Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[MamaTex]

I was about to say go to your gyno, but you already are! This happened to me this summer, and I eventually got AF... that was the only time AF was ever late. Now I'm a few days late and I'm scared it's going to happen to me again. I haven't tested yet because I'm too scared to see the BFN.

Did you have the watery cm and cramps too? When did your AF finally come? Do you know why it was so late? Sorry for all the questions!

I honestly don't remember too much, I think I tried to block that whole thing out of my mind because it was so upsetting. I think I had some cramping, but not too much, I don't remember my cm though. I had gone to my gyno, they gave me a quantitative blood test and it was negative so they told me just to wait until I got my period because I'm not pregnant, and if I didn't get it within a couple weeks or something they were going to do an U/S. I think AF was about 3 weeks late or so. I didn't believe them that I wasn't pregnant, I kept thinking "no I'm just one of those people that never gets a positive test their whole pregnancy" (because that DOES happen to some people btw). Then I thought maybe I had a MC because my HCG and prog levels were too low to hold the baby... I guess I will never truly know. This time I have been having cramps, and I have watery/sticky cm. The other morning I had one cramp that was so bad I had to squat on the ground and hold myself. I'm probably going to test on Friday, if no AF but I'm scared this is all just going to happen again so I'm really hoping for 2 lines this time to avoid pulling all my hair out. Let me know how things go for you, I'm really curious! Good luck!

Good luck to you lady and to you other ladies!! The unknown is a nerve wracking place to be but this may be it. I hope this is it for you

 

[Nazz4]

Thanks mamatex! Where are you at in your cycle??

And good luck Panda!

I have a gut feeling that I'm not pregnant either... Just my body f@#king with me I bet. But you know, until you get your AF there is always that little glimmer of hope in the back of your head like "well maybe this really is it" even if you have a BFN and everything... because you hear all those stories about people who never get a BFP the whole time they're pregnant.

Waiting waiting waiting... How do some people have like a bunch of kids, do they do this whole waiting thing going crazy every time? Like the Duggars, after so many kids does that lady just instantly know when she's pregnant, or has she done this ttc and tww BS like 22 times or whatever... I can't imagine, but holy crap those people are fertile as hell! If only they could share the wealth haha!

 

[MamaTex]

Thanks mamatex! Where are you at in your cycle??

And good luck Panda!

I have a gut feeling that I'm not pregnant either... Just my body f@#king with me I bet. But you know, until you get your AF there is always that little glimmer of hope in the back of your head like "well maybe this really is it" even if you have a BFN and everything... because you hear all those stories about people who never get a BFP the whole time they're pregnant.

Waiting waiting waiting... How do some people have like a bunch of kids, do they do this whole waiting thing going crazy every time? Like the Duggars, after so many kids does that lady just instantly know when she's pregnant, or has she done this ttc and tww BS like 22 times or whatever... I can't imagine, but holy crap those people are fertile as hell! If only they could share the wealth haha!

I private messaged ya

I bet Mrs. Duggar can give birth with no assistance by now. I wonder if she shoots em out like cannon balls now. That lady is a pro!!

 

[m4e]

Just found out another person is pregnant... I just feel so deflated... I'm starting to think children just aren't my lot in life...

 

[horseypants]

i found this on someone's facebook page. it is too perfect.

 

[m4e]

Coworker got married a month after me and is already pregnant. Now everyone...keeps looking at me as where my kid is. I have had them come up to me and ask if i was pregnant, they have rubbed my stomach and said I am next and have also told me to get out and "make some babies"...they don't know we are trying and involved with a fertillity doc.

I'm so sorry. I know the feeling. I get it all the time and it makes me want to scream.

 

[GingerPanda]

Yesterday I stopped by my old workplace to chat with friends after my doctor's appointment. One asks me how I'm liking the SAHW gig, then says "So you know, the next step is babies! Little yous running around everywhere. It would be hilarious."

So I had to stare at my feet and tell the group that my doctor appointment that morning had concluded that if I didn't get pregnant on my own by the end of March, we were starting fertility testing.

Better to have this awkward moment now than have them ask when I'm having babies every time I visit.

 

[Mimzy3]

Yesterday I stopped by my old workplace to chat with friends after my doctor's appointment. One asks me how I'm liking the SAHW gig, then says "So you know, the next step is babies! Little yous running around everywhere. It would be hilarious."

So I had to stare at my feet and tell the group that my doctor appointment that morning had concluded that if I didn't get pregnant on my own by the end of March, we were starting fertility testing.

Better to have this awkward moment now than have them ask when I'm having babies every time I visit.

Your brave! I just tell ppl "oh not yet, someday"

 

[babybemine]

Yesterday I stopped by my old workplace to chat with friends after my doctor's appointment. One asks me how I'm liking the SAHW gig, then says "So you know, the next step is babies! Little yous running around everywhere. It would be hilarious."

