Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[tamithomas]

Why is it that whenever I look up stuff about ectopic'sl I read that it's very rare and probably won't happen... but you hear about it happening so much?

Because here on BnB women from all across the world post on here. It may seem more common due to the people having them are actually grouped up together but if you look at the numbers of births, mothers and plain M/C, ectopics still remain pretty rare. Hope that helps?

 

[tamithomas]

mini rant: Why is it only people who are infertile that get bombarded with the "don't go for fertility treatments, adopt..it's a lot less selfish". You would think those have 10 kids would be the ones being more suited for that type of bombardment. Not that I think anyone deserves to be told what to do with their life, but it's annoying that it's those who can't get the gift of life that are usually the ones kicked in the stomach while they're done.

 

[Pink Petals]

mini rant: Why is it only people who are infertile that get bombarded with the "don't go for fertility treatments, adopt..it's a lot less selfish". You would think those have 10 kids would be the ones being more suited for that type of bombardment. Not that I think anyone deserves to be told what to do with their life, but it's annoying that it's those who can't get the gift of life that are usually the ones kicked in the stomach while they're done.

I never understood this either! How is it anymore selfish for infertile people to want their own children than it is for fertile people?! Like we are somehow responsible for the children that fertile people don't want?! If the people who say this are so selfless and concerned about these children, they could choose to adopt instead of having their own children!

PLUS, adoption can be a much more difficult process than infertility treatments in a lot of cases. It can take more time, more money and a lot of heartache if it doesn't work out.

I believe that children deserve to be adopted by parents who want to adopt, and whether the couple is fertile or infertile should have nothing to do with it. In what way does having a reproductive problem make a person a good candidate for adoption?

 

[m4e]

m4e-- Your situation is so rare and hard. I'm very sorry for you. If you haven't already I would start doing some research online. Maybe there's massages or acupuncture that could help your DH. I would definitely talk to more doctors there has to be one out there that would see your case as a challenge and want to tackle it.

I've done soooooooooooo much research. I never know if it helps or makes it harder. I really want him to do acupuncture, but is really expensive. I'll hopefully be starting a good job in a few months, so maybe then.

 

[m4e]

Still nothing...my husband just did an at home SA and still zero sperm. I guess everything I thought was helping wasn't. Oh well. I'm glad I didn't let myself get my hopes up...I have to work in the morning and the last thing I needed was to bawl my eyes out all night. I definitely prepared myself to be let down. Oh well, I guess at least we don't have to try for at least a few months again. Trying is too hard and I guess I'm at least fortunate enough to KNOW that I won't get pregnant even if we try. That way I don't feel guilty not trying.

 

[Pink Petals]

Still nothing...my husband just did an at home SA and still zero sperm. I guess everything I thought was helping wasn't. Oh well. I'm glad I didn't let myself get my hopes up...I have to work in the morning and the last thing I needed was to bawl my eyes out all night. I definitely prepared myself to be let down. Oh well, I guess at least we don't have to try for at least a few months again. Trying is too hard and I guess I'm at least fortunate enough to KNOW that I won't get pregnant even if we try. That way I don't feel guilty not trying.

This must be so difficult for you, I can't even imagine. I really hope that things get better for you guys and you get that BFP.

 

[cntrygrl]

m4e-- Your situation is so rare and hard. I'm very sorry for you. If you haven't already I would start doing some research online. Maybe there's massages or acupuncture that could help your DH. I would definitely talk to more doctors there has to be one out there that would see your case as a challenge and want to tackle it.

I've done soooooooooooo much research. I never know if it helps or makes it harder. I really want him to do acupuncture, but is really expensive. I'll hopefully be starting a good job in a few months, so maybe then.

FXed for you. I would think it would be something insurance would cover then if it was recommended by a doctor. It would probably just fall under the specialist category.

 

[babymabey]

God I am so frustrated. I was supposed to get AF on Saturday, nothing. I tested Fri, Sat and Sun and all were Negative but I was having a ton of pregnancy symptoms. So here it is Monday and still no AF. My periods have been regular since we began TTC, even after my 2 miscarriages they remained regular. I wiped yesterday and there was some pink so I assumed AF was coming because it was light I used a pad, and when I went to the bathroom the next time there was nothing. I don't know what the hell is going on. I had a miscarriage at the beginning of November, but I ovulated when I was supposed to ovulate so I have no freaking idea why my period is freaking out on me. My boobs are still killing me, and I am now having cramps so I know AF should be coming. Now I am confused as to when CD 1 should be. Should it be the day that I first had the blood, or will I not start counting until the flow gets heavier? I am not even kidding, the longer my husband and I TTC, the more confusing everything gets, and the more I envy people who get pregnant without even trying!

 

[Nazz4]

@mabey
That happened to me in the summer, my AF was like 3 weeks late and I had a little bit of spotting in between. I thought I was one of those people that have HCG too low to detect on a HPT, but surely AF came really really late. It's never happened to me before that and hasn't happened since. I have 26-28 day cycles and now its cd 29 no AF so I'm thinking it's going to happen again unless this is it. I'm not going to test until Thursday though if no AF since I O'd late and I hate seeing the BFN... Good luck to you, you're not out until AF comes. Oh and you count CD1 as when you're AF is full blown, not spotting.

 

[cntrygrl]

Mabey-- I wouldn't count it until you have a red flow not just pink.

 

[tamithomas]

Oh joy..another celebrity BFP being blasted everywhere I go. *eye roll* because clearly spamming the world with Kate's BFP isn't enough, we now how Shakira's plastered everywhere.

Don't get me wrong, very happy for her and wish her the best but there's bigger and more important news to report then what women have been doing for thousands of years, reproducing.

