Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[babymabey]

I logged onto facebook today to see pics of 3the friends' newborns, the announce of 2the friends and Kate Middleton's is every, and my brother's wife posted a pic of her U/S, she announced her pregancy a few weeks after my first miscarriage. This waiting is driving me nuts!!

 

[babybemine]

Tired of being invited to go party but AF is due so unknown if preggers and so no drinking and then AF shows after party over.

 

[tamithomas]

So you got pregnant accidently with no job and still living at your parents house? Please do ask me when it's my turn next like as if you were actually TTC....*eyeroll*

 

[Nazz4]

I'm starting to get really annoyed with all the pop-up ads on this site.

 

[tamithomas]

I'm starting to get really annoyed with all the pop-up ads on this site.

should talk to the mods about that, I'm sure they'd be glad to help out.

 

[AlyCon]

MY MOTHER JUST RUINED MY DAY!!

Some background info: My hubby is stationed in Germany (im in US) and im in the process of moving to be with him. And we plan to resume TTC as soon as i get there. In Oct. i slipped up and told my mom i wasnt on the pill and made up some BS excuse and was like ohh yea i ran out, i'll get it refilled soon.. (LIE) So anyways...
Here is the convo we just had over the phone. Im in black shes in blue!

Have you made an appointment to get back on your birth control?
Oh no I havent been to the doctors
Well you need to hurry up and get it done before you go
I'll probably just wait until i get there to do it (LIE)
I dont think you should take that chance! All it takes is one time for something to happen. And you need to protect yourself. where is your primary care?
They changed it to *hospital*
Well have *sister* take you. And if she cant then i can have *family friend* come pick you up at take you. You just need to get it so nothing happens once you're there. Promise me you'll do it
Mhmm..
You dont need that right now. You need to be able to travel and have fun and not be stuck with a baby. and *DH* might deploy. no you dont need that to happen before youre financially ready or ready in any way
Mhmm..
Make sure you get it done. I dont want to get a phone call in a few months saying anything crazy!
Mhmm..
Well ok i'll talk to you later. bye.
Bye



I probably left out a few things but yep, that's my dear old mother! This is the shit i have to deal with from her. Again im married, we have our own money, our own place, a new car, and money in the bank! How is that not ready? And if it only takes "one time" we would ALL have our BFPs and Bundles by now! But no, with PCOS it takes a hell of a lot more than "one time".

Now you all can see what i mean when i say she acts like me having a baby would be the end of the fucking world. I can understand she acts like that because she got knocked up in high school and never had a chance to "enjoy life" or whatever, but too bad so sad.. IM NOT HER! Im my own person and i can make my own choices! I dont need my mommy shoving birth control down my throat!

And btw that "I dont want to get a phone call" line ripped my fucking heart out of my chest! Its one thing to want me to wait to get pregnant but to pretty much tell me that if i did get pregnant you wouldnt be supportive of my good news is just plain EVIL. i mean i know that when i do get pregnant she will suck it up and be happy but it shouldnt be like this to begin with. i hate my life.

 

[Nazz4]

I think my parents would kind of be like that too, which is why they don't know I'm ttc. I KNOW my siblings would tell me if I get pregnant that I just wasted all my life and that I'll never have money and I'll never travel again and I'll be unhappy forever. Just because they don't see the joy in having kids doesn't mean other people don't. I've already traveled a bunch, I've already done pretty much everything I want to do except for have kids. So I don't see what the big deal is. Maybe I'm young, but I've always wanted to have kids young so I can be energetic and have plenty of time to have a 2nd 3rd or even more without getting too old and tired.

Anyways just ignore them I say! And when you tell your mom you're pregnant just say, "Hey it could be worse! You could have a drug addict for a daughter, you're lucky you have a pregnant person for a daughter!!" Make you're own decisions and do what you feel is right for you and your OH.

 

[cntrygrl]

So sorry your mother feels this way, Aly. My niece was born while my brother was serving in Iraq. My SIL lived with my parents while he was away. I think that once children are old enough and in a stable relationship/married/or otherwise that parents should just be supportive of the choices they make.

 

[m4e]

Not sure you know, but sometimes they used Clomid for guys with sperm issues and testosterone, as it does not cause infertility, like test therapies.

Nazz4, I totally get, saying you care is one thing, but you need to walk the walk too! My DH acts like that too. I will do this and that, we are in it together, but sometimes I feel all alone...

m4e, I am not in the same situation, but we have been 3 years NTNP, followed by 1.5 years TTC, it gets really frustrating NEVER having BFP!! My DH will get tested soon. But I suspect it's been me all along. My mum had 3 MCs, but she got pregnant a few times on her own (trying a while), once with meds. Weboth have PCOS. I am after 3 rounds of Clomid w/TI. More tests now, went through bloodwork, seems pretty ok, and saline sono, which was great (results). Ughh. Once my DH manages to get his test done (and he had been suffering from low drive, I want him to get tested for testosterone), ugh, just to get that man to the doctor... Next, my HSG. Then IUI w/Letrozole in February, hoping. If all pans out.

Clomid was the one thing the Dr tried. It was super weird. He took it for several months. His T levels more than doubled in a couple weeks, then we did another round of blood work to test T again and his levels were super low again. The Dr was shocked and had no clue why. He'd never seen it before.

Hope IUI works for you!!

