Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[Mizzou07]

Hi everyone. I am BRAND spanking new to this site and don't know if i am currently even using it correctly. I have been TTC for about 7 months now. I am at the tale end of my TTW and should have started yesterday, but didn't. I was feeling super optimistic, but stared my normal brown spotting late last night and today. My periods are normally right on time, but last month I was late by 4 days which was unusual but I knew I couldn't be pregnant because we didnt even try last month. I haev some light cramping and some light tenderness in my breasts thats starting to let up. My OBGYN was not concerned with my spotting since it was normal for me and my progesterone levels looked fine. She even said that I will probably spot bad the month I concieve. I am still not feeling very hopeful and feel like AF is just around the corner. Has anyone had this before and gotten their BFP? Again. sorry if I did this wrong or I am typing on the wrong chat! Thanks!!

 

[Mrs. Atole]

Can someone please tell me if they're cervix has ever hurt ? I put out a thread and it seems no one wants to give a comment, My cervix was hurting and i got a sharp pain and kind of like cramps i took a midal it went away alitttle but still feels heavy, it hurt during baby dance and hubby said it felt lower, any comments are appreciated. Thanks ladies baby dust

 

[Angel5000]

Can someone please tell me if they're cervix has ever hurt ? I put out a thread and it seems no one wants to give a comment, My cervix was hurting and i got a sharp pain and kind of like cramps i took a midal it went away alitttle but still feels heavy, it hurt during baby dance and hubby said it felt lower, any comments are appreciated. Thanks ladies baby dust

Sometimes it can be hard to get a reply to some threads, depending on where you put them. a lot of women join "group threads" and in the groups we get a lot more replies.

I've had my cervix hurt before from rough BD, but that's about it. Are you bleeding/spotting? Does it hurt all the time or just during BD?

 

[Mrs. Atole]

Can someone please tell me if they're cervix has ever hurt ? I put out a thread and it seems no one wants to give a comment, My cervix was hurting and i got a sharp pain and kind of like cramps i took a midal it went away alitttle but still feels heavy, it hurt during baby dance and hubby said it felt lower, any comments are appreciated. Thanks ladies baby dust

Sometimes it can be hard to get a reply to some threads, depending on where you put them. a lot of women join "group threads" and in the groups we get a lot more replies.

I've had my cervix hurt before from rough BD, but that's about it. Are you bleeding/spotting? Does it hurt all the time or just during BD?

It just started hurting around 6pm, then after 8-9 hubby and I bd it kinda hurt after he said my cervix felt low.

 

[Angel5000]

Hmmm that's odd. I don't know what would cause that.

 

[Etisgonnab]

Hi everyone. I am BRAND spanking new to this site and don't know if i am currently even using it correctly. I have been TTC for about 7 months now. I am at the tale end of my TTW and should have started yesterday, but didn't. I was feeling super optimistic, but stared my normal brown spotting late last night and today. My periods are normally right on time, but last month I was late by 4 days which was unusual but I knew I couldn't be pregnant because we didnt even try last month. I haev some light cramping and some light tenderness in my breasts thats starting to let up. My OBGYN was not concerned with my spotting since it was normal for me and my progesterone levels looked fine. She even said that I will probably spot bad the month I concieve. I am still not feeling very hopeful and feel like AF is just around the corner. Has anyone had this before and gotten their BFP? Again. sorry if I did this wrong or I am typing on the wrong chat! Thanks!!

Hey Mizzou--it's possible it was implantation bleeding but who knows. Time will tell. Good luck though!!

I feel ya on the pessimism. AF is due for me in two days, and I was feeling optimistic enough to take a hpt this morning since I hadn't had any of my normal pms symptoms. But it was BFN, glaring white BFN at that. And now I'm feeling bloated, irritable, sore boobs, and some minor cramping and am pretty convinced that AF is not only going to show but she's gonna show up early.

 

[MelB]

Been trying to conceive for 18 months now, my AF is all over the place, tried clomid 50mg cd5-9 for 3 cycles and nothing, when AF was suppose to come it was only brown sticky dc, and always looked like pieces of stuff coming out, but hardly any blood (TMI) sorry, but you ladies know what I'm going through, there is no one else I can discuss this with... after 3rd cycle I decided to give it a rest for a bit, 1st cycle after clomid same as on it, second cycle off clomid heavy AF and painful, now 3rd cycle, CD25 6 days early, spotting (red blood) in yesterday afternoon but nothing for the rest of the day and night, around 10am today noticed some brown dc again but not much but still no bleeding, have the cramping that suggest AF is on her way

When starting the process went to the OBGYN to have a workup and all clear, no cyst, all seemed in order, had the 21 day blood work done, seemed I ovulated that month, dr advised DH go and have some test done, all came back good, high sperm count although motility was not 100% dr said that should not have an effect, and here we are, still no BFP, this is my first try, have never been pregnant before but all equipment seems to be in working order.... DR said we should give clomid another go, 5 cycles 50mg but as mentioned before cycle was all messed up and no real bleeding, did not get positive opk so what if it does not work on me? All it did was helped me gain weight - anyone else have the same experience on Clomid?
I know I'm talking all sorts now, but so much to say, have been keeping my fears and frustration to myself. Hope you ladies can help instill some hope in me again

 

[Webby]

Hi All, I'm new to the site.
I'm not looking for answers but for people to maybe share their insights on similar experiences.
For reasons I won't go into, my husband and I were told we had to start trying for a baby straight away if we wanted kids.