I know it sounds very bitter of a statement but just having one of those days, had I heard the news on another day (Yes I just found out today, I'm that secluded from any type of social celebrity gossip stuff lol) I probably would respond differently. With Christmas in 2 weeks and was supposed to be 4 months babybump yet the house is empty, it's getting me down. At least cheers for Turkey and eggnog! lol

 

[Mimzy3]

Vent of the day!!!

Sick of ppl saying "you guys are so cute together you should start making babies! I can just image how cute they would be!" ugghh trying!!! But, of course I just say "thanks"....

 

[m4e]

God I am so frustrated. I was supposed to get AF on Saturday, nothing. I tested Fri, Sat and Sun and all were Negative but I was having a ton of pregnancy symptoms. So here it is Monday and still no AF. My periods have been regular since we began TTC, even after my 2 miscarriages they remained regular. I wiped yesterday and there was some pink so I assumed AF was coming because it was light I used a pad, and when I went to the bathroom the next time there was nothing. I don't know what the hell is going on. I had a miscarriage at the beginning of November, but I ovulated when I was supposed to ovulate so I have no freaking idea why my period is freaking out on me. My boobs are still killing me, and I am now having cramps so I know AF should be coming. Now I am confused as to when CD 1 should be. Should it be the day that I first had the blood, or will I not start counting until the flow gets heavier? I am not even kidding, the longer my husband and I TTC, the more confusing everything gets, and the more I envy people who get pregnant without even trying!

I think the first day of spotting is supposed to be CD1, BUT if you had light spotting one day then nothing for a day or two, I don't think that counts. Sorry you're having a hard time. I know how painful it is.

 

[825cal]

TTC for 4 months and I think I'm losing my mind! Why do I always think I see a second line on the HPT?!! It's crazy what your mind does when your TTC. Do you guys have your hormones checked before TTC or wait for a year? I don't know if I can wait that long!

 

[825cal]

I just realized how silly I sound after reading some posts... still trying to get used to how this site works... best luck to all!!

 

[FireLyte]

@825cal: Don't feel silly! We all need to let off steam - TTC'ing can be difficult and emotionally trying to say the least. To answer your question: It kind of depends on the doctor/office that you use. Some doctors won't do the lab/blood work until you've been TTC for a month. If you're not already, try charting your BBT and using OPK's to help figure out when you're ovulating. That'll give you a better chance at getting your BFP.

 

[babymabey]

Oh joy..another celebrity BFP being blasted everywhere I go. *eye roll* because clearly spamming the world with Kate's BFP isn't enough, we now how Shakira's plastered everywhere.

Don't get me wrong, very happy for her and wish her the best but there's bigger and more important news to report then what women have been doing for thousands of years, reproducing.

I know it sounds very bitter of a statement but just having one of those days, had I heard the news on another day (Yes I just found out today, I'm that secluded from any type of social celebrity gossip stuff lol) I probably would respond differently. With Christmas in 2 weeks and was supposed to be 4 months babybump yet the house is empty, it's getting me down. At least cheers for Turkey and eggnog! lol

I know how you feel. If my bean would have stuck I would be about 6 months right now. But now I have to go into Christmas, not only not being pregnant, but having to watch people dote on my sister-in-law who is expecting (She is at 18 weeks, how do I know? Because she posts a picture every week on Facebook of her belly and how far along she is).

I am also sick of all the celebrity pregnancy reports. The singer from Lady Antebellum is also pregnant so the news was comparing her and Kate and how the babies will live.

I am just glad that AF finally showed up in full force yesterday afternoon. It is so weird that I am excited about that, but it means that I should ovulate on time. I feel bad because it is to the point where my husband and I have to schedule sex around my ovulation to maximize swimmers, and that just takes the romance out of it. It's all about the baby making now

 

[Mimzy3]

TTC for 4 months and I think I'm losing my mind! Why do I always think I see a second line on the HPT?!! It's crazy what your mind does when your TTC. Do you guys have your hormones checked before TTC or wait for a year? I don't know if I can wait that long!

I have been TTC for 9 months and at 7 months I had some basic tests done. But I go to my doc next week and i'm going to ask for more in depth ones. Most docs like to wait till you have been trying for a year though. Because they say its normal to try for a year. Even when "all the stars" are aligned there is still only a 20% chance of conceiving each cycle. Since you’re at 4 months only I wouldn't get discouraged yet. I'm asking for more test because I am still very irregular since coming off of BCP (birth control pills). As long as your cycles are "normal" you prob have nothing to worry about it just takes some time.

 

[tamithomas]

Dear body... I'm only 8DPO, please don't give me false hope by making me want spicy food to the point I had to dip bread in hot sauce just to get a fix. Hot sauce usually makes me dance like a Native American and I hate it, suddenly it tastes delicious. I even had to add black peper to my husbands perfectly spiced boeuf bourignon because it wasn't hot enough. Actually this may sound weird but..if it's not spicy, my gag reflex decides i ain't eating it. Last time that happened this hardcore craving for spicy food was with my last and only BFP that ending in M/C but i was at least 14DPO before that started. Also been feeling the AF is due any day with major cramping but not due until the 21st-22th. 8DPO sounds too early to be having symptoms.... is it?

For now I'm gonna write it off as my body going through taste bud changes as it happens through age, don't want to get my hopes up. Just wish my body would make up it's mind lol

 

[tamithomas]

TTC for 4 months and I think I'm losing my mind! Why do I always think I see a second line on the HPT?!! It's crazy what your mind does when your TTC. Do you guys have your hormones checked before TTC or wait for a year? I don't know if I can wait that long!

You don't sound crazy to me. It's normal, you may have not been trying for long but the minute you know you want a baby, time slows down and makes months seem like years. FX for you!