So I had to stare at my feet and tell the group that my doctor appointment that morning had concluded that if I didn't get pregnant on my own by the end of March, we were starting fertility testing.

Better to have this awkward moment now than have them ask when I'm having babies every time I visit.

Your brave! I just tell ppl "oh not yet, someday"

Yeah that is what I usually do as well

 

[Mimzy3]

Nazz did you test today?!?!

AF got me this am! Its just brown more like spotting but my last "period" in Nov. was like that too.

 

[Nazz4]

BFN and then AF got me that BITCH!!! sorry lol. Ready to try again... I guess...

 

[Mimzy3]

BFN and then AF got me that BITCH!!! sorry lol. Ready to try again... I guess...

We're in the same boat!!! But my next shot won't be till Feb. because my hubby is gone (military). He won't be home till 24th-2nd and I won't be Ov then. Then he won't be home again till Feb. So I guess taking a break till Feb.

 

[tamithomas]

This is going to sound really insensitive and I apologize in advance, I mean no harm by it. but I gotta get this out of my system:

My Facebook is being blown with "huge your LO's tonight, I know I will. I love you so much my daughter or son" Gosh darnnit I wish I had a LO to hug...been trying for 3 years to hug them not just today but on every given day.

Sending all of my love,prayers and sympathies to the families effected.

 

[Pink Petals]

Driving behind a large SUV with LOTS of stick people on the rear window... And the license plate says BFN on it to boot! Thanks...

 

[m4e]

Pretty sure I Oed yesterday or maybe today. We haven't had sex in like two weeks. I'm too discouraged. We've been trying so long that for me sex is just a way to have a baby, and if we can't do that, I can't get in the mood 99% of the time. I feel so bad for my husband. I've been so depressed and I know he feels awful. I have always believed in God, but I've recently been starting to doubt, because if God is out there, why is this happening?? But after my husband did another at home SA the other night and it came back with nothing STILL, I realised that I HAVE TO believe in God and that He's good, because if He doesn't exist we have no hope at all. Without a miracle we will almost positively never have children.

 

[tamithomas]

AF cramps, not due until next Friday..joy, hope she's not showing up early. To add, I now got a fever and dizzyness. fun! *not*

 

[Pink Petals]

Pretty sure I Oed yesterday or maybe today. We haven't had sex in like two weeks. I'm too discouraged. We've been trying so long that for me sex is just a way to have a baby, and if we can't do that, I can't get in the mood 99% of the time. I feel so bad for my husband. I've been so depressed and I know he feels awful. I have always believed in God, but I've recently been starting to doubt, because if God is out there, why is this happening?? But after my husband did another at home SA the other night and it came back with nothing STILL, I realised that I HAVE TO believe in God and that He's good, because if He doesn't exist we have no hope at all. Without a miracle we will almost positively never have children.

Is there an infertility support group where you live? I know those exist here. It might help to meet face to face with other couples going through the same thing.

I have also been fighting depression since TTC and one of the things that has helped me a little bit is going for couple's counselling. It hasn't been a "cure," but we have learned a few strategies that have helped. Also, exercise helps me a lot too.

I hope you get your miracle sooner rather than later.

 

[kw1012]

Hello - I'm new here. I've been really discouraged lately and this weekend just topped it off. I just googled "TTC Vent Forum" and this was the first one that came up so here I am. My husband and I have been TTC for almost 3 years (I've been off the pill since then anyways). I'm getting so sick of everyone asking me when I'm going to have kids. My boss used to tell me everyday I needed to hurry up and get pregnant - until I had a little melt down at work and told her how much it bothered me!

Last night, I went to a neighborhood girl's night and once again, I'm the only one in a group of women that doesn't have a kid. And once again, the conversation ALWAYS ends up about kids and there I am just sitting there thinking "well, I have a dog - does that count???"

Last month, my temperature spiked and I had a positive ov test, so I told my dh that we have to do the deed that night. (not very romantic - but hey, neither is taking my temp and peeing on a stick several times a month). His reply to me was "Well, that's not going to work - you make it seem like a chore" WTF?!?! I realize that but why does it always have to be all pleasure for the guys and the women have to do all the work?? Am I the only one that has a husband that just doesn't get it?? All of my friends have kids so no one in my life really "gets it" - thanks for letting me vent!

 

[Pink Petals]

Don't worry. WE get it!

 

[Mimzy3]

KW

You've found the right place! We all understand and get it! Pisses me off too when ppl say "hurry up and get preg" like we can just snap our fingers and make it happen! If so we would ALL have been preg by now.

But just so u know once your temp spikes it prob to late, they say it spikes after Ov.