Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[cntrygrl]

My vent is that I'm tired of seeing women in the TTC#1 monthly testing threads that already have a child/children.

 

[flagirlie7]

My vent is that I'm tired of seeing women in the TTC#1 monthly testing threads that already have a child/children.

totally agree! it is NOT the same! and in all honesty, it can't be that bad if you already have one, come on...

 

[Hopesdreams]

I am so frustrated! My stupid ovaries are not cooperating in any way shape or form, I didn't ovulate last month, I don't think I'm going to ovulate this month. Heck, I may not have ovulated since July when we managed to be pregnant for 2 weeks (though does that really count? It's just a late period really) What the hell?! I know I'm doing the right things, I've gotten the blood tests and the ultrasound. Nothing is apparently physically wrong with me. I'm pretty sure I can request to go on clomid which helps with ovulating (I think). I just really wish we could just conceive naturally. I feel like we're giving it everything we've got, we haven't had sex this often since we first started dating! I'm going to compress my spine from elevating my hips so often.
Rereading this, it sounds a little funny but it's not really funny to me. My sister keeps asking (she of the 'I got pregnant on the first try!' variety). I finally had to tell her that it's actually quite difficult for me to talk about and I'd rather not. I never thought I would have to say that to my own sister.
My saving graces are my husband, who does little cheers for my ovaries (no joke, I love that man!), my sister-in-law who has been trying longer than me and my Mom.
Come on body, please cooperate!

 

[babybemine]

My vent is that I'm tired of seeing women in the TTC#1 monthly testing threads that already have a child/children.

totally agree! it is NOT the same! and in all honesty, it can't be that bad if you already have one, come on...

I would disagree. Hard is hard no matter when it occurs.
I do agree that they should not be in TTC#1 pages though

 

[innerlaner]

cntrygrl was not venting about women trying for more children, just that they are in the TTC#1, which they are not. Hard is hard, but it's harder when you're childless. No one calls you mom, painful to attend baby showers, birthday parties, etc.

My vent for today is "girls" posting their pregnancy pictures on facebook. Ultrasounds fine -- pictures of your belly down to the pubic hair line -- gross!

 

[cntrygrl]

Some people have no online etiquette. I had clicked on a friend of a friends page and her cover photo was her breastfeeding her child up close & personal. Like the pic was taken by her just holding it over her boob. I have no issues with breastfeeding. I just don't think it's proper for your boob to be your cover photo.

 

[BrollyDolly]

Just been on facebook to see yet another friend advertising her good news to everyone! Happy and upset in equal measures

 

[ReynoldsV]

I feel you ladies. Let me tell you about my facebook feed;

My 17 year old cousins girlfriends newborn.

My cousin who is pregnant (started trying right after me)

A friend who just gave birth

An 18 year old in my sisters class

One of my best friends

A girl that probably shouldn't have kids (She has a 1 year old. Been with this guy for a month, no good job, and overweight. Like 400 pounds. No joke) {not trying to be mean}

My uncle's wife who got pregnant on their wedding night

My friend from here( I love her posts though. She tried as long as me)

When will it end? Never. I guess the real question is, when will it be me?

Vent off my chest. I feel better.

 

[cntrygrl]

Venting always makes us feel a little better

 

[Amelia8083]

I am so glad that I found this thread! Well, after enduring one co-worker being pregnant and having her baby all while I have been ttc for going on 2 yrs soon, I just found out another coworker was pregnant today. Made her big announcement at lunch and I should be happy for her but I'm not and this is why. She dropped her insurance months ago....said she couldn't afford it. Then told a couple of us that she was going to try and get pregnant just for the medical coverage!! She is also a binge drinker, smoker and has a boyfriend but also gets a little action on the side sometimes. And then today she admitted that she was going to make a dr. appt. and just tell them that she has ovary pain so that they run tests and tell her that she is pregnant, she thinks she will get maternity insurance that way, you know, if she is dishonest and acts like she didn't know she was pregnant. And she isn't going to mention that she has a live in boyfriend because she wants them to see how poor she is and go by her income alone. I am disgusted and heartbroken. Don't even know how I got through the day. Had a crying jag at lunch over the phone with my mom. It's just not fair

 

[flagirlie7]

I feel your pain! It really bothers me that all these girls get pregnant without even thinking, so obviously they have no insurance. Next thing you know, they are on Medicaid (ok, one got fired from my job, but she was 19, whatever, the other girl is a bartender, come on)... While I have been having a good insurance that covers maternity for ages, costs me arm and a leg, basically I am paying for other women having children, yet my own does not cover infertility... People who say they can't afford insurance, well, how can they afford children??

