Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[tamithomas]

Af should be here tomorrow... typical. Doc appt is finally set up on the 25th. Hopefully we get the ball rolling and see what`s going on with my ovulation issues.

GL!

 

[safiyaadams93]

Hello every 1. well im 21 years old. and i have been ttc for 2 months . i was diagnosed for pcos. plz help me

 

[safiyaadams93]

. Dont worry everythng wil go alright

 

[safiyaadams93]

Hi does clomid really work.

 

[PrayingLady]

go ahead lining of my uterus.... Just go right on and shed again this month like you have the other 30 freaking cycles!

No need to worry about there being a bean implanted in there because i can't freaking get pregnant obviously even though nobody can find a freaking issue with us...

So go ahead

ahh brittany! You sound like i feel! My sodding lining with shred too next week. Blah this is sooo rubbish ! Xx

exactly how i feel!

 

[Jamers89]

I hate that my 20 year old friend is pregnant with her 2nd baby. They have never had to "try" to get pregnant, it just happens. I am almost 25, and am still TTC my 1st! This friend has a rocky marriage at best, and always complains that her husband never helps with the baby, and that they are not financially secure enough for this baby. My husband and I both have good jobs, we have some money in the bank, we have a solid marriage, and we desperately want this baby. So why does she get a BFP and we get the BFN? It doesn't seem fair!

 

[Miss_Kate]

Still trying to conceive #1, cannot believe it's gone on this long. Albeit I have not done everything I could every single month... still no reason it should be taking this long. I'm just so damn frustrated.

 

[brinbrin]

Hi all, I'm fairly new to the forums, but we've been TTC#1 for a year now, with no luck. I definitely feel like venting!
I'm 33, my husband is 39.

Currently on CD4, AF got me (2 days late, just so I got my hopes up!) on Friday.

I'm at the point where it makes me incredibly depressed to hear of friends falling pregnant again and again, with not so much as a whiff of effort. And of course the obligatory question: "so when are you having one? You'd better hurry up!".

We have a new nephew, who I adore, but it pains me to hear my entire family speak of nothing but the baby non-stop. They don't know we are struggling to conceive, so it's not their fault, but I'm at the point where I try to avoid certain people so I won't have to listen to their baby/pregnancy stories.

We have a Dr appointment next Monday to see if anything in particular is preventing us falling pregnant.

Fingers crossed for a BFP for us all, and thanks for letting me vent!

 

[Kallie3000]

Just had my 27th birthday. I was expecting to be pregnant by Christmas. Definitely wasn't expecting to be on my 8th cycle. Every month I think a little bit less about how I'll tell my family, or how my husband will know.. instead just thinking things like "don't get too excited" or "try not to let it wreck your week".

 

[ashntony]

AF came 3 days early. Which is OK.. What I am about to vent about is not necessarily TTC but it is closely related...

I am on this new diet which I can only consume about 1500 calories a day... l have been going to the gym which i love but... i have to loose 120 pounds... How in the hell! My body refuses to loose weight! If I hadn't let myself. get so large then i would have had no issues getting pregnant like th. e fucking twits around me. "It was an accident" "I don't even want it" "i wish i could dronk" "i hope it isnt a girl" FUCK You! Fuck you! Fuck you! What the fuck do you think happens when you don't use fucking protection! "I thought you could only get pregnant on your period!". Are you fucking stupid? Dear God I hope your newborn will be adle to depend on itself! Because you apparently aware not capable! Then what I hate most are how they use the pregnancy to get out of work. Bitch please I do not feel sorry for your ass. I would absolutely fucking love to take all of the symptoms just to feel my baby move. I would love to hear its fucking heart beat and show pictures of the ultra sound to my friends and family. I would love to see my husbands face when we find out the gender... but no for some reason a higher power found you to be a more suitable parent than I.... so I sincerely hope you her your shit together and realize the wonderful fucking gift you have before its to late..... I do hope that one day because of your actions you have the chance to learn that infertility fucking sucks. I hope you get to be in my shoes.....

I am sorry for all of the foul language but I had t her it offa my chest....

 

[Jamers89]

AF came 3 days early. Which is OK.. What I am about to vent about is not necessarily TTC but it is closely related...

I am on this new diet which I can only consume about 1500 calories a day... l have been going to the gym which i love but... i have to loose 120 pounds... How in the hell! My body refuses to loose weight! If I hadn't let myself. get so large then i would have had no issues getting pregnant like th. e fucking twits around me. "It was an accident" "I don't even want it" "i wish i could dronk" "i hope it isnt a girl" FUCK You! Fuck you! Fuck you! What the fuck do you think happens when you don't use fucking protection! "I thought you could only get pregnant on your period!". Are you fucking stupid? Dear God I hope your newborn will be adle to depend on itself! Because you apparently aware not capable! Then what I hate most are how they use the pregnancy to get out of work. Bitch please I do not feel sorry for your ass. I would absolutely fucking love to take all of the symptoms just to feel my baby move. I would love to hear its fucking heart beat and show pictures of the ultra sound to my friends and family. I would love to see my husbands face when we find out the gender... but no for some reason a higher power found you to be a more suitable parent than I.... so I sincerely hope you her your shit together and realize the wonderful fucking gift you have before its to late..... I do hope that one day because of your actions you have the chance to learn that infertility fucking sucks. I hope you get to be in my shoes.....

I am sorry for all of the foul language but I had t her it offa my chest....

You literally took the thoughts right out of my head. I know a few girls who got pregnant to draw more welfare money, or to "get back at" an ex. WTF??!?!?!?! Those are not reasons to have babies. And they didn't have to try either, they just decided and POOF!, baby! Then great ladies, like everyone here, who are dying to be mothers, struggle and fall apart every month when it doesn't happen. It is so ridiculous.

