Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[rachel_tumey]

I know that some people on here have been TTC for a lot longer than I have, but I just can't help feeling that I am all alone and I just wish SOMETHING would happen. At least if I started AF it would be something. I took yet another test today BFN, surprise!! NOT, UGH... Not even a faint second line, just the one on the test mocking me. So tomorrow is the 6th day of my missed period and I said I was going to wait until Sunday to test again, but couldn't help myself. I have one test left and I WILL wait until Sunday to test again. I swear by the time something happens we should have invested in these tests! We are making First Response rich!!

 

[rachel_tumey]

18 DPO, 6 days late, and 3 BFN's. I'm going to bed...

 

[Mumtodogs]

You're pregnant friend putting her scan in front of you one week after your second loss and saying 'check this out!'

 

[Jett55]

What a shitty friend.... I get upset over ppl flaunting their scans already so that'd really upset me. People are soo inconsiderate of others feelings unless she didn't know of course but if she did then that's bogus as heck

 

[Mumtodogs]

She did know. She went into EPADS herself last night with bleeding but all was ok. I think she just wasn't thinking, although she hasn't apologized. Blergh. Today is a bad day.

 

[Mumtodogs]

Oh and another rant!!

love this site, but WHY OH WHY when I go to the CP to look at the treads does a video about what to pack in your maternity bag start up every fecking time?!?!?! Packing my maternity bag isn't exactly a high priority at the moment...

 

[megariri]

I was diagnosed when I was 18yrs old with endometriosis. And my Dr told me that I should think about children because if I want them its going to be hard for me....and she was right! My and fiance talked for about a year about children and decided it was something that we both wanted. Its been 2 years and now being 21 and not having a child of my own yet is crushing me and I know its crushing my husband. All of our friends when we were 19 looked at us like we were insane, like we were going to ruin our lives. Now that were 21, they all are having children of there own and look at us with pity. First it was my mom who got pregnant, then is was her older bestfriends then it was my bestfriend and now my bother and his wife, not to mention my husband's step dad is ha ing a kid. I'm sitting her feeling my friends stomach and planning baby showers and buying baby things when all I want is for it to be my turn. I want a baby. I want my own to make inside of me I want my husband to feel my stomach, I want to have someone plan me a shower, I want to give birth to a little being that me and my husband made together, sharing our own DNA. I want the pain and suffering of being a mom because every bit of it is beautiful. I want my husband to not squeeze my hand when I watch some other mother open up a present with the cutest tiniest clothes inside because he knows I'm hurting. I wish that I could talk to my bestfrriend how I feel without making her feel bad that she got pregnat on accident. When will it be my turn to say that I'm having a baby, and all those decisions on what to do and what not to do are mine and my husband's?

 

[Nicolefunnell]

My friend just had a baby and said her husband wants another one right away. Then had the nerve to tell me wouldn't that suck of I got pregnant again and you still haven't.

 

[megariri]

Thats horrible. Best believe we would no longer be friends. That is such a messed up thing to say.

 

[katie32341]

Hello! I am brand new! Here is what has been happening. My husband and I decided to start TTC #1! I am 24 yrs old and he is almost 30. I have been on birth control pills (ortho tri cyclen lo) for about 3 years (maybe more). I had taken about 5 pills of a new pack when we decided to stop taking them on July 20th, so I just stopped abruptly. I later learned that you aren't really supposed to do that... oh well. Anyway... about 2 days later I started having what I thought was withdrawal bleeding on July 22nd and it lasted until July 25th. However, during that time, by ClearBlue Advanced ovulation test was showing that I was ovulating at this time. Rising estrogen and LH levels. So... we tried... just because... what's the harm? I didn't have high hopes for this cycle, but I couldn't help but wonder... I have been waiting for my expected period on August 6th, and have taken a negative HPT and blood test at the doctor's office. So, I have pretty much given up hope at this point. THEN my husband said that sometimes what you think is withdrawal bleeding is actually a period, and you body's way of resetting itself. So, if that was my period from July 20-25, that would mean I am ovulating right now! So I took another OPK and sure 'nuff - big smiley face! So we are trying again for the next few days....

Has anyone ever had this kind of experience? I don't understand why my OPK would say I was ovulating July 22-25 AND right now!?!? Does not seem possible. Do you think that was the real ovulation or THIS is the real ovulation? I guess I won't know for sure unless AF does/doesn't show up on the 6th, but I'm very anxious!

 

[katie32341]

Hello! I am brand new! Here is what has been happening. My husband and I decided to start TTC #1! I am 24 yrs old and he is almost 30. I have been on birth control pills (ortho tri cyclen lo) for about 3 years (maybe more). I had taken about 5 pills of a new pack when we decided to stop taking them on July 20th, so I just stopped abruptly. I later learned that you aren't really supposed to do that... oh well. Anyway... about 2 days later I started having what I thought was withdrawal bleeding on July 22nd and it lasted until July 25th. However, during that time, by ClearBlue Advanced ovulation test was showing that I was ovulating at this time. Rising estrogen and LH levels. So... we tried... just because... what's the harm? I didn't have high hopes for this cycle, but I couldn't help but wonder... I have been waiting for my expected period on August 6th, and have taken a negative HPT and blood test at the doctor's office. So, I have pretty much given up hope at this point. THEN my husband said that sometimes what you think is withdrawal bleeding is actually a period, and you body's way of resetting itself. So, if that was my period from July 20-25, that would mean I am ovulating right now! So I took another OPK and sure 'nuff - big smiley face! So we are trying again for the next few days....

