Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[tamithomas]

I'm not even pregnant yet and I already have people harping on me for my medical choices for my future baby. Dear everyone who are not my future childs parents, piss off..I'll do as I see fit with my child.

 

[mapletulip]

Totally! Or I find they feel guilty somehow that it's not working so easy for us and they got preggers in 2 cycles so they keep telling me all these stats about how 85% of couples conceive in the year and how it WILL happen. One time I even said, to make myself feel better, that we can always adopt and then my friend got all agitated like: "What?! You're ridiculous to even think about that now. You'll get pregnant."

Excuse me...you got pregnant the SECOND you got married after you found out we had been NTNP and trying for a while. Stop telling me how I should feel to make yourself feel better.

 

[mapletulip]

I'm not even pregnant yet and I already have people harping on me for my medical choices for my future baby. Dear everyone who are not my future childs parents, piss off..I'll do as I see fit with my child.

One ear in...the other out. Why people feel the need to verbalize their every thought is beyond me.

 

[AlyCon]

Same here Tami! Every time I mention natural birth or homeschooling people always have something negative to say!

And my number one pet peeve is when I mention something I want to do with my my future pregnancy/ child and some ones like "Oh you say that now but wait until it actually happens you'll change your mind" especially when I mention I want a natural birth and women who have kids say "you won't still feel that way once the pain hits you!" Actually yes I will!!! I will gladly embrace labor pains and stitches in my vagina if that means I get my baby so please piss off!! Ughhh and of course the ones saying that are the ones who got pregnant on accident.

 

[Jett55]

Yah I also want to homeschool & get told oh no you won't once you have kids you will want that break away from them & all kinds of crap. I also hate how victimized I've been getting by others for wanting a child funny part is It's by ppl who got "accidently" pregnant so they have no dang clue about what It's like & if I get told to live my life & enjoy it one more time I'm going to slap someone.. don't tell me I'm not ready for children not to mention I guarantee for only being 21 I've lived more dang life then any of em telling me that crap. Obviously if there were things I still wanted to do I wouldn't be ttc gaah I hate stupid people :/

 

[VP1228]

I agree with everyone's comment. I still have people telling me to be patient and it will happen when it is practically impossible. I told my family (before getting the bad news) that I didn't want them kissing my baby too much because of their sensitive skin and they lashed out at me saying that I was being too protective over a baby I don't have yet so I lashed back at them can't say what I told them but it was not respectful of their feelings. When babies get sick the mom or dad is the person who cares for them not grandma, grandpa, or other family members.

 

[tamithomas]

My hubby and I are pro minimal vaccine (not anti, just against 90% of them), pro homeschooling and if all goes according to plan we want an at home natural birth. I want to feel as comfortable as possible and I have faith that midwives know what they're doing and will be able to make the judgement call if a transfer is needed. I live not even 5 minutes car ride away from the hospital.

So far I've heard the usual "kids need socializing, they'll end up socially awkward". (that was from my mom) to which my answer is bs, all you need to do is find play dates for them..problem solved. Plus, school is supposed to be about education not about social skills.

The usual "if you don't get all 765893467854976943 vaccines you're a selfish cow who needs to keep yourself and your bomb waiting to explode baby away from society". I get treated like an anti vax even though I'm still pro and plan on getting some of them for our kid just not all.

Last but not least, the home birthing. Got told that it's selfish to do an at home birth because many women across the world would give anything to be able to give birth at a hospital. That's like saying how dare you not finish your plate of food because there's people starving.

At the end of the day, I wish people would mind their own business. I'll do my thing, you do yours end of.

 

[Jett55]

Wow a girl that I'm older than try to say she's older because she has a kid are you effing kidding me & tryin to tell me it sucks having kids & blah blah blah Bitch Bitch Bitch I seriously need to find new friends

 

[Sam10]

Having kids most certainly doesn't make you more mature automatically. Wow. She sounds like a moron.

 

[Jett55]

She is like the girl has nooo common sense she tries to act smart but in reality she sounds like a dumb@$#

 

[SmallTownGal]

Went to CVS last night for pads, because AF was being heavy and I was running low, and every magazine had a cover story about the royal baby. The royal baby news wasn't bothering me too much, at first, because I like Will and Kate and I was rooting for her knowing the pressure she was under to get PG, but now it's like "C'mon! Does it have to be on every cover!" I hate that I feel this way, now. Before TTC and IF, I would just be totally happy to see news like that. IF blows.

 

[newlyweds1]

Hi All, only just joined. My husband and i have been having unprotected sex for 2.5 years however have recently been ttc for the past year. He is booked in next week for his count and hoping everything is ok. I have polycystic ovaries and wonder if I am the reason we are still yet to conceive. Does anybody know the next steps after we have both had general fertility tests? Assuming my husbands results are good news, what happens next?

C x

 

[AlyCon]

Hi All, only just joined. My husband and i have been having unprotected sex for 2.5 years however have recently been ttc for the past year. He is booked in next week for his count and hoping everything is ok. I have polycystic ovaries and wonder if I am the reason we are still yet to conceive. Does anybody know the next steps after we have both had general fertility tests? Assuming my husbands results are good news, what happens next?

C x

Just so you know, this is the vent thread. You would probably get more answers if you posted in the actual TTC forum, but we are more than happy to help if we can

Most doctors will give you a referral to go see a Fertility Specialist once you have been trying for a year. So depending on your insurance you could go to the Doctor today and get sent to the specialist right away. I hope you get a good doctor and get your BFP (Big Fat Positive) soon

 

[tamithomas]

I feel so alone it's unreal right now. DH blew out a disk in his back yesterday so he's been bed rest for the most part of today but I don't blame him for it one bit as he needs his rest. However, a year and an hour ago I noticed bleeding only to m/c 24 hours later. It's so unfair to see people around me who have no intentions to have kids be blessed with such a gift in life and not realize how lucky they are and once the baby is here act like as if they were expected all along. It's a good thing the store is minimum 10 minutes of driving away and I have no license or else I'd probably be drinking myself to oblivion even though I've been sober for 4 years.

 

[Bordeaux]

Just so annoyed that everyone seems to sneeze and get pregnant

 

[btaulbee]

Ok I was 14 days late then on the 15th day I started spotting.. it was really dark then got light then back to dark... I have stopped and started a few times and now have been spotting for 8 days. 3 hpt all said neg. Could I be preganat? Please someone help!!!!

 

[tamithomas]

Ok I was 14 days late then on the 15th day I started spotting.. it was really dark then got light then back to dark... I have stopped and started a few times and now have been spotting for 8 days. 3 hpt all said neg. Could I be preganat? Please someone help!!!!

This is the vent thread, you'd have better results by starting a thread. GL. FX for you.

 

[Bordeaux]

Whilst I am healthy eating and haven't touched all the great food I love just found out DH is having pizza for dinner and had pasta for lunch what a selfish inconsiderate person

 

[tamithomas]

Note to future self: Checking up/stalking old high school friends on facebook is a disasterous thing to do when you're in a serious ttc low. Pretty much everyone I went to high school is or has been pregnant. So not fair..why everyone else but me ?! Especially since I know some were drug addicts.

 

[Bordeaux]

I know the feeling one girl had 4 kids by 19yrs old grrrr another got pregnant one month after her first but they had been ttc for some time