Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[BSN2MOM]

So my nephew was born yesterday.. My brother in law got a girl pregnant back in December whom they were just fooling around and although they are dating now, it literally was so hard to be at the hospital yesterday holding him and knowing two and a half weeks ago I lost my baby. I held it together until we left and I got in the car.. Then I let loose and balled like a baby.. I know our time is coming and I'm very happy he's here.. But man did that being out the jealousy monster in a big way.

It's OK to feel jealous, you're only human. I'm so sorry for your loss

 

[SmotherMe13x]

I'm 23 and my husband and I have been trying for almost 2 1/2 years for a baby of our own.

This year I've been diagnosed with PCOS and a under active thyroid. While my thyroid is now under control I still haven't been able to get anything down towards helping conceiving with PCOS. The only thing given so far was Metforman and that hasn't helped.

In July I finally became pregnant for a very short time.. Ended in a Chemical Pregnancy. Now four months later, I'm feeling the same as I did in July and a little more symptoms than I did then even... Took a test this afternoon and it was definitely BFN.

I honestly feel terrible. Since trying 2 of my cousins have had 2-3 babies, my sister in laws had a baby, all my childhood best friends have had babies. I HATE when they tell me " Your next " . YES PLEASE!

T.T If it was that easy I'd have babies by now..

I just feel like it's never going to happen.

I have my first Endocrinologist appointment in January and if they don't do anything my GP will refer me to a infertility specialist. My appointments can't come soon enough!!

 

[Kimbo...]

Hi all

I am new to this so forgive me if I write on the wrong wall!!
I am ttc number 2! Number one happened without me even getting af after stopping the pill! Hasn't happened this time af came 6 weeks after stopping!
I have tried all the phone apps and those opk things! I am now cd20 and I never seem to get a positive? I get lines but never as dark as the control line! I swear I have had cramps etc! I'm getting very annoyed!!!

 

[BelleNuit]

Kimbo, you're in a TTC #1 thread which I think you know.

Sorry for your frustration. Sounds like you're just getting started though. We can't always expect to get pregnant at the drop of a hat. Good luck!

 

[Alaine]

I am trying to conceive. I timed my ovulation and had plenty of intercourse during that time (which was 2 weeks ago). Yesterday i had cramps and no af (day before expected af). This morning i got up took a test (came out negative) but noticed i had pink spotting when I wiped, not alot though. I dont understand how yesterday i had cramps but no af and today i have spotting no cramps.

What could this be ??

 

[Needabun]

Im 22 and DH and I have just started TTC #1. Before that we were NTNP but we still wanted it just as bad. During these years i cant tell you how many people i know who fell PG, and half of them said they didnt even want kids or are just really irresponsible and throw there kids off on everyone. Like really!! I know i deserve to be a mom and i would be a damn good one. What makes them so worthy of getting to experience this joy while im stuck with BFNs and MCs. I know how it feels to (in all honesty) be envious of other pregnancies and be angry. When i get like that i feel so ashamed and i try to be happy for that person even though im hurting so bad inside. But being around anything that has to do with pregnancy or babies can suck too. And it is EVERYWHERE!!!! I work in the infant room at my job so i have a bitter sweet feeling everyday. I love being with the babies but its also a constant reminder of what i dont have. But the one thing that really ruins it all is there's a pregnant girl that works in there (of course) and her pregnancy is ALL she ever talks about all day. I swear i try so hard not to be bitter inside smh. However, ive come to a certain peace with everything by just really believing that it CAN and WILL happen for ME! We hear it so often from our friends and family but deep inside we dont always believe it. We have to believe!!! Also now that DH and i have moved on to actually TTC ive felt a lot of stress being lifted off of me, i feel like im one step closer for some reason. Maybe i am...

Still hate when the misery of being childless tries to sneak in...

 

[ttc01]

Hi Everyone.

I'm new to all of this and apologize.. wasn't sure where to post a thread/forum.
My DH and I are ttc our first. The last few months have been .. frustrating to say the least.

