Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[PatriNina]

Me and my husband have been married since 9 Aug 2014, and since then it's been all "When is the baby coming?" with slight variations including:
Are you trying? You should start exercising. Is the stork visiting soon?

MIL posted her first FB picture with my SIL's baby (cutest little boy ever) and commented that she wants us to give her a grandchild too. Like the pressure I put on myself isn't enough I love her and I understand she wants a grand child from my DH (since he's 34, and his sister is 30).

It's frustrating and I'm so sick of it!

A would be the best thing that's ever happened to me and my husband, and I feel like it's never going to happen!

Just needed to Vent Thanks

 

[Missmetal]

I am sorry PatriNina. It is sooooo hard listenening to people asking about babies all the time! Totally frustrating! I am sending you baby dust, strength and courage.

 

[PatriNina]

Thank you, Missmetal! For the gift of caring and understanding.

Baby dust for you too!

 

[Trying4first1]

I am with you PatriNina on this!

Me and DH have been married since May 2014 and people keep asking 'when are you having a baby!!!" Arghhhhhh!!!!!! If one more person asks Im going to go crazy!!!!! What got to me is loads of people recently asked me at a baby shower that I organised for my friend (which was hard for me as it was). Actually we have been trying to conceive for most of our marriage so far and we have had a miscarriage! It is no ones business!!!! i just wish people would stop asking and stop making me feel useless. We are finding it harder than we thought to conceive and all this pressure isn't helping

Rant over

 

[PatriNina]

Sorry for your loss

I totally get you. Relatives that I haven't talked to in months call up to see if we have "baby news" ... I almost started crying on the phone

I swear some people seem to be born yesterday

You were a strong one for organizing that baby shower

I can't even think of going through that

 

[TheBs2013]

Husband (26) and I (25) have been trying for 3 months now, I know that's not a long time, but I didn't realize how emotional this would be. Some days I feel super hopeful, but most days I just feel sad and depressed. My best friend got pregnant her first month, and it's hard to be supportive when I keep getting negative tests. My little sister and her husband tried for a year and a half and finally got pregnant. I'm just frustrated and don't know how to feel. I feel crazy going back and forth between being happy and terribly sad. ugh. I need to schedule a dr appointment to make sure everything is ok down there, I haven't had a check up or pap in over 2 years.

 

[PatriNina]

TheBs2013 a dr appointment sounds like a great thing to go for right now. It might ease your mind a bit. TTC can be a real emotional roller coaster! That's why these forums are so awesome! You can talk to like-minded people going through the same struggle!

 

[Trying4first1]

Sorry for your loss

I totally get you. Relatives that I haven't talked to in months call up to see if we have "baby news" ... I almost started crying on the phone

I swear some people seem to be born yesterday

You were a strong one for organizing that baby shower

I can't even think of going through that

Its just awful isn't it People just don't think do they. I now know I will never ask anybody that question as you don't know what struggles people may have. I really don't know how I did the shower. It was good as it kept me busy but also I wanted to do it as my friend had troubles conceiving and had some fertility treatment. It was really good to celebrate, so I had to put my own feelings aside

 

[Trying4first1]

Husband (26) and I (25) have been trying for 3 months now, I know that's not a long time, but I didn't realize how emotional this would be. Some days I feel super hopeful, but most days I just feel sad and depressed. My best friend got pregnant her first month, and it's hard to be supportive when I keep getting negative tests. My little sister and her husband tried for a year and a half and finally got pregnant. I'm just frustrated and don't know how to feel. I feel crazy going back and forth between being happy and terribly sad. ugh. I need to schedule a dr appointment to make sure everything is ok down there, I haven't had a check up or pap in over 2 years.

Hi TheBs2013!

3 months really isn't long at all. They say the average time to conceive is 6-8 months so you really haven't got anything to worry about I am now in month 7 and possibly going into month 8 if AF shows again. I am booked in to have a blood test as I am coming to the top end of the average. I also had an early MC (i conceived in cycle 4) so need to check that I have enough progesterone to sustain a pregnancy as I have a shorter LP.

My advice would be to wait another few months as it could happen for you very soon! Also if you were on BC it can take a few months for ovulation to start again (Im not convinced I ovulated the first couple of cycles). But obviously if you are worried it can put you mind at rest.

 

[Munster]

Hi all! This is my fist post so let me know if I should do anything differently..

This is also my first moth ttc. I O'd 14 days ago now and have been having some symptoms including: swollen bbs, which is normal after I o but they usually go back to normal size a few days before af shows. Nips have been sore since o which is also normal for me, but this month they are also very sore on sides and have swelled up more than they ever have before which makes me think something is up! I also have been bloated gassy and constipated last few days sorry for tmi. And have to p way more than usual. I'm also hungry ALL the time lately. Also cervix is soft and hard to reach (does this mean it's low or high?)

Anyone else have these symptoms at 14dpo? Is it too early to test? And what kind of tests should I use??

 

[PatriNina]

Munster you would get a lot more responses by starting a new thread in the Trying to Conceive part of the forum. This is a vent thread

To answer your question, 14 dpo is the perfect time to test. That's why they call the period between O and AF the Two Week Wait. You have to wait 14 days in order to get an accurate result.

