Trying to conceive #1 Buddies!

[Erin6714]

So, at 5 days late I decided to go get a blood test done because I hpt were still negative. Blood test came back negative as well. Making an appointment with obgyn to see if something is wrong.

Yesterday was the most stressful day of my life so far waiting on that blood test to come back. All day I had scenarios running through my head if it was positive if it was negative. This constant mixture of hoping for joy, but trying to contain that hope and stay reserved in case it was negative. Fear that if it was negative that something could be really wrong with me that would make the whole process that much harder...or worse, something that would prevent us from even being able to.

Now, at least I have an answer and for the rest of the day after I got the call, I at least knew what to feel. I could let go of the excitement....but I had dreams last night the doctors were wrong and I woke up with this drive to instantly research the possibility of an inaccurate blood test. It's stupid I know, but I just refuse to believe that there is something wrong with me.

At the moment I am spotting a little, bright red with some brown. I wan't to think that it could be late implantation bleeding, if not then starting would be better than having something wrong keeping me from starting at all.

 

[beemeck]

hi girls - I'm the worst at being MIA!

I had a relaxing weekend but didn't get on my computer once, so didn't check in. but I always keep updated on my phone.

erin - I'm so sorry that things didn't turn out the way you wanted. I know that feeling - last month when my chart when triphasic I was sure I must have been pregnant. The moments while I waited to read the HPT were so intense, all to be crushed by the BFN. Sending you lots of hugs. Why do our bodies have to trick us at these crucial times??

ab - cycle twin! how are you feeling? so glad your temps are looking good! I'm really, really hoping that this clomid did the trick for you and your late O was a nice, big, mature egg! FX!

ritter - wow, so unexpected! I don't have much experience with going off BC but I was on for 6 years before going off at age 23. I can't remember that far back but I hope things are on their way to straightening out for you asap! so excited for you in your new home! moving into ours was so exciting! wishing you tons of luck

trr - almost O time - yay!!! saw on the other thread that you have the day off with DH so I'm thinking that the timing is going to perfect and the BFP will follow 2 weeks after!

lvska - hmm that does sound really odd? I can't see anything on that test though. interested to see what your chart and temps do - GL!

AFM - attended a fertility yoga session last night. it was such an emotional experience to meet and bond with the other women in my same situation IRL. I would recommend this to anyone as a really great source of support. 7DPO and hoping for a miracle, like always. just trying to focus on my obgyn appt in feb and not focusing on getting my hopes up because I just seem to do that cycle after cycle and the coming down from that is so awful. This past cycle when my chart went triphasic, my hopes were so high. The days after AF came were some of my lowest ever and I don't want to get there again. So really just trying to look forward to getting help from the docs in the future even though I can never stop myself from feeling hopeful. and with temps looking good, it makes it impossible.

FX for all of my lovely ladies!

 

[Erin6714]

Bee-thanks for the hugs. And even in the minutes since my last post AF picked up a little. I think its safe to say she's finally here...I'm sure cramping like she is. Hopefully this means that nothing is wrong and that I was just late. I'm going to keep the obgyn apt anyway just to be sure, and its time for my yearly anyway.

So, in light of the recent events, that is me having my first irregular period ever in my life. I've decided to try an ovulation kit. I always assumed that because I was so regular that I ovulated regularly. Now I have no idea what my body is doing...or maybe I had no idea all along anyway, I've never used one before. Any tips? suggestions? which brands?

 

[beemeck]

I would recommend buying the cheap brands off amazon actually. The ones in the stores are so expensive and the internet cheapies work just the same - only smaller so you have to pee in a cup first. same thing as the cheapie HPT. and I really recommend the cheap opks since you might end up using a lot depending. I get clinical guard off of amazon.

I start taking them CD 11 (my cycles are almost always 29 days with O on day 15). I start taking them once a day at 2pm. once line starts to become dark - around CD 13, I take them twice a day at 10 and at 4. I still miss my surge some months, but what can you do I always get close enough so I have a really good idea, and then temp spike confirms it so it all works out. let us know if you have any additional questions!

 

[Trr]

Bee- so happy that you enjoyed fertility yoga and had a good cry afterwards. Sometimes that does the trick and can make you feel so much better.

I am supposed to o tomorrow and DH and I are both home. We are not exactly following a schedule but still trying to get a couple bds in. Just going to monitor my cervix tomorrow and hopefully get those spermies in there.

Missed last night as I fell asleep with my preseed in waiting for DH to come to bed but woke him up and took his sample this morning.

 

[abennion]

@bee: I'm doing well, had a couple of twinges yesterday, congested nose that literally only lasted the day, a bit of a fever that broke overnight (surprising since my temp was lower yesterday)... All hoping these are good signs. I'll start testing tomorrow hopefully! How are you doing? Glad to see you liked the fertility yoga! Hopefully it does the trick for you!

 

[abennion]

So congestion is back, I've got a sore throat that's started... Cervix is High, Soft and Closed, and although temp is looking like its on the way down it's still very high. Tested this morning and got a BFN, but I'm hoping it's just too early. If my cycle is playing more nasty tricks on me I'm not going to be happy....