I need some advice!! I am 3 days late.. which isn't out of the norm. but I just feel different this time around.. cant explain it.. I just don't feel right.

I have next to no discharge, no sex drive, cervix is high hard and closed, breasts are swollen, peeing a lot. very tired at about 11 to 3pm each day. And odd cravings and continually hungry. I get nauseous and a slight headache almost every night now this week.
My DH and I tried about 8 times throughout November. However 2 days after my period we had intercourse and I spotted right after.. is this because of the period finishing or could it have been implantation..?.. Either way, I never thought trying to become parents would be so hard, frustrating and discouraging. This is something we both really want .. but nothing comes easy right?

I stopped taking BC back in September and started taking prenatal vitamins right away. I have taken many HPT in the last few months.. all negative.
I just did a test on the day my period was due and the Clear blue digital test took 5 to 10 minutes to make a result .. odd right.. but it came back negative.
Ive read online that 3 days is nothing. But am sure most of you know its frustrating waiting and waiting only to get a negative.
I need some advice ladies! When should I test again. Should I just ignore the fact that I'm only 3 days late.. What should I do ?

 

[MagicDance]

Am I still trying???

What does that even mean! I have been asked this question over and over because YES I have been "trying" without much of a break for 2 years.

I was naieve to tell closest friends I thought would understand. I had hoped me telling them would mean they might appreciate why I find it hard at busy cafes with soft play areas or going out for breakfast in town right next to mothercare. I am genuinely heartbroken and a half completed puzzle piece.

But to hear "are you still trying?" To me is hearing "are you still failing?" "Havent you given up yet!"

Yes I am still trying and until my miracle happens I will not stop. I simply cant.

Im not sure where abouts I am in this Journey be it only just beginning, or the middle but I have by no means reached the end.❤

 

[lesondemavie]

Oh magic! I've been thinking of you xxx. Other women can be so ignorant of this struggle sometimes. I hate that you have to go so long without help. I know in my heart that I'd be right there with you without a referral. I am hopeful for you and your next steps. I know it is bittersweet, but it could be the start of your journey to that joyful ending . You are still trying because you are strong, and you want this more than most others can understand. It's ok if you don't feel that way though. Towards the end I didn't feel strong at all. I was in a deep, dark place, darker than I had ever known, and life just kept dragging me forward in spite of it. Will be thinking of you and hoping for the best xxx. Can't wait to see your good news whenever it may come

 

[MagicDance]

Thanks so much for your kind, kind words you have always been here when I needed a little bit of advice or a chin wag which is lovely.
I really do appreciate it xx The last couple of days have been particularly low for me.. too much over thinking it would seem!
Sometimes you just can't take anymore without a good cry or a vent. It's certainly helped.
Your picture is stunning too I must say �� Thanks again for taking the time to listen and respond.
I hope you're well Hun. Xx

 

[WayPastReady]

Hi ladies!

I posted on this thread a year or two ago (that's a depressing thought) and am back to vent some more feelings. DH and I have been ttc for so long that I've lost count of the cycles...it's been over 2.5 years and closer to 3 now. My sister got pregnant, 3 months after getting married and saying that they wanted to wait until next year to start trying, then suddenly they changed their mind and BAM pregnant on the first cycle without even really trying. I was initially shocked at the news and how she revealed it to us was not at all considerate of how we might take the news (she is aware of our ltttc.) She told us by calling me and telling me that she had a gift that she wanted to stop by and give me...then whipped out her pregnancy test and told us she was giving us a niece or nephew. My DH and I almost fell over, but we hid it very well and acted super happy for her, even though it took me a few days for those feeling to turn genuine. I would never wish the pain of ttc on anyone.

