Trying to conceive #1 Buddies!

[Trr]

Boom! Just like that. CD1. I'm back ladies.
I'll start testing for o in about a week and a bit. Going to see a gyno and my family doctor to make sure everything is in line. I'll be stalking in the background for a bit.

Good luck to everyone waiting to o and waiting to test. Fx to everyone and thank you again for all your support.

 

[abennion]

So sorry Trr! Bug hugs!

 

[supergongjoo]

@Trr Gorg Dress!
And props for bouncing back so quickly. You are one tough lady

 

[psychochick]

PC - yes, my temps are a MESS! lol I was stressing about them as the kept climbing during my period, but I've kinda just forgotten about it except for worrying what my poor coverline is going to have to be! so far this cycle, I've had 6 days of post O temps if we use last month's coverline. I had a sore throat so I'm thinking my temps were up as my body worked on fighting that?

Your temps are looking great, missy! so nice and high

my DH is also an engineer. He wants to come home and talk, talk, talk but I talk to people ALLLL day. I'm worn out by then!

Lol omg I totally get that! I remember I asked my friend who works in sales whether he eats lunch with his coworkers and he's like god no! That's the ONLY time in the day I have to myself.

My DH and I work at the same company, also an engineer. When we get home he wants to talk about work! I'm like I spent the whole day thinking about that stuff I don't want to think about it anymore!

 

[lesondemavie]

@Trr: I hate that there are no magic words in moments like this. I'm so sorry, and big hugs all around! Sounds like you're doing well. Gorgeous picture, love the attitude . So cool that you're a nurse. Must be super challenging and rewarding as well. I love the mix of science and healing. Best of both worlds!

@super: AF, AF, go away, come again some other day (9 months from now)!

@bee: So...it's not not just chance that we have similar careers ...I doubled too! BA in cog sci (psych) and BS in bio sci. I originally wanted a biopsych degree for undergrad, but the university I chose didn't have that...so I just did both! I went on to get my MA in clinical psych and I specialized in applied behavior analysis.

I had to do a self-management project too. I chose to increase my "gym going behavior." I can totally understand you going to town on your nails right now. You have a lot going on, emotionally and professionally. Hope that massage of yours does the trick, and enjoy O time with your DH!

@psycho: What kind of engineers are you and your DH? I come from a family of computer engineers (dad and brother). I absolutely love and admire them and what they do. Sometimes I get super jealous of the pay and OT and PTO...then I remember that I hated physics...LOVED pchem...hated physics.

@bee and psycho: Can totally relate with just needing some quiet and not bringing work home. DH here studied anthropology, philosophy, and Spanish, and he works in marketing. He also reads a TON, which makes him rather eclectic. The other day he wanted me to listen to this true crime podcast that he found. I had to stop him halfway through, and ask if we could pick it back up this weekend after I've had some time to decompress. I don't know about you, but my job can be so (emotionally) draining at times that I just need some good fluff in the evening.

Speaking of my project on exercise, I keep reading that it's important to have a routine when ttc. I stopped running half marathons this year since that resulted in some anovulatory cycles in the past (and those issues are why I went on bcp in the first place). I suppose I could stick with shorter distances, but it just doesn't feel the same. I started doing these fitnessblender exercises at home in the morning instead. I'm loving them and they're easy to fit into my busy schedule, but I tend to drift/need variety. What do you all do?

 

[MagicDance]

Trr- im sorry to read the update. You are very brave. Please just know that we are all here for you x

My update- I think af is on her way. I have had bad cramping and red spotting (about a teaspoon) Its not full heavy flow like I wouldve expected this morning but all the tests have been bfn so now its just easier to think its af.
My doctors wont see me until another week has passed (gee thanks) but if she doesnt show full force then I will get demanding!!
I dont know really (whacky cycle?) what an emotional rollercoaster and yet I somehow feel selfish saying that as I havent even had a bfp very frustrating but hubbys been great.

Super- im so glad I had you to bounce off of and Im still here cheering you on. I hope its good news

Thanks again to each and everyone of you! I will update soon.