 

[lady124]

So, all my colleagues I have lunch with are pregnant or have children. I am changing jobs internally soon, and we started discussing yesterday when I will come back to my current role. Someone said: "oh, you may not come back, ' cause you will decide to have a baby and go on maternity leave". Thankfully, I was having a good day, so I smiled and changed topic, but I am seriously considering that next time I will give a reply along the lines of: " if I could have children I would have already". Don't want to be nasty or discuss private affairs with people I am not that close with, but I am afraid that if one of these jokes catches me on a bad day, I may burst into tears...

On another matter, I had a progesterone test at 5 dpo, with positive results for ovulation, prolactin is high but in the normal range... However, 10 dpo today, BFN. Argh

 

[lady124]

Waiting for AF to get me. It got me the other 30 th months or so. Why do I put myself through this waiting hell. Oh yeah... Because you just never know do you.

Yep, know the feeling...

 

[Chameleon]

My vent for the day is that there is a ton of support and discussion about the two week wait (which I totally use and need).. but what about the time between getting AF and when you know you are even remotely fertile again? I am starting to think of this as the "Barren Wasteland Week" and feeling super down and grumpy and bitter about all the OVERWHELMING amount of pregnancy and fertility surrounding me. BLARGH

Rant over.

YES, thank you. This first two weeks is soooo frustrating...more frustrating than the last two weeks because at least then you can hope that "maybe!" But between period and O it's just "welp, failed again, just have to wait and wait before there's even a possibility that it will work".

 

[Kallie3000]

Second cycle in a row where I am traveling for work for the day before, day of, and day after of O date. Feel like my life is being put on hold for a job, and because of stupid chance and timing. So frustrating.

 

[Kallie3000]

My vent for the day is that there is a ton of support and discussion about the two week wait (which I totally use and need).. but what about the time between getting AF and when you know you are even remotely fertile again? I am starting to think of this as the "Barren Wasteland Week" and feeling super down and grumpy and bitter about all the OVERWHELMING amount of pregnancy and fertility surrounding me. BLARGH

Rant over.

YES, thank you. This first two weeks is soooo frustrating...more frustrating than the last two weeks because at least then you can hope that "maybe!" But between period and O it's just "welp, failed again, just have to wait and wait before there's even a possibility that it will work".

Exactly! That sense of failure is so horrible. I try not to take it personally, but...

 

[ranz]

ok!!! I 'm going crazy :'( I am in the TWW phase and i can't handle the stress! We've been TTC for a few months now with no luck. and with my irregular periods things are harder this cycle i believe we timed it right, but the wait is killing me ,, i just want to know to move on but waiting is torture, and i have no one to talk to about this. I don't know what to do (( i keep reading articles trying of i can know sooner but almost everything says i need to wait for at least 7-10 days, and this is still the 2nd day i can't function and i feel stressed out and i think i am entering a panic/anxirty mood....

 

[Kallie3000]

ok!!! I 'm going crazy :'( I am in the TWW phase and i can't handle the stress! We've been TTC for a few months now with no luck. and with my irregular periods things are harder this cycle i believe we timed it right, but the wait is killing me ,, i just want to know to move on but waiting is torture, and i have no one to talk to about this. I don't know what to do (( i keep reading articles trying of i can know sooner but almost everything says i need to wait for at least 7-10 days, and this is still the 2nd day i can't function and i feel stressed out and i think i am entering a panic/anxirty mood....

I definitely know how you feel! My advice is to:

a) Take a deep breath, and let it all out to your closest friend, or US on this forum! We will always listen, and totally know how you feel and share it.

b) If you need to distract yourself, do it. Go to movies, take up a hobby. If you need to start testing early and as often as you want, do that. Do WHATEVER makes you actually feel better.

c) If you are starting to really get upset or down or depressed or anxious, you might want to talk to a counsellor - sometimes it is REALLY hard to deal with all this TTC crap, and I know I'm booking myself an appointment next week to talk to someone who is paid to listen!



I know this is the rant section not the advice section, but my rant could have totally sounded like yours, so I wanted to pipe up!!!

 

[ranz]

I definitely know how you feel! My advice is to:

a) Take a deep breath, and let it all out to your closest friend, or US on this forum! We will always listen, and totally know how you feel and share it.

b) If you need to distract yourself, do it. Go to movies, take up a hobby. If you need to start testing early and as often as you want, do that. Do WHATEVER makes you actually feel better.

c) If you are starting to really get upset or down or depressed or anxious, you might want to talk to a counsellor - sometimes it is REALLY hard to deal with all this TTC crap, and I know I'm booking myself an appointment next week to talk to someone who is paid to listen!



I know this is the rant section not the advice section, but my rant could have totally sounded like yours, so I wanted to pipe up!!!

Thanks so much for replying , I need someone to talk to me !!
It's just that for so long I wasn't sure that I wanted kids, and now that I want them it's not happening! How ironic is that?!
I'm usually the tough person and I hold things in, I don't talk or complain much. I don't even know why I'm bursting out in this cycle! It's been almost a year with bfn and each month I handled well, but this month I feel I could cry at any sec, my heart is beating fast all the time and I feel I'm suffocating (
I know many women are in my shoes or even worse, and I'm trying to calm my self but it's just going out of my control!

 

[Kallie3000]

I used to be HYPER-obsessive about birth control and making sure I didn't get pregnant, and now it is completely the opposite. I've wanted to have kids for years, now that I'm with my DH, but wanted to wait until after my exams were done and I got my professional designation. I sort of wish I'd started sooner (but not really) but now that it is taking this long I realize that it was a little crazy to think that you MUST get pregnant the moment you don't take birth control... ha ha, isn't that silly...