 

[Trr]

Abe- your temps look really good. Looking forward to your update in a few days

 

[abennion]

Ladies! I went home and rechecked the test I took this morning, and there's a shadow of something! Even DH can see it! Will continue testing to see if there is any progression, but FX this is it!

 

[supergongjoo]

Happy snow day all! Sorry for the mia! Been a bit overwhelmed with life lol. Ive missed so much !
@psycho CONGRATS!!!! I am so happy for you! Its great that we are slowly but surely starting to get some happy beans on this thread
@bee how are you holding up sunshine? Im always inspired by your strength. ♡ I wish we were neighbors hahaha

Afm I had a flight overseas that got canceled due to the storm. And lucky me because I actually ovulated (early) the next day. Possibly a blessing in disguise lol. We managed to squeeze in a few bd sessions so hopefully that did the trick for a Halloween bean.

How is everyone holding up?

 

[abennion]

Well, 12DPO, though we saw a BFP back on 9DPO but nothing has gotten darker. Temps took a bit of a dive during that time but today they're back up at they're highest. Should be expecting AF tomorrow or Tuesday. Silently hoping I've just got a slow bloomer and I really did see a line... I'll probably test on Wednesday is AF doesn't show.

 

[Erin6714]

Good luck Abe!! Sending positive vibes your way.

That is my thing right now. Staying positive. I'm going to start an ovulation monitoring kit tomorrow and even though I haven't started it yet and even though AF just left yesterday. It feels good to be DOING something other than just BDing. DH is on board and I'm just going to keep telling myself, "this is it, February is IT!" It's been 5 cycles since we quit using protection and I've never been on birth control, so hopefully using the monitoring kit will produce better results than just my calendar app.

 

[Hopingsomeday]

Ladies I have a question ! So normally I seem to get a positive opk on cd 18 and I think I O on 20 . Today I am cd 20 and have bd last night . However I just took a test and got a raging positive . Should I wait until tomorrow up bd hoping I don't miss O or should we tonight but it will only be one day ..... Obviously I don't know when I actually O but I assumed it was 2 days later based on O pain. However I have only gotten BFN so what's the best bet here . Ugh

 

[abennion]

It depends on which method you want to use. A lot of people BD every other day during their fertile window, others BD every day. There's no "right way" to do it.

 

[psychochick]

Ladies I have a question ! So normally I seem to get a positive opk on cd 18 and I think I O on 20 . Today I am cd 20 and have bd last night . However I just took a test and got a raging positive . Should I wait until tomorrow up bd hoping I don't miss O or should we tonight but it will only be one day ..... Obviously I don't know when I actually O but I assumed it was 2 days later based on O pain. However I have only gotten BFN so what's the best bet here . Ugh

popping in for a quick answer: I think just go with whatever schedule you guys use: everyday or every other day until your O's confirmed, don't even stop just because you feel O pain. I used to stress out over OPKs but I think it really doesn't matter. OPKs are helpful to tell you to start BD for conception like, put your legs up longer or avoid using saliva, use preseed/softcup because you're at the most fertile. It's not meant to get the exact timing.

 

[Erin6714]

Ladies I have a question ! So normally I seem to get a positive opk on cd 18 and I think I O on 20 . Today I am cd 20 and have bd last night . However I just took a test and got a raging positive . Should I wait until tomorrow up bd hoping I don't miss O or should we tonight but it will only be one day ..... Obviously I don't know when I actually O but I assumed it was 2 days later based on O pain. However I have only gotten BFN so what's the best bet here . Ugh

Also, DH's sperm count could factor in. I prefer every other day so that DH has at least 24 hours to build back up, unless you know his count is normal or super high.

AFM- Started using a cheap OPK kit myself this morning! It's so silly but I feel excited and super positive just to be doing something and I plan on testing every morning. At least for the first month or two until I have a good couple months worth of testing to figure out what the heck my body is doing down there. That is, unless I get a bfp (keeping fingers crossed!).

Anyway, I do have a couple questions for you ladies that have used an OPK before... So today is CD 8 and the test had 2 lines but the test line was lighter, and according to the instructions that is still a negative. However, I was wondering if a light line indicates that I'm getting ready to get a full dark line?? Like, maybe it's a "high" but not a "peak"??


Also, if you happen to read a couple posts back when I had a wonky cycle where I went 35 days for the first time in my whole life and actually went to get a blood test because my hpt were all negative. Well, back in December, right before Christmas I joined a gym and was hitting it pretty hard for about 3 weeks then got a head cold and couldn't go for a week and right after that is when AF was due. So, it's been determined that my new workout routine was probably the cause of my crazy (for me) cycle length. Well, I really want to get back to the gym because I don't want to waste my money but I'm really iffy about screwing up my cycles when im ttc. Thoughts??? Experiences with this??? I have a obgyn apt next Monday and I plan on discussing this with the doc but I was wondering if anyone could provide personal experiences with this? Or maybe what your doctors advised??