I always use internet cheapies (got 90 ovulation test and 10 pregnancy tests for just $17 on eBay). If that one gives you a positive or a faint positive, then you buy a more reliable and expensive test

Keep in mind that for some women it takes more time for the hormone to be high enough in their body. Some women only get a positive when AF is one week late, and others get a positive at 10 dpo. It depends

Hope I answered your questions Good luck!

 

[klbp15]

I just joined BnB today because i needed someplace to discuss/vent. This will be my 10th cycle ttc, like many on here I didn't think it would be as emotional as it has been. I was just going to go with the flow and whatever would happen would happen. But after the first few months when nothing happens you get worried that something isn't working right. I just wish I knew why it wasn't happening.

I'm hoping this will be the month, trying to stay positive but after 10 cycles of being positive I don't want to get my self worked up for nothing. :/

Thanks to everyone for listening.

 

[PatriNina]

klbp15 It can be an emotional roller coaster and we don't really have a choice.

Good luck and keep posting! It can help you deal with your feelings when you see how many women are going through the same thing. There are wonderful people here that offer a lot of support

 

[WoolSocks]

AF came today. I was 5 days late. I'm trying to not lose it. At least it waited until the end of my work day so I wouldn't have to hide in the bathroom stall at work and try to keep it together. This was our 13th cycle.

 

[Dragon_Chaser]

Alright. This is going go be my bitter post since I made the mistake of looking on FB -.-, I apologize in advance if I strike anyone's nerves ETC, but I need to vent and get it out.

Dearest ____, I completely understand you just had your 4th 'Miracle Child' and you want me to come see him. Yes we have been BFF's since highschool, where we bonded over the fact that we both wrote fanfiction and we were faced with having some sort of issue. You with the fact that you already had an ovary removed and had been told by the Docs that you'd have problems conceiving and me with the fact that I had scarring from Sexual Abuse and had been told the same thing.

When we were 17 and you got together with my cousin and proceeded to get pregnant I was over the moon for you. I adore my godchild. But for each of the next 3 pregnancies you keep repeating the fact that it's a miracle, and the last two basically came one right after the other. I'm happy for you really I am, but at the same time when you casually ask when I'm going to have one, or mention what a good mommy I would be if I ever had one it hurts.

My husband and I are in a stable place, and we can afford having a baby. At number two and three you started coming to me to make sure that you had gifts for b-days/Christmas. in fact this last x-mas you kept making comments about how it was going to suck even after I helped. I'm so frustrated with you but it's not something I'm going to come out and say because it would offend you and then you wouldn't let me see the LO's that I've watched grow up/helped take care of. I adore your children, really I do. But take a break from the baby making until you can handle more financially.

Sincerely feeling like a B**** for Feeling This Way

 

[PatriNina]

Dragon_Chaser sounds to me that your feelings have a legitimate reason. I know confronting her isn't an option for you. Hope letting it all out helped at least a bit.

It's tough when people forget to be considerate with those that keep them afloat

 

[proudwifey]

I am ttc my first. I took an ovulation test yesterday and I just can't tell if it's positive or negative! I don't know how to post a picture in here. Please look at my thread with the picture and let me know what you think. Thanks!
https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/trying-conceive-1/2289397-please-help-opk-result-pic-included.html

 

[Trying4first1]

I am ttc my first. I took an ovulation test yesterday and I just can't tell if it's positive or negative! I don't know how to post a picture in here. Please look at my thread with the picture and let me know what you think. Thanks!
https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/trying-conceive-1/2289397-please-help-opk-result-pic-included.html

I would say almost positive

 

[wishin4bump21]

Hello all,
I've been TTC for about 7 months. I've got countless friends that are already on their 3rd or 4th kid and every single BFN I get is like a slap in the face.

Today took the cake. I hadn't had my period the entire month of February and even though I had already taken two pregnancy tests I was hoping that my hormone levels were low and couldn't be captured. I was already making plans to call my dr and schedule a visit. And then I started to bleed.....and the worst part, the part that made me want to break down and sob is when my husband saw my pulling out my pads and he said "No...I was hoping you were pregnant. I was really hoping."

I am beyond frustrated and stressed and sad that I haven't conceived yet. My huge fear is that I'm unable to, but my husband wants to wait the full year before we go see a fertility specialist. I'm over weight by about 40 pounds, which is the grand scheme of things is a big deal, but not THAT big of a deal, I've seen women much, much bigger than I conceive and I just want to be pregnant and happy.

I'm working on loosing weight and I'm trying to understand how to figure out when I'm ovulating but it feels so overwhelming and when I start to read the instructions my eyes glaze over. Why is this so hard?

I mean to offend no one when I say this, but I've taken the 'right steps' I've got a house and a stable job and we're in a good financial place and we're still not getting pregnant. What's wrong with me?

 

[wishin4bump21]

Hello! I'm there with you, it's frustrating and such a terrible waiting game. Just know that there are others in your shoes and always here if you need to rant. *hug