 

[abennion]

So temp is still climbing... Which is excellent, but got a BFN this morning. I know it's still early at 10DPO, but I think after testing once I'll be good to wait until AF is supposed to be due (at 13DPO)

 

[beemeck]

magic - I'm sorry you feel AF is coming. I know I pretty much just "know" when it's about to be that time too, but I will say that after I got my BFP in April, I kept going to the bathroom because I was convinced that AF was coming. I just couldn't believe that the pregnancy cramps felt just like AF.... so keeping my FX for you and super still.....

PC - yes I def don't want to talk about work after a full day of it! My job is def interesting with never a dull moment and often I get very funny/entertaining stories out of it. DH is always asking about my work day when I get home and I never want to talk about it right then. He gets so frustrated with me but I LOVE the silence. I can def relate to eating lunch on your own. I get whatever quiet time I can during the day. I don't think DH fully understands my use of BNB - I think he's bummed that I can talk so much on here when I say I'm over talking. I dunno, I guess it's just different for me - typing and then waiting a long time for a response etc. it's less draining

leson - wow, so much in common! I followed the neuroscience track in undergrad. I just think there are too many connections between the brain and the body to really separate the two... my DH sounds like yours. So passionate about evvvvvverything. he wants to take up a new hobby every other day and he discusses business ideas with me every single night while eating dinner I do kinda feel like the spark is sucked out of me when I get home after a day at work. It is emotionally draining - everyone's problems become my own. I need all the time I can to recharge before going back at it.
I actually never feel like I bite my nails when stressed or anxious, but I'm sure I'm wrong about that. I always feel like I'm doing it when I'm bored. I'm very apt to do it when I read or watch tv. I guess I prob couldn't really do it otherwise though since if my hand are busy it's impossible.... lol

abennion - yay for temps on the rise girl! and I always forget to tell you but I'm always impressed with your ticker. WAY TO GO on the weight loss! You are really kicking butt

super - Hiiiiiiiiiiiii
lol thinking of you and hoping no AF.....!

lvska - how are you holding up?

other new gals - natalie, sophie, et al. feel free to jump in and tell us more about yourselves too!

trr - you are a tough chick, that's for sure. It's never ever easy, but hopefully finding out sooner has made it a little easier for you. You can totes get pregnant so I can't wait to see your next bfp. BEAUTIFUL pic. is that the dress you went with for your wedding???? I love it and it suits you perfectly.

earthy - any news? how has the TWW been treating you??

 

[abennion]

Thanks bee, its been a hard process, but losing weight is only going to up my chances for a BFP. I'm hoping they stay up. Honestly if we do end up getting a BFP this month it'll be a fluke. We didn't keep to the BDing schedule like we normally do. If I do get AF this month though we're just going to wing it. I'll chart because I like to see the trends, but no more BD schedule, no more OPKs, the only thing I'll end up doing besides charting is use Preseed.

Speaking of, I was tracking the shipment yesterday, and it says its in the Netherlands. Its supposed to be coming to Canada from the US. Needless to say I don't think we're getting it before next cycle haha.

 

[Trr]

Bee- That was my wedding dress. I saw it online. Fell in love. First one I tried on and Didn't need to try on any others. It was the easiest part of my wedding planning lol. It was called Cinderella so it was fitting

 

[psychochick]

Trr: Love the dress. My wedding dress was also the easiest part of my wedding planning. My maid of honor was very relieved hahaha

abennion: I wonder if it's possible that you actually O'ed CD 17 and your earlier rise had something to do with your illness.

beemeck: I don't bite nails but I always chew on something when I'm thinking. It's usually a pencil or a pen. I don't even write by hand much anymore, yet I have many pens/pencils to chew on on my desk And I'm the same with typing. Typing is easy, it's just a one way expression, I don't have to at the same time, interpret others' reaction to what I'm saying. I can take my time and think about it, soo much less stressful.

leson: I also want very light entertainment when I get home. Can't deal with drama or violence. Horror/zombies is out of the question. Also DH and I are both software engineers. We write lots of code

Still FX for magic and super. Not out unless AF shows.

I am having a really weird hormone day. Sharp temp drop which I get every other cycle, estrogen surge probably. But also had one really light spot similar to the one I got on my O day. I checked cm and cp and I'm definitely not ovulating according to those signs but still had to be sure. Also feeling tons of twinges and a little bit crampy which is weird for 4DPO. Ugh. If this was 8DPO I'd be ecstatic but 4DPO always confuses me, thinking I somehow misinterpreted O.