Now, she's currently 25 weeks pregnant and has had an uncomplicated pregnancy so far, but she constantly complains so much that I have never heard her say one positive thing about being pregnant. She's been saying for weeks that she's "done" being pregnant and "over it". I feel like she's being so ungrateful that she's able to get pregnant so easily and carry a child to term (most likely) without issue. It's like she's not even aware that people have difficulties getting pregnant, have miscarriages, stillbirths, etc. And of all people to be complaining to, don't complain to me!!! Ugh, I really can't even believe that she would have the nerve to say one negative thing about being pregnant to me, and yet she does it ALL THE TIME. She will even call me just to complain about being pregnant. I haven't called her on it yet, but I'm almost to the point where I'm going to say something about her needing to be grateful for being able to get pregnant and carry a baby without issue. Unfortunately, I think most women who don't struggle take it for granted. In a way, I think the biggest blessing of struggling to conceive is how much more we appreciate our babies.

Anyway, just needed to get that off my chest and share it with people who understand the struggle.

 

[MKaykes]

Way Past, hearing people complain about being pregnant is the worst! Both to those of us TTC as well as those who have lost babies or had premature infants. We all often get lost in our own self that it is hard to see that other side. I do think you should gently remind her of these things. Rather than bottling it up and exploding some day, as I'm sure she means no harm. Maybe she even thinks somehow you may benefit from going through it with her (obviously that isn't the case, but she may not realize how hurtful it is if you don't tell her).

It feels so unfair when someone gets something you've waited so long for, especially when it happens so naturally for them.

I hope your sister has a healthy pregnancy and that baby will be lucky to have you as an auntie!

 

[WayPastReady]

Way Past, hearing people complain about being pregnant is the worst! Both to those of us TTC as well as those who have lost babies or had premature infants. We all often get lost in our own self that it is hard to see that other side. I do think you should gently remind her of these things. Rather than bottling it up and exploding some day, as I'm sure she means no harm. Maybe she even thinks somehow you may benefit from going through it with her (obviously that isn't the case, but she may not realize how hurtful it is if you don't tell her).

It feels so unfair when someone gets something you've waited so long for, especially when it happens so naturally for them.

I hope your sister has a healthy pregnancy and that baby will be lucky to have you as an auntie!

Thank you for the sweet words. I think you may be right that in some way she thinks that by telling me all of the negatives that she is somehow making it easier on me. She has also been complaining to our mom so I don't think that is the case, but I will give her the benefit of the doubt and gently say something the next time she starts complaining.

 

[MommaMykee]

Hi ladies!

I posted on this thread a year or two ago (that's a depressing thought) and am back to vent some more feelings. DH and I have been ttc for so long that I've lost count of the cycles...it's been over 2.5 years and closer to 3 now. My sister got pregnant, 3 months after getting married and saying that they wanted to wait until next year to start trying, then suddenly they changed their mind and BAM pregnant on the first cycle without even really trying. I was initially shocked at the news and how she revealed it to us was not at all considerate of how we might take the news (she is aware of our ltttc.) She told us by calling me and telling me that she had a gift that she wanted to stop by and give me...then whipped out her pregnancy test and told us she was giving us a niece or nephew. My DH and I almost fell over, but we hid it very well and acted super happy for her, even though it took me a few days for those feeling to turn genuine. I would never wish the pain of ttc on anyone.

Now, she's currently 25 weeks pregnant and has had an uncomplicated pregnancy so far, but she constantly complains so much that I have never heard her say one positive thing about being pregnant. She's been saying for weeks that she's "done" being pregnant and "over it". I feel like she's being so ungrateful that she's able to get pregnant so easily and carry a child to term (most likely) without issue. It's like she's not even aware that people have difficulties getting pregnant, have miscarriages, stillbirths, etc. And of all people to be complaining to, don't complain to me!!! Ugh, I really can't even believe that she would have the nerve to say one negative thing about being pregnant to me, and yet she does it ALL THE TIME. She will even call me just to complain about being pregnant. I haven't called her on it yet, but I'm almost to the point where I'm going to say something about her needing to be grateful for being able to get pregnant and carry a baby without issue. Unfortunately, I think most women who don't struggle take it for granted. In a way, I think the biggest blessing of struggling to conceive is how much more we appreciate our babies.

