Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[wbee]

This seems like a thread that will come in handy to me.

"just don't think about it and it will happen" can suck it. Do you really think telling me that is going to help? Excuse me while I hide the tears welling in my eyes.

 

[Lazydaisys]

'You never know this could be your month!'

' Actually I know... and It's not'


Ttc blah blah blah blah !



Don't get me started on that baby dust that everybody sprays about !! It's s@@t!

 

[VP1228]

I get so tired of explaining to people that you have to ovulate to get pregnant. My ovaries are scarred so there is a possibility that I don't ovulate but they still say just be patient it will happen! Really, it will just happen then why hasn't it happened in the last 22 months? People just get on my nerves that that bs I mean if that was true then IVF wouldn't work for anyone who tries it.

 

[Marqelle93]

This is my first time venting and it's unrelated to the posts I have read, but something I need to just get out.

I am SO MAD at the people who get pregnant on birth control or when they miss ONE pill. My mom ALWAYS warned me, you better be safe and use all the protection you can or you will get pregnant. I am only just now 20, and have been trying for 15 months, but before I was trying when I was still living at home, I was SO scared that if I missed a pill I would get pregnant and my mom would be SO mad. I can't count how many times I took plan B even when I was on BC and he wore a condom, JUST IN CASE ever a little touched me.

Now here I am off of birth control for over a year and have been trying non stop since then, and nothing. And my best friend was like, yeah I forgot a pill one week and then I was pregnant. WHAT?

 

[tamithomas]

No I don't care about the royal baby, nor do I care about a woman giving birth that could have easily afforded any medical treatment possible had she "struggled" with infertility. Now that the baby is born, can the world please stfu about them?

 

[Limm]

I despise that I can only be excited about ovulation for 2 minutes before I start stressing about the chance that I might stress too much, then realising I am stressing already and then stress a little more.

So, to ANYONE who says not to stress or that I need to not think about it and it will happen, either apologise for that stupid remark or make use of your 5 second head start.

 

[AlyCon]

Another BFP in my circle of friends. She just barely got married and only been of the pill a few weeks. Must be nice.

I'm trying not to let it bother me but it's hard. Thank god I have friends without kids and they've never met any of my parent/pregnant friends. I guess I know who I'll be hanging out with more and more..

 

[Jett55]

I'm sick of the remark just because it hasn't happend yet doesn't mean it's not going to... It sure the heck feels like it... Every month feels like an eternity & then the disappointment hits again. I hate that dh can be soo optimistic about it & has no idea how sad I am. It even makes me feel like crap that he said "not to tonight" when it could've been our chance to finally make a baby cuz I'm pretty positive It's my fertile period & I was having o pains :/... Oh he's completely obsessed with the fact if we go to the doc they'll tell us nothings wrong. My gut tells me there is plus It's been over a year & no conception so if that's not a red flag idk what is.

 

[Tater91]

Jett I totally understand and feel the same way about DH seems like it is easier for them to be positive about it. You said everything a lot better than I ever could.

 

[oneKnight]

Guys don't have to worry much. They are fertile EVERY day 365 days a year for MANY years.
Us women get 3 good days a month (ok, 5 if you stretch but us LTTTCers aren't that hopeful anymore)
So assuming short cycles, 36 fertile days a year - less for long cycled women, and only for a certain number of years, that many of us are halfway through or more....there's a reason we worry!!

 

[Jett55]

Jett I totally understand and feel the same way about DH seems like it is easier for them to be positive about it. You said everything a lot better than I ever could.

Thanks tater91... I suppose it's easier for a man to stay positive cuz they don't have af or have to put up with half of what we do.. unless the fertility factor is the male they don't really understand how we feel

 

[Tater91]

Thanks tater91... I suppose it's easier for a man to stay positive cuz they don't have af or have to put up with half of what we do.. unless the fertility factor is the male they don't really understand how we feel [/QUOTE]

So true, I feel like I have failed myself my family and most of all DH when AF comes. But DH thinks its that time of month again no emotion attached to it.

 

[Jett55]

Yah... Every time af comes I feel like a complete failure & I think I might've missed my fertile period this month yesterdays opk was almost positive & dh didn't want sex then today the opk was negative even though I had some ewcm I feel out & no more ewcm since this morning

 

[Tater91]

That's how I feel every time. Thinking I missed it or didn't do enough. I have never done any opks but I am charting my bbt. I feel hopeful about it. I feel like if I start doing opks I will just feel like more of a failure if AF shows up again.

 

[VP1228]

I am at my breaking point of just getting a hysterectomy! People are so insensitive about my situation and all anyone can say is be hopeful and pray that everything is okay! I already know it is not okay! I am so afraid the FS going to say my right ovary doesn't ovulate and that I can't have a baby of my own. I have seen so many girls my age on their 3rd baby when I can't even get 1.

 

[Yammas]

I agree it easier to say who hasn't had a baby than list the majority who have. The annoying thing g is that most of them weren't planning it or trying to prevent it and still got pregnant, and here me and OH are trying for over 2 years and still nothing.

Eta; I'm with you on the big family thing I wanted 4 children and OH wanted them to be born in a certain month now I'd just be grateful to have one any time of the year.

 

[Mumtodogs]

It hacks me off when people say 'you're only young' (nearly 31) 'it'll happen, just relax' (sorry I wasn't aware I was causing my own infertility). It piss*s me off that the Doctor won't entertain investigating us until we've had 3 losses. He told my husband that "as you're gettin pregnant there's nothing wrong with your swimmers" ( sorry I always believed that miscarriage can be faulty EGG or SPERM) it hacks me off that I'm bringing up my husband son (who I love) but he was conceived during a 10 day teenage fling, and his biological mother skipped the country and couldn't care less (she now has numerous children to numerous other men).

I'm gutted my BFP last week has turned into a second mc this week.

I want one. One baby to love and cuddle and be mine. I used to want a girl, born in spring etc etc. now I just want a baby, born healthy at any time. I feel like we're good people. We both work hard, have a nice home perfect for children, why isn't this happening for us?!?!

And breathe.........

 

[Limm]

Sat having lunch with mates when they start discussing miscarriage as a positive, lighthearted thing.

 

[LoveMyTripawd]

Sat having lunch with mates when they start discussing miscarriage as a positive, lighthearted thing.

HOW? How in the world is it a positive thing? I am going through one right now and I would have punched them in their faces...and then possibly started them on fire.... Wow! That pisses me off. Sorry....

 

[Jett55]

Got verbally attacked on my own dang fb... I asked how long ppl were together before havin kids? Just out of curiousity & this girl started commenting on how I'm too young to have a baby & waiting til late twentys & how u cant do anything once u have kids & all this crap seriously wanna snap she has a 2 yr old & another one on the way & she's goin to tell me to wait wtf???? I wanna slap her