Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[tamithomas]

wish people would stop thinking teens cannot have children.

It depends. If they have their life together and finished school then awesome, the ones that are mentioned on here are mainly the not finished high school still living at mom and dad's who get bfp at a sneeze even though they are by no means ready to be parents. Those are the ones we vent about on here.

 

[MissyLissy]

I wish my RE would listen to me. I know my body. I was right about three things they got wrong this cycle:

1. I knew CD10 was too early to check my follicles. They insisted which only resulted in an extra $250 ultrasound for me on CD13 because my CD10 follicles weren't mature yet. No shit...I tried to tell them this.

2. I KNEW when I saw that I had two follicles at 17mm and 16mm on CD13 that I would ovulate soon on my own. They insisted neither was mature and I should wait to trigger on CD15. Guess who was right? Me. I detected my natural surge with OPKs the night of my CD13 ultrasound...something the nurse told me would be "impossible."

3. I KNEW when I got the positive OPK on CD13, I should have gone in on CD14 for the IUI... But no...RE insisted on CD15 just because I detected my LH surge late in the day on CD13. HELLO? That's just when I tested, who knows when it started. But she insisted...and I felt major ovulation pains on CD14 (last night) with a major temp spike this morning on CD15. Went in for my IUI today a good 12-14 hours AFTER I ovulated because my RE wouldn't listen to my concerns. Plus, we didn't even BD yesterday to help with DH's sample! So sad right now.

I'm only 1dpo and I already feel like all the meds and waiting and hoping this month were for nothing. Not to mention the money. Another $1,000 and another month wasted. Next month they are doing my cycle my way. I'm sick of these "expert" opinions about my body...just seems like guess work and then they cash my check.


I HATE THAT I HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS!

 

[MissyLissy]

Also, I cannot take Facebook! Jesus, I get it.... You all have beautiful babies and families and your lives are perfect and you didn't know the meaning of life until you all became parents. Way to kick someone when they are down

I seriously haven't posted hardly anything on FB in like a year... I just feel so left behind and like why would all of these mothers and fathers even care about my childless posts.

 

[Jett55]

Ugg a friend of mine just sent me a pic of her bfp woow she lives at home & the ex bf also a friend says It's not his. God please tell me why ppl like this get blessed with bfps? Why are you sucha fan of single motherhood but won't let couples who are trying conceive? & why oh why is it people with no jobs no house & are in no way shape or form in the position to have baby?....

 

[Jessbey]

So today is my birthday, I m to start on Tuesday. This is the official one year mark of trying, or so I think. We were NTNP till November so some might count that. I ended up two weeks late in Feb/March and had to take medicine to kick start my cycle again and it jacked me all up. Was only having two week cycles, I am finally at 25 day cycles now. I was really hoping this was it but today, once again on my birthday, went to the bathroom and spotting, so I am starting on my birthday. Mother nature had to send a gift. I have been very positive this whole year, my hubs and I have kept things lite and stress free. I want my baby, I really don't want to go to the doctor and take meds so I am looking into some more natural ways. Maybe this is implantation? I really hope so, I had great feelings this cycle but no there is some spotting. Not the gift I wanted.

I just.... I just want what everyone on here wants. I want my little miracle, my bundle of joy. Tired of seeing people become parents who shouldn't be. I work at a Children's Hospital, I see so much good and bad those who should never be near children. Yet I see so many people who should be parents and can't or get them taken away from them. I just don't understand.

My vent.

 

[nic18]

wish people would stop thinking teens cannot have children.

It depends. If they have their life together and finished school then awesome, the ones that are mentioned on here are mainly the not finished high school still living at mom and dad's who get bfp at a sneeze even though they are by no means ready to be parents. Those are the ones we vent about on here.

sorry that wasn't a vent at you! I had just finished listening to a women on tv saying how ridiculous it was for children having children, when the girl she was talking about was doing great.
feel your pain though, girls I went to school with fell pregnant at a sneeze and are now on their 2nd or 3rd child.

 

[Bordeaux]

I am married with a house and would say as long as you have a kid and are committed for the right reasons then your ready. A teen mum who puts a kid first is ten times better then any mum not caring for children. I was raised by a teen mom and she was amazing. Wish every child had great parents but sadly the world is not so

 

[AlyCon]

Got into a HUGE fight with my husband. And he said the worst possible thing to me! He said "I'm going to get another girl pregnant, a girl who can ACTUALLY GET PREGNANT!" And he went on to say that he resents me for not being pregnant yet and that I should have told him about my pcos before he married me (which I did but that's not the point). When I confronted him about it later he wouldn't even apologize saying "you know where I was coming from when I said that" honestly I don't care where he was coming from there's no excuse to say that to your wife!

My heart is broken into a million pieces. I seriously just wish I would die already. What's the point of me even being here when I'm never going to be a mom, my marriage is falling apart, and I can't even remember the last time I was truly happy. I believe in god but right now my faith is being tested. Why put me on earth just to torture me?!!! Just take me away already!!!

 

[Mumtodogs]

AlyCon - that is just a TERRIBLE inexcusable thing for a husband to say to his wife. I'm sorry, but I'm livid on your behalf. I'm sorry I can't comment too much on it, because I don't think you would like what I'd have to say, and it's easy for me to sit here and pass judgement, but if it was me I'd be packing my bags to stay at friends and family for a week or 2.... He said he about getting somebody else pregnant? That's just mean and hurtful and actually quite evil.

