Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[WayPastReady]

mininun1 - try not to be to discouraged hopefully with actively trying you get better luck! before I started temping I thought I ovulated on CD 13 i don't its not usually until CD15 or 16 so I was missing it a lot.

Well i got crappy news today. husbands SA came back with all 3 issues low sperm count, bad swimmers and bad morphology .... his doctor is working on a referral for us now but we got into a big fight about it today. He says he refuses to use a donor and he is done with doctors. That if I want kids I should just leave him and be with someone else. I know he's just upset about the results but it hurt me a lot that he would think I would leave him for it .... idk any advise on what to say or do?

Sorry to hear about your bad news, swimmyj1. I'm sure your husband feels like it's his fault now. When my husband went to get tested a few months ago, I looked up some supplements to help with sperm just in case and had him start them. I think I had him take zinc, royal jelly, L-arginine, and maca root. You could look into some of those. The positive side is that sperm regenerates every 90 days, so if he eats really clean, wears loose underwear, keeps the area from overheating, and takes some supplements to help hopefully he can improve the quality of the sperm in a few months. I know 90 days sounds like a lifetime when you've been trying this long. Best of luck to you, and the most important part is to stay positive. All you need is ONE healthy sperm!!

 

[NZKiwi]

Sorry to hear about this news. My advice would be to let him know that you support him and love him. It must have been really hard for him, he might feel like somewhat of a failure or inadequate he will be hurting too and he probably needs time and reassurance.

 

[Cheekygringo]

I'm over it. I had a break for a while, but after almost 2 years, I am sick of TTC, we've been married for almost 10 years and have left it too late I think, and now I don't know that we will ever be expecting.
I'm tired of everyone asking, so have just started telling them that we can't have kids just to shut them up and put them in their place. I put on a brave face, but even typing this, I want to cry so much. It is so hard to continue every month and try to hold on to some hope, I have stopped most record keeping, and don't push for it every month as it was just becoming too stressful.
Some testing has been done and all hormones are normal, his are all good too. I agree with those who feel they want to have children early and the only thing I regret is not trying sooner instead of focusing on work, and purchasing our house etc. We will continue to try naturally, we can't afford major assistance; though we have been referred to a free service that might help to find what is actually wrong.

Good luck ladies, I really hope you all receive little baby miracles.

 

[swimmyj1]

Cheekygringo - i'm sorry that there hasn't been any clear reason as to why your not getting your BFP. I totally get what you mean that your just sick of people asking. My grandmother no joke this month sent me a box of baby cloths and told me I was being selfish for making her wait to be a great grandmother ..... i wanted to lose it on her. Hang in there. fingers crossed that going to the free service will give you more answers or better yet you will get your miracle baby!

Me and my DH talked and we came up with a plan (i'm a girl that likes a game plan lol) We are going to get my 21 day labs see if i have any issues there. He's going to keep taking fertilaid (only been on it for about a month). but if no luck we are going to keep our appointment with the specialist in like 7 months got to love waiting lists. He admitted that he was just really upset and felt really bad that he was the problem.

 

[ModernMaven]

Sprinkling baby-dust your way. My husand and I have been TTC for 12 months now, and I am a bit surprised as well that it hasn't happened yet. I heard that B6 is good but can take 3-6 months for it to build up in your body. I just started taking Fertilaid, and so has my husband. the women's version includes B6, red clover, and Vitex which are all good for supporting fertility and balancing hormones.

I can definitely relate to getting tender breasts almost as soon as ovulation is done, with it getting increasingly worse leading up to your AF. I would switch out your coffee for green tea in this case. Green tea still gives you the perk of caffeine, but is more subtle and has more health benefits to support fertility than coffee does.

Sprinkling Baby Dust your way!

 

[Texasbaby1]

This is my first time to post but Im thankful that I have a place to vent. I've been TTC for the past 5 months and nothing. I track my ovulation and even got a conception pillow but nothing has worked yet. My husband doesn't understand why I'm getting frustrated. All the ladies around me have gotten prgnt on the 1st try or only after a few months. I'm starting to feel like something is wrong with me. I know stressing about this isn't helping but I don't know what to do. I'm 31 and so is my husband. I was on both control for about 10 years but got off 8 months ago. I was told that being on birth control wouldn't make a difference on when I was able to conceive. However I get so disappointed when AF arrives.
What is B6? At what point should my husband be tested? Any advice?
I wish you all little baby miracles this month.

