Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[RainbowBaby13]

Hey ladies..
Just came across this site and I thought why not I'll join!
This morning I'm very frustrated.. So I feel like I need to vent and possibly read some people's stories..
So the last 3 months my period was coming on or near the same time.. However this month I was 10 days late .. After taking some tests and getting a negative reading I still had hope. However I woke up this morning and surprise I got my lady thing ( you know what I mean) I was 10 days late so I was hoping. My husband and I have been trying for 2 months.. I haven't been on the pill in a long while. Now I know stress is a big factor when trying to conceive. I have been getting bad migraines and that doesn't help however I'm so frustrated. Now I'm wondering when are ovulation days? Bc this Month I was 10 days late.I'm usually done my period by now. I'm just confused I'm nervous annoyed it's not fun! Anyways sorry for the rant but would love to talk to people who are experiencing this.
Ps- I think I posted in the wrong section at first sorry new member!

have you tried ovulation predictor kits?

 

[nerdybird]

Hi everyone.

I'm new to this site and this is my first time ttc. I'm feeling really powerless and really pessimistic because I've had every single pregnancy symptom under the sun as a symptom of PMS so all I can do is sit here and wait and be tortured by my "symptoms". I feel like I'm going crazy. I can't think about anything else. I've tried watching movies and doing other things but my mind always drifts back to the same place. I don't have anyone to talk to about it because most of my friends are younger and in school and get weirded out when I start talking about wanting to get pregnant. My partner is being very avoidant of the whole subject too even though he's my accomplice in this whole scenario. It's so frustrating!!! I feel so alone!! It feels a little better to have joined this site so at least I can get it out and stop feeling like I'm the only woman on the planet who wants to have kids.

 

[curiousowl]

I'm probably a bad person but the posts on the BFP forum that say "hope for" whomever (people who were on birth control/people with pcos/etc) drive me completely crazy. Um, no. Your BFP does not give me hope or whatever. I'd probably be really happy for you if I knew you but just because something went right for doesn't mean my biology is the same. At all.

It's minor. But ugh. I find it so irritating.

(I swear I'm not going in there then getting angry. This is just the thread titles I see scrolling past.)

 

[RainbowBaby13]

I know what u mean because I hate when people post their bfps in this thread.. Not that I am not happy for them but I feel like with this being a vent thread that's something that's really sensitive to some ladies here

 

[crayons]

Yet another Facebook announcement...

While watching a tv episode which centers around a pregnancy announcement...

After a whole weekend spending extended periods of time with "accidental" babies and their mothers who are planning the next one no problem...

While being asked by grandparents when I would have one. They don't have too much time left, you know...

I am just winning at life over here right now.

 

[Fellowes79]

Crayons- you just described my life perfectly. I even get to go to a baby shower this weekend. (Which is lovely, I'm just jealous)

 

[Kallie3000]

It wasn't bugging me at all before, but it is starting to get to me when people ask "So, when are you and [DH] going to have kids?"

Like, what do I say to that? "Turns out it isn't as easy as they tell you in highschool, HA HA HA".

I just got invited to my 10 year reunion for high school. Talk about making you think about life! I would love to be round and pregnant for that, but even if I got pregnant this month, I'd only be barely ending the first trimester in June. Damn!

 

[carolineh]

So, I am one of those people who thought getting pregnant would be easy and no big deal. My husband and I have not been trying that long, but I am just so scared that there is something wrong with me and that I am incapable of this.... for some reason i do not question whether the issue could be with him.... hmmmm....
I know the whole God's timing etc... but it is hard to be patient and trust that we will be able to have a baby. I look at my friends that supposedly were not trying (no charting, no stressing over O day, CM etc) yet they DTD so rarely (they can count on 1 hand annually) and poof they are due this summer... what in the world?
Ok, I did a very good job ranting. If only it were productive and did something for me.....

 

[carolineh]

... oh forgot to mention, and I am planning her baby shower.

 

[ashntony]

Still hanging in here... Did not realize that I am already on CD24... Most of this cycle I missed my Fertilaid do to me not being able to afford it.... And now I am just waiting for ovulation or my next af...

 

[dreamingmom]

Hey ladies..
Just came across this site and I thought why not I'll join!
This morning I'm very frustrated.. So I feel like I need to vent and possibly read some people's stories..
So the last 3 months my period was coming on or near the same time.. However this month I was 10 days late .. After taking some tests and getting a negative reading I still had hope. However I woke up this morning and surprise I got my lady thing ( you know what I mean) I was 10 days late so I was hoping. My husband and I have been trying for 2 months.. I haven't been on the pill in a long while. Now I know stress is a big factor when trying to conceive. I have been getting bad migraines and that doesn't help however I'm so frustrated. Now I'm wondering when are ovulation days? Bc this Month I was 10 days late.I'm usually done my period by now. I'm just confused I'm nervous annoyed it's not fun! Anyways sorry for the rant but would love to talk to people who are experiencing this.
Ps- I think I posted in the wrong section at first sorry new member!

Hi Bruins girl,

The best way to tell your ovulation days is with ovulation predictor kits, the one I use is suppose to tell you 48 hours before you ovulate to give you a good window. But, if you want to become more familiar with your cycle for cheaper, I suggest using a basal thermometer and charting your waking temps. Your temps will be lower before O and higher after O. There are a lot of great apps to help you keep track and tons of info on the web. This method won't let you know when you are about to ovulate though, it just tells you when you have ovulated and you can use this info to see what your bodies patterns are. Also, if your temp stays up for 18 days you are most likely pregnant. I like this method because after a few months I learned my bodies pattern and I use the ovulation kit a few days before I would usually O. This helps me save money on predictor kits because I only need to use 2-3 out of the 20 each month. Hope that helps.