 

[Amelia8083]

I feel your pain! It really bothers me that all these girls get pregnant without even thinking, so obviously they have no insurance. Next thing you know, they are on Medicaid (ok, one got fired from my job, but she was 19, whatever, the other girl is a bartender, come on)... While I have been having a good insurance that covers maternity for ages, costs me arm and a leg, basically I am paying for other women having children, yet my own does not cover infertility... People who say they can't afford insurance, well, how can they afford children??

Exactly what I was thinking! She can't afford her insurance so she decides to bring a helpless little life into the world, knowing darn well that she can barely provide for herself. grrrr. I know there must be some women who genuinely don't see it coming...... but when you admit you did it on purpose don't expect my sympathy. I work hard to keep my insurance and now I will have to pay for hers too. Feels so good to get that all out!

 

[Fizzyfefe]

I feel your pain! It really bothers me that all these girls get pregnant without even thinking, so obviously they have no insurance. Next thing you know, they are on Medicaid (ok, one got fired from my job, but she was 19, whatever, the other girl is a bartender, come on)... While I have been having a good insurance that covers maternity for ages, costs me arm and a leg, basically I am paying for other women having children, yet my own does not cover infertility... People who say they can't afford insurance, well, how can they afford children??

Exactly what I was thinking! She can't afford her insurance so she decides to bring a helpless little life into the world, knowing darn well that she can barely provide for herself. grrrr. I know there must be some women who genuinely don't see it coming...... but when you admit you did it on purpose don't expect my sympathy. I work hard to keep my insurance and now I will have to pay for hers too. Feels so good to get that all out!

It's a messed up system we have here. A hard-working person or couple who wants to have a baby must bust their asses to even put food on the table, but cannot afford health insurance; but as soon as a woman becomes pregnant, the government goes crazy trying to help. They give free prenatal care, food stamps, and postpartum care. As a result, the woman doesn't have to work and can continue to live off the government for years. I have seen it first hand and it makes me want to tear my hair out, and then write a strongly worded letter to the government.

Thank God for Obamacare.

 

[babybemine]

Random vent.....I am tired of all the complainers on social media's. The ...."life sucks I woke up this morning and kid spilled milk and had gum in hair. Or I stepped in a puddle before work. I am not the best at having a positive attitude but I try not to tell everyone I bump into about it. Everyone has a bad day now and then but when it happens everyday.....you might want to see a doc about receiving some counseling or some happy pills. Life sucks sometimes but someone somewhere has it worse and what you actually do have is a blessing that someone else is without.

 

[m4e]

to my mother:

STOP! STOP! STOP telling me that i dont need a baby right now! STOP telling me to wait to have kids! STOP acting like having a baby is the worst most tragic life ruining thing that could ever happen to me. I am happily married, and financially stable and i dont ask you for a damn thing, so please tell me how you've come to the conclusion that you even have a say in this matter? and for the love of GOD, when people ask ME about MY plans to have kids STOP butting in and cutting me off saying "Shes waiting at least five years for that," because i dont know where the hell you heard that insane idea, and then you have the nerve to add insult to injury by turning to me and saying "Right?" in that annoying uppity fake voice you put on whenever we're around people you feel the need to impress. Because while i might mumble around and change the subject or give some half ass beauty pageant answer at the moment, what i really want to say is "NO! NOT RIGHT! and since everybody feels the need to put my reproductive system in spotlight how about this- i have PCOS and might not be able to have these 'children' of which you speak. so as a matter of fact I AM trying to get pregnant right now, to no avail by the way. and it kills me everyday that my body cant perform the one task it was actually made to do! and ignorant buttholes like you dont make it any easier with your rude questions and assumptions!!"

