Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[tamithomas]

I know people don't mean harm by this but it really drives me nuts..if we tell you we m/c, don't say "I understand" if you don't. You don't understand even if you say you do! You may mean well but you got 3 beautiful kids and got them in a snap of a finger.

 

[tamithomas]

Sorry for a double vent today but this got my blood pressure going. The number dumb comment of the day I found on facebook today:

"This may get me flamed to the back of beyond, but I kinda figure that if people who get pregnant first time trying should be respectful of their friends with fertility issues, then those friends with fertility issues should be respectful of the friends who are very fertile. Perhaps they were upset at their lack of need to continue having copious amounts of sex? Just saying."

WHAT?! My IQ points just dropped 50 points reading that...

 

[southernbound]

Sorry for a double vent today but this got my blood pressure going. The number dumb comment of the day I found on facebook today:

"This may get me flamed to the back of beyond, but I kinda figure that if people who get pregnant first time trying should be respectful of their friends with fertility issues, then those friends with fertility issues should be respectful of the friends who are very fertile. Perhaps they were upset at their lack of need to continue having copious amounts of sex? Just saying."

WHAT?! My IQ points just dropped 50 points reading that...

holy geez! There's such a thing as birth control if yky want copious amounts of sex!

 

[JJB]

F#@k!!! Just found out some friends of ours are having a baby...I'm happy for them...okay that's a lie. I feel like I want to cry. I almost started to but I'm holding it in. Then we called our insurance company to see if they covered any fertility stuff but they don't Oh and the friends of our that got pregnant weren't even trying or planning on having a baby it "just happened".

I just experienced another BFP announcement today too. I swear I just want to give up sometimes but I can't! We have to stick together and keep trying for our BFPs!! hugs and baby dust

Thanks! You're right, we have to stick together!

 

[JJB]

Sorry for a double vent today but this got my blood pressure going. The number dumb comment of the day I found on facebook today:

"This may get me flamed to the back of beyond, but I kinda figure that if people who get pregnant first time trying should be respectful of their friends with fertility issues, then those friends with fertility issues should be respectful of the friends who are very fertile. Perhaps they were upset at their lack of need to continue having copious amounts of sex? Just saying."

WHAT?! My IQ points just dropped 50 points reading that...

Wow. Just..wow.

 

[JJB]

I just called the doctor because I got sick of waiting and turns out my results are in, but he wants me to come in to discuss them.

It's something bad, isn't it?

Good luck Limm! Let us know how it goes.

 

[Limm]

"This may get me flamed to the back of beyond, but I kinda figure that if people who get pregnant first time trying should be respectful of their friends with fertility issues, then those friends with fertility issues should be respectful of the friends who are very fertile. Perhaps they were upset at their lack of need to continue having copious amounts of sex? Just saying."

Wow. Seriously? Whoever said that clearly lost brain-cells when they were trying to fit their head up their arse.

 

[Sam10]

I'd probably unfriend that person. What an ignorant and insensitive thing to say!

 

[AlyCon]

Yeah Tami whoever said that is just plain stupid!

AFM, my appt is in two days. Hopefully I will get some good news! Last time my doctor said if I'm still not pregnant the next step will be to do a sperm analysis on DH. And if he's normal then I guess we will up my dose of Metformin or maybe add clomid. I've been thinking about saving up enough money to do ONE IUI.. Maybe. I'm getting desperate!

 

[missandrea90]

Ugh, how long am I going to have to wait??! This is the worst waiting game of my life! Been TTC for almost a year! So frustrating

 

[VP1228]

I feel everyone's pain when it comes to not being able to get pregnant but your friends are having babies left and right. My friend had a baby in 2011, 12 days before my birthday when she told me she was pregnant I stopped talking to her for almost 3 months. I know it was wrong and selfish but she wasn't even trying to get pregnant and it happened for her. I have been with my current boyfriend for almost two years and we have been trying since our 1st month of dating (yes I know waaay too soon). We are afraid to go see a fertility specialist because my insurance only covers treatment for fertility issues not diagnosis. Every time I see my friend's baby (my godson) I hold him so tight like he is my son and sing to him (no I cannot sing lol) sometimes I have to run to the bathroom so she will not see me cry. It hurts so much to try and not succeed and see someone else who is not in a relationship and was not trying to have their baby BUT THEY HAVE ONE! I want to give up on trying and just let it happen whenever but I can't give up when my boyfriend and I want this so bad. I apologize for the length of my message but I am so frustrated and sad. I am crying as I type every word. I only talk to my boyfriend about this but he does not understand how bad it hurts.

 

[Sam10]

We all know how you feel here!

 

[AlyCon]

Yes! We do! I've definitely cried my share of secret bathroom tears after being around babies/ kids/ pregnant women..

 

[VP1228]

Thank you so much! I thought I was truly alone because all I hear all the time is " It will happen, just be patient or maybe it isn't the right time". When is the right time when people who have one night stands or flings end up pregnant.

 

[Limm]

I am going crazy over here.

 

[tamithomas]

AF was due Thursday-Friday...we're now Sunday and nothing. I know I'm not bfp as no sex was involved. Getting impatient, tardiness is a pet peeve of mine. No excuse for it this month

Although good news on my part. We brainstormed and have figured out a way to start TTC'ing again as we know we will be getting the pipes fixed in May but we have figured out a way to manage around the whole cleaning thing. Can't wait to get back on track! Feels like I have taken a break for a year but it's only been a couple of months.

 

[AlyCon]

Got a BFN at the docs today. I just did the urine test because I knew getting a blood test would just get my hopes up even more. I'm not surprised though since my dose of Metformin is still pretty low. But I start taking 1500mg today and will work my way up to 2000mg by the end of this month. I'm also doing the 10 day progesterone to see if I can get a withdrawal bleed. Bad news is DH has three weeks of training next month so I will probably be BFN for march too.

The only positive to this is I will be able to adjust to my higher dose in peace! Lol there's nothing worse than DH wanting to BD and knowing I should BD but my cramps and other side effects are in full effect so I can't!! I feel so bad physically and mentally and then DH will get upset and think I'm not BDing just to spite him but I'm honestly feeling like CRAP!

I'm also going to use those three weeks to work on changing to a healthier diet and starting to exercise. So by the time he gets back I'll be adjusted to the 2000mg Metformin and maybe even be down a few pounds

Staying hopeful for an April BFP!! Baby dust to every one else!!

 

[Limm]

Sorry to hear about this, AlyCon.
Lots of baby dust for April!

 

[AlyCon]

Sorry to hear about this, AlyCon.
Lots of baby dust for April!

Thank you! Lots of Baby dust to you as well!!

 

[Hopeful1479]

AF was due Thursday-Friday...we're now Sunday and nothing. I know I'm not bfp as no sex was involved. Getting impatient, tardiness is a pet peeve of mine. No excuse for it this month

Although good news on my part. We brainstormed and have figured out a way to start TTC'ing again as we know we will be getting the pipes fixed in May but we have figured out a way to manage around the whole cleaning thing. Can't wait to get back on track! Feels like I have taken a break for a year but it's only been a couple of months.

I know what you mean about tardiness... My AF was due last Thursday, which already puts me at CD35 and I spotted yesterday which is annoying as well. How can I even track ovulating if I can't even get a regular cycle?? I DO all things needed to regulate and what not and I am so tired of all the BS... So you are not alone!!