Grrrr..... The rest of your message really worried me. We've never chatted before but I wanted to send you a cyber hug. It sounds like you're going through a really crap time, but please remember all things pass, your not alone and there is us lot here to vent too.

Do you have somebody you can chat to? You said you have faith, are you part of a church? I really feel you need to give yourself some TLC and focus on your energy at the moment.

Cyber cuddles from Yorkshire x

 

[tamithomas]

Got into a HUGE fight with my husband. And he said the worst possible thing to me! He said "I'm going to get another girl pregnant, a girl who can ACTUALLY GET PREGNANT!" And he went on to say that he resents me for not being pregnant yet and that I should have told him about my pcos before he married me (which I did but that's not the point). When I confronted him about it later he wouldn't even apologize saying "you know where I was coming from when I said that" honestly I don't care where he was coming from there's no excuse to say that to your wife!

My heart is broken into a million pieces. I seriously just wish I would die already. What's the point of me even being here when I'm never going to be a mom, my marriage is falling apart, and I can't even remember the last time I was truly happy. I believe in god but right now my faith is being tested. Why put me on earth just to torture me?!!! Just take me away already!!!

OMG AlyCon, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. No DH should EVER put their wife in that position. That would definitely be a cause for a split for a while if that were me if not permanently.

I'm sorry you feel that way right now, I know it sounds very cheesy but it gets better. Maybe seeing a professional could be a good resource for you?

 

[Diddy2013]

Got into a HUGE fight with my husband. And he said the worst possible thing to me! He said "I'm going to get another girl pregnant, a girl who can ACTUALLY GET PREGNANT!" And he went on to say that he resents me for not being pregnant yet and that I should have told him about my pcos before he married me (which I did but that's not the point). When I confronted him about it later he wouldn't even apologize saying "you know where I was coming from when I said that" honestly I don't care where he was coming from there's no excuse to say that to your wife!

My heart is broken into a million pieces. I seriously just wish I would die already. What's the point of me even being here when I'm never going to be a mom, my marriage is falling apart, and I can't even remember the last time I was truly happy. I believe in god but right now my faith is being tested. Why put me on earth just to torture me?!!! Just take me away already!!!

I've been very hard on myself recently, constantly, not talking to anyone about it. I had a boarderline meltdown last night. This broke my heart, I know if I heard that I probably wouldn't be out of bed this morning. I feel like we put enough pressure and stress on ourselves without anyone else helping. I am very sorry he said that to you.

 

[tamithomas]

Woke up from a dream that I had 10 different kinds of tests on the kitchen table and they were all bfp only to wake up with the reminder I have have af right now. fml

 

[nic18]

alycon that's awful what your husband said, I hope he apologised soon after

tami I get dreams like that all the time, they are so shit. kick in the face from your head

 

[Jett55]

Wow my sister told me the only way a girl can get pregnant is if the guy & girl get off at the same time. Um myth from hell can't believe she's stupid enough to believe that crap.

 

[nic18]

jett what does she thinks to women who can't get off haha

 

[ashntony]

i am over this shit. why is it that i cant get fucking pregnant? what is wrong with my body? i cant even have a regular period? i am sick of crying and waiting for my bfp.

 

[Sam10]

Ash I'm right there with you.

Starting my second month with opks. Didn't get a positive the first time. I have little faith. Which is not what I need. I need to be positive but I'm depressed and anyone who has dealt with depression knows that it's a struggle to just get out of bed most days. My entire life is an uphill battle at the moment.

A friend of mine from high school had her second child a few hours ago. I can not bring myself to even be happy for her. Which makes me feel like a giant bitch. I just want to know what it feels like to see your child for the first time. It must be so exciting. I'm afraid I'll never experience that.

 

[VP1228]

Ash I'm right there with you.

Starting my second month with opks. Didn't get a positive the first time. I have little faith. Which is not what I need. I need to be positive but I'm depressed and anyone who has dealt with depression knows that it's a struggle to just get out of bed most days. My entire life is an uphill battle at the moment.

A friend of mine from high school had her second child a few hours ago. I can not bring myself to even be happy for her. Which makes me feel like a giant bitch. I just want to know what it feels like to see your child for the first time. It must be so exciting. I'm afraid I'll never experience that.

I didn't get a "real" positive the whole 6 months that I used opks. But I always bd when I was getting a dark test lines but not darker than the control lines. I would say just bd as soon as your period stops every other day since ovulation can be late or early. I am no expert but I would like to give you advice that my obgyn gave me when I was having trouble.

 

[mapletulip]

Every month my body gives me pg symptoms I have never had before, only to slam a few BFN's in my face. 8DPO today.....BB's hurt, blood when brushing teeth, crazy acid reflux this week.....it would be easier to have NO symptoms whatsoever. sigh.

 

[MiniMuffins]

Every month my body gives me pg symptoms I have never had before, only to slam a few BFN's in my face. 8DPO today.....BB's hurt, blood when brushing teeth, crazy acid reflux this week.....it would be easier to have NO symptoms whatsoever. sigh.

I know. I can't even believe my bloody imagination and how it's screwing with me. I've never even had bad PMS in my life, and in these 6 months TTC I have had everything you could even imagine, and not a nibble of a BFP. I really hate you, you stupid body!