 

[WayPastReady]

This is my first time to post but Im thankful that I have a place to vent. I've been TTC for the past 5 months and nothing. I track my ovulation and even got a conception pillow but nothing has worked yet. My husband doesn't understand why I'm getting frustrated. All the ladies around me have gotten prgnt on the 1st try or only after a few months. I'm starting to feel like something is wrong with me. I know stressing about this isn't helping but I don't know what to do. I'm 31 and so is my husband. I was on both control for about 10 years but got off 8 months ago. I was told that being on birth control wouldn't make a difference on when I was able to conceive. However I get so disappointed when AF arrives.
What is B6? At what point should my husband be tested? Any advice?
I wish you all little baby miracles this month.

Sorry to hear that it's taking you longer than you wanted. Definitely feel your pain and frustration. Unfortunately, sometimes it takes some women longer even when nothing is wrong. I met with an OB-GYN after 9 months of TTC, and he told me that 90% of women get pregnant within the 1st year of trying and 90% of the remaining 10% get pregnant within the 2nd year of trying, so 99% of women get pregnant within 2 years without any intervention. I know that doesn't really help when you want it to happen right away, but it does give hope that your situation is well within normal and there might not be anything wrong with you. It's good that you're tracking because that will help you to identify if something is wrong with your cycle and let you know for sure if you're ovulating. If you see that your luteal phase is too short, then B6 is a vitamin that some women have had success with in extending it. If your LP isn't too short, then you don't need to worry about it.

As for the semen analysis, my husband got tested after we tried for 10 cycles...honestly I wish I would have gotten him tested around 6 months just to rule that out, but if you're already feeling like it's your fault and something is wrong with you, maybe you should hold off cuz it could end up making you feel even more that way if his test comes back normal. I know that you want support from him and for him to understand the pain, disappointment, and frustration you feel when another month goes by, but in a way it's a good thing that he doesn't understand your frustration because that means he's not viewing it as anything wrong with you! My husband didn't start to feel the pain of AF showing up each month until around the 9 month mark of us TTC. Now it's like double the hurt when I have to deal with AF and of telling him that AF came again.

Keep trying and thinking positively! It will happen for you!

I'm sure hoping and praying that this month is the one for my miracle!

 

[swimmyj1]

Texasbaby1 I'm sorry you haven't had any luck yet. My doctor made me wait until we had been ttc for a year before starting to look at causes. Every doctor is different. My husband still doesn't get to upset when AF shows up so I understand that frustration 100% Being on here has really helped to talk it out

Are you tracking ovulation by temping or opks? also I definatly recommend starting to test with your husband. It's one of the easier tests and usually cheaper (and less invasive) than starting to test with you.

Try not to stress too much some couples just take a little longer, and my doctor told us that it can take your body a full year to regulate hormones off BC. Good luck lots of hugs!

 

[Angel5000]

We only recently started TTC. I stopped birth control 2/28/15 and my cycles were long and weird for the next two months, incredibly frustrating because before I was one of those odd teenagers who had very regular cycles (28-29 days every month) but were incredibly heavy to the point where I was losing feeling in my legs and passing out. So the solution was BC and I was on it until I just stopped, so almost 15 years. :/

I started taking vitex and that seems to have helped level the cycles out to a little more normal, and this is the first month I am really actively trying (my goal is to get pregnant over the summer so that when I go out for maternity leave it will bleed into summer again - I'm a teacher and want more time with teh baby before I'll have to go back).

My big frustration right now is THE HEAT. We live on the pacific north west, but I had been living in Texas for the last 10 years and while I'm used to heat, I'm also used to having AC. We don't have AC, and it's been over 90 the last couple weeks, and our house is hotter than outside. Yes, I have fans, but let me tell you how hard it is to BD when its SO F********* HOT. Last night DH was not interested. He was tired, he was hot (he works in the outdoors, his AC in his car is on the fritz, and then he comes home to a hot house, there's no relief), and he really didn't want to. However, I got my yesterday on my OPK so he did it, but both of us were sitting in bed actually trying to work up the energy to do it. Neither of us was really into it, and as relatively newly weds (1 year anniversary last week), sex being a chore is not something I'm ready for.

Anyone else having this kind of problem? I didn't htink about this when I planned to get pregnant in the summer. We weren't quite prepared for the heat of a Washington summer

 

[swimmyj1]

Angel5000 - we haven't had really bad hot weather here in Michigan yet. But my DH works outside also. as silly as it sounds I usually just climb in the shower with him after work. Its cooler and hes more open to the idea lol. Hope you guys survive the summer.