 

[Bordeaux]

Vent: hate that everything I read or watch about fertility tips etc ends in " please buy the package to see the rest..."

 

[mariemongrain]

I understand you. I have been TTC #1 for 20 months now and my cycles are just all over the place. When I think I may be pregnant because my periods are late by 10 days, they show up. Then the next month, they will be 10 days shorter. After that for a few of them they will be on average 33-34 days. So one month I think I am pregnant because I started spotting 10 days earlier than normal (usually 2 days before my periods), then the next I think I am pregnant because they don't show up. I am comfy with it not happening some month, but come on body, stop screwing with me. So frustrating. Also, the Facebook thing is also happening to me. I swear that int he past 2 months, there has been either a pregnancy announcement or a new born announcement, once a week. And yesterday it was both in the same 30 seconds. I open my page, my friend got her baby and the next post is my other friend is pregnant. I mean come on, just do it all in the same week so it's done!

 

[melodyy_mtb]

I've read through this thread many times but have never felt brave enough to actually post. I guess I didn't want to admit to feeling defeated or the possibility of there being problem. But I just couldn't hold it in today...

I'm single and ttc #1 with a known donor. My cycles are complete mess and my body just seems to laugh at me every month. When i started ttc and charting last year I found that my cycles were 40 days long but was reassured by doctors that it still relatively normal. Since then they've just gotten longer. I've tried all the herbal remedies under the sun. Not only are they getting longer but I've only been sure i o'd once in the last 8 months, I'm currently on cd55, last cycle was 60 days. I stupidly thought i was pregnant and that i actually o'd but my chart was wrong. It's so painful constantly seeing those bfns but having no af to relieve the pain

I get positive opks every month but never a temp rise, like some sick joke. It hurts that i only getto try every 2/3 months. Planning my inseminations perfectl,y only to find out i never even o'd. I've had so many blood tests i feel like a pin cushion. Been told i dont have pcos, then that i might have it, back to not having it. I keep asking the dr why they wont help me if im not o'ing, their answer was... more tests.

All the while it feels like the world is getting pregnant around me. Just saw another BFP this morning. I dont feel like a real woman, if that makes sense. I just want to feel my own baby growing inside me.

 

[RainbowBaby13]

I've read through this thread many times but have never felt brave enough to actually post. I guess I didn't want to admit to feeling defeated or the possibility of there being problem. But I just couldn't hold it in today...

I'm single and ttc #1 with a known donor. My cycles are complete mess and my body just seems to laugh at me every month. When i started ttc and charting last year I found that my cycles were 40 days long but was reassured by doctors that it still relatively normal. Since then they've just gotten longer. I've tried all the herbal remedies under the sun. Not only are they getting longer but I've only been sure i o'd once in the last 8 months, I'm currently on cd55, last cycle was 60 days. I stupidly thought i was pregnant and that i actually o'd but my chart was wrong. It's so painful constantly seeing those bfns but having no af to relieve the pain

I get positive opks every month but never a temp rise, like some sick joke. It hurts that i only getto try every 2/3 months. Planning my inseminations perfectl,y only to find out i never even o'd. I've had so many blood tests i feel like a pin cushion. Been told i dont have pcos, then that i might have it, back to not having it. I keep asking the dr why they wont help me if im not o'ing, their answer was... more tests.

All the while it feels like the world is getting pregnant around me. Just saw another BFP this morning. I dont feel like a real woman, if that makes sense. I just want to feel my own baby growing inside me.

you should vitamin b6 complex it helps regulate your cycles and lengthen luteal phase. it worked for me so hopefully it will work for you too goodluck hun xx

 

[melodyy_mtb]

Thanks hun. I actually started b complex a little while ago, maybe it just hasnt kicked in yet. xx

 

[RainbowBaby13]

your welcome hun. i know how you feel. my cycles after my chemical pregnancy were a mess. but opposite of yours. instead of getting longer they were getting shorter to the point i was having 2 periods a month. my shortest cycle being just 23 days. this is my first month starting opks and i thought i wasnt ovulating but thankfully i am. definitely stressful ttc

 

[tamithomas]

Wow, wow, wow..on a blog not related to BnB I just read someone call LTTC'ers "fertility psycho's". I can't gather the words of how much this ignorance enrages me. To boot, the person who called LTTC'ers such a disgusting name has a picture of him,2 kids and his wife.

 

[Rabdkitty]

Hello everyone. Woke up with the stark white strip this morning. We were pretty sure this would be our month but we think that every month. Apparently most of my symptoms seem to be mental. Technically, I'm only 9 dpo, and I know I should be more patient and give it a few more days...but the testing strips I'm using are pretty sensitive.
I had weight loss surgery after the doctor assured me it would increase my fertility dramatically. Made it to my goal weight, started ingesting fertility vitamins like mad and still nothing. Anyway sorry, rant over.

 

[ashntony]

I am on CD34 today... Still taking Fertilaid and I will say this month it has been much easier for meto get"wet".... On March 27th I had a very high libido... I mean I had to have sex.... However I don't know if I was ovulating... So starting on Cd1 for next cycle I will be temping...