Has anyone ever had this kind of experience? I don't understand why my OPK would say I was ovulating July 22-25 AND right now!?!? Does not seem possible. Do you think that was the real ovulation or THIS is the real ovulation? I guess I won't know for sure unless AF does/doesn't show up on the 6th, but I'm very anxious!

 

[tamithomas]

Wow so much fail. Talking to someone about our infertility and the first thing the person says is "have you thought about ivf"? No...I've been ttc 4 years and have never thought of IVF not once.

 

[VP1228]

I am so annoyed with people say "it's okay that you can't have a baby on your own honey". It is not okay! I am 22 and I can't even release an egg because of some dumbass scar tissue on my ovaries! Really, how is that okay when everyone kept saying "When it's your time to have a baby you will". Well guess what assholes you all were wrong! I will never have a baby unless it is through IVF and if they can't get my eggs out of the scar tissue then I will need donor eggs! Ugh people just don't get how bad it hurts to not be able to birth your own baby! BECAUSE THEY DON'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH IT!

 

[Lazydaisys]

Wow so much fail. Talking to someone about our infertility and the first thing the person says is "have you thought about ivf"? No...I've been ttc 4 years and have never thought of IVF not once.

Ha ha this made me laugh out loud . My fertile (4kids) friend suggested this to me this only other day!

I was like. Great I hadn't thought of that ill arrange it for next weekend!

She also 'heard' that there was some drugs I could take also! Pass me those magic pills!

 

[Jett55]

Sprained my foot Saturday I just can't seem to catch a break then a friend had the nerve to text me & ask for an hpt just because she was outta bc for a week she already has a 1 yr old she doesn't take care of so if she is pg again I'll be furious & refuse to be around her & her overreactive whining about pregnancy. She also had the nerve to tell me one day she thought she was infertile before she conceived her son knowing dh & I have been struggling. :/

 

[Nicolefunnell]

Wow so much fail. Talking to someone about our infertility and the first thing the person says is "have you thought about ivf"? No...I've been ttc 4 years and have never thought of IVF not once.

Gosh! I know this isn't something to smile about but it made me smile just because it's the same way I feel. Sometimes I feel people don't realize what they are saying and I just want to be like, "seriously" maybe they think they are helping but it's so annoying sometimes.

 

[Nicolefunnell]

Today's Vent:

Friends who got preg. after 1 month NTNP telling us to "hurry up and get pregnant, so we can do ____ together with our kids". While I know it's from a completely innocent and good hearted place, it hurts. If I could hurry up and get pregnant, I would have been pregnant before them!!

I know exactly what you mean. especially when you have been trying for a LONG time before them and then it just happens for them. Then they try telling you to hurry up? Well if it was that easy I would have already had 2 babies by the time you got pregnant.

 

[tamithomas]

Wow so much fail. Talking to someone about our infertility and the first thing the person says is "have you thought about ivf"? No...I've been ttc 4 years and have never thought of IVF not once.

Gosh! I know this isn't something to smile about but it made me smile just because it's the same way I feel. Sometimes I feel people don't realize what they are saying and I just want to be like, "seriously" maybe they think they are helping but it's so annoying sometimes.

lol I felt like I was in the middle of a classic "here's your sign" moment from Bill Engval

 

[wbee]

I am so freakin sick of this. I am so down about the fact that I've not ovulated yet, and my fertile signs are going away. My temperatures make no sense and this just sucks. Everything feels so hopeless.

 

[mapletulip]

I am so freakin sick of this. I am so down about the fact that I've not ovulated yet, and my fertile signs are going away. My temperatures make no sense and this just sucks. Everything feels so hopeless.

Right with you, hun. It can be so hard sometimes and difficult to remain hopeful. I'm 10dpo and got a very BFN this morning....we have been trying for months and I don't know what the problem is. And to make things worse, I do have pregnancy symptoms ALL the time...and never get a BFP.
Meanwhile, everyone around me is having babies in 1-2 cycles and now I have to hear all the complaining from (attachment) parents on how hard life with kids is.....when they know we have been trying and not getting anywhere.

I don't know at what point I want to seek medical intervention and get tests done. I'm afraid that if we locate what the problem is, either with me or DH, it will cause one of us to feel guilty and cause problems in our marriage.

It sounds silly but I am watching episodes of SuperNanny on my phone while getting my hair and makeup done in the morning....seeing a bunch of kids scream, kick, yell, punch and swear at their parents makes me feel a tiny bit happier to not have kids just yet.