Random question for you ladies before I pull my hair out. I have kept testing with the opk's and my monitor because I never got a peak this month yet. I'm pretty sure I ovulated yesterday my Opk's got much lighter again but today when I tested they were back to being darker. Not quite + but close. Any idea what this means??? I can't wait for my testing if a few days before I go crazy lol.

 

[DBZ34]

This is my first time to post but Im thankful that I have a place to vent. I've been TTC for the past 5 months and nothing. I track my ovulation and even got a conception pillow but nothing has worked yet. My husband doesn't understand why I'm getting frustrated. All the ladies around me have gotten prgnt on the 1st try or only after a few months. I'm starting to feel like something is wrong with me. I know stressing about this isn't helping but I don't know what to do. I'm 31 and so is my husband. I was on both control for about 10 years but got off 8 months ago. I was told that being on birth control wouldn't make a difference on when I was able to conceive. However I get so disappointed when AF arrives.
What is B6? At what point should my husband be tested? Any advice?
I wish you all little baby miracles this month.

Like someone else said, most healthy couples can take up to a year before conceiving. And I know it seems like everyone gets preggo first try, but it's not really true. It just seems that way because you are TTC. Lots of people struggle secretly and just don't say anything. But there are people who have oops babies or do get preggo without much effort. It's just a dice roll.

Actually, I had a friend who claimed she had gotten pregnant first try, but then confessed that it had actually taken two years for her to conceive, she was just ashamed of the struggle and wanted to keep it under wraps.

Anyway, I should also point out that although they say that getting off BC won't have an effect on TTC, it can actually take up to around 6 months for your body to re-regulate and get back on track. So it's possible that you haven't been able to conceive yet because of that.

It's always frustrating and you want answers NOW when you first start out...and 6 months is always the point where ladies start questioning if there's something going on/if something is wrong, but try not to worry too much.

As for advice, I would start talking to the doctor around 10-11 months of trying. That way you're close to a year of trying, so they'll be more receptive to your concerns. When you go in, ask for a sperm analysis for your DH and the Day 21 bloods for you. Make sure you know when you ovulate and how long your cycles are by then, so they can take the blood on the right day.

Take Folic acid daily and a good multivitamin. Have your DH take multi-vitmains too and make sure they include Selenium. Do you track your cycles? Like with opks or temping? This goes toward the knowing your cycles bit. The more you know, the better you can pinpoint when to BD to optimize your chances.

Sorry for the long ramble. Good luck!

 

[mininun1]

This is my first time to post but Im thankful that I have a place to vent. I've been TTC for the past 5 months and nothing. I track my ovulation and even got a conception pillow but nothing has worked yet. My husband doesn't understand why I'm getting frustrated. All the ladies around me have gotten prgnt on the 1st try or only after a few months. I'm starting to feel like something is wrong with me. I know stressing about this isn't helping but I don't know what to do. I'm 31 and so is my husband. I was on both control for about 10 years but got off 8 months ago. I was told that being on birth control wouldn't make a difference on when I was able to conceive. However I get so disappointed when AF arrives.
What is B6? At what point should my husband be tested? Any advice?
I wish you all little baby miracles this month.

Like someone else said, most healthy couples can take up to a year before conceiving. And I know it seems like everyone gets preggo first try, but it's not really true. It just seems that way because you are TTC. Lots of people struggle secretly and just don't say anything. But there are people who have oops babies or do get preggo without much effort. It's just a dice roll.

Actually, I had a friend who claimed she had gotten pregnant first try, but then confessed that it had actually taken two years for her to conceive, she was just ashamed of the struggle and wanted to keep it under wraps.

Anyway, I should also point out that although they say that getting off BC won't have an effect on TTC, it can actually take up to around 6 months for your body to re-regulate and get back on track. So it's possible that you haven't been able to conceive yet because of that.

It's always frustrating and you want answers NOW when you first start out...and 6 months is always the point where ladies start questioning if there's something going on/if something is wrong, but try not to worry too much.

As for advice, I would start talking to the doctor around 10-11 months of trying. That way you're close to a year of trying, so they'll be more receptive to your concerns. When you go in, ask for a sperm analysis for your DH and the Day 21 bloods for you. Make sure you know when you ovulate and how long your cycles are by then, so they can take the blood on the right day.

