Trying before AF?

[Little J]

have they ever done any testing on you thus far?

No, each time I've been to the early pregnancy unit, and the message seems to be "better luck next time". After the current m/c I couldn't take it anymore, and booked to see someone privately, and it is him who has initiated the tests. The NHS is so frustrating sometimes![/QUOTE]

i hate when they say that when in alot of the cases of more than 1 MC theres usually a problem.

I myself had 2 early MC and prenant for the 3rd time, my Dr. said once i got a + then go get my progesterone levels checked which i did and found out i have low progesterone levels, which is needed to help sustain a pregnancy. So now im on supplements for this and i hope it all works out for me this time. Thus far it already has

 

[flapjack10]

YES! After a loooong 44 day wait - AF is FINALLY here!

Onto June I go with my OPKs in tow!

Hi RubyLou :wave: I don't know if they've specifically said to wait then it might be for the best to wait. I would be so frustrated too. I hope you get your sticky toffee pudding soon though.

xxx

 

[twister7]

Hey everyone..
Can I join in?
I mc on 24th May but started bleeding on 20th so classing the later as CD1, was aware that the pregnancy was not progressing almost 3 weeks earlier so had got my head round it as best as I could, allthough thinking back I was in deniel I think, hense the reason I waitied to mc naturally....
Anyhue wanted to get back on the horse so to speak ASAP so have been since CD6, have been having "O" symptoms but realise that it is very early so is not ovulation but have my fingers crossed for a BFP really soon.....
Congrats on all the BFP so far, and good luck to all those trying..
xxx

 

[flapjack10]

Hi Twister!

Sorry for your loss. I hope you get your sticky BFP ASAP. Let us know how it's going with the baby making! We'll be here for you especially in the dreaded TWW!

xxx

 

[baileybubs]

Welcome twister and ruby Lou, so sorry for your losses. Ruby, I think its whether you feel emotionally ready for the possibility of another miscarriage. Do you need to be not pregnant for these tests? Or can they still do them if you do get pg?

I agree the nhs are so frustrating, it's as if it's nothing and if they would just take the time to do a couple tests after someone first has a mc then it could save them further heartache, like with your example little j. So sad that the nhs just waves us off and doesn't care about how painful it is to miscarry. It should be more recognised.

But we all have this wonderful website and forum to help us through and I love these ladies here, don't know what I'd do without you all!!

I am looking forward to all the BFPs we will get on this thread.....I've got a good feeling for this month. June is our month ladies!!

 

[Little J]

yay flapjack!!!!! wahoo!!

 

[jaggers]

Glad to have the new comers! Welcome!

I was just telling hubby that through the almost 8 weeks I was pregnant I would get shaky and antsy a lot. I figured it was my blood sugar due to pregnancy and if I got headaches or something it was just my sinuses since I had issues with my sinuses with DD. This next time if I start having that I am calling the Dr and begging them to check me out. I had one or more times I would get shaky and dizzy and be afraid I was going to pass out and after having a m/c it makes me wonder if maybe they were related or not...

Luck all!

 

[RubyLou]

Hi everyone, thanks for being so welcoming.
Little J, that is great news that everything is working out so far for this one, I have my fingers and toes crossed for you that the progesterone does the trick! I think progesterone is what the doc has in mind for me too. Can I ask, did you get your hormones tested first to confirm there was defo a progesterone issue, or are you just precribed the progesterone as an experiment to see if it helps the bean stick? That's why I've been told to stop trying for two months you see, so they can do all the blood tests at various times in my cycle (LH/FSH/Progesterone etc) and I can't be pregnant for those tests

Bailey - thanks for your message, you are right at least we have each other on here for support! The NHS doesn't seem to get the horrible pain involved, even when a m/c is early. I'm in two minds about feeling ready to try again... the thought of waiting is killing me because I am so impatient, but then I'm not feeling ready for the possibility of yet another m/c.

Can I ask you guys, how have you dealt with your situation at work? I am actually a psychologist, so I don't feel able to work during my m/c's (listening to other people's problems is really hard when you are experiencing grief of your own). My boss knows I have had two now (one was a chemical and worked through that). I feel like I can't risk a third so soon because of it messing up my work.

 

[cathgibbs]

RubyLou & Twister - welcome both and so sorry for your loss, we will get our very soon!!

AFM i had mild cramps in my left side last night and tonight im feeling pressure like i need to pee even though i dont, still extremelly tired but i think thats from the left over hormone xxx

 

[baileybubs]

Ruby - I have only had one mc and it was quite complicated and I ended up being off work for the best part of a month. They were very understanding about it but I work predominantly with female colleagues and my boss is female, and not being sexist, but I think they are a bit more understanding about mc's than men. Especially as I felt at ease enough to tell my boss about bleeding etc, and so she understood why I couldn't return to work. I guess it's a question of how understanding your boss might be about it. I know another girl at my work though who has had 4 mc's in the last year now and they have been a bit 'off' with her now about taking holiday days when she's been sick, so I guess eventually any boss might become a little desensitised to it. Is there another work colleaugue you could confide in and discuss this with?

Cath - it's all sounding good, the need to pee (or feeling the need to pee) is usually another good sign!