Anyway, just needed to get that off my chest and share it with people who understand the struggle.

One of the first things my younger sister said to me after we got married was, "So are you going to start trying now?" I don't remember my exact response, but it was something like, 'Not sure' or 'maybe'. Knowing it has always seemed like a competition between the 2 of us, I wanted to keep our TTC plans between the husband and I for now. A few months later, we get a FaceTime call from her and her husband and BAM, I already knew she was going to announce they were expecting. It's so hard to hide facial expressions when you are being FaceTimed! lol, but I threw on a smile and cheered and congratulated them, even though deep down inside, I was a bit hurt. I wanted to be the pregnant one, even though at that point, we had only been trying for a few months.

My 2 best friends got married the year following my husband and I. And all of us being in our 30s and newlyweds, we are all openly sharing that we are trying. One of them just announced their pregnancy a few weeks ago. Again, although I am super, super happy for them (And did I mention it was another FaceTime announcement?!), I cried after we hung up because I was just so darn sad that another person gets to experience the bun in the oven that the husband and I have been struggling to do for the past year and a half.

*sigh* i keep telling myself that our time will come. It will happen when its supposed to happen.

BFF #2 will probably announce soon here too. It would be just my luck, lol.

 

[WayPastReady]

Hi ladies!

I posted on this thread a year or two ago (that's a depressing thought) and am back to vent some more feelings. DH and I have been ttc for so long that I've lost count of the cycles...it's been over 2.5 years and closer to 3 now. My sister got pregnant, 3 months after getting married and saying that they wanted to wait until next year to start trying, then suddenly they changed their mind and BAM pregnant on the first cycle without even really trying. I was initially shocked at the news and how she revealed it to us was not at all considerate of how we might take the news (she is aware of our ltttc.) She told us by calling me and telling me that she had a gift that she wanted to stop by and give me...then whipped out her pregnancy test and told us she was giving us a niece or nephew. My DH and I almost fell over, but we hid it very well and acted super happy for her, even though it took me a few days for those feeling to turn genuine. I would never wish the pain of ttc on anyone.

Now, she's currently 25 weeks pregnant and has had an uncomplicated pregnancy so far, but she constantly complains so much that I have never heard her say one positive thing about being pregnant. She's been saying for weeks that she's "done" being pregnant and "over it". I feel like she's being so ungrateful that she's able to get pregnant so easily and carry a child to term (most likely) without issue. It's like she's not even aware that people have difficulties getting pregnant, have miscarriages, stillbirths, etc. And of all people to be complaining to, don't complain to me!!! Ugh, I really can't even believe that she would have the nerve to say one negative thing about being pregnant to me, and yet she does it ALL THE TIME. She will even call me just to complain about being pregnant. I haven't called her on it yet, but I'm almost to the point where I'm going to say something about her needing to be grateful for being able to get pregnant and carry a baby without issue. Unfortunately, I think most women who don't struggle take it for granted. In a way, I think the biggest blessing of struggling to conceive is how much more we appreciate our babies.

Anyway, just needed to get that off my chest and share it with people who understand the struggle.

One of the first things my younger sister said to me after we got married was, "So are you going to start trying now?" I don't remember my exact response, but it was something like, 'Not sure' or 'maybe'. Knowing it has always seemed like a competition between the 2 of us, I wanted to keep our TTC plans between the husband and I for now. A few months later, we get a FaceTime call from her and her husband and BAM, I already knew she was going to announce they were expecting. It's so hard to hide facial expressions when you are being FaceTimed! lol, but I threw on a smile and cheered and congratulated them, even though deep down inside, I was a bit hurt. I wanted to be the pregnant one, even though at that point, we had only been trying for a few months.