I came Femodene pill in February and got my withdrawal bleed. I started using digital opks and got a positive on 29. We bd'd before, on the day and the days following the test. I did start experiencing symptoms a week after of sore nipples, cramping etc. but have read that that can also be a sign of your hormones getting back into place after coming off the pill.

After two BFN I randomly started using OPK again and I just got a positive on day 53 and 54. Has this happened to anyone else? I'm wondering if I did not ovulate the first time? I've started temp charting now so I will hopefully be able to know whether I've actually ovulated this time round.

 

[Webby]

Hi MelB, I'm new to the site and have only just starting trying so I'm not really one to give advice but I know a friend of mine who had a similar experience for you and they wanted to put her on closed but she refused because even though it can help with ovulation, I think it might affect the lining of your womb which might hinder implantation. She decided to go the natural route using Fertilaid and Ovutab. I know some people use Angus castus to help get a regular cycle again. I'm considering using the latter myself as I also struggle with irregular cycles. Good luck xxx

 

[hopeful12be]

If my sister calls me one more time complaining about being pregnant or how she has to clean all the stuff that was GIVEN TO HER for the baby i'm going to go off! Really you have two kids already that you gripe about all the time you get pregnant again just for the attention of being pregnant and then when family helps and gives you stuff that they have in storage or have bought second hand you gripe about having to clean it ?????? Freaking really?????? lets not be grateful that everyone has bought you EVERYTHING you need. Lets not be grateful that you are blessed enough to have two kids already but also have ANOTHER ONE on the way! No just call your sister who's been trying to have a baby for 4 years and bitch and moan to her about all your "troubles" knowing damn well she is having trouble ttc!!!! I'm so beyond tired of it!!!!!!!

 

[tulip110]

I know I haven't been trying for very long but I cant help but get so sad for a few days when I know AF is on her way. I've been off of my BCP since September and not using any protection since October and nothing happened. So these last 2 cycles we have tried using OPKs, exercising and eating better... I'm 2 days away from when AF should arrive and I just know she will show. To make things even harder for me...my best friend since we were 11 just accidentally got pregnant knowing that I have been trying. She complains to me all day everyday of her nausea... and as strange as it sounds I just wish I could have that nausea. Now one of my coworkers is planning to start trying in April and told me if I'm going to have a baby I need to get started so we aren't pregnant at the same time. She doesn't know I'm trying. I haven't told anyone except 2 of my best friends... Every time I visit family they're always asking when we are going to have a baby so now I've been trying to avoid family events. I always thought it would happen right away. Now I'm worried maybe I waited too long. When AF gets here DH is going to schedule his SA... he is so great and will do whatever he can to help me feel better. We have also ordered Fertilaid for both of us and will begin that when it comes in. I just want to give us a baby so we can finally start our family and create traditions together.

 

[carriebrandt]

what?

 

[TTC3329]

I'm only at six months and I have already found that getting rid of my FB would be a great idea

 

[KBP]

Tulip-it sounds like you are under a lot of stress and believe me, you are not alone. It's always hard to hear when someone you know gets pregnant without trying, and even more so when they are in less than ideal situations. I know I sound old fashioned (although I am proud of that) but I made sure my ducks were in a row before I considered getting pregnant. I wanted to be married, in a house with my husband and financially, and emotionally ready. Now a days, I don't think most people care about any of that so I can't help but get upset when I know I tried my best to make sure it was a good time to bring a baby into the world, And then there's people who really don't care about any of that and get pregnant. That specifically is what gets to me the most. We all know life isn't fair but when you are experiencing it first hand like this, it's really hard to be strong.

I also have created a safe space between myself and some of my friEnds. After about 6 months ttc, it just got really hard to hear about their pregnancies and/or them just being moms. I realized it was making me very discouraged to talk to them so I created a bit of distance.