Very late reply (new to the board and just scrolling through), but oh my god, I know how you feel! I'm so scared to tell my grandma who I am very close to, because I KNOW she would tell me it's a good thing and that I don't need kids, as if that IN ANY WAY would make it better. She acts like having babies is the worst thing in the world.

 

[m4e]

Random vent.....I am tired of all the complainers on social media's. The ...."life sucks I woke up this morning and kid spilled milk and had gum in hair. Or I stepped in a puddle before work. I am not the best at having a positive attitude but I try not to tell everyone I bump into about it. Everyone has a bad day now and then but when it happens everyday.....you might want to see a doc about receiving some counseling or some happy pills. Life sucks sometimes but someone somewhere has it worse and what you actually do have is a blessing that someone else is without.

I feel that way ALL THE TIME. I hear my friends or random people complain about how hard it is to be a parent and blah blah blah. I know it's "hard" but at least you ARE a parent. Or the well, "Get your sleep while you still can, once you have kids you won't get any." I DON'T CARE. I'd rather have no sleep and a baby.
And can I just say the most frustrating thing in the world is all the people around me keep accidentally getting pregnant. WTH???? My husband's cousin has gotten pregnant THREE times none of which she was planning. And one of my best friends has gotten pregnant TWICE while on birth continue WITHIN the three years we have been TRYING. Both she was in such denial she barely even admitted she was pregnant until she was almost 6 months along!

 

[MegBV]

Today I thought I was finally going to get my bfp. We've been trying to conceive baby#1 for 8 months with no luck. I really thought we had it this month, until today, when af showed up. I had sooo many symptoms, I really thought this was it! It didn't help that my sister skype called me, with my 2 year old niece, to tell me that "mommy's having a baby!". So a big yey to my sister who got pregnant, first try, yet again. I don't want to sound rude, I really do love being an aunt. But when's it going to be my turn? I love how our conversation ended with "now you really need to get pregnant". She doesn't know that we've been trying. I think I'm going to absolutely loose it on someone this Christmas...especially now that my sister is preg with baby 2. Is that terrible?

 

[babybemine]

Today I thought I was finally going to get my bfp. We've been trying to conceive baby#1 for 8 months with no luck. I really thought we had it this month, until today, when af showed up. I had sooo many symptoms, I really thought this was it! It didn't help that my sister skype called me, with my 2 year old niece, to tell me that "mommy's having a baby!". So a big yey to my sister who got pregnant, first try, yet again. I don't want to sound rude, I really do love being an aunt. But when's it going to be my turn? I love how our conversation ended with "now you really need to get pregnant". She doesn't know that we've been trying. I think I'm going to absolutely loose it on someone this Christmas...especially now that my sister is preg with baby 2. Is that terrible?

I can't stand sitting in my 2ww completely sure that this is the month because all the symptoms are there. There was implantation spotting and gas and whatever other symptom spotting I could find and yet BFN or AF.

Tired of putting on a happy face when all I wanna do is cry out.

TTC is supposed to be fun. As a newlywed I am supposed to be like crazy and then "Oh wow we are pregos baby" is supposed to come out of it. None of this testing OPK and infertility doctors was supposed to be apart of it.

 

[babybemine]

Random vent.....I am tired of all the complainers on social media's. The ...."life sucks I woke up this morning and kid spilled milk and had gum in hair. Or I stepped in a puddle before work. I am not the best at having a positive attitude but I try not to tell everyone I bump into about it. Everyone has a bad day now and then but when it happens everyday.....you might want to see a doc about receiving some counseling or some happy pills. Life sucks sometimes but someone somewhere has it worse and what you actually do have is a blessing that someone else is without.

 

[MamaTex]

Perhaps this is insensitive of me to say, but I am freaking tired of women TTC #2 or #3 complaining about not being able to "complete their family." I understand that TTC can be a trying journey for anyone, whether they have no children, just one, or freaking 4 but it irks me, just a little! I want to shout "Well at least you have one (or more)" but I know that is rude. Still.....

I try to step outside of myself and realize that women who have been trying for years would look at me and think "You miscarried but at least you got pregnant and have a chance to be pregnant." I can't imagine how hard it is for them, considering I don't have any fertility issues at the moment or that I am aware of.

My other pet peeve today are all these women asking if they are pregnant because their periods are late but they haven't tested. Really????