My 2 best friends got married the year following my husband and I. And all of us being in our 30s and newlyweds, we are all openly sharing that we are trying. One of them just announced their pregnancy a few weeks ago. Again, although I am super, super happy for them (And did I mention it was another FaceTime announcement?!), I cried after we hung up because I was just so darn sad that another person gets to experience the bun in the oven that the husband and I have been struggling to do for the past year and a half.

*sigh* i keep telling myself that our time will come. It will happen when its supposed to happen.

BFF #2 will probably announce soon here too. It would be just my luck, lol.

The good ol' FaceTime announcement lol. Anytime anyone wants to FaceTime me, I immediately dread it. Both of my best friends are also pregnant or have a baby. The first one got pregnant on accident, and the second one got pregnant on the first try. I can't even envision what getting pregnant on accident would be like!!! Thankfully I have two other good friends who don't want kids, so I'll be spared from those announcements...for now at least.

Hope you get your BFP soon!!

 

[Ragnhild]

Hi ladies!

I posted on this thread a year or two ago (that's a depressing thought) and am back to vent some more feelings. DH and I have been ttc for so long that I've lost count of the cycles...it's been over 2.5 years and closer to 3 now. My sister got pregnant, 3 months after getting married and saying that they wanted to wait until next year to start trying, then suddenly they changed their mind and BAM pregnant on the first cycle without even really trying. I was initially shocked at the news and how she revealed it to us was not at all considerate of how we might take the news (she is aware of our ltttc.) She told us by calling me and telling me that she had a gift that she wanted to stop by and give me...then whipped out her pregnancy test and told us she was giving us a niece or nephew. My DH and I almost fell over, but we hid it very well and acted super happy for her, even though it took me a few days for those feeling to turn genuine. I would never wish the pain of ttc on anyone.

Now, she's currently 25 weeks pregnant and has had an uncomplicated pregnancy so far, but she constantly complains so much that I have never heard her say one positive thing about being pregnant. She's been saying for weeks that she's "done" being pregnant and "over it". I feel like she's being so ungrateful that she's able to get pregnant so easily and carry a child to term (most likely) without issue. It's like she's not even aware that people have difficulties getting pregnant, have miscarriages, stillbirths, etc. And of all people to be complaining to, don't complain to me!!! Ugh, I really can't even believe that she would have the nerve to say one negative thing about being pregnant to me, and yet she does it ALL THE TIME. She will even call me just to complain about being pregnant. I haven't called her on it yet, but I'm almost to the point where I'm going to say something about her needing to be grateful for being able to get pregnant and carry a baby without issue. Unfortunately, I think most women who don't struggle take it for granted. In a way, I think the biggest blessing of struggling to conceive is how much more we appreciate our babies.

Anyway, just needed to get that off my chest and share it with people who understand the struggle.

Hi all I'm new here and just wanted to say thank you to whoever created this thread and everyone else who is sharing. I can really feel you Waypast... My best friend who got pregnant by accident (on a drunken trip of all things!?) and carried to term without any complications (even though she has pcos and thyroid) just does not realize how lucky she is. Knowing her history of ob-gyn probs I actually was really happy for her. But she complained throughout the pregnancy and after, and at this point I cannot even talk to her. I tried to tell her how lucky she is, but it had no affect. Hope you have better luck with your sister!

I do agree with you though that ttc really makes you appreciate and be grateful for when it does happen, and much as I envy the ones who get it the first time, in some way I also know that's only a small part of the journey. Even though it feels huge to us all at this moment, it's only 9 months of what is a lifelong relationship with your child. And seeing the complaints and negative energy surrounding many of my friends' children, i tell myself that rather than end up like that, I prefer being ttc and learning these important lessons.

 

[WayPastReady]

Hi ladies!