And it sounds like you are doing well trying to manage your stress (eating well, exercising) and that is great! For me, working out is what helps the most. It relieves so much stress.
I also make little projects for myself to keep my mind occupied. Like meal planning, organizing, little house projects. It keeps me going! Although, nothing will make any of us feel better than a positive pregnancy test, we have to be strong and push through. Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to! I log in a lot lol

 

[tulip110]

KBP - Thanks for sharing. I, too, wanted to be married and in our own home before thinking about children. So we've been married a few years and hadn't even tried yet until recently. We went on a few vacations and just spent lots of time together. Now we are finally ready and I guess I'm just very impatient. I'm very close to deleting my Facebook. Every time I log in I just get so upset and I don't like feeling that way. I haven't even spoken to my friend much and its hard but not as hard as hearing about her unplanned pregnancy. The home projects sound like a good idea. DH and I created a 2 week wait distraction list last cycle. I was so excited at the beginning of my 2ww and the closer to the end I just became more and more discouraged. I feel better now that its over lol I wasn't even bothered too much when my grandpa stopped by my work today and asked me AGAIN if we are growing a baby yet. ugh. TGIF

 

[alexanne89]

Is it just me or does no one know how to set their FB on private? Every day I'm bombarded with baby pics and announcements from strangers! Grrr.

 

[Chickadee24]

my best friend since we were 11 just accidentally got pregnant knowing that I have been trying. She complains to me all day everyday of her nausea... and as strange as it sounds I just wish I could have that nausea.

Tulip and KBP-
I agree with everything you've said, I'm sad to hear it but also encouraged a tiny bit to hear someone say exactly how I've been feeling.
Two younger cousins got pregnant on accident, completely unprepared in all the ways it matters. Then the family started badgering me about when I'd have kids months before my wedding date. Another younger cousin was ready for her baby, but it still stabs me to see everyone else I know conceiving easily.
My mom had me young and my dad was never around so I knew from a young age I was going to do it in a good order so my kids wouldn't go through my life. So I got married to a wonderful man who will make a fantastic dad, my husband and I are financially OK, we bought a house, settled in, and now we're the ones who have gone six months with only BFNs. The irony of it kills me.
My friend and I started trying around the same time in September/October. She messaged me right away saying she was already pregnant and it was all about "just doing it on the right day!"
To this day that still hurts so bad- if it were all about doing it on the right day, I'd be 8 months pregnant too.
Her baby shower is this Sunday and I've put off my RSVP because I just had a chemical pregnancy last month that was brutal to deal with after all our previous failures. Hormonally and emotionally I was an absolute wreck. Three days later I had to visit family and all I heard about was "when are you going to start trying?" "Oh, you're lucky you don't have kids yet!" It was the worst.
So this month DH and I were sure it would be our month. I'm 12 DPO and I'm getting extremely down and discouraged with every BFN.

So Sunday will a tough day for me either way. I won't know anyone else at this shower and no one can go with me. Most likely I'll be sitting there with a tampon in, wondering why it's so easy for some and seems so impossible for me.

Deleting facebook would be such a good idea but I don't know if I could do it. I live so far away from most of my friends since settling down and growing up, I'll deal with the painful photos. I'm sure I'll feel differently if this keeps up though.

Hugs to everyone... FX for BFPs and sticky beans and all good things.
If you read all that, thank you thank you. xoxo

 

[Elle.T.]

Only 3 months into TTC and I feel like an emotional wreck, Yesterday I started crying because the thought of NOT being pregnant again tears me up inside. I am a stay at home wife and choose not to go back to work after the wedding because we started to try right after and my job was so stressful I knew it would be a bad environment for me to even think about being pregnant in. I spent 10 years on Birth control and all this time trying not to be pregnant because I wanted to be married and here I am about have our 1 year anniversary and no baby. I try so hard to be optimistic but sometimes I cant help but get discouraged. I am not technically out yet this cycle I am 9DPO but I just dont "feel" pregnant. Ive never seen a positive pregnancy test and just wondering when it will be our time.

 

[lesondemavie]

Elle - I remember that feeling all too well 3 months in to this whole process. It wasn't so much that it hadn't happened yet, but more the fear that it would never happen. In fact, that's what my first journal post was about. I also had that same frustration of "what the heck was I doing on bcp all those years then!" It is tough every month no matter your situation. Sending you love and hugs girl. You are stronger than you realize and you will get through this no matter how short or long your journey. There is always hope. My BFP cycle I had zero symptoms until 11 DPO when it hit me like a train. If you keep on trying there is always a chance .

 

[Elle.T.]

Thanks so much for your kind words! Glad to have somewhere to vent with women who understand the struggle!

Elle - I remember that feeling all too well 3 months in to this whole process. It wasn't so much that it hadn't happened yet, but more the fear that it would never happen. In fact, that's what my first journal post was about. I also had that same frustration of "what the heck was I doing on bcp all those years then!" It is tough every month no matter your situation. Sending you love and hugs girl. You are stronger than you realize and you will get through this no matter how short or long your journey. There is always hope. My BFP cycle I had zero symptoms until 11 DPO when it hit me like a train. If you keep on trying there is always a chance .