 

[m4e]

Ugh. And STUPID, STUPID, STUPID AF is due today. I actually feel better once it starts (kinda), because then it's a new cycle and we can try AGAIN. I hate that I don't even bother testing or looking for symptoms anymore. I can tell at least a week before AF that it's coming. At the same time I hate that I let myself get my hopes up every month. I really have no idea why I put myself through this. I'm not pregnant, but until AF starts there is just this inkling of a speck of hope that somehow I am.
My friend (who has gotten pregnant 4 times on BC [first two ended in miscarriage ]) is probably going to be pregnant again any day now. It's been a year since her second was born and I'm just counting down the minutes until she tells me she's having another. She's had TWO since we've been trying.Actually, several of our friends have had two since we've been trying. Most of them it was completely accidental. How is it that the only people who can't get pregnant are the ones who desperately want to??????

 

[MamaTex]

I probably left out a few things but yep, that's my dear old mother! This is the shit i have to deal with from her. Again im married, we have our own money, our own place, a new car, and money in the bank! How is that not ready? And if it only takes "one time" we would ALL have our BFPs and Bundles by now! But no, with PCOS it takes a hell of a lot more than "one time".

Now you all can see what i mean when i say she acts like me having a baby would be the end of the fucking world. I can understand she acts like that because she got knocked up in high school and never had a chance to "enjoy life" or whatever, but too bad so sad.. IM NOT HER! Im my own person and i can make my own choices! I dont need my mommy shoving birth control down my throat!

And btw that "I dont want to get a phone call" line ripped my fucking heart out of my chest! Its one thing to want me to wait to get pregnant but to pretty much tell me that if i did get pregnant you wouldnt be supportive of my good news is just plain EVIL. i mean i know that when i do get pregnant she will suck it up and be happy but it shouldnt be like this to begin with. i hate my life.

Dang. I am sorry she has that kind of attitude.

 

[cntrygrl]

I'm tired of seeing ladies that have only been TTC for a couple of months acting like it's been so hard on them already. Get a grip please!

 

[MackMomma8]

Amen! I'm so tired of seeing girls post things like "I'm so tired of waiting!" and "this is taking forever!" when they have only been trying for maybe 3 or 4 months. I'm sorry, but that's not anywhere near "forever"... Talk to me after 16 months and a miscarriage, sweetheart. I've all but given up.

 

[ChartsNHearts]

I hate that I don't even bother testing or looking for symptoms anymore. I can tell at least a week before AF that it's coming. At the same time I hate that I let myself get my hopes up every month. I really have no idea why I put myself through this. I'm not pregnant, but until AF starts there is just this inkling of a speck of hope that somehow I am.

I can relate to this. When we first started trying I used to buy AF products & HPTs in the same shopping basket every month... by now I ONLY buy AF products because I just don't think pregnancy is likely any more.

And yet, there is always a tiny sliver of hope in the back of my mind, until I see my temps drop & I start getting backache & aching boobs, and I know that AF will be along in a few days.

That's where I am today too & it sucks.

 

[flagirlie7]

Amen! I'm so tired of seeing girls post things like "I'm so tired of waiting!" and "this is taking forever!" when they have only been trying for maybe 3 or 4 months. I'm sorry, but that's not anywhere near "forever"... Talk to me after 16 months and a miscarriage, sweetheart. I've all but given up.

That! 18 months TTC...

 

[MamaTex]

Amen! I'm so tired of seeing girls post things like "I'm so tired of waiting!" and "this is taking forever!" when they have only been trying for maybe 3 or 4 months. I'm sorry, but that's not anywhere near "forever"... Talk to me after 16 months and a miscarriage, sweetheart. I've all but given up.

My Christmas wish is that all you ladies I have come across on this website gets what they deserve. Being on here has opened my eyes to the real struggles of women everywhere. Society wants to help the single young mother and give her everything (This is how it seems to be in the States. Not sure what goes on across the pond). The same support is not there for women who have issues with conceiving or women with losses. It's like we are forgotten. If I am ever blessed to carry a baby to term, I won't forget the road I traveled with other women.

 

[babybemine]

My DH is the same way. He says he is into it but he does not care when my AF is. He assumes anytime we fight that it is because of AF. He is also a smoker and says he is trying to quit but makes no sign of letting up. Have fertility appt on the 6th and he has agreed to getting tested but he is scared that we are not going to get pregnant because of him. I think it is probably me. I have groin/pelvic pain that is present a lot of the time mostly on my right side that has not been diagnosed as anything. Hoping if there is something wrong that it is an easy fix. FX that we get some answers on Thursday. My mom also had a couple of miscarriages.

 

[cntrygrl]

I'm on cycle #13 and still kind of feel new to it all. Not that after month 6 I didn't start getting frustrated, but I know there are women who have been trying longer than me. I'm 31 and my main concern is early menopause since it runs in the family.

 

[MamaTex]

I'm tired of seeing ladies that have only been TTC for a couple of months acting like it's been so hard on them already. Get a grip please!

I glanced through your journal and see you have been on quite a journey to conceive. I am sorry we got off on the wrong foot and I hope there are no hard feelings. I wish the best for you and hope you get that BFP soon.

 

[Amelia8083]

My DH is the same way. He says he is into it but he does not care when my AF is. He assumes anytime we fight that it is because of AF. He is also a smoker and says he is trying to quit but makes no sign of letting up. Have fertility appt on the 6th and he has agreed to getting tested but he is scared that we are not going to get pregnant because of him. I think it is probably me. I have groin/pelvic pain that is present a lot of the time mostly on my right side that has not been diagnosed as anything. Hoping if there is something wrong that it is an easy fix. FX that we get some answers on Thursday. My mom also had a couple of miscarriages.

I am having a lap done tomorrow because I have the same thing. As soon as I went off Bc I started getting an annoying and sometimes painful stabbing sensation mostly around (what feels like) my right ovary 90% of the time. Once and awhile my left ovary will jump in on the fun too. If they do find anything during my lap (which I'm thinking would be endo), I will let you know..... if you want to know?