 

[abennion]

@psycho: I was better by CD11 so I don't think that's it... I guess only time will tell though. If that is the case we may be out before my tww even began. Should know by Monday hopefully.

EDIT: My left breast now aches. Only the one though. Weird.

 

[MagicDance]

Definitely cd 01 for me... had my melt down and im now pleased af is not awol and I no longer have to stare at negative tests. My time will come

 

[lesondemavie]

@magic: Sorry to hear, but glad the wait is over for now. Your time will come Cheers to a new cycle and another chance!

@psycho: I get those mood swings and twinges 1-6 dpo and then it drops off. I look at it the same way. I figure that first week the corpus luteum keeps my progesterone high which causes those symptoms, and then it drops when the cl breaks down. I figure symptoms past that first week could mean implantation (and a continued rise in hormones).

Zombies/horror are my fluff . I even love the bad stuff. DH always makes fun of me bc my netflix suggestions are a bunch of 1 star horror flicks! The true crime stuff is just too real, and then my empathy kicks back into overdrive.

@bee: DH used to bite his nails when we watched movies too! The idleness is definitely a setting event. The random hobbies are nice though right? My DH picked up baking fresh bread every week....sooo good, and then he read this book on decluttering and spring cleaned our whole condo.

@trr: How perfect! You make a wonderful Cinderella! Did you have a bit of a fairy tale theme?

AFM: 6 dpo today and already feeling the drop...thinking I'm out this cycle. Then again I could be completely wrong...who knows right?

 

[Trr]

Les- I felt out last time and I got a BFP. Keep at it.

I had a fall wedding with an outdoor ceremony. It was a starry night theme. Not too much of a fairytale but it was great.

 

[supergongjoo]

@leson though i have never run a marathon i run every morning. about 5 miles. sometimes bit more sometimes a bit less. It helps me start my day with a clear head

@aben fingers crossed for you!

@bee hiiiii thanks for your positive vibes~!

@Trr well its a gorg dress!

@Psycho hopefully its a weird but good sign?

@leson keep hope alive!

AFM like Magic , AF showed last night. It looks like its tapering off though. At least i can be grateful for the shortest period ever lol

@magic im glad i wasnt alone in the crazy experience!

 

[Earthylove]

Wow, things move quickly on here these days! I'm sorry for getting so far behind on everything. Lots of hugs to the ladies back on cd1 ! You're in my thoughts and wishing you all the best. Sounds like everyone is staying strong and pressing forward. I'm wishing for healthy eggies and plenty of EWCM for all! Hehehe.

Leson: your work sounds very interesting! I asked because i also work with children as a counselor. I mostly do cognitive behavioral play therapy, as many of my clients are very young. I have one who is on the autism spectrum as well. I really enjoy working with children. Counseling children can definitely be emotional and exhausting, but it really is a joy as well.

 

[lesondemavie]

@trr: That sounds wonderful

@super: I feel the same way about running. Such a good stress reliever! I'm not a great morning person though, so I could never really master the whole going out for a run before work. Sorry to hear AF showed, cheers to looking at the bright side!

@earth: such good work you do too! Teaching my clients coping skills and how to talk about feelings takes sooo much patience.

BFN for me this am, but it's still early. Should know one way or the other by Wednesday. So glad I have this thread. Everyone around me just seems to think about trying and then boom they're 3 months along and bragging about how it only took 1 month *sigh*. I hope I never ever do that to anyone in my life. You never know where they're at or what they're doing right?

 

[supergongjoo]

@leson I hear you! we have been trying almost a year and everytime i turn around i hear another "accident baby" its very frustrating...

Hugs and baby dust to all How is everyone doing in their cycle?

Ive been noticing more cm than usual now. just daily lol ( sorry kinda gross) plus my mom has enlisted her chinese know-how and i have a baby-making herb blend en route. Crossing fingers for a holiday BFP for everyone!

 

[abennion]

I decided to change my O date to CD19... temps were still on the rise but had a BFN yesterday at what I thought was 12DPO. Looks like I'm back to 5DPO today. Will be testing next Monday, although our chances are that great this month.

@super and @les: I know what you both mean! I see/ hear people talking about their opps babies and I get so jealous. 6 months in, going on 7. Its so hard to hear of people getting BFPs their first month of trying.