Take Folic acid daily and a good multivitamin. Have your DH take multi-vitmains too and make sure they include Selenium. Do you track your cycles? Like with opks or temping? This goes toward the knowing your cycles bit. The more you know, the better you can pinpoint when to BD to optimize your chances.

Sorry for the long ramble. Good luck!

Thanks so much for this! I think as women, even with careers, busy lives, etc., it still hurts a little bit when we can't get pregnant right when we want to. I know I've only been TTC since end of May, after going off bc in March, and it sucks big time to get AF each month. My DH and I have been married for close to three years, and we want a baby now, dammit! If anything, TTC these last couple months has made me more aware of my cycles - and of how different things can influence them.

Still, lots of my friends are getting pregnant on the daily it seems, and people are CONSTANTLY asking when me and my DH will have a baby. I've started telling people "hopefully sometime in the next couple years," without any further explanation. It is vague enough to shut people up, and doesn't *exactly* sound like we are trying unsuccessfully. Baby dust to all you ladies TTC - hopefully it happens very soon for all of us.

 

[kells1381]

Thread open!

I am 33 years and it has been 11 months that I am actively trying with no luck .. I am tired of tracking all the symptoms every cycle and ending up with AF .. this is our first cycle using Preseed .. will see if that will help at all..

 

[ADN]

This is also my first time posting, and it is nice to have a spot to vent. My husband and I started TTC in November, and a few months later I was diagnosed with PCOS. I am currently taking clomid & metformin, and this month will be our first time TTC with both meds. Each and every month I feel like I go through a roller coaster of emotions. I become hopeful in the beginning, nervous & then extremely disappointed when I get that negative pregnancy test. I have not told my family, which makes the process hard.. especially when they ask us when we will start a family. Only a couple of my friends know what I am going through because they also went through it- but I don't feel right venting to them because they both successfully got pregnant, and I don't want to be a downer- so here I am. It is so frustrating.. I find that I have been distancing myself from friends who have gotten pregnant. It is just too hard to be around that right now. My husband gets frustrated when he sees me get upset; he's a doctor and understands that it could take a while for us to get pregnant, but I am much more frustrated with all of this than he is. The people that give me advice tell me, "It will happen when it's time, just be patient". Screw that advice, I feel that is the worst advice you could give someone, especially someone with PCOS.

Does anyone have any advice on ways to make this a better experience? We just moved to a new area, so I feel even more alone in this whole process. I just want to try to be more positive every month, but it is starting to become next to impossible.

 

[WayPastReady]

This is also my first time posting, and it is nice to have a spot to vent. My husband and I started TTC in November, and a few months later I was diagnosed with PCOS. I am currently taking clomid & metformin, and this month will be our first time TTC with both meds. Each and every month I feel like I go through a roller coaster of emotions. I become hopeful in the beginning, nervous & then extremely disappointed when I get that negative pregnancy test. I have not told my family, which makes the process hard.. especially when they ask us when we will start a family. Only a couple of my friends know what I am going through because they also went through it- but I don't feel right venting to them because they both successfully got pregnant, and I don't want to be a downer- so here I am. It is so frustrating.. I find that I have been distancing myself from friends who have gotten pregnant. It is just too hard to be around that right now. My husband gets frustrated when he sees me get upset; he's a doctor and understands that it could take a while for us to get pregnant, but I am much more frustrated with all of this than he is. The people that give me advice tell me, "It will happen when it's time, just be patient". Screw that advice, I feel that is the worst advice you could give someone, especially someone with PCOS.

Does anyone have any advice on ways to make this a better experience? We just moved to a new area, so I feel even more alone in this whole process. I just want to try to be more positive every month, but it is starting to become next to impossible.

So sorry to hear that you're going through this. I'm on cycle 17 with no pregnancies so far, and it's the worst feeling to see AF show up each month. I never thought I would be here and can totally relate to how you're feeling. It feels like a failure as a women when you try month after month with no success, and it hurts even more to know that my husband wants to have a baby just as much as I do. BnB has been such a great resource for me and reminds me that not every woman gets pregnant as easily as we assume when we find out they're pregnant. Keep praying, stay positive, and remember that as long as you never give up, then it WILL happen. It is going to happen. You will get pregnant. It's only a matter of when.

 

[speccyblue]

Can't stop crying.

I have vomit inducing periods and the only option is to have a hysterectomy, so it's the last chance to have a baby, it's now or never.

