Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[oneKnight]

Feeling sick from all the meds & dhs friend says maybe you're pregnant yaah cuz having your period isn't a sure indicator of not bein prego :/

Some people need to go back to health class! I will say though my mom had af the first 5 months she.was pregnant with me! She didn't know she was till month 3! Wish i could be so lucky.

Imagine the surprise a few moms got back before HPTs, scans and blood tests....when missing AF was the only indicator and they still got AF for the first few months!!! I bet that was kinda freaky back in the day!!

 

[Jett55]

Oh yah definitely :O I know it can happen but it's so rare..

 

[tamithomas]

Definitely out this month, bb's started to hurt and we didn't even get a chance to bd. Horoscope says August is the right month to ttc anyways, hope it ain't getting my hopes up lol jk...just bites, first chance in 6 months we get to and it's my fault we're out.

 

[Limm]

Feel like I've been away for ages.

Just recently found out an old college classmate of mine is pregnant, engaged and has a house now. Her ex boyfriend used to send hate mail to me and DH telling us that he hoped us and our future children die "slow and horrible deaths" and she wasn't that great to us either, so you can probably guess that I got a little bit upset (upset meaning I sat on my own in the dark drinking A LOT of beer and crying).

Sick of my life being on pause despite trying so hard to move foward. I'm constantly being turned down for jobs, we're still living at my parents house and putting up with their silly rules and I'm yet to become pregnant, despite living in a town where you only have to look at a girl 'round here and she ends up preggo. To top everything off, my legs have started to become very painful when I walk and my feet are turning again (I was born with club foot).

Feels like I'm being punished for something and no-one will explain to me what.

 

[Jett55]

Despite the struggle of ttc my sil & her friend decided to start drama & now my in-laws are all ticked off over something I didn't do total bs. Really getting sick of this crap I'm not in highschool anymore :/

 

[Sam10]

Some times I think my weight is preventing me from getting pregnant. But I love food too much. Sigh.

 

[AlyCon]

Well just as I suspected my other friend went into labor and gave birth yesterday, just five days after my other friend who lives right beside me. So after seeing and holding "friend A's" new born baby (in addition to her toddler), I then go on FB to see pictures of "friend B" and her new baby. It just hurts! And to make things worse, one had a boy and one had a girl so I'm extremely jealous of them both.

After seeing the pictures of the second baby, I cried for an hour and started crying again in the shower and again when I got in bed. I basically cried myself to sleep repeating "I'll never be a mom. I'll never be happy." It probably wouldn't have been as bad if I didn't have an anxiety attack the day before but that's my luck. And this is on top of all my other issues.

I got referred to the FS but never made the appt because my marriage is hanging by a thread right now and I would feel horrible if I got pregnant on purpose and brought an innocent child into my world of drama and dysfunction. And it pisses me off to see other people doing that and popping out kids when they know they're in a bad situation. But none of that even matters now because DH is deploying in a few weeks. so I'll be out for almost a year unless I conceive this month. Which is actually possible this month because I just had a natural AF but I doubt it will happen and I don't really want it to.

Can't wait to see my therapist later this week, I'm seriously hating life right now.

 

[Lazydaisys]

Things will be better aly . You have to think... this is a really bad time and at the moment and we are suffering some major low points, but we will be having highs in again in our future I can imagine your pain as I am dreading My friend giving birth in early oct. I can just about cope with her being pregnant but I really won't want to hold her baby or I might and then start sobbing!!! Awkward! Lol xx

 

[tamithomas]

Yes, I consider my animals my children. No, giving birth is not the only way to be considered a mother considering that's an insult to adoptive mothers.

Parenthood is not a pain competition. You still have to look after animals by giving them food, shelter and water, walk them, give them attention, find a babysitter if you want to go on long trips.

I hate pretentious mothers with a flipping passion that think the only real maternal love you can have is if they came out of your vagina.

 

[Tater91]

Feeling alone all the time. DH just doesn't seem to be trying to see where I am coming from when I get upset about AF. He also seems not to wanta child as much as I do. I wish I could just be in his head for one day just to see for myself we have been married 3 years he deployed for a year and have been ttc for 2 years just wish it would freaking happen already. I hate spending time with family, my mother has a 4 year old and my sister has a 1 year old.

 

[VP1228]

I want to see my FS so bad just to see if I can actually have a baby but this freak'n new job is going to be a pain in the butt about going to the appointments often. Ugh why can't I just be a fertile 22 year old and have babies like rabbits ugh!