 

[cathgibbs]

Oh Bailey sounds like you had a rough time with it all hun, i do agree with you though, women are a lot more understanding! When i was MCing and i was crying my OH said to me (wait for it!!) 'oh im so sorry love, you ok? just be grateful the baby werent still born like my friends baby' i just glared at him and said 'WTF?! i dont care about anyone else right now its happening to me!!' haha he soon shut up and gave me a hug and i think he realised what he said....oh and OH mother said Saturday in my BBQ 'she worried so much im sure she brought it on herself'......................Thanks!!! argh!!

 

[baileybubs]

Omg Cath that's a horrible thing for someone to say!!! And completely untrue as well, worrying will not cause a mc!! And neither will stress, our emotional state cannot determine if our baby lives or dies! Some people just don't think before they speak!

But on a brighter note I read a really helpful quote today ladies, that will help us understand why we have had to go through this pain;

"In order to get a rainbow, we first must withstand the rain"

 

[cathgibbs]

I know i was shocked! and at my BBQ was my friend who had a MC 2 weeks before me and she couldnt believe it either so i just said 'Stress has nothing to do with it, they done a test on the 51 women who became widowed after 9/11, 9 months later - 51 babies were born, so stress has FA to do with it!' my friend couldnt believe it!

thats a really nice quote! and this weekend they have forecasted heavy rain so maybe our rainbows will show after that xxx

 

[Little J]

Hi everyone, thanks for being so welcoming.
Little J, that is great news that everything is working out so far for this one, I have my fingers and toes crossed for you that the progesterone does the trick! I think progesterone is what the doc has in mind for me too. Can I ask, did you get your hormones tested first to confirm there was defo a progesterone issue, or are you just precribed the progesterone as an experiment to see if it helps the bean stick? That's why I've been told to stop trying for two months you see, so they can do all the blood tests at various times in my cycle (LH/FSH/Progesterone etc) and I can't be pregnant for those tests

Bailey - thanks for your message, you are right at least we have each other on here for support! The NHS doesn't seem to get the horrible pain involved, even when a m/c is early. I'm in two minds about feeling ready to try again... the thought of waiting is killing me because I am so impatient, but then I'm not feeling ready for the possibility of yet another m/c.

Can I ask you guys, how have you dealt with your situation at work? I am actually a psychologist, so I don't feel able to work during my m/c's (listening to other people's problems is really hard when you are experiencing grief of your own). My boss knows I have had two now (one was a chemical and worked through that). I feel like I can't risk a third so soon because of it messing up my work.

They told me when i got my next + HPT to get my blood test done ASAP to get my progesterone levels checked. So when i was 10DPO and had a super faint + i went and did that. Thats how we found out my levels were low. So basically iv been taking the supplements ever since i found out. The results took over the weekend so i asked my Dr if she could prescribe me some supplements until the results came back just in case they were low and she did. So when they came back low, it made me feel SO much better i had asked for them so i didnt waste any time. I also went back and got them checked again once i had a missed period and to make sure my body was accepting the progestrone properly thru oral pills. and my levels went from 8 to 12. I asked my Dr. if i could double my dose just so i felt more comfortable bc i was still in the bottom part of the "acceptable" range. She agreed. I am just so thrilled my Dr. is listening to me and making me feel as comfortable as she can during this whole journey

I hope everything comes back ok for you, and if it is somthing.... hope its somthing that can be easily taken care of like progesterone!

 

[flapjack10]

Cath - I can believe your OH said that because men never know the right thing to say (or the right time to shut up), but I can't believe that you OH's Mum said that!

I told my managers in work I was pg the week before I MC (because I have to do some heavy lifting in my job). So then was off for 3 days to recover from the MC and came back in. They've all been lovely and nothing silly has been said to me. Again, I work in a predominately female environment.

The only problem I had was that I didn't put my sick leave form in for a while because my manager said we can do it when I feel ready. Our admin person rang me up and said she needed the details for her spreadsheet, and she asked me why I was off. I was like, "Errrm....errrm...errrm..." I didn't want to say because I didn't want to tell her! Then she said she'd put it down as "Other". Now, I think she thinks I'm pregnant and I can feel her looking at me and my tummy (which is really swollen... and full of food) all the time

"In order to get a rainbow, we first must withstand the rain"

 

[cathgibbs]

Awwww Flapjack thats the problem with it isnt it, after the MC you dont want to talk about it, not because you dont want people to know its because it upsets you! my boss was fab, i actually started to MC in work on the thursday and she sent me home and i came back in on the monday and she told me she didnt put me down as sick as she didnt want me to tell HR the reason why, shes fab! shes actually pg herself which i think helped. NExt time ladies we will just sail through it all! xxx

 

[baileybubs]

Yes we will Cath, we will sail through and love every minute of it and our rainbow babies will be happy and healthy!! (I don't know where my positive stream has come from lately but I hope it lasts!)

 

[flapjack10]

Yep, yep, yep! PMA all the way!

xxx

 

[twister7]

Thanks for the lovely welcome....

Shove some of that positivety this way will ya, feeling right down in the dumps today xxxxx

 

[flapjack10]

Here you go!

xxx