weeks later I caught him crying...I feel a bit of pressure, he doesn't put any on me I just want him to be happy, plus his dad is 84 and he wants him to meet our kids. Ttc has bought us even closer so that is one bonus to take from this crazy journey!

 

[xxemmyxx]

I think it really depends on the person, some women just seem to be fertile forever! My mom had my brother at 30 and me at 35. Her best friend had several miscarriages (I just found this out since I had mine) and finally had her first daughter at 37 and second at 42. My Grandma's mother had 5 children in her 20's and early 30's then had my grandma, a total surprise, when she was 45.

It's hard because since I told my mom about the MC, Her response was not to worry because we're so young. But seeing as though I have had possibly 2 MC, don't O every cycle, plus have really long cycles, I figure the earlier the better to start, right? It's only going to get harder. And since I basically only O a few times a year (only 5 times in 2012 so far), We should take advantage of my few fertile windows when they happen. Thankfully I learned about temping and OPK early on in TTC, otherwise we really would have had a slim to none change of getting pg.

often think this, 30's is a normal time to start ttc now but if you have fertility problems that you werent aware of, you can really but cutting it fine, but then again it all depends on individuals my mum was in her 30's, my oh's mum was in her 40's and had no probs, everything happens for a reason, life is a funny old thing, whatever our age or circumstance this will all work out one day and we will have a rainbow xx

 

[mummy2o]

I think so to emmy. Down at the school there seems to be two age groups. Those who had teen pregnancies and under 25 and those who decided to go business route and 35+ nothing in the middle so I feel really odd!

Anyway my period was a lot lighter than normal and should be gone by the end of the day. Yay me.

 

[xxemmyxx]

Yay you! I'm having such bad cramp today, my cbfm is flashing m today but no AF yet so I'm still in the game but this cramp is so bad I must be about to come on

 

[jennyb86uk]

How long u been married? I been with my OH for nearly 3 years, been ttc for nearly 2 years, it's meant to be a surprise but I know he is going to propose sometime between now and Xmas so that's pretty exciting! When I got my first BFP we talked about it and I said I wanted to be engaged before the baby came so he is still sticking to that plan, Wen i mc i wanted to be pregnant again by xmas but it's seeming less and less achievable! X

We've been together for 8 and married for 3 1/2. I was only 22 when I got married which seems ridiculously young now!

Good luck with missing your AF ladies!

 

[mummy2o]

22 isn't young to get married in my family. My parents and sister were both 18! My parents still together, my sister divorced though due to her OH being a complete beep (he broke her things, hit her, made her work long hours and do housework when he only did 25 hours!) I've told my OH I want to be married by 30 and engaged before we have a baby. So he has time, but he has to wait for his divorce to be finalized yet and its taking longer than expected as his ex doesn't have a solicitor and refusing to give him half the assets etc.

Emmy cramping could be uterus growing and stretching to fit your bean in though so FX for you. However, you seem very tuned into your body, but FX anyway

 

[vietmamsie]

Ok, off topic but I just got back from a pizza lunch thing with a bunch of friends. I was there just to take my mind off everything and then my GF dropped the bomb, she's pg. She did the huge announcement to the whole group (I've never been in a situation like that) and everyone was so happy. I was happy for her, but couldn't help but feel some pain as well seeing as though I just MC 5 weeks ago. She doesn't know I MC so whatever. Anyways, I asked how far she is, 5 weeks and a few days. Completely unplanned. with her boy friend of a few months. She's excited. I was too, but isn't that just a little early to be announcing it to EVERYONE? That's when I MC the first time, 5 weeks and a few days. And last time I was 5 weeks to the day.

Maybe I'm just jealous that she's pg, but I feel so bad. I cried in the cab ride home. The only ray of hope is I think AF is late and it would be so much fun to be pg together, so I'm hoping for the best over here. Testing tomorrow morning....

 

[xxemmyxx]

Ok, off topic but I just got back from a pizza lunch thing with a bunch of friends. I was there just to take my mind off everything and then my GF dropped the bomb, she's pg. She did the huge announcement to the whole group (I've never been in a situation like that) and everyone was so happy. I was happy for her, but couldn't help but feel some pain as well seeing as though I just MC 5 weeks ago. She doesn't know I MC so whatever. Anyways, I asked how far she is, 5 weeks and a few days. Completely unplanned. with her boy friend of a few months. She's excited. I was too, but isn't that just a little early to be announcing it to EVERYONE? That's when I MC the first time, 5 weeks and a few days. And last time I was 5 weeks to the day.

Maybe I'm just jealous that she's pg, but I feel so bad. I cried in the cab ride home. The only ray of hope is I think AF is late and it would be so much fun to be pg together, so I'm hoping for the best over here. Testing tomorrow
morning....

Ohh if my friend announced she was pg I would be exactly the same, I would feel jealous and upset its only natural, and ur mc was only 5 weeks ago I would of cried too! But I totally agree 5 weeks is waaaayyyyyy too soon to announce to everyone, I won't be telling anyone until I see that heart beat at the scan! I told my family and best mates when I got to 6 weeks and then had to tell them all when I mc and I ain't goin through that again!
Sorry about your friend, will be your turn again soon! Good luck for testing tomorrow xx

 

[xxemmyxx]

22 isn't young to get married in my family. My parents and sister were both 18! My parents still together, my sister divorced though due to her OH being a complete beep (he broke her things, hit her, made her work long hours and do housework when he only did 25 hours!) I've told my OH I want to be married by 30 and engaged before we have a baby. So he has time, but he has to wait for his divorce to be finalized yet and its taking longer than expected as his ex doesn't have a solicitor and refusing to give him half the assets etc.

Emmy cramping could be uterus growing and stretching to fit your bean in though so FX for you. However, you seem very tuned into your body, but FX anyway

Haha every month I convince myself I'm pg when I spot symptoms! When I actually had a BFP I had no symptoms that I can remember but maybe I just wasn't looking for any x

 

[vietmamsie]

emmy - ok, good, it's not just me! We didn't tell ANYONE when I was pg. We were going to tell my parents after the scan, just so I could talk to my mom about it, but we were going to wait to tell everyone else until at least 12 weeks. Even then, we weren't going to announce it so much as just let people know when it came up. I am so glad we didn't tell anyone because although I have told several of my friends about the MC, I prefer it to be a private thing as no one else I know has had any experience with it.

Hoping for my BFP tomorrow morning...