 

[beemeck]

hi girls!

ab - sorry to see your temp drop today. What are with this cycles with beautiful charts but nothing to show for it? ugh. At least we are getting our cycles nice and pretty so when that egg is finally fertilized, the environment will be perfect.

erin - yay for opks! even after all this time, I still try and add at least one thing different each cycle because it always makes me feel better to be doing something - anything! good luck! if there are two lines then yes, it means the other will only continue to get darker now until it's pos. unless in cases where one has PCOS or something but I don't think that applies to you. so that's great that at CD 8 there are already two lines

psycho - how are you feeling?!

super - hi hi hi! I miss you! International travel? oh, do tell more! you might be on your trip now but I want to hear about it when you get back! we got our bfp while we were over in Italy so hoping you have some travelling luck too!

AFM - well. my chart is really......odd? looks like a bfp chart - huh? this has never happened before. temps are typically at coverline by 13dpo and I always start spotting then. no spotting yesterday or today....but all BFNs. Why oh why do we have to get tortured like this?! last month my chart went triphasic and now this. just trying to be glad that I managed a perfect cycle though - O on CD 14, 14 day luteal phase with no spotting and a 28 day cycle (assuming AF shows tomorrow bc my LP doesn't go past 14 days...). Dr appt next week so I will let them know that I've got everything ready on my part and am now just ready for the baby!

 

[abennion]

bee - it definitely sucks. It looks like my LP has lengthened though by one day (last month was a solid 13 days too) We went out last night to get FRERs thinking this was it and the ICs were just lying to us with there barely -not quite there lines. I'm still well above my cover line but still feeling AF-y.

We won't be doing charting, OPKs, Clomid - anything really - in the next coming cycles. We figure we'll just relax, BD when we want, and hope for a little miracle while waiting to hear from the fertility clinic. I was looking online and if we do need IVF there are options. The Fertility clinic here in Alberta offers a grant for those who can't afford the treatments, so that's definitely a bright side. We won't go broke trying for a baby. We should be hearing from them soon, hopefully.

Good luck to everyone else!

 

[lesondemavie]

Popping in here too

Super - you've been missed. Hope you're getting to go on some sort of adventure soon!

Erin - A few years back I had this really wonky cycle where I bled lightly for 21 days. I ran long distance and raced in half marathons (only stopped this past year). They determined that it was annovulation from intense exercise. I kinda laughed because it wasn't really intense for me at all. Anyway that's when I went on bcp. I decided to quit running a bit when I came off bcp and started ttc just bc I didn't want to risk that again. I do still exercise though. I do these 30-60 minute HIIT/yoga/weight routines on fitnessblender.com. They're free or you can pay a small amount (less than $10) for an 8 week program. I did them most days and had zero problems with my cycles. If you do go back, I would just make sure you ease in. Also on the cheap opks, I always have 2 lines and no PCOS here. It would kinda go up and down but stay lighter than control. It wasn't until the line was almost as dark as control that it would get darker and darker and then drop off indicating O, and when I started temping it all lined up perfectly. I read that we all just have varying levels of LH always in our systems, but it only spikes just before O.

Bee - Sending good thoughts your way for your appointment!

Abe - So much FX for your next cycle.

Trr, Mrs, Ritter, magic, Ivska - Hope all is well!

AFM: 6 weeks going on 7 and feeling great . Just 1.5 weeks to go before my first appointment. Miss you all

 

[Erin6714]

Popping in here too

Erin - A few years back I had this really wonky cycle where I bled lightly for 21 days. I ran long distance and raced in half marathons (only stopped this past year). They determined that it was annovulation from intense exercise. I kinda laughed because it wasn't really intense for me at all. Anyway that's when I went on bcp. I decided to quit running a bit when I came off bcp and started ttc just bc I didn't want to risk that again. I do still exercise though. I do these 30-60 minute HIIT/yoga/weight routines on fitnessblender.com. They're free or you can pay a small amount (less than $10) for an 8 week program. I do them most days and had zero problems with my cycles. If you do go back, I would just make sure you ease in. Also on the cheap opks, I always have 2 lines and no PCOS here. It would kinda go up and down but stay lighter than control. It wasn't until the line was almost as dark as control that it would get darker and the drop off indicating O, and when I started temping it all lined up perfectly. I read that we all just have varying levels of LH always in our systems, but it only spikes just before O.

Thanks! I figured I wouldn't get too excited about the double lines until its clearly dark and positive (but I have to admit its nice to see two lines on ANYTHING lol)

As for the exercise. I am not someone that has ever been very athletic or exercised regularly and I can't run because of my back and knees. Usually I stick to the elliptical for cardio. I'm not overweight or out of shape necessarily, I had just joined to tone up and feel better, but I'm thinking that maybe I started out a little too hard and that's why it threw my cycles off. I'm foregoing any gym visits until after I see the doc. I'm thinking im going to back off the weight lifting a little and not worry about getting my heart rate up as much if I do go back. Either way, really curious to see what doc says.