I'm nearly 40, I've probably left it too late, this is the worst feeling in the world. I have been pregnant twice before with bad outcomes.

Bought a fertility test online to confirm things one way or the other.

My whole world is revolving around this, I'm obsessed with all things baby and it's making me miserable.

 

[ADN]

This is also my first time posting, and it is nice to have a spot to vent. My husband and I started TTC in November, and a few months later I was diagnosed with PCOS. I am currently taking clomid & metformin, and this month will be our first time TTC with both meds. Each and every month I feel like I go through a roller coaster of emotions. I become hopeful in the beginning, nervous & then extremely disappointed when I get that negative pregnancy test. I have not told my family, which makes the process hard.. especially when they ask us when we will start a family. Only a couple of my friends know what I am going through because they also went through it- but I don't feel right venting to them because they both successfully got pregnant, and I don't want to be a downer- so here I am. It is so frustrating.. I find that I have been distancing myself from friends who have gotten pregnant. It is just too hard to be around that right now. My husband gets frustrated when he sees me get upset; he's a doctor and understands that it could take a while for us to get pregnant, but I am much more frustrated with all of this than he is. The people that give me advice tell me, "It will happen when it's time, just be patient". Screw that advice, I feel that is the worst advice you could give someone, especially someone with PCOS.

Does anyone have any advice on ways to make this a better experience? We just moved to a new area, so I feel even more alone in this whole process. I just want to try to be more positive every month, but it is starting to become next to impossible.

So sorry to hear that you're going through this. I'm on cycle 17 with no pregnancies so far, and it's the worst feeling to see AF show up each month. I never thought I would be here and can totally relate to how you're feeling. It feels like a failure as a women when you try month after month with no success, and it hurts even more to know that my husband wants to have a baby just as much as I do. BnB has been such a great resource for me and reminds me that not every woman gets pregnant as easily as we assume when we find out they're pregnant. Keep praying, stay positive, and remember that as long as you never give up, then it WILL happen. It is going to happen. You will get pregnant. It's only a matter of when.

I am sorry to hear you are going through this too. I can totally relate to feeling like a failure... It makes your outlook on the whole process not as positive as it should be. The more I talk with people the more I hear more and more women going through this. It sucks!! Thank you for your post. I really helps knowing that we are not alone in this process!

 

[drklib]

We only recently started TTC. I stopped birth control 2/28/15 and my cycles were long and weird for the next two months, incredibly frustrating because before I was one of those odd teenagers who had very regular cycles (28-29 days every month) but were incredibly heavy to the point where I was losing feeling in my legs and passing out. So the solution was BC and I was on it until I just stopped, so almost 15 years. :/

I started taking vitex and that seems to have helped level the cycles out to a little more normal, and this is the first month I am really actively trying (my goal is to get pregnant over the summer so that when I go out for maternity leave it will bleed into summer again - I'm a teacher and want more time with teh baby before I'll have to go back).

My big frustration right now is THE HEAT. We live on the pacific north west, but I had been living in Texas for the last 10 years and while I'm used to heat, I'm also used to having AC. We don't have AC, and it's been over 90 the last couple weeks, and our house is hotter than outside. Yes, I have fans, but let me tell you how hard it is to BD when its SO F********* HOT. Last night DH was not interested. He was tired, he was hot (he works in the outdoors, his AC in his car is on the fritz, and then he comes home to a hot house, there's no relief), and he really didn't want to. However, I got my yesterday on my OPK so he did it, but both of us were sitting in bed actually trying to work up the energy to do it. Neither of us was really into it, and as relatively newly weds (1 year anniversary last week), sex being a chore is not something I'm ready for.

Anyone else having this kind of problem? I didn't htink about this when I planned to get pregnant in the summer. We weren't quite prepared for the heat of a Washington summer

I'm also in WA, but originally a Florida girl. WTF is going on with this weather?!?! We have one ceiling fan and one box fan and my husband is absolutely convinced we do not need an air conditioner of any kind (damn local boy... I swear )

As for my story: We got married January 2014 and my husband's parents decided to pay for the two of us and my brother in law and his wife to join them on an amazing 2 week rafting trip through the Grand Canyon (we just went on this trip this June). I put all baby making dreams on hold for this amazing trip. My SIL (who is 6 years younger than the rest of us) got pregnant (if you ask her, she has no clue how it happened ). I was beyond devastated for a few reasons: 1- she kept saying how much she didn't want "it" and this wasn't the life she wanted and all that type of stuff and 2- Right when my niece was born (March 1, 2015) my in-laws started pestering us about when we were planning on having kids and when I said we put our plans on hold for the upcoming trip they said "We would have pushed the trip back if you had said something". I frequently talked about having kids and they never seemed to care about us giving them grandkids until that moment in time. I seriously felt crushed that I put my life on hold for no real reason...