I posted on this thread a year or two ago (that's a depressing thought) and am back to vent some more feelings. DH and I have been ttc for so long that I've lost count of the cycles...it's been over 2.5 years and closer to 3 now. My sister got pregnant, 3 months after getting married and saying that they wanted to wait until next year to start trying, then suddenly they changed their mind and BAM pregnant on the first cycle without even really trying. I was initially shocked at the news and how she revealed it to us was not at all considerate of how we might take the news (she is aware of our ltttc.) She told us by calling me and telling me that she had a gift that she wanted to stop by and give me...then whipped out her pregnancy test and told us she was giving us a niece or nephew. My DH and I almost fell over, but we hid it very well and acted super happy for her, even though it took me a few days for those feeling to turn genuine. I would never wish the pain of ttc on anyone.

Now, she's currently 25 weeks pregnant and has had an uncomplicated pregnancy so far, but she constantly complains so much that I have never heard her say one positive thing about being pregnant. She's been saying for weeks that she's "done" being pregnant and "over it". I feel like she's being so ungrateful that she's able to get pregnant so easily and carry a child to term (most likely) without issue. It's like she's not even aware that people have difficulties getting pregnant, have miscarriages, stillbirths, etc. And of all people to be complaining to, don't complain to me!!! Ugh, I really can't even believe that she would have the nerve to say one negative thing about being pregnant to me, and yet she does it ALL THE TIME. She will even call me just to complain about being pregnant. I haven't called her on it yet, but I'm almost to the point where I'm going to say something about her needing to be grateful for being able to get pregnant and carry a baby without issue. Unfortunately, I think most women who don't struggle take it for granted. In a way, I think the biggest blessing of struggling to conceive is how much more we appreciate our babies.

Anyway, just needed to get that off my chest and share it with people who understand the struggle.

Hi all I'm new here and just wanted to say thank you to whoever created this thread and everyone else who is sharing. I can really feel you Waypast... My best friend who got pregnant by accident (on a drunken trip of all things!?) and carried to term without any complications (even though she has pcos and thyroid) just does not realize how lucky she is. Knowing her history of ob-gyn probs I actually was really happy for her. But she complained throughout the pregnancy and after, and at this point I cannot even talk to her. I tried to tell her how lucky she is, but it had no affect. Hope you have better luck with your sister!

I do agree with you though that ttc really makes you appreciate and be grateful for when it does happen, and much as I envy the ones who get it the first time, in some way I also know that's only a small part of the journey. Even though it feels huge to us all at this moment, it's only 9 months of what is a lifelong relationship with your child. And seeing the complaints and negative energy surrounding many of my friends' children, i tell myself that rather than end up like that, I prefer being ttc and learning these important lessons.

That's so very true. It's definitely a journey and the TTC portion, although it feels all consuming right now, is just a small part of having and raising a child. So sorry you're also going through this rollercoaster of a journey.

It's sad that some people, like your friend, will never realize how blessed they are even when it's pointed out to them. I missed an opportunity to say something to my sister yesterday but did try to turn the conversation positive rather than negative in regards to her pregnancy complaints. I think I've gotten too good at keeping my mouth shut when people say insensitive things to me about pregnancy. I also think part of the reason I haven't said anything is because I don't like to tell people just how much emotional pain I'm going through with all of this, and I think that would show through if I started to tell her how lucky she is.

Hopefully 2017 will be the year for all of us on this thread! I will keep all of you in my prayers.

 

[Ragnhild]

It's sad that some people, like your friend, will never realize how blessed they are even when it's pointed out to them. I missed an opportunity to say something to my sister yesterday but did try to turn the conversation positive rather than negative in regards to her pregnancy complaints. I think I've gotten too good at keeping my mouth shut when people say insensitive things to me about pregnancy. I also think part of the reason I haven't said anything is because I don't like to tell people just how much emotional pain I'm going through with all of this, and I think that would show through if I started to tell her how lucky she is.

Hopefully 2017 will be the year for all of us on this thread! I will keep all of you in my prayers.

Thanks Waypast... You're all in my prayers too. Hope 2017 brings good news for all of us

I get the part about keeping your mouth shut... I've actually gotten to the point when I avoid as many social gatherings as I can, and the ones I simply cannot someone or the other will always say something insensitive so I just don't say anything. Hope you have some luck with your sister.