 

[Farrell]

Ugh why can't I just be a fertile 22 year old and have babies like rabbits ugh!

Change that 22 to 23 and that's me. Dh's friends are all with women that have kids. We are the only couple that has done things in the conventional order (i.e. meet, date for a year, live together/get engaged for 3 years, get married) And if I get asked one more time "when are you guys going to have a kid?" I might just scream.

 

[rhysthedragon]

thanks work for moving me into kidswear! now every day I can look at baby clothing fucking great

Ouch Totally not cool.

 

[rhysthedragon]

This site, and sites like are EXACTLY what I have been looking for. My friends say that I talk about TTC too much, my husband thinks that my excitement is a bit premature. EXCUSE ME?!? I am 28 years old and after a 7 year relationship and almost 2.5 years of marriage and 3 years of trying to convince my husband that we are ready to start a family, we are actually starting to try!! So YES, I am excited!! YES, I am anxious!! YES, I have wanted nothing more since childhood than to be a wife and a mother.
Also. Said "friend" is my age and already has 4 kids of her own!! One of which a 4 month old baby girl, and she has no problem telling me her stories of conception and birth, but the minute the tables turn to me I need to change the subject?! Are you kidding me?!
And as far as my husband is concerned.....when I brought this same story to him he had the nerve to agree with her. But Mr. "you could stand to calm down a little" doesn't seem to mind all the sex he's been getting for the last month.
The nerve of people.

I hate it when you have to sit through everyone's problems/news and then no one wants to listen when it's your turn to share.

 

[rhysthedragon]

Feeling alone all the time. DH just doesn't seem to be trying to see where I am coming from when I get upset about AF. He also seems not to wanta child as much as I do. I wish I could just be in his head for one day just to see for myself we have been married 3 years he deployed for a year and have been ttc for 2 years just wish it would freaking happen already. I hate spending time with family, my mother has a 4 year old and my sister has a 1 year old.

Ugh. I know what you mean. My little sister is due any day now, and my mom has a 2-year-old.

 

[rhysthedragon]

Change that 22 to 23 and that's me. Dh's friends are all with women that have kids. We are the only couple that has done things in the conventional order (i.e. meet, date for a year, live together/get engaged for 3 years, get married) And if I get asked one more time "when are you guys going to have a kid?" I might just scream.

I feel like screaming when my hubby and I get asked that question. We did everything in "the right order" too.

 

[oneKnight]

Being infertile is so isolating! I don't fit in with other parents my age because...I'm not a parent! But it seems like everyone else who isn't a parent yet is sooo young! I don't fit in with kids anymore, but most people who are youngish married couples are moving on to parenthood!!

 

[AlyCon]

Thanks Lazydaisys

Lol somehow I've managed to be around the baby without having a complete breakdown! Thank goodness because I really wasn't sure if I could handle it.

On another note.. I hate seeing people treat their kids like shit!! I'd give anything to have a baby and these ungrateful "mothers" make sick. Especially ones who act like a freaking martyr like "oh boo hoo poor me motherhood is so hard you don't understand" suck it up buttercup you made them now you gotta raise them! And my number one pet peeve is people who treat their kids bad but then go on FB and talk about how blessed they are and how their life is complete because of their kid. Seriously stop with act it just pisses me off more!

 

[tamithomas]

I absolutely despise when you follow a forum and it gets bfp jacked which is totally off topic of the topic at hand. Why do mothers jack EVERYTHING. Not everything needs your pregnancy topic to be added. Especially when the forum already knew someone in that board was having fertility issues. ps it's not on BnB.

 

[Jett55]

Thanks Lazydaisys

Lol somehow I've managed to be around the baby without having a complete breakdown! Thank goodness because I really wasn't sure if I could handle it.

On another note.. I hate seeing people treat their kids like shit!! I'd give anything to have a baby and these ungrateful "mothers" make sick. Especially ones who act like a freaking martyr like "oh boo hoo poor me motherhood is so hard you don't understand" suck it up buttercup you made them now you gotta raise them! And my number one pet peeve is people who treat their kids bad but then go on FB and talk about how blessed they are and how their life is complete because of their kid. Seriously stop with act it just pisses me off more!

OMG that crap drives me crazzzyyy or when someone who doesn't take care of their kid post a 1000 pics of them & their child on fb to look good.