SO- we started TTC at the end of March/beginning of April (so about 4.5 months now). Our schedules are opposite of each other's and we do search and rescue with our dogs for our county so we have very little spare time. Everything seems like a chore now. The weather is miserably hot, my husband is indifferent (well, I shouldn't say that- he is a man of very few words and it comes across as indifference), and I've started to resort to sending meeting invites to secure time. I am 30 years old and I feel my clock ticking. I had a scare with stage 4 precancerous cells on my cervix 2 years ago so I worry that maybe I'm messed up from that... I got off of BC a month after our wedding so that I would be BC free for a full year before trying. Every month is a let down. I exercise, eat right, live a healthy lifestyle... I track things in apps almost religiously, and I've even started taking fertility pills and drinking fertility tea. I want nothing more than to start my family and I watch how easy it is for other girls in my life get pregnant and it just cuts like a knife.

My best friend used to vent all the time until she got pregnant (after 6 months of trying) and I listened all the time and never insinuated that she needed to quit complaining. I don't get the same treatment for her. She just keeps saying "it took me 6 months so quit worrying". Ouch

 

[Angel5000]

I'm also in WA, but originally a Florida girl. WTF is going on with this weather?!?! We have one ceiling fan and one box fan and my husband is absolutely convinced we do not need an air conditioner of any kind (damn local boy... I swear )

As for my story: We got married January 2014 and my husband's parents decided to pay for the two of us and my brother in law and his wife to join them on an amazing 2 week rafting trip through the Grand Canyon (we just went on this trip this June). I put all baby making dreams on hold for this amazing trip. My SIL (who is 6 years younger than the rest of us) got pregnant (if you ask her, she has no clue how it happened ). I was beyond devastated for a few reasons: 1- she kept saying how much she didn't want "it" and this wasn't the life she wanted and all that type of stuff and 2- Right when my niece was born (March 1, 2015) my in-laws started pestering us about when we were planning on having kids and when I said we put our plans on hold for the upcoming trip they said "We would have pushed the trip back if you had said something". I frequently talked about having kids and they never seemed to care about us giving them grandkids until that moment in time. I seriously felt crushed that I put my life on hold for no real reason...

SO- we started TTC at the end of March/beginning of April (so about 4.5 months now). Our schedules are opposite of each other's and we do search and rescue with our dogs for our county so we have very little spare time. Everything seems like a chore now. The weather is miserably hot, my husband is indifferent (well, I shouldn't say that- he is a man of very few words and it comes across as indifference), and I've started to resort to sending meeting invites to secure time. I am 30 years old and I feel my clock ticking. I had a scare with stage 4 precancerous cells on my cervix 2 years ago so I worry that maybe I'm messed up from that... I got off of BC a month after our wedding so that I would be BC free for a full year before trying. Every month is a let down. I exercise, eat right, live a healthy lifestyle... I track things in apps almost religiously, and I've even started taking fertility pills and drinking fertility tea. I want nothing more than to start my family and I watch how easy it is for other girls in my life get pregnant and it just cuts like a knife.

My best friend used to vent all the time until she got pregnant (after 6 months of trying) and I listened all the time and never insinuated that she needed to quit complaining. I don't get the same treatment for her. She just keeps saying "it took me 6 months so quit worrying". Ouch

We just agreed to get A/C. Funny enough as soon as we agreed to get it, it cooled off. But we decided that enough was enough and we would just do it.

I'm also 30, so I definitely feel the ticking clock!!! My younger sister (4 yrs younger) has a 4 year old daughter, and they are just starting to try for another too. Of my cousins, I'm the ONLY one without a kid, and I'm one of the oldest cousins (we're a close family so the cousins having kids is like being the only sibling without kids) and everyone keeps asking when we are going ot have kids. My mom is already knitting baby clothes for me and asked me last month why I haven't gone to the doctor yet because "something must be wrong if I'm not pregnant yet".

I know you're pain, I am tired of feeling like the whole family is waiting on us, especially my parents. I think the stress of my parents is worse than my own stress.

 

[Sam10]

Coming up on 3 years. Nothing. Absolutely nothing.