 

[akc701]

Hi ladies!

I posted on this thread a year or two ago (that's a depressing thought) and am back to vent some more feelings. DH and I have been ttc for so long that I've lost count of the cycles...it's been over 2.5 years and closer to 3 now. My sister got pregnant, 3 months after getting married and saying that they wanted to wait until next year to start trying, then suddenly they changed their mind and BAM pregnant on the first cycle without even really trying. I was initially shocked at the news and how she revealed it to us was not at all considerate of how we might take the news (she is aware of our ltttc.) She told us by calling me and telling me that she had a gift that she wanted to stop by and give me...then whipped out her pregnancy test and told us she was giving us a niece or nephew. My DH and I almost fell over, but we hid it very well and acted super happy for her, even though it took me a few days for those feeling to turn genuine. I would never wish the pain of ttc on anyone.

Now, she's currently 25 weeks pregnant and has had an uncomplicated pregnancy so far, but she constantly complains so much that I have never heard her say one positive thing about being pregnant. She's been saying for weeks that she's "done" being pregnant and "over it". I feel like she's being so ungrateful that she's able to get pregnant so easily and carry a child to term (most likely) without issue. It's like she's not even aware that people have difficulties getting pregnant, have miscarriages, stillbirths, etc. And of all people to be complaining to, don't complain to me!!! Ugh, I really can't even believe that she would have the nerve to say one negative thing about being pregnant to me, and yet she does it ALL THE TIME. She will even call me just to complain about being pregnant. I haven't called her on it yet, but I'm almost to the point where I'm going to say something about her needing to be grateful for being able to get pregnant and carry a baby without issue. Unfortunately, I think most women who don't struggle take it for granted. In a way, I think the biggest blessing of struggling to conceive is how much more we appreciate our babies.

Anyway, just needed to get that off my chest and share it with people who understand the struggle.

Hi! I have been reading this site for what feels like forever, but never had the courage to register or post. I came across your post and just had to say I completely understand where you are coming from. We have been trying to conceive for close to 2 years now (1 year just not NOT trying, 6 months medically assisted). I have been on 5 rounds of clomid and this month I am set to start ultrasound monitoring and ovidrel shots. My sister (2 years older than me) had no problem getting pregnant with her first son, who is now 3. When she decided she was ready for a second, she didn't get pregnant right away but refused to see a doctor. As soon as she finally did go to a doctor she got pregnant the first month. Now all she does is text me every time she has an ache/pain/sickness. I am getting so tired of it. I am thrilled for her and so glad she is pregnant again but I'm also sad for me and my husband and it stinks to listen to her complain all of the time I don't know how to tell her gently that it is really bothering me without her thinking that I am not happy for her. Praying for your situation!

 

[akc701]

It's sad that some people, like your friend, will never realize how blessed they are even when it's pointed out to them. I missed an opportunity to say something to my sister yesterday but did try to turn the conversation positive rather than negative in regards to her pregnancy complaints. I think I've gotten too good at keeping my mouth shut when people say insensitive things to me about pregnancy. I also think part of the reason I haven't said anything is because I don't like to tell people just how much emotional pain I'm going through with all of this, and I think that would show through if I started to tell her how lucky she is.

Hopefully 2017 will be the year for all of us on this thread! I will keep all of you in my prayers.

Thanks Waypast... You're all in my prayers too. Hope 2017 brings good news for all of us

I get the part about keeping your mouth shut... I've actually gotten to the point when I avoid as many social gatherings as I can, and the ones I simply cannot someone or the other will always say something insensitive so I just don't say anything. Hope you have some luck with your sister.

Ragnhild....Amen to the avoiding social situations. I have been to so many first birthday parties (friends' children), baby showers, and holiday parties recently that it just makes me want to scream. Every single one of them someone does the "now when are y'all going to have one of your own?" and I cringe.